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June 2020 Babies - newborn snuggles, recovery, milk and night feeds!

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LillianFullStop · 12/06/2020 14:33

First post natal thread for June 2020 babies! Looking forward to seeing our birth club thread members here soon!

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Blizy · 22/06/2020 17:08

Rose has been I'm hospital since Friday, she was just so sleepy, floppy and not feeding. She's being treated for an infection. Hopefully get her home within the next few days.

Busylizzie85 · 22/06/2020 17:45

Hope she gets well soon @Blizy ❤️

Pegase · 22/06/2020 17:51

Oh that's so hard @Blizy - hope she is on the mend now

BabyBird20 · 23/06/2020 19:43

Has anyone else got a little one that won't stop feeding today? He is so unhappy it's a bit heartbreaking! Keeps eating, drifting off then starting himself awake!! Argh!!

Busylizzie85 · 23/06/2020 20:02

Snap @BabyBird20

Gigitree · 23/06/2020 23:49

What’s everyone doing in terms of nighttime sleep deprivation.
My little one will only sleep on me. We’ve tried putting her on her dad or in her cot mid-sleep but she just wakes up and then is inconsolable and won’t settle again for a long time.

The past two nights I’ve just stuck it out by staying awake and holding her, but I just don’t think I can physically do this for another night.

I’m so worried about falling asleep & SIDS - but I need to figure out something, I haven’t had hardly any sleep in days and I’m Struggling so much.

What is everyone else doing or are your little ones happy to settle on someone else/in their cot?

BabyBird20 · 24/06/2020 01:55

I'm sat here now wondering exactly the same thing @Gigitree 😩😩 been sat here since 10 with non stop 15 min feed/5 min doze cycle!! Wakes as soon as I put him down. I'm lucky he'll sleep on his dad for a couple of hours sometimes once he's fallen asleep on the boob but he's back at work now so trying to limit this while he gets used to working again!! Swaddling was working to get him to sleep longer but seems to have lost its magic 😴😴😴

APD1981 · 24/06/2020 02:47

I had a few nights of this too and last night I gave in and co slept. I was on my knees and seriously considering packing a bag and walking out to find a bed to myself! Freddie will go in his crib but he'd just been so fussy for a few days that he wouldn't stay in there long. However, looks like it was a growth spurt as he's been in it since about 9PM tonight, only coming out for feeds then going back in asleep. It's like he's a different baby. I've probably jinxed the rest of the night now!

@blizy hope your little one is on the mend x

Gigitree · 24/06/2020 06:32

So glad I’m not alone with this @BabyBird20 @APD1981

I literally feel at my wits end, I don’t want to do anything to jeopardise her safety but I also don’t know what else to do. The lullaby trust just tell you to put them in an empty crib, but don’t off any advice as to what to do if your baby won’t sleep like that!

APD1981 · 24/06/2020 07:00

@gigitree I've read that baby is at more risk if you get so tired with them on you that you fall asleep than if you safely co sleep. I only did it first about 2.5 hours but my god, was it glorious! It was what I needed to survive and be healthy myself so I think you just have to make that decision and go with it. I am such a rule follower so going against recommendations is hard but lots of people and official organisations aren't actually against co sleeping so it's not like it's the worst thing in the world. I followed all the safety advice and the current heat helps as I can make do without much cover myself. Hubby went in the other room and we actually slept. It was amazing x

HaichMal · 24/06/2020 08:22

@Gigitree I've started co-sleeping. She would not settle in her crib for more than 15 mins, 30 max, and I was struggling to stay awake during the feeds and settling, and the same thing was happening during the day too, where I would struggle to stay awake while feeding her or holding her sometimes. I decided a bit of cosleeping was the safer option than me falling asleep holding her. She lies next to me, between me and her crib and will sleep for around 2 hours at a time doing so during the night, so I actually get some sleep and can look after her better. She is in a romper at night as our room is so warm and she has no covers but obviously gets some of my heat from being next to me. She's also on her back, so risk of SIDs is reduced. I can hear her breathing better with her being this close. I did something similar with my toddler, for the first few weeks, and then we would settle in his crib fine at night, so we'll see how we go.

@APD1981 Charlotte has been really fussy the last few days and barely even settles in the carry cot during the day, which she was doing no problem. I had a text yesterday from the infant feeding team saying there was a growth spurt around 2-3 weeks which could make babies feed more, cluster more and being unsettled, so I'm guessing that's why.

