MAY 07 Post natal - This time a year ago it was all just beginning, look at us now...........................

[Mrsjaffabiffa]

Morning........

Hi everyone, hope you're all well. I'm really struggling to get on the pc at all at the moment, I'm sooo busy!! Next week it's half term so hopefully I will get on a bit. I'm really missing you guys and comparing notes on lo's all the time. R has officially charmed her childminder and has the other children eating out of her hand.

Good evening all.......

Thanks for the thread about sterilizing, I will be reading it in a moment.

Must have been a day for jabs yesterday. J had her's too. She was fine and I hope B and M were. H had to have his MMR booster aswell. He was so brave I was a very proud Mummy, no fuss what so ever.

J had apple this evening, it's going OK, she wasn't impressed yesteday with the carrot and sweet potato mush for the second time, must be that poison thing going on lg&t.

AM is having a nice time, she says it's freezing blardy hot

Did you know that chocolate is just NO good for you?

I read the sterilizer thread, am going to ditch it today... on to ebay!

The twins are 9 today they are being very sweet. I must make a cake today but am feeling so demotivated about everything. I did make a dragon egg one at the weekend for their sleep over. Birthday tea tonight with a friend coming over to join in. One wants sausages, chips and beans and the other macaroni cheese, poles apart my two!

Im miserable, feel like it could be my period but it has been lasting for a couple of weeks now. Negative prg tests so not that either. I just think im fed up, baby tied to me 24/7 and no rest from them at all. B was very grumpy last night so i rocked him to sleep and put him to bed when i went up, it was nice but just meant i didnt have 5 minutes yeterday when i was not holding/talking to him. Not even for a wee!!!!

Get a grip i keep saying to myself. Im sniping at dh too, he just doesnt see anything that needs to be done and wants prompting. Course then im a nag and it feels like im talking to one of the kids, i have enough children... Plus if the baby is grumpy its pass him back to me

Off to toddlers with still grumpy B, i wish Hugs was here

Oh lg&t, here hunny have a big glass of vino and forget it all............

Happy Birthday to J and S. 9 OMG!! You know you love baking, it'll relax you lg&t. x

J is screaming in her cot, I am being mean though and leaving her for a while, she has got so overtired this morning, my fault for faffing about and not getting her to bed at the right time. [bad mommy emotion] We were supposed to be going out today but it's pissing it down, so I'm waiting until mum & dad get back from shopping and see if they'll have J; then I can take H & M out in the rain. Don't feel it's fair to drag J around a park getting soaked.

She's quiet now, sleep sweet sleep.

Hello all - bck from Ireland. Lovely to spend some time with mum and to see my Granny - suspect this will be the last time we see her she is v wobbly.
CRISIS before we left - went to get passports from drawer where THEY ALWAYS ARE. They weren't. Was meant to leave (literally) 5 mins later. Turned house upside down. Tipped out drawers. Pulled books off bookcase. Cried a little bit. Half an hour later we looked in broken old bag in cloakroom and there they were. It was my fault too - humph. IT was awful....

Re BF. I agree - don't feel guilty whatever you decide. All the mums posting here sound brilliant and clearly care deeply about their LO's . I have to say that I find BF v helpful because it means that when DS1 is being naughty (every 10 mins at the moment) I can abdicate responsibility and DH has to deal with it - I have been known to place S on boob to get out of dealing with screaming 4 yr old. He doesn't misbehave so much when it is just me (does anyone else find this?) so this tends to work quite well!!!!!!!!

Well done abby - sounds as if you are coping v well

Lol anneme at the using the bf excuse to abdicate responsibility of the dc, I try to do this at their supper time so dh can take over. Glad you had a good time away.

Ooooohhhhhh LG&T, so sorry to hear you are feeling low. Will you get a chance for a bit of a break next week in half term? Aren't the others going to join H at their dads? It could well be your body readjusting, fwiw I felt exhausted last week and IRRITABLE AS HELL with all of them dh and dc. Then I felt ovulatory-type pains on sat and have a feeling we are on our way to period city. I feel much more lively this week. Here's hoping you will get more energy soon. Happy birthday to the twins!

