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Jan '07 part 21: Rock a bye baby on the tree top; Now that they're 1 when's the tiredness stop??

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2happy · 17/01/2008 20:19

(Not that all of them actually ARE one yet, but let's not split hairs...)

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Lizzzombie · 28/01/2008 15:16

LTH - I'd love to come over on thursday! Is there a bus from Eastbourne which stops near you?

LAL - you poor thing. Hope you feel a bit better now.

Shimmer - Great to see you around on here! DJ is the same as F at the moment! Every door and cuboard is banged open and shut over and over and over again! LOl at the milk and farting!

PCF - Hope the biscuits were good...am jealous! Think I have lost half a stone since stopping my bake offs though!

2happy · 28/01/2008 15:18

oh Lal, big hugs. You are not a crap mother! ds1 was lovely at the weekend, but it's the only two days he's been nice for the last 2 weeks, and he was back to being a PITA today. Every time I pick him up from the CM he throws the biggest tantrum, I swear CM thinks I abuse him. The second he's back in the car he's happy as larry, but just goes mental when he sees me. Last week after a totaly shit day I shouted at him, then felt crap because that must just confirm that the CM thinks! But then dh picked them up on Weds and he tantrummed for him too so I felt much better, it's not just me!
I don't think a kid playing up in the clinic is the sign of a bad mother. He's 3. You know, terrible twos, completely bloody nightmare threes... every time someone posts on MN about how hard their 2 yr old is being, half a dozen people post "you just wait until they're 3" (and I'm acutely aware ds1 isn't 3 yet!!!). How many times have any of us posted about how hard work our 2/3/4 year olds are? (How scared are the 1st time mums ). They know when it's totally important to be good, and when you're already stressed and that's exactly when they play up the most - because you're not thinking about them, not paying as much attention, and because sometimes, God love 'em, they're just little buggers!

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eandh · 28/01/2008 16:29

Oh Lal (hugs) have text you but you know Ellie is exactly the same as Aiden, she scremas, tantrums, can be very rude, and generally a right little bitch madam at times. I know some people must look at her and think we can't control her but she literally gets herself so worked up that there is no reasoning with her (do you remeber last year when she was tantruming and kicking the fireplace and ripped the tip of her big toe)

They are just being 3 (so much worse than 2 if you ask me) apparently at preschool she is fine 98% of the time (apparently a born leader which I interpret as bossy ) so all the stuff with me at home/out is just for attention and because she gets so bored at home whilst at preschool she is stimulated all morning. Let the HV come, she may have some fresh ideas, but just remember that he is little (and probably gets confused/scared etc)

The one thing that has been helping with Ellie is that preschool have been working on emotions with her (I told her keystage worker about the issues we were having and they have lots of cards with different faces on at school) and now she occasionally says 'i am getting angry mummy' or ' i need to be hugged mummy' etc when she tells me shes angry or tired or bored or frustrated I am trying to take her cue and either move hattie (the normal one for annoyed as she is touching her toys) or angry I ask her why normally becuase she can't have what she wants and we try and reach an agreement. Preschool teacher said to me that not everything needs to be a battle/argument and pick my battles carefully ie I want her to understand why she holds my hand crossing the road so that a battle worth fighting, but if she really really doesnt want to wear the top I have got out for the day will it really matter?? My problem is that I am so stubborn and want to be right and Ellie seems to have inherited that stubborn streak from me!

eandh · 28/01/2008 16:31

2happy if they go to bed around 6.30-6.45 they are waking around 6.30ish which is fine with me (except yesterday when h woke at 5.50 but it was dh turn he he he!)

eandh · 28/01/2008 16:31

2happy if they go to bed around 6.30-6.45 they are waking around 6.30ish which is fine with me (except yesterday when h woke at 5.50 but it was dh turn he he he!)

ladytophamhatt · 28/01/2008 16:54

LaL, I rememebr whe i was PG with G and I had a antenatal appt, I had to take all 3 dsses with me and they were, without a doubt the most appallingly behaved children there. I even phone the MW after to apologise.

I was sooo embarrassed and soooooooo unbelieveable angry I could have takem to the clinic and abandoned them, it was that bad. They were horrible, annoying, rude little f*ckers....and to make you feel better I pretty much told them that in the street when we got outside with the whole town as an audiance.

Anyway, what i'm trying to say is that we've all been there, DS1 is the one who I find hardest work but I expect so much more from him being the eldest. I know how crap it is when they play up when you really need them to behave and the do the exact opposite.
Unfortunatley I haven't found the solution yet...I think you just have to start each day from scratch amd forget the shite day you had with them yesterday.

And anyway I'm a really crrp mum because ds3 starts school in sept and the school has had 2 open days for them to come in a meet the teachers, play in the classrooms and make friends with their new class mates and I FORGOT BOTH DAYS.
Now that is crap parentimg.

Lizzz, the number 12 bus goes through seafordon the a259, I can meet you at the busstop if you like.

laughalot · 28/01/2008 17:24

Thanks everyone for your advice I am much calmer now its just at times he is such hard work and very lively he takes after me. He was really naughty though fine one minute and then a devil the next.

Wilkie · 28/01/2008 19:07

LAL - nightmare but just want to reiterate what everyone else says. It is NORMAL. I have so many friends with kids the same age who can be angels one minute and hellish the next. You are a great mum, he is just pushing his boundaries. Never mind the terrible twos - I think 1-4 years are the most trying!!!

