June 07 - Piling on the pounds....and we're not talking about the babies!!!

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I'm off to bed too now...good night!

holly, you can sell on all your too small cloth nappies to her.

Am off too...DH is making neglected noises and grumbling about conjugal rights

no worries faylisa!

yes daisy it was home made pecan pie

No trick really...the secret is

1. you get totally knackered
2. you give in and hire a childminder, dog walker and cleaner
3. thus, you get time to make pecan pie

I do work bloody hard though, I am often up late doing laundry, cleaning up, stuffing nappies, making lunches/bottles, packing DS's bag for the next day, paying bills etc. Plus DH likes a proper cooked meal every night, but in return for me cooking it, he does clean up after.

I do do a hell of a lot tbh but DH does pull his weight, he looks after DS in the mornings so I can leave for work early.

I blame my upbringing, my mother is a martyr and my father is a victorian chauvanist.

hi not time to read as am just going back to hospital yes you guessed shes back in

Oh Trace
Poor Chloe...wishing all the best, let us know how she goes when you have time xxx

Oh trace, poor chloe and poor you. Do the doctors know what the problem is?

Trace sorry to hear that

thinking of you all xx

thinking of you trace, hope all goes well. Rx

oh trace poor you and chloe hope everything is ok,take care

morning all lo has 2nd set of jabs this am so planning a quiet day at home
dh is off to new york with shopping list he is staying in an aprtment overlooking central park if ds wasn't in school would be going too half term soon though so off on hols
am trying to be domestic goddess at all times but just can't be arsed some days I think nigella is just plump I love her recipes but can't watch the programme as she is too much these days she said in an interview i read recently that she always goes commando

TMI Nigella, ew.

Has everyone heard? Dear Ole' Britney has lost custody of her kids

Cheers for that image andiem, I'll never be able to watch nigella again now

DD has hers this afternoon. Thankfully DH is home again this evening so if she is a bit mizzy I'm not dealing with it on my own.

New York . I hope he brings you something nice....from Tiffany's maybe????

I saw that about Britney....I'm so not up on celebrity gossip, I didn't even realise she was having a custody battle. Last I heard she was in/out/in/out of rehab and shaving her hair off.

morning all.

so sorry to hear that Trace. Thinking of you both, it must be so hard x

Am watching Nigella now. Sittng on public transport eating noodles with her shiny red chopsticks and shouting FUCK OFF at the telly.

Good luck with the jabs today

Foxy, I hope your DDs are out of earshot

How are the boys settling in at school. DS is coming along in leaps and bounds this year. I think the more formal setting is working well for him. That and his teachers are lovely and seem more patient than last years.

only lo here so i can be potty mouthed!

Boys are settling in well thanks. DS1 is same as MRR, loving the structure and lessons. DS2 is finding it hard going though, full-days and not being able to go outside when he wants is tough.

Took lo to Ikea last night, she was suitably unimpressed! I took her to make it easier for DP, but he still managed to be a PITA!

just got a letter from our solicitor with a copy of a letter from dhs ex-boss. and so it's all his fault and he didn't give proper notice and they have never intended to withhold his money. that'll be why they didn't reply to our letters, pretended to be out and haven't posted a cheque then? foxy, oh HR guru - if he walked out does he then have to give written notice, especially when he had no contract? FUCK. it's gone on long enough now, i just want to move on. and instead of ringing the solicitor to find out what to do next, he's gone outside to wash the windows.luckily she is a very good solicitor, but that makes her very difficult to get hold of. bastards, there was no need for any of this. today i hate my life.

oh ria sorry things are so crap he needs to ring the solicitor men are great at avoidance ime

jabs done lo no bother stopped crying minute they were done. Have just fed him and given him some nurofen so fingers crossed he will be ok

do you think it is child abuse to dress him up as a pumpkin for halloween? have seen cute costume......

dh has shopping list for dcs for stuff from gap have also snuck in cardi request for me don't think tiffanys will be high on list

Oh Ria, that's shite.

If there's no contract there's nothing to say what DH is expected to do. He has statutory rights, laid down by law (i.e. the whole parental leave thing).

If things are untenable and he walks, there might be a case for constructive dismissal, but your solicitor is best to deal with it. If you have a solicitor already you probably don't need Citizens Advice, but it might be worth putting a call into them. And also ask about Legal Aid. You can still go down the Industrial Tribunal route. They might back down and settle beforehand. It sounds like you have done all the right things.

We need Faylisa for this, she might be able to help.

Don't let it get you down, sounds like you have done all the right things. Make sure you document everything, and keep doing so. Its all a process now, so leave it with the solicitor, make it formal and sue the bastards!

I feel quite sorry for Brittney. And a bit embarrassed that I have an opinion on her life

thanks. must pull myself together - favourite GMs bday to organise.

arse to the supermarket...

I feel sorry for her too foxy all that exposing her fanjo when she has childer

Ria hope you get things sorted am off to supermarket too.....

I don't feel that sorry for her really.

She had plenty of warnings and opportunities to turn it around. Let's face it, she could afford a decent nanny, that might have been all it took. And perhaps less hit and runs/drug abuse/alcoholism.

Tis true, TA, she did. I'm sure this will turn into a tabloid feeding frenzy and tip her over the edge. Its a shame.

Righto, whats for lunch then?

Hi all

Afternoon all - both DCs in their cots asleep - woohoo! Although not counting any chickens as DD only slept for 10 mins yesterday afternoon

Ria - employment isn't my area of law, and I don't know all the details, but off the top of my head my thoughts would be:

• a contract can be oral or written - did DH and his boss agree anything when he started, or during his employment? The problem, obviously, is it's one word against another
• I don't know the circumstances surrounding why he left but if the situation was made so bad that he saw very little option but to leave then it could possibly be a case of constructive dismissal
• Even if he did leave without serving his notice, etc then I can't see how that entitles them not to pay him for work that he has done and any holiday that he has accrued

It sounds like your solicitor has it under control but if I can help at all then pls email me through facebook or with my mumsnet name @yahoo.co.uk