Did anyone pick up their next stage Bounty bag? I have just got it and am quite impressed with it this time round, lots of stuff I will actually use for once.

Must dash, pre-school school run.

Oh forgot to say J did 6.45pm to 6.15 last night

Hey LG & T - you're like superwoman most of the time, hardly surprising you get a bit hacked off on occasion!

I totally feel you about yesterday. Dh arranged to have the tesco shop delivered at 8.45pm, which woke her up, so I rocked her too, but she kept waking so I brought her down and she slept on me, then straight into our bed last night.

I've actually done a bit of controlled crying this evening, I feel like she has to re-learn to go to sleep without me. Cruel, I know, but needs must, and mummy needs her mental health.

Not cruel, PJ, (don't get me started on that one again) tehe
They do have to teach themselves how to do it, you are spot on IMO.

Hope the twins have had a lovely B'day lg&t, how are you feeling now. Tipsy I hope.

Where has my profile gone! Is it because I changed my nickname?

yes probably PJ as I've just noticed mine has gone too.

I think there's some way of linking it back up again... Not sure though. LG&T's is visible.

LG&T - Hope you're feeling better today my Love. DId the twins have a lovely birthday? FWIW, DH is like you described yours. Never realises what needs doing. I mention it, he forgets, I mention it again, he forgets. I get narky about it and so on.

The "mystery" of the 3 to 5oz bottles is solved. No mystery of course. She's just not hungry. She was fed at 1.30 yesterday pm, some apple at 2 and then not fed again until about 6.20 after her bath. Very unusual - she'd normally be fed mid afternoon. Anyway, she scoffed 5oz of ebm and I had to go and get her 2 more of formula before she was full. I guess fully ff babies on 5 feeds a day would take 7oz at a time because there's longer gaps between feeds. Duh.

Does everyone watch Heroes? I'd love to watch all the rest of the episodes. 'Tis very exciting.

Mornin all

I want to watch heroes > but am off to bed too early. Must get dh to download them all so i can watch at leisure

Beau up all night, raging temperature. General misery, threw up but pretty sure it was just because he was spiking a temp. He has crashed now thankfully. The house was a state and desperately needed cleaning, he has been stuck to me like glue since Monday and the house was showing it.

Am eating scrambled egg and toast, yum. I farcked off with the fact i can shift this last stone and have been very careful recently (despite the odd takeaway ) I dont want to be prg again before i lose it or that could be very bad

Im missing Scoot, wonder if it is all going ok. Did anyone get her new address before she vanished? Want to send her a 'new home' card.

How is the dreaded AF situation TYG? Is is horrendous. the first one after childbirth usually is. Im not looking forward to it

You can indeed link your profile to your new name, in the registration bit.

Have a steriliser to list on ebay today Im freeeeeeeeeeeeeee, wahoooooooooo!!!

I am farcked off with the fact i cant lose this last stone, doh!

Love heroes have it downloaded and watch in snippets when feeding or if DP watching whatever sport is taking his fancy.

When will the wretched teeth come through his highness is the height of misery at the mo - not looking forward to the 8 hour drive next week if he continues.

LG&T hats off to you I would be in a mental institution if I had to cope with all you do. You manage amazingly well just the fact that you still have time to mumsnet shows how fab you are doing.

PJ a bit of CC is prob the way to go for you - buy some earplugs it wont drown out the crying but will make it a little bit more bearable.

I think its called neglect JulieWoolie...

bollox its called keeping your sanity, or actually helping us keep ours.

Oh it's not just me then? Period from hell is normal after a baby? I didn't remember from last time. I've been up in the night with it, fgs. And I feel really run down.

Am out tonight. WOOOHOOO! (Now I just need to get myself showered and dressed.)

Out? OUT? OUT?

If you imagine all the stuff that was lining your womb while prg that didnt shed properly after the birth...nice huh? That is what is pouring out of you now, plus you have an extra mixed bag of hormones just to spice it up a little. I will probably be hospitalised with it such is my ability to bleed to death every month. Although i do usually get a varied break in between, anything from 32-55 days, then again i bleed for about 2 weeks Oh the joy. No wonder i have been prg or bf for the last 10 years!

