Oct 2007 - This little piggy had none (sleep that is!)

[alicet]

Hello ladies!

Well here is the new thread so I can link it before the old one runs out... Hope you all find it!

Muppet; your message to Inzi made me cry, that was beautifully said....thank you from me to

J20; was just going to say I met my Dh online too, but you have me intrigued now....

Incidentaly I have finally managed to download some pics of Alex onto my profile if you are interested.

Floria - what a cutie pie, love the xmas pic
Looks like the chicco happy snack highchair is a popular choice, I had a look at my bil's today as he has it, asked them if they liked it and if they'd buy it again and they said they would so I think i'm pretty much decided on that one, just have to dcide what colour to go for, quite loke the 'seventy' pattern as it's quite unisex if we had a girl at any point , but the pois blue is really nice too

ok we've gone for this pattern , i've ordered it, should be here in 1-2 days woo hoo!

Goooooood morning lovely ladies!

I like that highchair Dal -the toy bit at the bottom is a brill idea. We have to buy a new table when we get a highchair as we have a rectangle table and we put Ollie at the head of it so we don't want to move him as I'm sure he wouldn't like that. If we get a square table we can have a child either end and dh and I can reach both. I think we'll just go for a pine table as our one is trashed where Oliver sits
Ollie is getting really interested in letters now adn can say the intial letter for most words ('letter begins with a 'l' doesn't it mummy?') and he's asked me to write words for him which is lovely. It's strange being a teacher/parent as I know where he should be when he's reception age and he's got most of that now but the letters/pencil stuff was really worrying me, not that he couldn't use a pencil more that he wouldn't even pick a pencil up. I know it's a boy thing and he's still young but he doesn't do any colouring in/emergent writing at all! (I'm really not as pushy as this post sounds )
Well, today is windy and rainy so we're off to the gym. Boys to creche and me to 'Bodybalance' (?) another mum I know does it and says it's great for the middle area post baby (good god that's me!) so I'm giving it a go. Then it's tidy the house as it's a tip and then cooking with Ollie well, I say cooking with Ollie, it's more mummy makes cakes and Ollie licks the bowl he does like to ice them after though adn we have the small silver balls to decorate them with this week. Will have to walk the dogs in the rain but don't want to get my new pram wet!!

Hope you're all well and thinking of you Inzi x

morning - just a quick one to say big hugs and prayers to floria and inzi - thinking of you both.

Yeah ... J20, Wonder what is going on? Hope you're ok?!

Am v. intigued by you J20...

(Remember if you're meeting someone from the internet, public place, broad daylight, tell everyone where you'll be, text when you get there. If he's lovely he really won't mind x)

Floria massive hugs honey. Thinking of you today... Your Alex is a real cutie - love the one of him surrounded by all the bubbles!! Your Dad would have been very proud of you - you are clearly a fantastic mum and a credit to him.

Inzi I was thinking of you yesterday honey - really sorry I didn't get to post. Busy with friends over which is trivial in the scheme of things compared to what you are going through. I agree with everyone else that everyone grieves in different ways and might not have mentioned Angel as they wouldn't want to talk about her in your situation and therefore presume the same for you... Well we are here and you can talk about her as often and for as long as you like. Thinking of you with dh away too - I loved your description of your relationship - sounds just like me and my dh!

J20 you have me intrigued... Hope you are OK honey. And didn't seriously think you would dump us for men!!

Lots of highchair chat - we got this east coast one for Sam. Wanted one by babydan (can't find link now but similar in some ways to the tripp trapp one ejt has) but dh thought we should get one with a tray. The one I bought has a tray but you can remove it which I did most of the time so he could eat at the table with me. Requires bolts to get on and off though so not that easy to alternate off with on. One of the reasons we got this too was as it can be adjusted as he grows and in theory could still use it now but he hasn't since he was about 18 months as he prefers to sit on a normal chair now. So I think MrsFish's one by same company would be what I would choose if I had my time again. Also this one by Svan if money was no object - a few of my mates have this and its great - the best I have seen by miles. Just couldn't justify that much money though! Again you can use it for several years.

OK have a few jobs to do while the boys are asleep - I'll try and pop back on later... Hello to all the reast of you lovely ladies!

Just meant to say Hi to Apricott too! Long time no see - looking forward to meeting you next week too . My sis also met and married a kiwi guy while he was working over here - unfortunately she is now living over there but I have to say I am more than happy that she is happy and having visited her I can understand the appeal as where they live is gorgeous. Plus she's very into multi event outdoorsy type things that they are very big on there so she has a great life. Me I'm more of a slob on the sofa with some wine girl so I would probably get less out of it!

hot date J20!!!????! Hope so!!

