June 2020 Babies-Six months on: mobile babies, feeding adventures, and still sleepless nights! 3rd thread

[UKtoSK]

Hi everyone! I made a new thread as we were at the end of the last one. A new thread for the new year! I changed the title as we don’t have newborns anymore!

Do you have the baby rear seat mirror?

@Missgemini yes you wouldn’t want to have the car seat in the front passenger seat for safety. A mirror is definitely a good option. We have this mirror in the back that lets me see baby’s face in the rear view mirror or if I turn around (when stopped). I’ve never done an hour but do 20-30 minutes no problem but she loves the car thankfully. I go for light clothing under a blanket that I could pull off easily if the car got too hot. Then I don’t worry about not being in the back with her.

@Missgemini Isit crashing you are worried about or LO kicking off? Yes you can have them in the front if you disable air bag and have rear facing I have thought about this often so she could hold my hand as she used to HATE the car seat and her screaming would really distract me I would constantly be looking in the mirror but thankfully something has clicked and she doesn't mind it now. Hoping lockdown won't send her backwards with that as doubt we will go out in the car much at all x

Oh gosh. I didn't even know there was such a thing as a baby rear seat mirror! My worry is a bit embarrassing. Just a fear that he could suddenly stop breathing.
Ladies, once again, you've saved me!!! I just want to be able to see his face, so the baby mirror is really all I need.

Also, update re baby sleeping. We now finally have a 7pm bed time :)

@Missgemini that's great about the bedtime! It really makes all the difference.
We have a rear seat mirror given to use it's very useful. I have to have her in the front seat with me as I only have a three door car and it hurts my back to much having to try and get her in the back when alone.

Month 7 almost and my hair is still falling out a lot 🙁 have a blood test Tuesday to see if there is any underlining conditions that's causing it along with the bad back. I still think the back is due to the epidural that did not work.

@busylizzie85 so sorry to hear about the hair loss and back pain. Good thing you're getting some blood tests done already. Hopefully, there's something that can be done.
With regards to the back pain, I'm no expert, but I've been told that specific postnatal ab exercises (see YouTube) can help gain strength in the torso and reduce things like back pain. I've been doing those exercises for months. Something to consider trying whilst waiting for bloods etc. Good luck

@Busylizzie85 sorry about the back pain. I am struggling with it as well, but I didn't have an epidural. I struggled with something similar during and after pregnancy with my first, but hoping to get this sorted quicker. I've been doing physio exercises, mostly pelvic stuff and now started with ones to loosen the muscles which have gone stiff, and I see her in person in 2 weeks to check in doing everything correctly.

@Missgemini I don't drive but we've had Charlotte in the front a lot as we were trying to figure out the best way of fitting in the three children and myself. She's now in the back, and my 3yo in the front. I'm thinking about doing extended rear facing this time, in which case we will buy a mirror. I am hoping to return to driving soon, in which case a mirror will help ease my anxieties. She doesn't really like the car though, so not sure how this will go.

Oh I've just found this thread, can I join? I've a little boy born June 26th. What a crazy time it's been in all ways, I hope everyone is keeping well! I feel like the fog in my brain is only starting to lift now. I'm going to spend my day reading this to try pick up some tips. My LO doesn't like to sleep (😭), doesn't really like the weaning process but loves the boob and having a good chuckle at everything he sees! x

@MRSO5 welcome! Your little one sounds a lot like mine!

Seems like I may have been wrong about not having car seats in the front since a few of you say it’s ok. The mirror is definitely a life saver for the back seat though!

[quote UKtoSK]@MRSO5 welcome! Your little one sounds a lot like mine!

Seems like I may have been wrong about not having car seats in the front since a few of you say it’s ok. The mirror is definitely a life saver for the back seat though![/quote]
It's safer in the back (for all passengers regardless of age though).

