Nov 05 Toddlers & Brother & Sisters - 2008

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Hi everyone . Just on my way up the stairs, but wanted to 'pop in' and say hello! Hi BB! Yes, we still love you ; I'd be up your way in a dash too if I drove!
Plowing on through the marking - feel sick with tiredness doing it, though should make inroads tomorrow with a wfh day .
Right, bed!

Hi everyone,

Hope all is well.
Had DS2's b'day party from 6-11pm yesterday (mostly for the adults of course) and we all had lots of fun. DS2 was quite sick, think he had been helping himself to one snack too many and was very clingy thereafter so was glad when he went to sleep and was able to relax. DS1 loved the Thomas Tank Cake although reluctant to cut/eat it at first and kept us all entertained for most of the evening. I myself ate way too much but then i was told by those refilling my plate ' you have an excuse!' He he!

Hmmm..DS1 saying lots more now, has started calling me by my first name which is quite funny and is really quite interesting at times.

That's all folks xx

Hi CHACHA Happy belated birthday wishes for dd2 . Sounds like a good time was had by all, and the cake sounds yummy!
Trying to get marking done today, and struyggling as always! DD1 is playing in a tuba concert after school (travelling tuba thing that comes round the schools every year)that I'll go and see later - think they just give them trinangles to bash about! (I hope so anyway!).
Lovely and sunny here, but spring does seem sooo far away! Love to all x

Diege

Let me know where DD1 is first please!?! LOL Thanks for b'day wishes, we did it a week early as coincided with grandpa and friends being around.

Feeling so tired today am just sat on sofa with laptop while DC play in and out of their tent with the 'active conversations' thread open, DH has promised to come home early today (we wait, we wait) so i can escape upstairs rest a little. I hate feeling this lazy and tired especially on such a gorgeous day but what to do...think is best to have some more cake and relax xx

Just accepted offer on house. And higher than the last one. Think he's a builder, so he won't be worried about the minimal work that needs doing on the house.

Will catch up with you all later, just wanted to share that as excited, I got the call only 14mins after he'd left (about as long as it would have taken for agent to get back to office )

Excellent news GG! Sounds great too him being a builder! CHACHA at 'dd' oooh, maybe it's a premonition! Will you be finding out the sex this time? Enjoy soem more cake I say - take a slice upstairs with a cup of tea when dh gets in!
Right, arsenic hours draws near...

Have just heard we have another viewer for house tomorrow - it's his 3rd viewing of the house , and he's a grumpy old arse, but he does sound v.keen...
We're going to arrange a few viewings ourselves this weekend, so fingers crossed!

Evening all,
Great news GG, hope you follow suit with sales Diege
Well i have another mw app tomorrow!!! Im just soooooooo knackered.And i look like i have a space hopper up my jumper think im the equivilant of around 30 weeks now arghh.
You may need to wheel me round london on a flat bed truck
well im off to watch torchwood in bed I will let you know how i get on with the MW tommorow.
Twinkle

Morning girls
LOL TWINKLE at vision of us pushing you around the London streets - would we have to pay a congestion charge d'you think? Oh and is next wednesday ok for Salford? Looking forward to meeting up!
Back later, must get breakfasts!

afternoon all,
All was well at my MW app this morning Heard both the heart beats Too cute!!!! But im measuring 22weeks and am only 15!!!PLEASE i know im having twins but really!! I feel like a huge hefer............Im scared witless about how big im going to get.
Diege will check diary for next wed, im to lazy to move out of the chair right now
Well they start my attic conversion on Mon looking forward to conversion but not mess they say it will take 2-3 weeks.But it will be nice, DS1 is moving up there so we have a room for the twinsIt should be nice for DS1 as it has plenty of windows and a real wood staircase
Now looking at conservatory quotes.....Oh and winning the lottery next week.
Twinkle & bumps

Aww, 'room for the twins', sounds lovely! Can just see them now in their little cots .
No rush for letting me know about next week - don't get out of that chair! Wed is best, but we could also do Thursday if that's any easier .
Right, have grumpy old sod of a viewer looking round as I type! Half an hour late for appointment I might add .
Best go, he's coming down the stairs!

Hello all
Twinkle glad to hear your news, it must be so exciting.

Nova no not pg again nor wish to be so for a long long time. I missed the pics on yahoo btw but by all accounts they were fab.

I'm crazy busy at the moment helping my friend plan her wedding, it's coming up so soon and she's left lots of things very late.

It got DP to mentioning our wedding, but we both agree it would be too much extra work we don't need for the moment.

Hope everyone is well, and that those that are ill get better soon. love to all of you, best go as it's 'feeding time at the zoo' right now.

Hi girls,

How is everyone? Twinkle, good to hear from you and hope the conversion goes to plan with minimal mess and stress.