Inzi & Floria - i'm thinking of you both. You guys must be incredible mums to your lo's.

Inzi your dh will be back before you know it. Its hard when they are away for any length of time, but at least you won;t be alone for too long withy our friend and sister keeping you company

Muppet - you have a great way with words...they really made me cry.

Hi Mine - cross posted - hope you're having a good day and all well with you?

Hi Alice, Hi Mine x

I did bodybalance today at the gym and I ache everywhere...I am assuming this is good as it means I have worked everywhere!

Alice - I like the tripp trap highchair adn it would fit snuggly up to the table which I like...

Mine -Thanks for the compliment. Generally I am known for talking the hinde legs off a donkey

just logged in and seen all the queries, you lot are like fish wives-a bit of gossip...

afraid its not to do with a date, had a few of them ask but i've decided to be a bit picky at the moment, don't want to waste a baby sitter on anyone if i don't think i'm going to be attracted to them!

its something and nothing really, its just that i was bleeding really heavily on periods since having Shannon and the last one finished on 27th ish of January, 2 weeks later, at Alton Towers i had a bit of spotting, but thought it was because i'd been exhurting(sp) myself more than usual, anyway, even if that had been my peroid, that was 4 wks ago, and i haven't come on yet, there is only a very slim chance i could be pg (withdrawal method) but am panicking there may have been escapee's. its the same male friend that i've had since being pregnant with Shannon. i know that my af are probably still all over atm, but normally i' m like clockwork, have been waiting for a proper period to go on the pill or i probably wouldn't have even noticed!

so there it is girls, the big mystery he he

will read the rest of the posts now!

btw i am feeling very embarrassed and stupid about it all, that is why i didnt want to put it into words yesterday.

FT-

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FT-i hope you are ok, thinking of you xx

Hi all - I've totally fallen behind again. I am ok - things pretty much the same with Dareh's terrible sleep so I am just dragging myself through each day best I can. I am under increasing pressure to let him cry it out but I just can't stand to hear that so I guess the sleep deprivation is here to stay for a while. I am hoping when he starts solids he may settle a bit better.

When did you guys start with solids if you have? And what did you start with?

J20 - Blimey! Dh and I have managed it twice since H was born...

Stefka - I have just started Henry on solids as he's taking his full 90z most feeds and still looks for more, he's 17lb 13oz at 17 weeks. He's not a fan of baby rice so my HV said just stick to vegetables and fruit. So far he's had, apple, parsnip and pear. I've also pureed carrot for him but that's for later this week.

Hey stefka long time... hope you're coping ok, hopefully the sleep thing will improve soon, can't imagine how tired you feel as we've been quite lucky with Dylans sleep but I know how tiredness can make everything seem twice as hard (((hugs))). I haven't started Dylan on solids yet but am planning to start with baby rice/pureed fruit/veg and baby porridge, that kind of thing, am actually really excited about starting him on food, counting the weeks down... unless he decides he wants food before 6 months.
Floria - hope you're doing ok today, thinking of you.
J20 - I am weirdly excited that there could be a slim chance you're pg... but then I am weird so ignore me. Don't mean to panick you but just thought i'd mention for the record that Dylan wouldn't be here if it wasn't for the withdrawal method , the chances are slim though.
muppet - well done for going to bodybalance, I can only muster enough energy to walk to town.
Was quite funny yesterday actually, Dh's bro and his partner live just down the road and they have a 15 yr old boy called Bailey (our nephew), we decided to walk in to town and we went the way where there is a really steep hill for a bit of excercise, anyway, as a joke I suggested they 2 brothers should race up the hill with the buggys... being men they took this seriously and ran off up the hill, me and sil couldn't stop laughing at them and someone went past in a car and they were laughing too . Anyway bil won, was very funny lol.
Alice - nice highchair, I like the traditional look too, looks easy to clean also which is important .
Well i'm off to bid on some fab things for dylan on ebay so speak soon, hi to everyone I haven't mentioned

Stefka thinking of you - Adam also not sleeping great so know how you feel. Sending you a sleep file that has helped others - see what you think. Seems a bit gentler than just leaving them to cry which I also struggle with.

