June 2020 Babies - newborn snuggles, recovery, milk and night feeds!

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First post natal thread for June 2020 babies! Looking forward to seeing our birth club thread members here soon!

[quote BabyBird20]@SRS1311 I am only a month in but still having issues similar. Have you read about the fourth trimester and how baby just wants to be with you so soon after coming out? I was desperately trying to get him into the crib in those early days and he was miserable and we were miserable and no one was sleeping. We got to a point where my husband and I take shifts just holding him on our chest when he sleeps and he will happily sleep up to 4 or 5 hours like that now. It meant that we alternated sleeping but we're happier all round. Now starting to rebuild crib time in during the day and a couple of times at night to get him used to it but he'll still wake within half an hour in the crib when I know he's happily sleep 3 on a person which is really hard to do! [/quote]
Unfortunately my partner works shifts so would be unable to do the alternate sleeping on us bit.

I'm here again doing the "night shift". At 9pm I went to bed after breast feeding and attempting to put him down in the moses basket downstairs. My partner would then stay up till he next woke up...11pm / midnight and give him a bottle of formula before bringing him up in the moses and see if he would sleep. We were also going to try swaddling him.

Unfortunately hes having a horrendous night, right from when I left him at 9pm. He won't sleep, wont stop crying, I'm trying all different things - checking nappy, checking if hes hungry, winding him. Hes fallen asleep now on my chest after throwing up half his bottled milk. Hopefully get half n hrs peace!

Did others experience this in the first few days? I was expecting sleepless nights and crying but not to this extent!!

He does sound a bit congested in his nose so will give the deconjestion spray etc a go in the morning.

@UKtoSK

Hi everyone, hope you’re all doing well. Sorry I haven’t the chance to go back and read all the previous posts. Finally coming to say that my baby girl Jia Rose was born last Sunday July 5th at 41+1. Other than a slight case of jaundice (very common among East Asian babies apparently - her dad is Korean) and some awful engorgement that prevented breastfeeding for a couple of days we’re doing pretty well.

Anyone else who had an episiotomy, how have you found the recovery? Day 6 and although I’m definitely feeling a lot better I’m wondering when I can expect the stitches to stop hurting completely, or at least enough to make sitting for long periods breastfeeding less uncomfortable.

I had the episiotomy I'm on day 6...I've found that yesterday I felt a lot better and could move around more freely and sit more comfortably. I'm hoping today will be even better and can start getting out for a walk. I take ibuprofen, paracetamol and use a spray - "spritz for bitz" that I have found really good.

Congrats @UKtoSK she's very cute !

Congratulations @UKtoSK she’s a cutie 😍

@SRS1311 I'm so sorry it's so tough, it is so hard a month in but those early days were a killer. Could your husband let him sleep on him for that first part at least while watching tv then try him in the Moses basket or crib once he goes to bed? It's still so early his little tummy probably won't be used to how much milk he can suck down from a bottle so he might get more colic type symptoms? Maybe try colief or infacol? It does get better with time but they literally just want cuddles the whole time when they first arrive! Have you spoken to midwife about tips to try? You're not alone, the support on here overnight is always great too! Xx

@UKtoSK She is beautiful! Congratulations!! 🥰🥰

@UKtoSK congrats! I had an episiotomy and I would say that I felt normal again by 2 weeks. Lots of painkillers before then.
One stupid mistake I made recently was straining on the toilet which triggered a few days of pain in the scar area as well as one haemorrhoid. So my advice is to not run out of laxatives and never strain! I'm back on laxatives and feeling more normal again. It gets better, dont worry. Make sure the wound heals nicely and inform midwife/HV if any concerns.

@SRS1311 really sorry to hear about your night. Not much extra I can advise, but it gets better. It's a lot of trial and error, we've found xx

@UKtoSK Such wonderful news - she is gorgeous. Was wondering how you were getting on as we were due a day apart I think, but my daughter arrived a little early by c section. Hope your recovery is speedy.

Anyone with c section end up infected and on antibiotics?

@mrssunshinexxx yes me- I had fusidin antibiotic cream for one week and now on oral antibiotics for another week. The incision opened up a little in the middle as a result.

@Pegase that's what's happened to mine :( the sides have healed great but the middle is pink, slightly open and pussy- GREAT
IM on 5 days of fluxicillan I think it's called my husband goes back to work on Monday and he works offshore so I'm not looking forward to this

@Pegase how long ago was your section did the antibiotics sort it how long was your course ?
I know I've been doing too much but it's hard not to I can't stand the house going to shit!

Section nearly 4 weeks ago. Infection started after 2 weeks. I think the cream mostly cleared it but oral antibiotics as it is open atm- same as you - pink and mine bleeds a little. Am on day 5 of antibiotics but not healed over yet. I definitely did too much before this happened as I was feeling well

@Pegase sounds very similar
I'm 16 days postsection and it only started getting bad on Thursday at 2 weeks PP
Will you need another course of antibiotics
How much was yours open mine looks gruesome but I'm quite squeamish I'm considering going to hosp this aft and getting them to swab it and take a look rather than wait until tomorrow
This is all we need hey

@UKtoSK hey! So lovely to hear from you! She is beautiful xxx love her name too (very much similar to my name actually hehe) 😃

Sorry, not been keeping up regularly with this.

