June 07 - hunni hunni's HERE! ;-)

[HellHathNoFury]

unwilling pram chat before I get told to shut up!

Bloody hell Ria - why isn't the bully being kept in at lunch-times? Surely DS should be able to carry on as normal and the bully be treated differently

I've read threads like this in the past - have a look here (had one on my watch list)...may give you some ideas on what you can do.

Poor DS

As you can see, I'm still here....DH wasn't bothered

I guess you're doing the right thing taking him out if the school can't control the situation. Must be really frustrating for you.

We have a friend that's a surgeon, he has some lovely stories too!

Quick hello and goodbye from me again -

Ria - YANBU!!! So how is the bad boy being punished then??!! HE should be made to stay in at lunchtime and do jobs for the teacher or something. God, schools always seem to punish the wrong ones in my opinion. Has he been made to apologise to your son - and been lectured on not damaging other peoples property (glasses)?

Jammy, I cant believe you!!! Gosh you're good doing all that walking! BTW - DONT borrow a dog - my dog is a PITA when i walk him with the pram and L cant see him anyway!!

Sputnik- ouch! - hope you get it sorted.

Annobal - wow - how comes that decision was made so quickly?

Holly - so tell us what you've bought today then!

and hope every one is ok.

I feel like I havent stopped today!! Am off now to sort through 2 big bag of baby clothes that Ive been given today - think its mostly aged 1 -2.
Night all x

Medical people always have good stories.....I could tell you about a few specimens that have turned up in my lab over the years....and the man that fell down the stairs naked and got an orage stuck up his bum.....or the man who my dad was called out to see (as a fireman) with his willy stuck up the bath tap.....

Right, definitely off now...hope you sort out that bloody school Ria...am very for you

Night x

Ria, YANBU. It doesn't sound as if the school are tackling the bullying. Is it worth a trip in to see the head?

Hello and goodby JBM. I'm of you being given baby clothes. None of my pre-baby friends or family have any DCs yet and all of the ones I've met since having DD have babies the same age as mine or are planning more, so it always seems to be me doing the giving away, rather than receiving.

Sorry to abandon you all, I am reading the thread norty linked with tears in my eyes. The poor family. Luckily DS is not at that stage yet. If it gets that far I'll kick the shit out of the little b'stard myself. I hate to stereotype but the other boy has "issues" and his poor mother has enough to deal with as she has a disabled DC too. They used to be friends, that's the saddest part, and for all his behaviour problems, he never used to kick off when he was with us/when Iwas working at school. The head is a silly cow who has come from a "tough" school and brought all those issues with her (it never used to be as bad as this at our school). I think she is blinded by the amount of hairspray she uses!

We have seen her (DS1 threw the other boys glassses in a bid to get him to stop strangling him, and unfortunately they broke, so I was approached, while at work at school, to be informed that DS1 had been told that he would have to pay for the damage, she did eventually get the full story and have to back down) but I feel that they are scared of what reaction they would get out of the other boy, because it would need dealing with. DS1 is just pale, looks ill, and very sad, not to mention his CAMHS diagnosis as having anxiety.

Sorry to go on. Just nice to have another point of view.

Am off to read the end of that thread, hoping for a happy ending.

That poor family.

I think we will fight harder for DS1, I identify with the bit where she said about getting her DS back and I am convinced he's only nasty at home as a reaction to how he is treated at school. I have written a note to his teacher about him coming home for lunch from tomorrow, I think his teacher will be able to work out why, even if the others can't. If it continues I will send DH in again (he was bullied badly at school and takes no shit. I end up apologising for DS and crying). They obviously only push their "golden rules" bollocks strategy with certain kids.
DS is getting new glasses on Friday so we will have to sort it after that, lovely as our optician is, I'm sure he would get pissed off having to ment them so soon. I am toying with the idea of pulling him out of swimming too.

Sorry for hijacking the thread, I should have started a new one, but I'm a bit scared of the big wide forum

I'm back briefly, have been surfing but 'tis way past my bed time

Poor you and DS, Ria. It sounds horrid. I have no experience of primary schools yet but it sounds like a bit of a political nightmare with their rules being enforced only when it suits them.

Is this about our FB group?

Off now (probably).