Shimmer - J constantly opens the pan cupboard doors, chews on the cheese grater etc

Have PMT - feeling really mardy!

UD - me and DH have gone through a few 'patches' since J has been born. I have felt bored, middle aged and wondered if I should have settled down just yet. However, I now look at my life and really really appreciate what I have got. A loving husband, gorgeous son, reasonable job and our health. I hope you work it all out. xx

bunnyhunny · 28/01/2008 19:20

lal - poor you. typical he had to do it then rather than anywhere else..

lth and lizz at your meeting up! no one lives near me! And UD moved away before I could visit

shimmer - S is there with the doors too! All the time, opening and shutting. Then shutting them too hard and not able to open them. Then crying. Then mummy opening the door for him and him giggling. Little monkey.

I am at the end of my tether with s's eating. He eats fine, and quite a bit, but very often will (while looking straight at me) drop all his food over the side of the high chair. I try to ignore it, but he finds it hilarious..

And he does this with touching the oven while I am in the kitchen. Always with the looking directly at me. Might be time for a door-gate there..

Reggiee · 28/01/2008 19:24

Piss just wrote a long message then lost it when trying to post. Guess that's a new laptop for you...........

Reggiee · 28/01/2008 19:27

Yeah it worked!! NEver had a laptop before so it's feeling all a bit strange. DH is playing on hid XBox right in fornt of me. An exciting game called mass effect.

Lal glad you've recovered from your nightmare afternoon. Am pleased all you with more than one lo can prepare us all for what's to come! kIDS, WHO'D HAVE EM. Ooops. CAps lock error.

bunnyhunny · 28/01/2008 19:29

RGEE - I like the caps lock error message. You sounded just like a computer!

Reggiee · 28/01/2008 19:32

2H / KAt our hols are w/c 14 June. Will need to sort out meeting up nearer the time. Hurrah!!!

Funny to read about what everyone's lo is getting up to. LAst week Pip decided was the week to stand up holding on to things ,and now she's progressed to climbing two flights of stairs as fast as possible. Her favourite cupboard is the pan cupboard too, and I always have to give her a wooden spoon when she takes out all my pans, so sshe can practise her drumming skills. Chasing the cat is a good favourite too. I can't keep up

Reggiee · 28/01/2008 19:34

DH just asked what I was sniggering about Bunny.

Hopefuully for you all I'll soon be bored of talking about like in my lounge....

eandh · 28/01/2008 20:05

Yey Rgee laptop arrived in time, I am on mime whilst texting, watching TV and talking to dh about my headache

Did you like any of the storage ideas?

Wilkie · 28/01/2008 20:12

Can I join the laptop gang?? I am on mine too......

eandh · 28/01/2008 20:15

of course you can my love

ellie and my mum made the most gorgeous hedgehog chocolate cake earlier it is yummy

Reggiee · 28/01/2008 20:28

hedgehog cake big noms!! were chocolate bottons - err buttons - used for th e spikes?

Defo getting some plastic buckets. the benches are much better vslue - god can't type anymore - but not sure hwat sort of size i'll need. got quite a big sapce to fill.

Wilkie you can be in my gang anytime

eandh · 28/01/2008 20:36

rgee your typing is as good as mine I type quite normally on a desktop but no on laptop!

Mint matchmakers for spikes, chocolate bittons for eyes and cut in half for nails on the paws and jelly tot for its nose - I have eaten loads

Whilst I remember do not let Pippa near your laptop, my Ctrl button on left hand side, Esc button at top and Shift button on letf side dont work because Ellie worked out how to pick all of the keys off one day when I was pg with Hattie, I didnt realise what she was doing and was just glad she was being quiet, took ages to sort and find all the keys!

Lizzzombie · 28/01/2008 20:42

Evenin' all!

Someone gave me some tschibo milk chocolate today, very gorgeous, can recommend it but my tongue is still so sore, it hurts me to eat chocolate...DO YOU FEEL MY PAIN ? !

theUrbanDryad · 28/01/2008 20:42

i is in da laptop masseeev...

eandh · 28/01/2008 20:49

yo you hangin in t'hood UD??

Lizz - poor tongue, would bonjela (yuck) work, if not maybe more chocolate would

Reggiee · 28/01/2008 20:56

i lurvvvvvvvvee thst chocolate lizz. even with a sore tongue

Lizzzombie · 28/01/2008 21:00

eah - chocolate makes it hurt even more!!! (as do salt n vinegar crisps and wine) - maybe this is some kind of cruel weight loss thing developed by my mother!?

Have you all seen this..here

rgee - I'll chuck you up some chocolate - here you go >>>>[][][][]

I am afraid I am unable to join your laptop gang, as I 'run' with the apple macintosh users. (can't do much else on it apart from 'tinternet though!)

eandh · 28/01/2008 21:10

Oh my god I am going into central london with both of the girls tomorrow to go to london aquarium and am starting to shit myself (dh at work so not coming)

Just looked at tubes thankfully only one stop from Victoria so may just get in a cab (am having visions of Ellie either panicing about the tube and having a moment or running off whilst I negioate the buggy, my brother and gf and nephew going (nephews 2nd bday tomorrow)but gf will be dealing with nephew and I'll hae to remind my brother that 2 kids vs 1 adult isnt going to work and he'll need to help me!! Have got one of those 'ost child' wristbands left from our trip to butlins for ellie and written my mobile number on it and stuck some pink stickers on it so she'll wear it tomorrow. EEEEEK I am going to be so stressed by tomorrow night