@Blizy I hope you're little one is doing better

Charlotte has a rash. It looks like a heat rash but has spread since it started. I sent photos to the doctor and we have an appointment in a few hours so she can see it in person. She said it did look like a heat reaction but it also looked quite severe. We put her in a romper yesterday, rather than a sleep suit, and I think we'll do the same or a baby grow while it's this hot the next few days.

Blizy · 24/06/2020 09:12

Rose was discharged from hospice last night, yay! It looks like she had an infection. She's been feeding well and waking by herself to feed too! I've been expressing for her but she went on the boob this morning (only for a couple of minutes), the first since Thursday! I'm hoping to re establish breast feeding and wean her from the bottles.

BabyBird20 · 24/06/2020 09:13

Total mum guilt this morning as I did exactly what you're not supposed to and fell fast asleep with him wedged between my boobs!! None of us moved for two hours luckily but think I need to try cosleeping temporarily at least!! I thought I was in tears at 4 am after zero sleep!!

APD1981 · 24/06/2020 09:54

I never thought I'd been try co-sleeping but I definitely think it's far safer than falling asleep with them in your arms, which is nearly done so many times.

And yes, I think he's had a growth spurt, too, as he's 3 weeks on friday and so the timing is right. Last night was soooooo much better. It was such a relief!

Pegase · 24/06/2020 15:27

Current baby sleeping in crib (still under 2 weeks though) but last one would only sleep in arms. We co slept safely -basically took everything off my side of the bed in terms of pillows/duvet and it worked well.

MissisBee · 24/06/2020 17:22

E is 2 weeks tomorrow and has been a bit more unsettled the past few days too. Thankfully will go in her Moses basket at night, but I barely get putting her down all day. The stretchy wrap is a godsend for getting out for walks!

How are all the Caesarean recoveries going? I'm still taking the occasional dose of paracetamol, but maybe only once or twice a day, and most often if I've been for a walk. Keep having to remind myself I've had major surgery and not attempt any hoovering etc. And I still find it hard to lift my 3 year old, who suddenly feels like a giant!
I'm hoping my scar heals ok this time, but I've got quite a knobbly bit at the end where they tied the knot in the stitches.

HaichMal · 24/06/2020 19:13

@Blizy that's great news and I hope all goes well with reestablishing breastfeeding. It sounds positive so far.

@BabyBird20 the exact same thing happened to me. I felt so awful when I woke up and realised what had happened and what could have happened. It's the main reason why I've started sleeping with her at my side, and so far so good, though it's only been 3 nights so far.

@MissisBee I'm glad the recovery seems to be going well. Our wrap has been out the last 2 days as well, to give me a little more freedom or at least my arms free so I can do a bit more while she cuddles. She has actually settled a bit better in the carry cot today, though perhaps it's cooler in there than strapped to my chest.

With the heat today we've stripped her down to just her nappy and plan on having her in just a baby grow tonight because it will be so hot in our room. Poor thing has been so sweaty after a cuddle or a feed

Busylizzie85 · 24/06/2020 19:46

Really struggling to keep Ivy cool today! She was fine in a light dress and then I stripped her down to just a nappy but now she's Un settled again which is normal this time of day but it's currently 26 degrees in my house when with fans and windows open all day 🥵 I'm worried she's still far to hot and when I pick her up she's clammy on her back can't think of any thing to make it better 😢
She's feeding well and peeing well which is reassuring on the other hand xx

Gigitree · 24/06/2020 19:56

Thanks for your advice ladies, I just can’t get over the co-sleeping fear 😔

Pegase · 24/06/2020 21:09

It's tricky - we don't have a 1 tog sleeping bag so trying to work out what to put on for fleet. She seems quite a cool baby so worried she will get chilled in just a vest despite the heat.

Pegase · 24/06/2020 21:09

Oops I mean we do have a 1 tog but with tonight's temperatures it should be a 0.5 which we don't have

Busylizzie85 · 24/06/2020 21:33

@Pegase my midwife said to use just a Muslin cloth as does practically the same as a 0.5 tog x

BabyBird20 · 24/06/2020 22:00

Those of you who have a baby that settles in the crib or Moses basket, what's the trick? Do you put them down asleep? Feed them to sleep first? I have no idea where to start to get him down as if I feed to sleep then put him down he wakes within minutes!!

Blizy · 24/06/2020 22:03

Pure and utter luck!

Pegase · 24/06/2020 22:54

Yeah I don't think there is a trick as such- some babies are more obsessed with being in arms than others.

We go for white noise, hold for quite a while when falls asleep before attempting to put down so sleep deepens and then keep hands on body for a bit when put in crib. We have a Snuzpod so you can snuggle relatively near while trying to settle

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