This'll be a long one. I can't sleep and I need to do something, so I thought I'd do a thorough catch up.
Oh hopey, so sorry you had a crappy time with dh the other night. Glad chatty and mrsf were there for you at the right time. Maybe the thing with Niamh in her car seat is all about dh having an extremely heightened awareness of potential dangers now - even one in a billion chances that most of us live with. Maybe when trying to rationalise the events leading to his accident he has gone though all the what ifs - what if he'd left a few minutes earlier that day, what if he'd been driving a bit faster/slower that day, what if the driver was more effing observant, what if he'd gone in the car that day etc, etc, etc, there's bound to be loads of 'what ifs'. So maybe subconsciously he couldn't handle the situation of Niamh in the car seat, as in 'what if' something happened because she wasn't strapped in. I'm not saying he's right - Liam has a little chair and I only strap him in if he's upright and I'm leaving the room for a bit. Just saying maybe all dangers are unrealistically heightened for him.
I'm also not trying to excuse him. Making you feel bad is not on. Especially after all the support you give him and everything you do. Oh yeah and after the journey you've been on yourself these last few months. Bloody men! They've got no idea sometimes. To help him keep it all in perspective you should remind him that the worse that would have happened to Niamh is falling a few inches to the floor. Her small weight falling a tiny distant onto a shock-absorbing floor at a very slow velocity would barely cause a whimper. He managed to survive his full weight being flung at high velocity onto concrete.
He obviously means so much to you hopey. I hope this was a one-off and that he will be able to keep things in proportion. Hope you've had a chance to talk things through. Ditto plp's words, you are much loved here. Thanks for the email and the link. Will reply.
About meeting in London, I may be in. I can't commit until I know details etc. Bit of a way to go for me, plus I've go the other dc to think of. I'd be coming via Victoria, but don't plan around me, I'll fit around everyone else. It would be nice to meet everyone.
Plp, was Cerys' big day yesterday? My thoughts, hopes and prayers are with her. And you. I'm so wishing she doesn't get that rash you spoke of. Hope everything goes as smoothly as possible and she recovers quickly from her op.
Dal, well done with Ryan's change to the bottle. He sounds a contended little chappy to be happily guided by mummy as to what's best. Hope those 'nearly tears' were just a momentary hormonal moment for you.
Canmum, sorry you're not getting your easter break. After everything that's a bit of a let down I'm sure. Do you think you could plan some fun days out with the dc instead? btw, I posted again on the touran thread.
Kyala, I wasn't sure when reading your posts if things are getting better for you or not. You sound more sorted at the weekends, it sounds a good plan for everyone to get more space. But was he serious about walking out? Or is he just mulling over worse case scenario? Either way, it must be pretty galling for you to go fact finding at the council. I hope things aren't as bleak as it sounds.
Mrsf, your boys are handsome! And so alike too. How's Ben's skin now? Is he more comfortable, did you find the cause of it?
ACmum, oh no, another thoughtless dh! Why couldn't he have taken Eloise too and given you the break you need. AND deserve. They just don't get it do they? Hope you're recovering now and feeling better.
Asmum, I agree, we do have gorgeous babies don't we. And I wonder why Arben has started throwing up. Don't envy you with all that cleaning up. Hope he's ok and that it's nothing serious.
My news? Not much. Been ill again (sorry I know I must sound tediuos). Am on a different ab which has given me and liam d&v. Where he keeps being sick on himself he has made his neck a bit raw. Tonight I've got tummy pains and indigestion. Only one more day to go of these tablets, then I should improve. We had a big family party at the weekend for ds2's birthday. It went well but I'm a bit tired now. Dh's birthday today and he wants us to go present shopping at bluewater. Not sure how I'll manage that what with the d&v. Sickness is nearly gone, but I still need the loo a lot!
Warned you it'll be long. It's nearly 4 now and I must try to at least get a few hours before morning.