June 2020 Babies-Six months on: mobile babies, feeding adventures, and still sleepless nights! 3rd thread

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Hi everyone! I made a new thread as we were at the end of the last one. A new thread for the new year! I changed the title as we don’t have newborns anymore!

@MRSO5 my little one has been pretty awful sleep wise but now we are TTC no2 I need to get it under control or I fear I might die of sleep deprivation

@mrssunshinexxx Good on you and best of luck with ttc. This time last year I genuinely thought I'd be ttc by now but we've put it off for a while. I love the idea of being pregnant again but realising how hard it was having a baby and lack of sleep has made me rethink things for now.

You will know when the time is right @MRSO5 x

@mrssunshinexxx is that the Little Ones that was shared?
I tried it and we didn't have much luck.... my DD is still waking 5-6 times a night, it's really getting to me loads now. I used to love our snuggly bedtime feeds now I dread it along with every other night wake. I find myself sitting with tears in my eyes half the time not sure how I'm going to survive another night.

Oh gosh you poor thing no it's a different one @Cornishbumpkin do you mind me sharing x

I thought I was having a brain aneurysm I was that sleep deprived in the first week of bringing baby home 😂 I actually cried in bed to DH because it felt like I was passing out every time I was about to fall asleep, his was response was 'just go to fucking sleep'. I now cry with laughter thinking about it. Oh hormones. Really don't know how you ladies are surviving all these night time wakes. I'd be dead. Ds slept from midnight until 6am from 6 weeks and I BF then the night sleep just increased thank god. I think I have one of those first baby's that lull you in to a false sense of security and trick you in to having another because this baby lets you get a full nights sleep, then the second child is literally the devil 😂 or I'm going to have a very terrible toddler. Bring it on!

@smiffette thats so tough! @mrssunshinexxx please do share. If anyone would like the just chill mama details pm and I'm happy to share. Sleep deprivation has definitely been the most challenging part so far and has definitely contributed to my poor mental health!

@Cornishbumpkin @mrssunshinexxx ah ok, yes it would've good to see it.... honestly I'll give anything a go at the moment!

@Smiffette I feel the same! This week she’s refusing to go back to sleep for a good portion of the night as well. Want to cry and scream! @mrssunshinexxx that’s amazing progress! @Cornishbumpkin I’ll pm you x

@Smiffette PM me your email address I don't know how to , sorry.
Hopefully this will really be a game changer it has been for me ! But you have to be consistent. My first night was hell but the second was night and day!

@mrssunshinexxx will do!!
I think that's one of the things I've found frustrating, bedtime routine is always consistent.

@Smiffette you poor thing! Sleep deprivation is actually a form of torture. My mantra is "everything is just a phase" and it helps me get through the bad days. Sleep helps more but that's a luxury isn't it!

@Cornishbumpkin hope you don't mind but I pm'd you x

@MRSO5 yes that was my mantra too, but this phase has been going on since mid November with the exception of a few random nights where she's only woken 3 times 😔

I'm with you all on the frustration sleep deprivation! We've always had the same bedtime routine and every night I think this might be the night but never has she slept through, I think it's gone way past this is just a phase now sadly. We will go through a few nights of really good sleep and she'll only wake up twice to last night back to every two hours 😴 every night is a lottery now, and most nights I'll sit in the dark crying trying to work it where I've gone wrong whilst trying to settle her back down, She's also got really loud at night with her crying so even if you wanted to give her chance to settle herself you can't as she'll wake my partner up and the neighbours in the whole street 🤦🏻‍♀️
Her top teeth are now through pretty much but I think more look like there coming shortly which is not helping the sleep front.

Just to say I'm keeping up with the posts and rooting for you all with the sleep training. I've felt like the last few months have been a struggle but I've not had to go through the level of sleep deprivation that some of you ladies are enduring. Think its amazing what you're doing on such little sleep, which is such a mental health test. I dont think I would cope so I'm really keeping fingers crossed for you all and just to say you're all doing so brilliant with such difficult circumstances!

@Busylizzie85 from what you've said I think you've been a bit unlucky (not sure if that's the right word) with your little one having more than one tooth early. Your dealing with all that uncertain sleep settling of the beginning months, with teething on top - twice over. Most of what I've read says that teething cause major sleep disruption so it's like your dealing with both simultaneously. My little one doesnt even have one tooth yet so thinking this will hit us hard. I guess the positive is that you will get all this initial teething out the way early and things will settle down. Although I appreciate it probably doesnt feel like it right now! Hang in there

@Busylizzie85 @Smiffette seems like the three of us are in the same position. We had pretty good sleep up until about 3.5 months old. She would do 4-6 hour stretches, just 2-3 wakes a night, only 1-2 feeds. Now other than a few random nights of 2-3 wake ups she is up every 1-2 hours all night, screams like I’m torturing her, refuses to sleep for an hour or two in the middle. We are also behind the point of thinking this could be just a phase. I’m also with you on the thinking “what did I do wrong tonight?” “What did I do that worked that one time?” Really sorry you’re both going through it too but grateful for having people who understand what it’s like and knowing it’s not just me.

Sorry I mean the whole sleep training plan once you start no matter how hard night 1 is stick with it I was in tears on night 1 but since she has been sooo much better @Smiffette x

@mrssunshinexxx thank you for sending it through!
I will start it next week I think so I can mentally prepare for it and prepare my DH xx

Good idea you need him on hand to help @Smiffette x

Hi ladies, I hope you don't mind if I join in? It's been really refreshing reading your posts, my LO will be 7months on 15th and the best sleep he ever did was 6 hrs but those days are long gone. He wakes every 1.30 hrs - and I have not been able to move away from feeding back to sleep. I also struggle to put him in his cot for naps, it usually wakes him up, so I'm stuck holding him 3x a day so he gets some sleep.

On the plus side he is loving his food.

Oh ladies. I'm so sorry to hear all the struggles re sleep. My LO wakes a few times in the night, but we just have him in the bed now. I know it's bad, but I'd rather not have to get out of bed at night. He's never slept through or had any real stretches, but I've accepted this is just how he is. Fingers crossed he'll grow out of it.

Welcome @oregano20 our babies share the same birthday :)

Welcome @Oregano20 x

Thank you :)

I've also not been in the car on my own with LO, I feel like lockdown has been an excuse to not push myself and as a result it's really knocked my confidence, I've really not been out with him, except daily walks in the park. I have driven with him, but with OH sitting in the back.

Out of interest, what activities are you doing with your babies? I'm still doing the usual singing, toys, jumperoo and books and I'm starting to worry if he needs more now? Something more exciting?

I really want to take him to a cage when things open up, I think he'll love looking around

@Oregano20 oh my days I feel exactly the same. I was furloughed in March and DH WFH so he has done all the driving, I didn't drive in like 15 weeks and have really lost my confidence. I do take LO to my mums once a week on my own, she will be looking after him once I go back to work so they need to build a bond. But I agree I get terribly stressed if have to do anything with baby on my own, shopping trips, doctors, walks anything. My plan was to start a baby group after Christmas for the last few months of maternity leave but obviously with what's going on they have all been cancelled in my area.
It's so hard being a new mum in the current climate, feel like I haven't had a maternity leave as I've just been stuck in the house on my own