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barelymorethantwelvemonthgap · 14/12/2007 10:31

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AbbyLou · 12/01/2008 15:49

Well housework is on hold - R is awake! Got the kitchen cleaned and that's about it. I had ironed about 5 things when she woke so it look like I won't get a lot more of that done! She seems to be in one of those moods where she won't settle down to play so it seems I'll be playing for the rest of the afternoon. Dh has gone to help some friends with their new sofa. The woman is pregnant so can't lift and their new sofa needs to go upstairs to their lounge. The bloke is a bit wimpy so I'm not sure how they'll get on.

AprilMeadow · 12/01/2008 15:53

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooo Just found out that one of ds's friends has come out in chicken pox and i was round there the other day with Ella. Whats the chances that in 2 weeks she comes down with it?? Ds had it in the summer but as i was still feeding E i think she missed it, blinking typical, i dont mind her getting it its just annoying that i go back to work on Monday and alsmost as soon as i go back i will have to take time off

AbbyLou · 12/01/2008 16:11

Oh no, AM. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. C has never had it and has avoided almost inevitable contamination so many times! My cm seems to tell me almost every week that someone he's been in contact with has got it! I bet he'll get it as soon as he settles better at Nursery.

Pebblemum · 12/01/2008 16:39

Thanks Scoot for the reminder about CB, I did remember to apply but have just realised that I never heard anything back from them so Ive checked the account it gets paid into and it turns out Ive not been getting any for A Its gets paid into a spare account that is only dipped into when the kids need something so I dont check it too often and just assumed the cb had gone up. Guess I will be phoning them up Monday.

Dh has finally seen sense and decided we can get a new sofa. The one we have now was a present from MIL. We had a nice one that just needed a couple of springs replaced but MIL decided to get us a new one and so my nice comfy suite was replaced by one which I hated at first sight. As well as being terracotta (which i hate) it also has loose cushions that move as soon as you touch them. It always looks messy no matter how many times you straighten the cushions and it would give me great pleasure to take it outside and take a match to it, that is how much I hate it lol, Now though I get to choose a new one I like!!

twelveyeargap · 12/01/2008 16:56

Abby - A isn't fussed about being spoon fed either. She'll eat lumps of my stew off a spoon and yoghurt, but nothing else. I just cut up food and give it to her off the (clean) table. She pulls bowls and plates off the table. She has no interest in mush or mash. She wants it lumpy and she wants to feed herself. It's better than the other way round - even if it's messier. My friend's baby is 8.5mths and will only eat puree. That said, she hadn't tried him with finger food, so I recommended she tried giving him carrots and broccoli etc to play with and some might go in his mouth.

Good news about getting your period LG&T. Not long now!

AbbyLou · 12/01/2008 17:12

TWY What sort of things do you give A on a day-to-day basis? I'm really struggling with things to send to the cm for her. I roasted and steamed some veg last sunday night and kept it in the fridge which is what another mner suggested but it didn't really keep well and looked horrible. Lo and behold she wouldn't touch it. I worry that she is not eating enough food and she is still having 5 7oz bottles a day which quite a lot.

AbbyLou · 12/01/2008 17:13

Who the hell is TWY? What am I on about? Sorry TYG!!

AprilMeadow · 12/01/2008 17:17

LOL at TWY

Ella has mashed food and also a selection of finger foods. She has tried clementines, toast, garlic bread, ham, cheese, cucumber, carrots, green beans, roast beef and twiglets (they were very kindly fed to her by ds when dh and i werent looking)

AbbyLou · 12/01/2008 17:33

I don't know what's happened to my brain AM! E sounds like she's had most of the same things as R bar the Twiglets - those evil things never even make it through my front door!!
I just worry that she doesn't get enough food hence the large amount of milk she still drinks. If she was at home all the time I could do her fresher veg but I'm struggling at the mo. Usually she takes things like pitta bread, rice cakes, baby savoury biscuits, satsuma and banana to the cm but she said she doesn't think she eats much.

AprilMeadow · 12/01/2008 17:35

Why dont you buy the steamfresh frozen veg, that way you can just take out what you need.....

AprilMeadow · 12/01/2008 17:39

If she is gaining weight them i wouldnt worry. I think milk is supposed to make up most of the food required until they are one so any other bits are just supplimentary. Ella has 21oz max a day and then 3 meals, never big meals but at least its something. Some days she will eat far more than others.

Got her weighed on Thursday and at 9mths exactly she weighs in at 17lbs. She only gained 7oz in 7weeks!

