April 2007 - Um er yeah ??! Ummmm ???

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so..............

Food
Lots of talk on meal planning and diets
diet thread here.
Babies being fed porridge to make them sleep - and it works
SPB was puzzled by how to make breadcrumbs
MJ has joined WW

Work
Runny has quit her job with the twuntish boss. She has an interview for a job closer to home on 29th Feb.
IDOC went back to work and iswn't enjoying it yet but hopes it will get easier
Eddas is having problems with her company since she's been back
Job hunt thread for those looking to return to work
Octo and Dippy had interviews but sadly without success

Illness
KHIN has everyone sick
MJ feeling very low but coming off some meds seems to have helped lots and she's much brighter most of the time now
WCL ingested a filing

Babies
everyone is thinking about babyproofing their house
SPB and GMM need cages for their boys
SPB's T is climbing the stairs
Tcmummy has the biggest baby (we think) at 22lbs 12oz
Do boys like cuddly toys? hot discussion on this
SOL took K to baby sensory and loved it

Everything Else
Dippy is in love with her Dyson
Auntie Meemz (mmk) is learning to drive
Runny has a new philosophy - "Unless its useful, or I love it, I don't want it in my life"
she has found this can apply to clothes (new susannah & trinny book is fab), books and mil
Caz finished off the run of 3 with her own car accident, thankfully no injuries or serious damage done
NL has a fab new changing bag from Monsoon
Caz was chatted up in the supermarket (with all 5 children in tow )
Eddas got territorial over her new pushchair
Leaky has found a new house
Elkie was burgled
SPB is planning T's christening
Bramshott was baking for N's 5th birthday
KHIN has potty trained dd1
SOL fancies her dentist
We had a very short and rather boring game of truth or dare
Eddas is supposed to be making her own buggy snuggle
Pesha has a mystery bleep
Talk on are you a Clean Freak or Scumbag?
GMM is running the Great North Run
Eddas hopes to do Race For Life
Ellie and Dippy have applied for School places for ds1/dd1
Liath had a fab time at Centre Parcs

Meet Ups
Eddas & Dippy are going to meet
We were thinking of multiple meet-ups on same day in May to celebrate birthdays????
NEED TO PROGRESS THIS
Ellie wants to come to Scotland on Feb 15th if they'll have her???

Funny stuff
this thread
and this one
bra talk

Also worthy of note

OCto confessed
"When I was younger (ahem) I was a kind of girl who went out for one drink, got trollied, met a nice bloke, snogged him and accidentally shagged him! I never went out solely for that purpose but it happened ooh now and then Tried it with dh when we first met but he said he wanted to wait oh the shame "

Oooggs had dt's weighed
at 40 weeks & 5 days (9mths & 10 days)
Erin weighs 18lb 6.5oz
Jack weighs 23lb 0.5oz

Dippy used the bash it method to fix her pushchair
"So there you go ladies - tip for future reference - If it doesn't work ...... hit it with a hammer!!
Works with all manner of things ..... prams .... broken chair legs ..... cars ..... children ...... men ...... "

MJ had this to say on the subject of burglary
"Little fuckers who do this should be lined up and shot with a ball of their own shit."

Slightly longer than planned, and 24 hours late but ther you have it!

Oh shit my computer is broken!! Main PC that is - still have crappy old laptop so can be on MN but not do any work!

Geeeez, what a shame Bramshott Hope computer gets fixed asap, in all seriousness!

LOL @ the ending to your mum's mail Pesha Priorites!

Yes, Caz, you are right - who does go to work every day and enjoy every minute of it!!? Sorry you and DH have argued, not nice Hoping you can get it straightened soon.

P desperately trying to pull up on drawers of desk atm - Need to pop to Tesco and then drop her off at nursery; then job hunting and coffee drinking in town.

Hi all. Really feel like I am pretty much back to normal now. The depressive days are very few and far between (which kind of makes me think it is now the same as everyone else iykwim). Good to feel relatively normal again

SPB, sorry to hear you are still having crappy nights. Is he still waking and screaming?

Ellie, I looked for your other thread but couldnt find it. Hope you are ok today. You are a good mum and the best place for your boys is with you. Maybe you just need a little helping hand from time to time, and that is not anything to be concerned about - we all need help! Bringing up two young children on your own is a huge job and it is damn hard work. Please dont be too hard on yourself. We are all here for you, I just wish I lived nearer and could actually offer some practical support xxx

WCL, I would be angry with dh too! Hope you feel a bit calmer today

Masher, I know you have changed it now, but I always pronounced it pesh-a. I would only say it as Peeeeesha if there were two e's in it. Hope the tooth is going to be sorted soon (like today or tomorrow!)

NL, enjoy the party!

2hxb, no advice here as I have never had to deal with night terrors. Hoping he grows out of them really soon as it sounds awful xxx

Elkie, hope dp's visit to his mum goes ok. So heartbreaking, glad you were both able to talk things through though.

Thats it, back later

hi MJ glad things are gatting much better for you now!

Pesha - I have always said (well thought!) pesha and not Peesha iykwim!