@Missgemini congrats on the 7pm night time! You managed that transition well 👏

@MRSO5 Welcome! This thread is so helpful! X

Thanks ladies! Really missing a support network due to restrictions. Can I ask has anyone done sleep training. We had started and then stopped due to a cold. Positives are LO can now go to sleep in cot without feeding. However wakes up 1.5-3 hours later (longest sleep normally) and can only be pacified by nursing so now we cosleep from there as lack of sleep was really affecting me. x

Naps are normally 30-40 mins x 3 with wake window of about 2 hours.

@MRSO5 again your little one sounds a lot like mine! We usually have 3 naps a day at exactly 30 minutes each. She goes down between 7-7:30 at night and was sleeping until midnight. Then 11. Then 10... now she wakes within the first hour or so and hourly from then on until I go to bed and I have also taken to bed sharing with her from then onwards as it’s the only way I can get through the night! However this week she learnt how to roll over in bed and feeding back to sleep when she wakes up isn’t as effective because she just wants to keep practicing rolling over and over and over... hoping to try to work on putting her back into her bed after night feeds this week to get ready for eventually sleeping in separate rooms but I failed last night and she was in my bed from 10:30... I’m not sleep training as I just can’t handle the crying involved. We tried once and she cried so hard she vomited (after just 4 minutes of crying). So I’m just slowly working on getting her to settle in her own bed and hope that helps her sleep better at night. I’ve found that the least stressful I can make it for both of us the better we both sleep!

Thanks @haichmal and @magpie21

Welcome @Mrso5. The sleep business with babies is a never ending nightmare, isn't it!
I only just this past week managed to achieve an early evening bed time.
My next task is to get him out of our bed and back into his cot. Please send help :D

Thanks for the new thread!

How about those weaning poos! DH is really starting to struggle changing them 😂

LO loves his sleep 3/4 naps a day ranging from 30mins to an hour and he sleeps from 11pm until I wake him at 8.30am although he would sleep for longer if I let him! Going to start getting him earlier so I can get to bed sooner.

He's not in his own room yet, I'm struggling to let him go! He's so little!

I would love another but it's an absolute no from OH at the moment, it's going to take time and a lot of convincing!

@mrsmario very jealous of your sleepy one!! Mine seems to think sleep just gets in the way of play/ food time 😂

Welcome @MRS05 this group is fab, we are all honest about how shit things can be sometimes! We are in the middle of chill mama baby sleep training, on night 3, going well, alot of tears but we are weaning the dummy too.

@Missgemini that’s my task for this week too! So far I’ve failed two nights in a row 🤦‍♀️ Last night I did get baby back into her cot from 2:30~4:30... but she woke twice in that time. At least she had all her naps this weekend in her cot.

Has anyone got the flu jab for their baby?

@UKtoSK they do sound alike don't they. Oh I hear you, it hurts listening to them upset, poor little thing vomiting too. best of luck with trying to get her into the cot. The rolling sounds so cute but also a bit of a nightmare. They always like to challenge us with something new don't they!
Haven't got baby flu jab, I thought they get it when slightly older.

Thanks @Missgemini I naively never thought that sleep would take over like this. Well done on the early bedtime, it's all about the little wins isn't it.

@Cornishbumpkin Thanks! Well done ye, it's not easy is it. We did controlled crying previously, it helped with initial bedtime but not with the wake ups. I don't know when I can face trying it again. Would you recommend chill mama? Did you do one of the online courses?

@MRSO5 hey I'm doing it along with @Cornishbumpkin we have been messaging each other for support but you don't leave them to cry ever you stay right with them it's just about settling them in the cot x

Hi @mrssunshinexxx ah ok. How have ye both found it?

Finding it OK so far, we are doing the 6-9 month online course, it's definitely helped put a bit more structure into the day

I'm really grateful for @Cornishbumpkin sharing it I don't know if it's a fluke as only night 3 but we have gone from 5 or 6 wake ups to 2! X

That's great, sounds like the hard work is paying off! It's reassuring to hear there are others in the same boat as me. Although I wouldn't wish bad sleep on anyone. Most of the parents I know have great little sleepers!