Jan '07 part 21: Rock a bye baby on the tree top; Now that they're 1 when's the tiredness stop??

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(Not that all of them actually ARE one yet, but let's not split hairs...)

Do you post on many other threads EAH?

It was better than the second one too. I might watch it again this week. DH is glued to top gear atm.

I liked the first one but not the second one which has put me off this one TBH!

I flitter around here and there - post on some trivial ones 'whats for dinner' etc and sometimes on the c section ones, also behaviour, sleep actaully yes I do post around quite a bit!

I just never come across you on other threads!

Just did a search - in January so far 301 messages over 50+ different threads - more than I thought!!

(I see you on a thread and run!!!!!! that was a joke btw)

203 for me! DOn't be mean - I will cry!

Where is everyone tonight??

Don't tell me they have.... lives?

I have seen you around quite a bit eah.

Wilkie - it's good - give it a try!

hi everyone - i'm back! also back home, dh and i having sorted out our differences for the now but i still feel so angry at him! i've spent the whole weekend telling Z that whatever happens mumma and daddy will always love him.

sorry.

i don't know what's better though - to stay together because we might make it, but make each other unhappy in the process or to cut our losses now.

ramble ramble. sorry.

the houses look lovely. at the prices too, that'd just about buy a shoe box round here, then you'd pay another 10k for a place to pitch it in! i think i'm going to give up on the idea that we'll ever have a house of our own, never mind one that fits all out shite in it!!

will try and be a bit more upbeat next time, i promise.

Hi UD. Really good to see you back. Big too. FWIW I think you have to give it a go otherwise you both may be full of regret later on.

Good shopping folks!! Am now on the hunt for a Grobag.

Hope you had a good night Lal

Any loves for me EaH / Wilkie? Am feeling particularly unloved atm (although lo is giving the best bear hugs in the world - the biggest ones always for her mum )

Eah my laptop is due to arrive tomorrow morning, but only picked up the rubbish phone message from the couriers on Fri, and they were closed when I tried to reschedule to a time when I am not at work. Grrr. On a course tomorrow pm so can only stay at home for the am. Arghhhhhhhhhhhhh

oooh love the storage links. Our house is so crappy, with no built in storage at all, so I am constantly on the look out. We now have a shoe cupboard, a new cupboard for the front room and many boxes for sauls crap toys...

ud - great to have you back. I hope you do sort it out. The reason dh and I gave it another go was for saul. (coming onto dh in a mo...) couldnt bear him only seeing dad at weekends. So we are giving it a go, and seeing what happens. This time both of us are trying to meet each other's needs iyswim.

which brings me nicely onto dh's recent going out malarky.

so he turned up at 3.15, when he knew I would be going out to the birthday party. We chatted after S went down (no more arguing when s is near..), and he says he can see my point, but he was really pissed off that I was aggro yesterday about him leaving when the house was a tip. So he was out from midday sat - 3.15pm sun, when he said he would be out from 4pm sat - 11am sunday. Sorry, how is it my fault?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
now he has sulked off to his pc.

anyway, I am now trying to re-watch the entire lost season 3 before it starts again NEXT WEEKEND!!! yay!

UD, no time to post properl now but when ds1 was aboyt a year old me and dh went through a really bad patch. We were just married and just in our 1st place together (and I'd only recently moved away from home, (about a yr previously)) Dh had changed jobs too and I rememeber thinking how I didn't wantt to be one of those women who stayed together for the children ( well, child at the time).

It was shite.

But, look at us now. married 9 years(very nearly anyway) and 4 children.

Ok our relationship isn't perfect but whos is? Moving house, getting married and having a baby in such a short space of time will put incredible pressures on you....stick with it, I'm sure it'll get better. It si hard work but its worth all the had slog when it works out.

Call me if you want, i haven't got your new home number otherwise I'd call you.

chin up chic

huh....thought I siad no time to post properly...{hmm]

Am at work typing in teeny box again.

UD - big hugs

Bunny - at your DH

Reggiee -

Am bored - AGAIN!

forget the "recently moved away from home" bit UD, worked it out and it was actually 2 yrs after I'd moved.....

blame all these children of mine for turning my head to mush!

dh and I are friends again. had a 'chat' - this is our new way of dealing with things, to be adult about it . oh, and I am due on imminently

ud - looks like we have all been there in some way. I hope this gives you hope, and I really hope that you work things out for the best, whatever that may be. ((((hugs)))

we were saying the other day that s is the best and worst thing that ever happened to us - best for all the obv reasons, and worst as NEVER in the 12 years we have been together have we argued so much. but then he is the reason we will work it out sensibly like adults instead of going completely lary at each other (but I do have a punch bag in the garage lol).

Am loving the idea of a punch bag in the garage! Will be searching freecycle for one now!