Ellie - wish i lived a bit closer .....we really must meet up!!!.......i read your other thread, but didn't really know what else to say, as I thought NL and the others had said it all really! don't feel bad - you should feel really proud of yourself!

Dippy - thanks! The trouble is that he always has enjoyed work...he still does enjoy work i.e the cows but is just finding his boss' attitude increasingly hard to bear! I do understand, but even though things here are far from ideal..... I just can't face the thought of moving again .....with 5 children fgs!!! Just finding a suitable job with a suitable house is a nightmare....we obviously have to compromise,( and at the moment we are all compromising a bit) but I think he needs to learn to compromise just a little bit more!

thanks all for letting me rant.....the only person I can talk to about this in rl is my best friend, and I sometimes feel that I bore her!

I probably bore you all too

Caz - you dont bore us at all - well not me anyway, Cant talk for everyone else Moving with 5 dc sounds like a nightmare. Perhaps sitting down with him and writing a list of pros and cons might help him you both to see things more clearly?

Dylan refusing to sleep again. He had a 5min doze on my lap while feeding but woke up when I put him down. I've been up and fed him again as his first feed was very short before he fell asleep but he's just been up there playing and now whinging. Going to start on my beef stew and give it a little longer to see if he drops off

Thanks everyone for the faces, at least I am not making mountains out of molehills (I don't think).

I have read the other messages but am feeling too fed up about things to reply at the mo. Sorry for offloading and not giving much back

WCL, hope you feel brighter soon. Look after yourself xx

Caz, I hate moving at the best of times, cant even begin to imagine what it would be like with 5 children in tow!

Masher, hope D does drift off. F was having a lovely sleep and the f*ckers next door starting drilling. Frightened the life out of her and she was then screaming

So while I am not able to work, and can spend all day on MN (!), I thought I'd ask you lovely ladies for advice on some things to do with N - I guess I really want to know if any of these constitutes behaviour 'problems' I should be doing something about before they become too ingrained, or whether this is all very, very normal stuff! She's just turned 5 and is in Reception:

1. Food: Having always been, and in a lot of ways still is, a good eater, she's becoming really picky about what she'll eat - she'll have pizza, but only if shop bought cheese and tomato pizza, she'll have pasta, but only with pesto from a jar, not bolognese (which she used to like). I cook just for her most nights in the week, and I'm aware I am sliding into producing fishfingers and chips or sausage and chips because I know she'll eat it with no fuss, and I really don't want to go down that road! She has school lunches, so if she isn't very hungry she'll have a boiled egg, or I reckon then pasta with pesto is fine. My hunch is that it's partly to do with me cooking just for her, and that when O is eating more 'normal' food she'll be better, but I really struggle to know what to cook for her alone. We eat later and a lot of the stuff we have is too spicy for her, although some things she used to like (lasagne, tuna pasta bake) are now rejected.

1. Bedtime: she says she's scared of the dark, and has bad dreams, and is taking ages to get off to sleep in the evenings. In an attempt to help with the above, I put a story CD on for her, and leave her fairly lights on while she goes to sleep, but she still keeps coming down, saying "I can only think about scary stuff" etc, and it's usually about 8.30 before she's asleep, which I think is too late for a 5 year old. Maybe I am too sympathetic, because she plays DH up much less!

1. Constant crying when told off: says it all really, whenever told off or thwarted, she bursts into tears! Didn't do it at all over the holidays, then suddenly with school it was back - maybe because of tiredness, or the emotional drain of school?

God, that was long! Sorry! I guess I just want to know if any of you have tips, or if you think this stuff is "a problem" or just to be expected! It keeps on getting harder as they get older doesn't it!

Bramshott, I have no real advice i'm affraid. Only that they do have phases for everything don't they? That's notmuch help My dd is picky with food but I try not to worry. Mainly beacuse I was fussy and am ok. I too think because I feed her alone she does get fish fingers and pasta ALOT as I know she'll eat it. On the odd ocassion we eat together she eats a little more possible and 3 nights a week she eats with her cousins and I think that may help? I guess just try not to worry and keep trying things again. Their tastes change just like ours do. I eat so much more now than I did as a child(hence the weight trouble)

DS seems a little better now. He's over the V&D but is really tired and lathargic(SP?) but he is currently playing with toys which is an improvement, bless him

My neighbours are selling their house Did not see that coming at all. Anyone fancy living next to me Can't find the details on the web yet, sign only went up today so I guess it's a bit too soon. Will try to pursade EandH she NEEDS to move

GMM, would love to do soft play. Am free tuesday next week and wednesday/thurs the week after.

CD, yes dd is far far better with company so I try to hook up with my sister or friends with toddlers as much as possible! I'm hoping that once she starts playing more with ds (rather than mauling him which she mostly does right now) life will get easier . Actually she's been pretty good today, I did messy play while ds was having his nap with custard and cooked spaghetti so she had a ball. Clearing up aferwards was "fun" though .

Bramshott - dd is nearly three so I'm not sure if all that is normal for a 5 year old but it does sound rather familiar! Dd is getting more picky with food so I've started doing more meals where I let her help herself to stuff and she's also better when we eat together. Nights have been tricky, a lot of her behaviour was trying to keep us with her as long as possible but she's still sleeping in our room so only partial success there.