Charlotte is a bit over a month old now and we're on our second week of thrush meds as the first helped but didn't clear it. Hoping this works. Feeds are getting a little longer and we have had some lovely ones but she's still pretty fussy. Starting to wonder if sometimes it's just because I'm trying to put her on the boob and she just isn't awake or hungry enough, so today I've been giving her a bit longer after a sleep before I try to feed her.

I've found the last few weeks pretty tough. We seem to be in a cycle, mostly during the day, where she has a very short, often/usually fussy feed then sleeps but will only really sleep on me and easily gets disturbed when moved, let alone put down. When we can get a longer, more settled sleep, we tend to get a longer, more settled feed. I don't know how much of this is thrush, a growth spurt (though she should be past that now), the above cycle, typical 4th trimester or something else. It doesn't seem to be cluster feeding.

She sleeps OK at night though, but that's probably because we co-sleep and she sleeps at my side. We tend to 2-4.5hr stretches, with a feed between 9 and 11 (she can sometimes be difficult to settle at this point), one in the middle of the night and one between 4 and 6am. Despite this fair few hours of sleep, I get to about this time of the day and just want to sleep. I often find myself nodding off while holding her or taking a few minutes for myself. I'm not managing any/many naps as DH is working again now and I have DS1 and DS2 to supervise.

I'm this lovely mix of fed up, tired, frustrated, worried and guilty (I have 2 other children I feel like I'm ignoring in her favour), and I just want to eat all the cake, biscuits, chocolate etc. I have no idea about my weight, I'm ignoring it for now and concentrating on slowly building my strength and fitness up so I can walk and stand for longer.

@mrssunshinexxx mine opened up at both ends and a little in the middle, tmi it bled a little at first then leaked some horrid stuff , it was the smell that alerted me🤮 I had 7 days of flucloxacillin . They have a bad effect stomach wise! &gave bf baby horrific wind & and the runs .
Mine is not leaking now but has still not healed over yet 2 weeks after splitting it.

@Mj2196 have you been given any advice by a medical professional about how long it will take to heal over? Mine has been split for coming up for 2 weeks I think but is still leaking.

@HaichMal we are having the thing about some sleeps being settled and some fussy and easily disturbed. We have reflux here so we were thinking it was that

@Pegase @Mj2196
I know it's my fault for doing far too much too soon but I'm desperate to be physically able again especially with my
Husband back to work on Monday and he works off shore so away mon to thurs eve the thought of being house bound until it heals sends me crazy hate being alone since my mum died aswell with my thoughts

Please heal fast body

Onto the next night and things do appear to have got a bit easier. We bought some infacol (thank you for the recommendation) and have started him.kn that,.plus his nose was a little congested so cleared that. He has been quite good tonight and settled in his moses basket, although we are still doing "shifts" with him so I'm up now till 4 or 5am! Body clock is all over the place!

@HaichMal I wouldnt put any pressure on yourself whatsoever to lose weight at such an early stage post pregnancy. The first few weeks and months are hard and stressful enough. Once you and baby are in a routine and settled it will be far easier. Or..least that's what I'm planning as I was eating lemon drizzle cake today!

@SRS1311 glad to hear things are better and the infacol seems to be helping. We’ve been using infacol too and my midwife said it has like a cumulative effect so the longer you use it the more helpful it is. So we’ve stuck with this rather than switching to colief, although I know others have had a lot of success with it!

Has/is anyone going to the shops with their little on? My DH has suggested a little trip out to a garden centre but I don’t know what the guidance is re: going out with babies.
I’ve avoided going since March so I would like to go out for a bit but I don’t know if it’s safe ☹️

@gigitree I'm not going to supermarkets with the baby but I have been to Matalan and Costco with him because they are much more spread out than supermarkets. A lot quieter too. I also use his rain cover on the pram so he has a layer of protection of sorts. You should go out. It's lovely being out and about with them.

Thanks @APD1981 that’s a really good idea re: rain cover!
We’ve been out for walks etc - just having been anywhere indoors with her yet!
I wish there was more guidance available for this sort of thing!

So many smiles from baby Ace today.
First injections were on Friday & he has not been a happy bunny until today, awful temperature 39.2🙈 and hysterically screaming so I'm glad today is looking happier!! Hope everyone's well xxx

@Gigitree regardless of guidance you can do what you thinks right/ what you feel safe with x
I haven't and aren't going anywhere public until she's had her immunisations and after that I'll be very picky just mainly walks will still be getting food delivered etc

Until there's a vaccine the risk is exactly the same in my opinion