GG - Good news on house front. Diege - How did your viewing go?

How are the Londoners/Northerners, everyone else?

Had posted earlier today about DS1's hitting/pushing DS2 - is getting quite frustrating and he's been hitting me a lot too as well today - really don't know how to control this, any ideas? Was advised to use naughty step but can just see this as great fun up and down the stairs.

Is that time between dinner ready, bath and bed alone......boys like fireworks attached to backsides, hopefully back when all in bed, another fight it seems over James and Percy!!! x

evening all,
Chacha ds2 hits out when frustrated I just remove him from the situation saying "we dont hit" and sit him down somewhere quiet.It seems to work???? think he is doing it less, but its hard at this terrible two stage... .. He obviously read the section on tantrums and can now do gold standard one's.Have to say i just completely ignore him which means they are fairly short lived.
Right must go and put said stress bag to bed.DD1 is poorly she fell asleep as soon as we got in from school and has just woke up!!!!! strange though, as she says "nothing is hurting, i just feel poorly".So who knows what we will have in the morning.
right bed
twinkle

Snap here TWINKLE with dd1 - gone to bed early feeling poorly - thing is, if she is poorly tomorrow, I'll have to drag her up the hill with the others to school as dh is still away. Fingers crossed it's something and nothing!
Hi BOB, good to hear from you . Wedding planning sounds good fun - much easier planning someone else's too rather than your own!
CHACHA, TWINKLEs advice sounds spot on re: hitting. A quiet corner seems better than the stairs (it's a pain having to drag them downstairs constantly back onto it), and then turn your back/avert eyes so he gets the message that bad behavior isn't rewarded with attention perhaps? Easy to advise, far harder to implement I would guess! We use the naughty cushion for dd3, and try not to laugh at the stuck out lower lip, action-man eyes and dramatic heavy breathing .
House viewing went well thanks (I think). He was v.late, and I told him off about it too (then felt very guilty after ) but I do think it was such short notice, arranged by him knocking on the door late (ish) last night (ie. not through the agents) so he had a damn cheek turning up so late!
Will see anyway...tbh, he would be a PIA to sell too (can just imagine him trying to knock the price down at every stage!).
Right, must get some more essays marked - managed to get all 3 up by 7 tonight, so don't want to lose my advantage!

Good luck with your viewings Diege. @ miserable man being so late.

Good news twinkle re loft extension, thats very quick that they're getting started, fingers crossed they're just as quick getting done!

Have decided that packing for moving is worse than building/having no floorboards. The blimming mice are running round this place as though they own it. I cleared the understairs cupboard out last week, lots of mouse poo, lots of chewed up bags etc, and since then they've been having a party, seem to think they can do what they like the little bastards. They run around the kitchen even when I'm in there, nearly broke my hoover yesterday throwing it at one. I've been coming up to bed as soon as boys are in bed becasue I don't want to see them, but had a friend round yesterday to watch the football, and there was one running round the front room. Oh they're horrible, cant wait to get out of here now.

Bye for now, GG xx (surrounded by poison & hiding in bed!)

Well, must have had this page open for a few hours as seem to have crossed posts with ChaCha, twinkle & Diege!

ChaCha, ds2 is shoving smaller children about quite a lot lately, unfortunately doing it at socatots, and I worry that the other parents will be thinking that he's a bully. I have no advice really, I just tend to tak him away from the situation & ask him to apologise to the other child. I've never tried 'naughty step' with him, TBH I think 2 is too young for them to understand time outs. I have friends who do the naught step wiht their 2 yr olds, and they say it doesn;t work, child just laughs & plays a game.

twinkle, hope dd1 has nothing nasty in the morning, and she has managed to sleep off whatever it is.

And sam fr dd1 too Diege. That man sounds such a PITA.

GG at your mice!!! Have had them myself in houses in the past, and absolutely screamed the place down once when one ran across the kitchen worktop. Remember being too scared to opne kitchen cupboards! And you're right, their bloomin poos seem to get everywhere! So do you have a moving date? And where are you moving to? [nosey emoticon!]

lol Diege, KWYM about cupboards, I kind of open them at arms length, then jump back! When I go into rooms, I stick my arm round the crner to turn lights on, then wait a few seconds before tentatively going in!

Have no date yet, hopefully get paperwork from sols ina few days. I've decided not to try to get anywhere until I have a definate date. There's a few nice places about, don't want to get my hopes up, for them to already be rented out by the time I'm ready IYSWIM.

I'll hire out my cats to you GG, I'm sure they'd LOVE to have a night out in a house ful of mice . Not sure you'd like the cleaning up in the morning though (memories of nibbles come flooding back....)

BoB, it's my intention to never get pg again, so I'm with you on that! We're just a bit stuck as to what to do about it - the pill makes me sick (so that rules out other hormonal things), neither of us like condoms, DH won't allow either of us to have surgery (), and I shudder at the thought of a coil. Sadly abstinance seems to be the main method atm....

