August/September 2019 babies - #3

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Just spotted we were about to finish the last thread....

@db92 poor little thing, that sounds tough!

@kyles101 I think they do go through a phase around this age where they realise Mummy/Daddy can leave the room.

We've turned a corner with the sleep (long may it last!!) Sometimes he wakes in the night for a feed but usually he sleeps through until about 5:30/6ish and then sometimes goes back to sleep in my bed. Top teeth are just coming through though so fully expecting it all to go to shit soon 🥴

@happydays00 unfortunately we've had that already 😬 this is some new terror! I'm trying him back on 3 naps a day as his are so short to see if that helps... at present he's laying on the sofa between us so no luck so far 😂 but he did nod off at about 8:30 and he's been fast asleep ever since so no bother. He'll sleep through until morning too when we do put him into his bed (still in our room though)

@kyles101 that's tough. Do you have any luck getting him back to sleep after the 40 minute nap? I wasn't able to do this with DD (I could've stayed in there for 2 hours trying to get her to nap for longer and it wouldn't have worked) but I usually can get DS to go back down if he wakes up after 40 minutes. Tricky... very tricky!

@happydays00 no, none whatsoever usually he just gets angrier and angrier. Today though, completely unexplained napped for 1.5 hours morning nap and same in the afternoon 🤷‍♀️ DH was on baby duty too Jammy sod!! I'm really really hoping for the same tomorrow 🤞

How's it going @kyles101 ?

Hi everyone. I've been quiet recently. Hope you're all well and cooing with the iso. It's not too bad here, numbers really down and talk if easing restrictions soon I think.

Nate doing well. Is dragging himself around the whole house and sitting well. Waking once for a feed and then early mornung which is easier. He's a bit snotty at the mo though. Food finally going well and not much choking as you all said would happen so thanks!

Hit me with some lunch ideas though! Never sure what to give. He's not a fan of yoghurt or fruit though which is tricky although am sure he'll get there.

He is rewarding me with at least four poos each day so I know plenty of food is getting through 🤪

Hurray for Nate getting there! Sounds like his sleep and feeding is going much better now. 4 poops though... I suddenly feel very lucky with alternate none and twice a day poops!

Alice is in a similar state sleep, food and sitting-wise. She's only got one gear for moving around though..... Reverse! She hasn't quite cottoned on to use her legs yet, so she pushes herself backwards with her arms. It's funny, but she's getting seriously frustrated about getting further away from her toys from when she started. One day she'll be able to self propel to them.

Lunches I don't do anything spectacular. Usually a sandwich (usually peanut butter, rarely tuna, going to introduce cream cheese today). But we also have stuff like jacket potatoes with filler (baked beans, cheese, tuna, cucumber, leftover bolognese/chilli). Quiche went down very well. Eggs in scrambled, fried and omelette form are liked. Failing that, I usually have some left over veg from previous meals I can give her.

Lovely to hear Nate is getting there with food and sleep! We were getting there with sleep, then teething hit, again... 😭 But we have army crawling/flopping around, not very speedy yet but I'm sure that will come quickly. And she's trying to pull up on things, found her trying to stand up holding onto her cot bars which is scary!

Yikes @yevans! We keep forgetting to lower Alice's cot... She's not trying to pull herself up yet, but it's only a matter of time. They grow up so fast! T_T

What clothes do you guys have for the summer time? I'm somewhat at a loss. During the sunny weather we just had, Alice was mostly in a vest and leggings. She wore a top for the cool mornings, which I removed after lunch. But when it gets hot, it seems even that would be too much clothing. Ordinarily I'd browse the shops for ideas, but obviously that's out for the time being. I loathe online clothes shopping with a passion. I think I've got a few more weeks of 6-9 fitting, which should take us into June, and hopefully the reopening of the shops, so I want to get prepared.