Night all, and thanks

Rx

Morning all.

Ria, that's awful about DS. I don't blame you at all for taking him out at lunchtime. Poor boy! Not sure what to advise though, sorry.

Ah, medical stories... I could tell you a few good ones about when I've been observing in operations. But I don't want to out you off your breakfasts or anything. And yes, DH did sit and watch his toenail operation - he was very interested. I on the other hand sat on the far side of the room, paying as little attention as I could get away with! (That was when he had it done)

Morning

Ria - I wasn't comparing your DS to that poor boy in the other thread - I hope I haven't offended you ....its just that some very knowledgeable people came on and gave her some great advice re anti-bullying policies and avenues to follow....

Went to bed last night....and stayed there until 7am.....bliss! Not even a dummy wake-up!

morning all. of full nights sleep.

norty you didn't offend me at all, I took your comments the way you intended (I got a bit carried away posting last night, sorry if it didn't make much sense). It was a very interesting but awful thread, I didn't follow all the links, I hope it doesn't get that far. Will see if lunchtimes make any difference. I have to make scrambled egg today.

have a good day all

I am also of Norty's sleep. DD woke at 12 (though to be fair DH dealt with her then), then I had to get up and feed her at 3, and then she was crying at 5am. I managed to settle her but she had me up for good just before 6.

Oh sorry ladies....perhaps I should have kept that one to myself...still knackered though

Did wake her about 10 last night though I was putting her into sleeping bag with a zip up the front that starts at the top IYKWIM and I threaded it wrongly. so I unzipped it and had to tug to disconnect the zip and I smacked her in the mouth as the zip came apart ....she done that classic thing of opening her eyes, shooting me a filthy look and then screamed (without tears)..delayed reaction or what.....I picked her up and gave her a cuddle and luckily she settled very quickly.....have to admit to seeing the funny side of it when I got downstairs....what a wicked mother I am

It's OK Norty, I forgive you

Ria, I'm absolutely furious for you.

I think the advice on the other thread is good. It is absolutely disgusting that the school has acknowledged and admitted your son is being bullied yet punishes him further by taking away his playtime.

Personally I'd be tempted to forewarn the school that if they do not change their approach I would be taking DS out of school until they meet their responsbilities to my child. They are letting DS down badly, they are reinforcing to the whole school that bullies get away with it, rather than dealing with whatever behavioural issues the child may have.

Can you request a copy of the School's Anti-bullying policy (assuming all state schools have them)? Then tell them you intend to write to the Chair of the Govenors and the LEA, and failing a satisfactory response, OFSTED?

Grrrrrrr.

Morning all.

Sorry, ranting away there.

morning foxy

Foxy, are you the last mumsnetter to get rid rid of their xmas name or are you just starting xmas 11 months early this year

morning sputnik

Ah - tis my Winter name. Am waiting for the February snow to come!

Besides, I want a new name and I can't think of one yet

Norty - the party went brilliantly thanks!

Ria - two so close is great. Hard work for the first year, but the pros far outweigh the cons. Why do you ask?

And, I'm still getting through the Christmas biscuits too! [big fat lardy emoticon]

Well pass them round then (I'm allowed virtual biscuits)
Morning Jammy. Had a rough night here too. Baby seems a little snuffly so maybe a cold is brewing. Miraculously both DC's have been healthy for the last 2 weeks so my luck had to run out sometime

Morning all.

Foxy I think Ria's questions stemmed from me asking her about her age gaps.

Ria I wish I had some advice for you, but hugs to you and DS. What a shit situation. Can't you send him to MHC to home ed him? I'd like her as a teacher!

Fairy, hope DD is better, and sputnik hope your DC's aren't poorly.

Btw ria the facebook group is a huge MN wide one I think.

Hope everyone else is ok. DH is off today, think we might go to the park. Plus I have seen a piano in a second hand shop for £25! If there is some slim chance that it is still there today I am going to get it! What a steal! I don't play or anything, but I could teach myself! Plus DD could get lessons.

Psst Sputnik - don't tell anyone but I keep buying them in the Tescos sale. Belgium biscuits for 73p. Shhhhh.

Bumper - I thought it stemmed from Ria and DH both being broody! Ria????