AbbyLou · 12/01/2008 18:17

I've never heard of that veg AM, do they sell it in most supermarkets? What sort of stuff is it?
It sounds awaful but because of work I have absolutely know idea how much Ruby weighs as I can never get to the clinic. I am determined to take her at half term in February so I can find out. That will also give me a chance to speak to the hv about her eating.

twelveyeargap · 12/01/2008 18:52

Abby, if she's having 35oz of milk a day she's getting plenty of everything she needs. A only has about 20 to 24oz a day in 4 bottles. Are you still feeding at night or trying to squeeze 5 bottles into the day time? I physically can't get any more milk into A - if I try she gets sick at bed time.

What usually happens is she gets up at 7ish. She's not keen on breakfast but sometimes chews a bit of my toast or will have a couple of spoons of my weetabix. I make 8oz bottles for her but she usually has about 6oz at 8am.

Bed for a nap around 9am. At about 11.30am I make her "lunch". Sometimes she has a "sandwich" - a slice of bread, buttered, folded in half with a bit of meat or something and cut into small pieces. She sucks the butter off, chews a bit of bread and filling and throws most of it on the floor. Sometimes she has our leftover dinner from previous night, so cooked carrot sticks reheated, bits of boiled potato, small chunks of chicken etc. Then either yoghurt or fruit such as chips of banana to squash up/ eat, she LOVES pineapple and will suck and chew "triangles" that I cut off a ring until I have to wrestle the skin off her. She'll also have thin slices of apple or pear. (Not all at the same time obv - she's not actually a big eater.)

About 6-7oz milk about 12.30pm and not usually more than 5oz around 3.30pm.

Erm, so if she has a sandwich at lunch, then we don't have any more bread and it will be the meat and veg pieces in the evening, if it's been meat and veg at lunch, then it's toast or fruit at about 5pm.

7 to 8oz milk at bedtime between 6.30 and 7pm.

So she basically will eat anything at all - she's never refused a foodstuff on the basis of taste. She just won't eat mush and prefers to feed herself. Sometimes she'll eat bread, a whole yoghurt tube, then fruit and still have a fairly good tea. Today, for example, she had about three spoons of stew at lunchtime and didn't want any tea at all.

Most of what I put on the table (we have a Trip Trap so the table is her "plate") ends up on the newspaper under the high chair, but you can see the carrot sticks have lumps chewed off them and sometimes she lets me help her pop the pieces of food in her mouth with my fingers, so you know some of it goes in.

She'll eat if she's hungry. Don't take my word for it, but if you're giving her bottles more often than every 4 hours during the day, then she's probably stuffed with milk, tbh. They say not to "cut" their milk, so I suppose it's a matter of waiting until she grows a bit more and when she gets hungry, upping her "food" rather than milk, iyswim.

twelveyeargap · 12/01/2008 18:56

Oh and I meant to emphasise - she pretty much has whatever we have for dinner, but reheated the next day. Flakey pastry fish pie (the other day - a big hit), spag bol, stew, shepherds pie, stir fry etc. I haven't given her actual curry or chilli con carne, but I put curry powder, garlic, tabasco and all those kinds of flavouring in our foods and she just works away. The only thing I leave out is salt.

MarsLady · 12/01/2008 19:00

cooooooeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee 12year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

twelveyeargap · 12/01/2008 19:02

Sorry! Just emailed you this sec.

mom2latinoboys · 12/01/2008 19:18

Hi, I must be a terrible mom for giving Cruz is purees from a jar. I'm sorry, but he just isn't that in to eating right now. And I refuse to make stuff if he doesn't want to. He is in to getting into trouble though.

Oh the house hunt was terrible. My realtor arrived half an hour late, and her key didn't work so I have to go back tomorrow.

twelveyeargap · 12/01/2008 19:22

It doesn't make you a terrible mom! A just won't eat them.

That's SO annoying about the house. You get yourself all worked up, don't you? Fingers crossed is lives up to your expectations when you finally get to see it. Do you have another appointment?

juliewoolie · 12/01/2008 20:00

Scoot just mailed you, TYG whats your email?

I wouldnt worry about the food thing, until they are a year old milk is the main source of nutrition and food is a play thing if some goes in then great if it just gets chewed and chucked on the floor thats great too.

A eats pretty much everything. I do the same as TYG he gets leftovers at lunchtime then tea of toast and cream cheese/houmous etc and fruit. Weirdly the only thing he always refuses to eat is asparagus. I too give him a jar occasionally when out and about or if we have had takeout the previous night. Dont think he is quite up for a fish and chippy tea yet.