Take as many painkillers as you can (cos of the BF) and go to bed on a care mat. You know those pampers ones, they have saved my sheets since they were released a few years ago!

My house is clean and i have just baked a giant treacle traybake. DH is falling behind on the cake stakes in work. Someone has been taking in flapjacks...i mean they are not even a cake ffs. >

I love you ladies, you're always sure to make me giggle in amongst the sweeping and general clearing of Shite!!!!!! God I hate clutter!! Bin, Bin Bin it all I say!

Don't know why I have a fecking house full of toys, they never play with the dammn things, they just move them from the edges of the rooms to the middle to annoy me I'm sure. Oh and Christmas is looming, more toys aghhhhhhh.

Did anyone else think that Bringing up Baby finished as a bit of a cop out in the end? They went through all that and then didn't have an answer for which method had better results. In other words do what you fecking like.

Thanks lg&t, Found it.

PJ if you go to My registration and then public profile page. The last paragragh before your profile details says "if you have a profile attatched to another nickname and would like to link it then go to our profile mover page", there is a link to click on and then you can link your existing profile to any of your nicknames.

i hate cooking, cleaning, washing, constant tidying.
hate the fact im still over 2 stone overweight.
im tired all the time
feel guilty for feeling frustrated when baby wakes up all bloody night long.
dh and i seem to row the minute he gets thru the door. (last night it was because i had apparently put the wrong wattage light bulb in the hall....)
baby only goes on boob for 5 mins at a time so surely im starving the poor child too. refuses to go back on. turning head...
i always knew id be a crap housewife but i thought i might make a better mum

how the hell do you all do it?
multiple children
baking for goodness sake?
its as much as i can do to russle up something vaguely edible for dinner.
and this is the 1st time ive switched computer on for weeks too

Awh, MID. It's just a rough patch. You're a great mum and you haven't been a housewife before, so you're learning!

A is a pest like that when breastfeeding. I find it helps if I turn off the tv/ radio and give her my full attention when she's like that. Give her my finger to hold, or something small to fiddle with. That keeps her hands and mind occupied whilst she feeds. And don't worry too much about the time he's on. He'll be very good at BF now and a quick feeder I imagine. A rarely takes more than about 7 mins - never has, but she still piles on the weight and goes 3 to 4 hours between feeds in the day.

With the night times. If you're not already doing this, I find that getting up as soon as they're "awake" in the morning. Be that 6.30, 7 or 7.30, but just get them "up". Open the curtains and let in the daylight or turn all the lights on if it's a dark morning. That starts the body clock for that day. I find lying in bed willing A back to sleep gets me a lie in, but she's iffy for the day after it. The other thing is that whilst you'll aim for a bedtime of around 7, if he woke last at say, 3 and doesn't have a catnap in the afternoon, try bathing him at about 5.30 and putting him to bed by 6. Stops them getting overtired that way and they wind down better. HTH.

Yup, I'm out this evening with a couple of ladies from my postnatal group. Just going out for a few drinks locally.

Got a note through the door today saying my (old) car had been reported abandoned! Haven't moved it in ages, I grant you, but it's taxed and insured and everything. Have to call the AA now to get it started though as battery is dead. Doh. Had to call the council and claim it. It's hardly worth anything. If DH had let me sell it a while ago it would have been worth selling, but he insisted he was going to learn to drive in it, didn't and now the feckin' thing is barely worth a few hundred quid, with it being slightly damaged and all. Tsk. Don't know what to do with it. It won't sell unless I get it fixed, (and even then it's will be tough because it's a crap Rover), but the repairs won't pay for themselves, iyswim. Hmmm.

MID, you are a good Mum! Take a deep breath, take in that baby smell, relax and enjoy, just go with the flow. You do not need to do everything all the time. Go easy on yourself I'm sure you are doing a grand job.

Have a look at my pic's on my proile all.
Is that wat they call baby led weaning?

TYG, bums about the car, can't you just declare it sorn and push it off the road somewhere?

Geee, I even previewed the last post, didn't check it very well did I?