Just spoke to Luce, Tuesday is grand for us.

Sounds fairly normal to me Bramshott! DD got very fussy as she got older and would go through phases of not eating certain things. Decided a while ago she didnt like pasta, she has always loved pasta. Although she would still eat spaghetti In the end I decided I was just going to give it to her and if she didnt like it that was tough! DS1 also went through a fussy food stage but has come through it and atm seems to be in an eat everything phase!

DS1 also has done alot of the scared at night stuff and wouldn't sleep on his own or with the light off. he still falls asleep with the light on although I am able to turn it off when I put D down but have to leave landing light on. A few months ago even that wouldn't do and he used to come down saying he was scared of things and had scarey dreams.

DD does the excessive crying over nothing at all. And ds1 atm has a huge strop when told he shouldn't do anything, even if I say it nicely he gets a strop on and stomps off saying 'I'm just a naughty/stupid boy now'. At first I spent alot of time saying no you're not stupid at all blah blah blah but I think this just encouraged it more so now I just tell him not to say stupid and to stop it then ignore him til he's happy again!!

I think alot of it is to do with the emotional changes of starting school. And also they try so hard to be good and polite and nice at school with their teachers so I find I get a whole days worth of bad behaviour compressed into a couple of hours! Perhaps the food thing is something to do with having some control over things after being told what to do all day at school and having to stick to rigid rules? And/or having just the same set of favourite foods could be some sort of comfort/familiarity thing after the huge upheaval of starting school? Perhaps give her something you know she likes and something she says she doesn't with it and just keep on offering? When Nathan was younger he would never eat peas or sweetcorn but I still always used to give it to him and gently encourage him just to have a mouthful or 2 and eventually he gave in and just started eating them!

hi everyone
fed up today

Why SPB?

just t grumpy, little sleep & have achieved nothing today
how are you?

never did find out how i'm like you and potc!

Bramshott -1- think the crying is fairly normal, going to school is a lot to cope with, and they are growing up emotionally.

2- The coming down at night thing, do you think she is really scared or maybe just curious about what she is missing out on? (mine all do this if they hear us laugh, or the phone rings etc)

3 - this is a hard one for me as I have never cooked separately, they have always just eaten whatever we have had, and usually when we have it, but I know my sister's lo (who is an only child) will eat things here which he says he hates at home, and he always eats loads more here too. I am not into forcing kids to eat things if they really don't like them, but I do do what pesha does and just put it on the plate anyway - it's fine if they leave it but more often than not it does get eaten. could you maybe have a sticker chart or some other incentive for her at least trying to eat what you give her?

hth x

you just strike me as being like me in a lot of ways, I get the feeling you'd be a very lazy relaxed and easy going parent if T weren't your PFB

caz
Where would dh want to go if you moved?

evening - dh on lates and his final exam is tomorrow morning - he has just rung to check it was ok to go and do a job in Scotland for a week, leaving sometime next week. Great

So.......... Luce, gmm, liath, bumble ......... fancy 4 lodgers????

How quiet on here today?? what´s everyone up to? I´m knackered and brain is pretty mush so I´m sorry I can´t remember anything now! except T was grumpy for you spb, do you think he´s coming down with something/ teething? N has been a whingepot aswell this pm, we ended up finding a rash all over him so after all this fever etc he´s had thought we´d better take him to the doc. 2 hours later we´re finally home live and learn. They just said it will be to do with the virus he´s got and it´ll go Kind of started thinking that once we were there but you know, you start doing that whole ´well, now we´re here´. then ´now we´ve waited 20mins we might aswell wait some more´etc etc.

Anyway he fell asleep in the car on the way home poor babe, not had any tea, just had a breastfeed in the hospital, and not changed his nappy since 4pm (would have been due a change when we got home) so imagine he´ll wake soon wet and hungry and pissed off.

poor N Maveta

M and J have both had those rashes, actually they both had them when they had viruses so bad they spent the night in children's ward (bizarrely almost exactly the same days in December, but 3 years apart ). With both of them I've had it checked out, would just have worried myself silly otherwise, so I think you did the right thing

party over (three hours ago) totally knackered, went well I think, no children lost on way home or missing arms from freak and horrific chocolate fountain accident. B very good, dd1 absolute star (v helpful), dd2 enjoyed her birthday, dh home after all cleaning up done , waiting on pizzza now, too knackered to type or punctuate properly - back tomorrow to read thread. Love to all

byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Maveta - hope N is feeling better soon.

It has been quiet on here today - I've been about but havent done anything exciting.

All my ebay stuff apart from the pram finished tonight, so I have made £250 which will pay some of my overdraft off..

Just starting the mammouth task of boxing everything up... looks like christmas here.

glad it was a success NL

Maveta, hope he feels better soon x

potc he is going to look at a job near by on friday! but before we moved here we looked at a couple in sussex and he is also kind of interested in one in north norfolk

think we will stay around here (hopefully) I don't really want to uproot the dc so majorly. Trouble is so many people are selling their cows, so jobs just aren't as plentiful as they were