Went to the lovely Borough market today I am sure I gain a stone everytime we visit there soo much yummy food.

LG&T if you have AF its only a matter of a couple of months before you are joining us in the vom fest.

Also how come I literally become pregnant and I start to swell up shoes tight face looks like a balloon and am back in maternity jeans. TYG SKY how are you both doing?

AM glad yesterday went ok for you. What a pain about the pox though you could always ask DH to take the tine off if she gets ill.

Mucho excitement Archie starts swimming lessons tom morning I am making DP do them as their bonding thing am going with them tom to take photos. Then next week I will be having a lie in woo hoo.

AbbyLou · 12/01/2008 20:01

Thanks for all that info TYG, I feel a bit better now. I think I will have to start making bigger portions of mine and dh tea and give her some of that.
I'm not feeding her at night, she hasn't woken at night since she was 9 weeks old. She has a yogurt and 7ox bottle at about 7am, a 7oz bottle about 10.30, lunch (similar to A) about 1, a bottle and tea about 4pm and then still finishes a full bottle at bedtime - 6.30-7. I do worry about the amount of milk she drinks and often think it is too much. I worry that she won't eat food if she;s too full of milk but like you say the milk is probably better for her. I did once try to reduce the milk to increase the food but she was screaming the house down and I gave in.
I know it sounds really anal but when you cut up sandwiches etc, how small are you making the pieces? I worry so much about choking I tend to give her big bits to gnaw off.

Pebblemum · 12/01/2008 20:09

I have the opposite problem with Alana, she would rather have solids than her milk. She will usually drink her whole 7oz with breakfast (usually a bit of porridge) and when i give her the last bottle at night but during the day it is a struggle to get her to drink even 4oz at a time, the last couple of days it has only been 2oz eah time. I have tried everything from offering it to her in a cup, giving it to her before her solids and even a hour after her meal but she still isnt interested.

She has been a little monkey today, using anything she can find to stand up. As soon as my back is turned she stands up, it is driving me mad.

AprilMeadow · 12/01/2008 20:50

Abby I just got some in Morrisons. BirdsEye do one thats Steam Fresh and comes in 4 pouches - i guess you dont have to do it all in one go - and its broccoli, chunky carrot and sweetcorn. Also got another thats rice, broccoli, pea and sweetcorn. We dont really eat many veg of the fresh variety, its normally peas or frozen green beans, fresh veg only gets a look in on Sundays for a roast! We do get through a fair selection of fruit though. Ella loves mango, banana and strawberry all mashed together. When i do toast for her i cut the crusts off and then cut into 4 soldiers. She used to choke on it but has now got the hang of it - didnt take too long

AprilMeadow · 12/01/2008 20:52

Julie you have done well to get to 9weeks and only just be in maternity clothes! With J I was 9weeks when clothes started to get tight and then i think by week 6 with E i was back in stretchy trousers

twelveyeargap · 12/01/2008 22:44

I don't worry about choking Abby. I'm right there with her and they have a great gag reflex. If they take something to big, the reflex makes them cough it up. Only things which don't "squash down" or easily partially digest in the mouth are dangerous imo. Grapes and that kind of thing. I cut a half sandwich into 4 strips, but often break it up smaller if she's messing about with it too much.

Don't try to cut her milk, but I don't think there's any need to increase it after this.

Pebble - A has been reducing her milk a bit during the day too. Plus she seems to go off food and milk when she's going to get a tooth. Could be that...

I'm about 12 weeks now. I'm wearing some of my stretchy stuff and I have a few bits of my post-preg clothes (which I never really got out of...) which still fit. I feel absolutely hideous. So fat and flabby and nasty. Wanted DH to turn of the light the other night when we er... Don't even want to be looked at. Yeuch.

Email is twelveyeargap at googlemail dot com.

AprilMeadow · 13/01/2008 08:50

12wks already TYG thats going quick. You'll be having your 20wk scan before long

Ella slept again last night 8-8 Fingers crossed that she may have cracked it.

Helping dh pack all of his office bits up today and send them to the office Then we have to clear the garage as we can no longer see the floor. We had forgotten that dh's grandad was coming and had planned to do most of it yesterday.

Off to get a new car seat for E as well. We are off to Wales on Friday for the Welsh memorial service and dont want her to be squashed in her baby car seat for 3+ hours. I htink we are going to go with the Mazi-Cosi proirifix.