Dal - hello honey! Smiled at the thought that Dylan wouldn't be here without withdrawal method - living proof that the chances are not that small but bet you're glad now though

J2O - honey!!!! Hope you're not pg (unless thats what you want - presuming not from your post - obviously hope you are if I am wrong!). Have you done a test? Get one NOW girl or go to doc and get one there... Chances of being pg with withdrawal method are not that small either... Thinking of you and hope you are OK x

Well I'm off to bed now - dh is away in London tomorrow night so need to get decent sleep tonight in case tomorrow is a mare! Chat tomorrow....

hi guys, just a quickie because the afore mentioned male friend is here,and i'm tryin to work out how to slip it into conversation, i say slim, because it wasnt actually withdrawal, it was more, um, slipped in then got took out to use a condom ifswim

Alice-it cettainly isnt what i want, i cant believe i've been so stupid. i haven't done a test yet as going by 28 days, it would be 28 days since the spotting at Alton Towers, so will give myself a few days to see if af arrives, prob worrying over nothing!

ok, be back tommorrow xx

Evening everyone!
J20 - don't feel embarrassed & stupid - we all do things that we puzzle about 'why?' once we've done them - sure everything will be ok
Muppet - DH and I have only done it once since DS was born, and it was only v recently at that...
Stefka - hope you can get Dareh settled soon
Hello to everyone else! All this talk of internet dating is getting me intrigued about how you all met your DH/DP etc and how long you've been together.
I met DH through a friend (he is her brother's best mate) but she didn't introduce us for aaaages, even though she knew we were both single. So we could've been together about 3 years longer than we have been - doh! I think we've been together for about 4 years and bought a house in 2005, got married in 2006 and had DS in 2007. Nothing big is planned for this year!
Hope you are all ok

Strawberry - I met dh at uni in newcastle in 2003. Was just about to finish my course, I was doing 3D design and he was doing fine art, he was friends with someone on my course and we all went out for a drink, his bro was there and after a few drinks I plucked up the courage to whisper to his bro I fancied dh. I told him not to tell but of course he did and we, ahem, got together that night .We fell in love almost immediately and have been inseperable best friends ever since. We got engaged after 3 months!, moved in together after 4 months, bought our first flat together a year later, got married 11 months after that and then bought a house and moved to Berwick in may 2007 and I had Dylan in the Oct - as you know!
This is good, will be nice to find out how everyone met and what they did before mumsnet

Thanks everyone for the kind thoughts...The day started pretty badly...dog ran off and ignored my calls for the first time in his 4 yrs and I couldnt go and get him because I had Alex in the hugabub and couldnt risk slipping down the embankment in the mud so stood there looking like a pillock for 10 mins screaming at him to come back and upsetting Alex...when we finally got home I discovered my debit card was missing and after an hour of searching I have had to cancell it.... but since then I've spent the day with my Mum, we were joined by her sister for part of the day and my brother when he had finished work and my Dads sister actually phoned to see how we all were (she's not usually so thoughtful). So it has, after the bad start, been a sad day but not too devastating..all the company kept us on an even keel and Alex diverted us all from getting maudling. I've only been doing my crying back here at home in private (God a wish DHs job didnt take him away so much )And thank you Alice for your kind words (the bubbles pic is my fave too)...I so wish Dad could have seen him....but this is what the circle of life is all about isn't it? Love and loss, joy and sadness...There is something of my Dad in Alex both physically (genetically) and spiritually and that will have to be my/our solace.

J20; ditto Muppets comment...I'm ...DH and I have managed it precisely 3 times since Alex! I'm sure you aren't pg but if you are I'll be again.

Stefka; I really hope the sleep improves soon...adapt the file/document to what is acceptable to you I'm sure you will gain some respite eventually.

Strawberry; we had a chat about meeting our dp/hs a while back but I'm sure no one will mind repeating/remembering . I met DH online after being made a member of a dating site by a friend...Dh is the first guy I actually met(though I did meet a few others before we started dating)We met in Jan 2002, started dating 5 weeks later, got engaged on Good Friday 2003 and married on 12th March 2004 (so it will be our "linen" wedding anniversary on Wednesday)....spookily, the friend who put me on the dating site married an American from Albany, New York,... my Dhs family had lived there from when he was 12 until he was 18, and when we went to their wedding we found out that her new fil lived 1/4 mile form my Dhs old home there and our DHs had both attended the same school!

I am going to re read the file thing. I just struggle to leave him to cry. He was a little bit better last night was up at 11, then 2:30 - had to get up about three times for him then, then he did sleep from 3:30-6:30 at which point I just bring him into bed with us as I am too tired to get up! Bad habits all round!

I am looking forward to solids too - though not the mess!