Definately agree that most of us seem to be going through a 'patch' with DPs at the moment. Being a FT mum is much harder than I expected, and absolutely no fun when you have no money to do anything, and are miles from your mates. If I had money to spend I'd be doing loads with LO. But, am skint, so we go down to the sea front occassionally and laugh at the old people. Or stay at home and clean the loo!
I know it sounds trite, but I read a book when I was little What Katy Did". I didnt particularly like the book, it was slightly boring as I recall, but one thing I took from it was that her motton was that whatever bad things life threw at her, you have to be glad for the other things which are good in your life. So I really try to remember that, ok, I am skint, and slightly bored, and not particularly happy etc etc...but...I have a very healthy happy baby, both my legs work properly and I have no health problems, and we have enough money for a roof over our heads and we don't have to eat value beans on our toast quite yet!
Ok, thats enough positivity from me, your little ray of sunshine for the day! x

Reason for me to be to be extra glad today is:
The Cath Kidston catalogue just came through the door! So now I can fuel my fantasy of living in a chintzy shabby chic wonderland, where all toys are wooden, and neatly co-ordinate with my antique sofas....

• I can dream right! x

Agree with LTH - We almost split up a few times over the last twelve years and it did seem to be around major changes, babies, house moves etc. It seems like it's all to do with the other persons behaviour but its easy to forget their behaviour is so affected by circumstances. DH did some awful things but then so did I and I often thought, is it worth staying together for the kids and of course it isn't if you are both truly miserable for an extended period of time but it is always worth trying your very hardest to make it work. It is certainly not a good idea to make huge decisions like that when everything is so new and unsettled. I hope things settle for you soon.

Lizz, I have all day* free on thursday, if you're not doing anything do you wantto come over or meet up??

I read recently that up to the age of 4, kids get 10 to 20 infections a year!!! Min have colds ATM; PCF I hope Alex feels better soon.
UD/bunnyhunny - glad the chats with dh's have worked ok for now. bunny - pretty blardy unreasonable of him IMO! UD - be as up or down beat as you like - it's what we're here for (that, and to swap shopping tips!!)
RGee - unloved, why'd you feel unloved? I was positively stalker-like about the very possibility of meeting you!! When is your holiday BTW?
Bloody next door neighbour doing hammering of some sort, trying to get the dses to nap, grrr. Actually, he's gone a bit quieter - he couldn't possibly be so nice he'd actually stop when he knew the kids were napping
eandh - are the girls still (relatively) sleeping in?
Got the appt for ds2's MMR through today for the week after next, but imms are always on a wednesday and I work all day on a wednesday. Going to have to take a day off...or maybe I could persuade my mother to pin him down while he gets stabbed
Now. MN or computer work or start digging over the veg patch??

I have had a horrible day !!!!!!!!!! Well it was laurens year review this morning at 11:15 picked aidan up from school and headed to the docs warned aidan to be good and if he was he would get a treat when he got home. Walked in the hv room and he just flipped out he was running around throwing toys he knocked everything of the hv desk, pulled the changing mats on the floor, switching lights on and off, escaped so the hv had to catch him. I ended up in floods of tears which is not what I want to do in front of the hv really. She wants to come and see me next week about his behaviour to see if we can come up with some steps to help him, she says she can tell he is doing it for attention and did it start when lauren was born ? I think it got worse when she was born he has always been a hyper child but you know when you sit there and look at peoples kids sometimes and think he is a brat well that is just how aidan was today. I feel like I am a crap mum who cant control my 3 year old, I sometimes aviod places in case he kicks off. Iv just sat and cried all afternoon.

Sorry

Ud glad you and dh are ok at the moment and are sorting things through. A question for you daft I know but me and dh where having a debate about how much wages a optician earns roughly. I got some new specs yeasterday.

Bunny glad you and dh re ok too.

Grrrrrrr Freddie is now only sleeping 1 hour at the most in the day
Feeling more selfish than usual today and like i need a bit more time to myelf. He's just woken up so I have plonked him in front of baby einstein and he's happily drinking his milk and farting away

He has just learnt to stand on his own, without having to pull himself up on anything iyswim, so is now even more mobile He's becoming a right little toddler... enjoys banging cupboard doors, pulling clothes/shoes out of wardrobes/drawers, trying to crawl into the oven, pulling all the books off the bookcase, hitting the TV, wanting to feed himself with a spoon then throwing all the food on the floor. Oh and his absolutle favourite thing - opening and closing doors! I'm sure he'd do it for hours if I let him, but i'm too scared of him trapping his fingers.

Moan moan moan.... ahhhh it's not that bad really. I enjoyed your pep talk earlier Lizz!

Sorry to hear about your issues with DHs UD and Bunny. Men are pants aren't they?!?!?! (ummm... realise this doesn't help, but just offering some female solidarity)

Freddie has had a bit of a cold and a runny nose for AGES now. I've put off his immunisations cos i thought they're not meant to have them when they have a cold?? At this rate they'll never get done though...

Hmmm better go F has got hold of a nail file and is now filing his teeth