Diege, DH has raised my hopes of moving to a bigger house by saying we may be able to afford it next tax year. My dream house is on the market NOW!! but there is no way we can get it now, sob, sob. Not looking forward to having to sell this one though.

Chacha, I would say Twinkles advice is spot on. We have a time out corner (any corner, of the room we're in at the time) if noo pushes her luck, or sometimes if I'm really frazzled I put her in her room and close the door, more for me to chill out than her. She opens the door and comes to the top of the stairs almost straight away, but she won't come downstairs until I go and get her, by which time she's usually calling for a cuddle. I must say we don't actually have to discipline her that much, any time out is more to do with me needing time to think clearly. If she pushes miniman I pick him up, give him lots of attention and turn my back on noo, so she realises that she doesn't get any attention for doing something bad. Once everyone has calmed down I tell her we don't hit and get her to say sorry (DH makes her kiss miniman which I don't really agree with, I think saying sorry is enough). I can usually tell if a situation is brewing and distract her as best I can. I really love how caring she is to miniman, she is so desperate for him to play with her sometimes. Do you have other outlets for ds's anger? My friend was told to give her son a drum to bang when he was feeling frustrated because he couldn't communicate it well (he's a slow talker). He could also stamp, or have paper he could scribble on, just someway to let out his feelings that don't involve fighting.

Good luck with the conversion Twinkle, I'd love an extra room (without the space hopper!)

Thanks for the offer nova I had thought about geting a ca, had forgotten about the clean up operation, think I'll have to stick with hiding in bed!

Well, after saying I wasn't going to look at houses, I've just been on right move, abd there are 2 houses to rent in 2 of the streets I really love! Hope they're still available in a few weeks.

Thanks for all the much needed advice. Am going to try a few different approaches tomorrow. I will post more tomorrow, DH is only just home and after putting the boys to sleep I am absolutely shattered.

Morning all! . CHACHA you are a saint staying up for dh - I would have been tucked up in bed well before that hour!
Nothing much doing today, other than trying to get dd3 a haircut so she can see out of her fringe! Half term next week, so dds v.excited. DH has mon/tues off, then me wed/thurs/fri, so we don't have to resort to the childminder (though still, we see from the contract, have to pay her a 50% retainer! - suppose it is her living though!)
Hope everyone is well - quite quiet on here at the moment!

Hi girls,

Gorgeous day here, we've been out in the garden for a good part of the morning and now DS1 sat having lunch with me and DS2 asleep (falls asleep at lunch almost everyday!) I seriously think i suffer from SAD syndrome - a lot of the symptoms ring bells with me and on a day like today feel great - lots of bright sunshine, fresh air - my whole being feels lifted.

Only one pushing incident so far today, I have been supervising every activity and at times when DS1 has shown anger i notice that DS2 has taken a train from the line up that DS1 has just created around the track, or has lifted a cup from their kitchen as he's poured the water etc.. it seems that DS2 just 'gets in his face' too often and DS1's reaction is to push/hit/smack him. I've done what Twinkle suggested but removed DS2 intead and given him something else to do while DS1 gets on with it. Tricky, DS2 dotes on his big brother and DS1 obviously needs his space - had never really seen it like that. Not saying now that DS1 is perfect and LO to blame, far from it but at least i've seen a pattern this morning. If DS1 lashes out again for no reason which is sometimes the case (probably the times that i've seen it happen) i will try the other suggested means of intervention. Idea of putting him in bedroom also good and worked for me for a little while when he was slightly younger but now is happy for opportunity to get into mischief alone in room. Thanks all again, you are great!

Diege - How is DD? Hasn't come down with anything hopefully. Your week sounds like its been planned well. Great that you are both able to do that.

Twinkle - According to DH, if company professional they shouldn't be too messy and should only need to enter the house when they have to do the emm...stairs i think. And..um..something about double tacking ceiling or umm.... Was listening really.

Nova - I saw a lovely house on net yesterday, over 4 floors and in St.John's Wood. Do not know what took me there but there you go...definitely a dream home with a dream price tag!

GG - Aghhhh, mice!! Had one in previous house was found in the pantry. We put loads of stuff down and pest control came up. Never heard from it again, seeing its tail disappear down hold in pantry wall was enough for me never to open pantry again. Hope you get rid asap. And hope you get your house asap too.

BTKS, Londoner, Feetheart, L&S, BB, all of you, hope you and families are all well.
Time for DS1 to nap i think x

Diege - Forgot to say. Is hard at times, but if i don't stay up and serve his food i miss out on a little time with him before bed. If i don't wake up really early i don't get a cup of tea with him before he leaves. I miss him so much at times. And at other times i wave goodbye happily at the window x