What do/should they wear? Should I get a mix of hot weather stuff and milder weather stuff? What if there's another heatwave? Do I bother buying vests? Do I forgo baby grows? Gah! 🤯

@Dyra our babies won't be babies for long 😭

For summer clothes I've got Ruth a lot of romper style stuff, as if it's cooler she can wear them with long sleeve vest and tights if needed. Same with no sleeve dresses. Wear them on their own if it's really hot and with vests and tights if it's cooler. I'm not using many baby grows at the moment as she doesn't sleep in them so I've only got one or two that she wears on a super lazy day. Hope that helps! Asda and h&m are quite good for summer girl things I've found :)

Ooh, next rompers 😍 might have got a few - I'm praying for a hot summer to justify them 😂

Glad to hear thing are going well there @Geegrl19 it's not long before it starts to take it's toll, it's not like we're being asked to do anything difficult, but I'm sad that our last few months of mat leave will be cooped up in the house.

Argh, naps, so we're back to two, but the second one when he wakes I I take him into the living room and we have a cuddle nap together for an hour. It is literally the only thing that works and he's so much happier in the afternoon for it. I didn't realise but I think we were in some kind of night time regression too - he would wake every hour or so and cry, is only have to shush him so didn't really give it much thought but he's back to not stirring at all through the night which is so much better. Surprisingly I feel so much more rested, I guess you keep an ear out all the time.

Regarding sitting, DS is very good at it now, but occasionally has the odd (every few days) fall backwards - should I still be putting a cushion behind? It's very thick carpet but he does cry and grizzle for a minute when he does it. Or is the occasional bump a right of passage?

I'm not putting cushions behind DS anymore. There's little point with his older brother regularly attempting wrestling sessions he seems very nonchalant about falling over

We've had a day of him being attached to me all day. Even if his dad is holding him he's looking for me. It's knackering. Anyone else had this?

We have that @iano ! Trying to decide if it's a natural stage or a result of lockdown!!

I put cushions down if I need to step away and be out of the room for a few seconds. Alice rarely falls now, but I just know that she'll see my absence as an opportunity to fling herself sideways/backwards. We only have a thin rug, and foam squares on laminate (so much regret for not getting the living room carpeted pre-baby now), so she makes a bit of a thump when she does fall.

Every so often @iano. I think it's just a phase of attachment anxiety. Or some teeth are on the move. Alice is getting much about being left with her Dad otherwise. I know I'll feel upset and rejected when it does happen, but a small part of me is looking forward to the day when only Daddy can solve Alice's problems instead of just me.

We have the same @iano . But it tends to be clingyness with the one who wakes up with him first thing. So since lockdown he's been daddy's best friend as much as mine!

Very rarely out a cushion down. All depends on how energetic he is. Now he's crawling and climbing everything I've come to terms with the fact there'll be a few bumps here and there

I never seem to find the time to post here anymore. Lockdown life is non-stop chaos until bedtime when I have no energy for anything other than lifting a glass of wine!

DS is thriving on it though, so much more time for playing and more entertainment. He's crawling and pulling up to stand. I miss being able to go to the toilet and know he was safe lying on the floor! Really babbling away, eating anything in sight and just the happiest little soul. We've had to enforce a daytime nap routine thanks to big sister but he goes down quite easily now. Nights aren't great but he doesn't puke much overnight now so I just feed him lying down and go back to sleep!

Hope everyone else is safe and well X

How are other people doing with solids vs milk feeds? She's now on 3 solid meals a day (mostly purées with some finger foods. I like to know how much she has had) but is still have milk feeds 4/5 times a day and every few hours through the night. My eldest DD basically self weaned cos she preferred solids so not really sure if we're supposed to be encouraging her to drop feeds! Selfishly I'd like to be able to leave her for a day once lockdown is over 😂

@Littlehouseinthebigcity DS is around about the same in terms of feeds during the day and don't even get me started on how bad his sleep is at night 😩 I try to not give him more than 2 feeds in a night as he suffers from so much wind already and I don't think feeding more is helping.

He completely turned his nose up at purées so we had to go for the BLW approach as he very rarely will open his mouth for a spoon.

Anyone else finding weaning stressful, I feel I spend my life thinking about food and meal planning!

I found weaning really stressful in the beginning but we're 2 months in now and he eats like a champ. Will shovel anything I put in front of him in, so I think it's just a matter of time and you will feel better about it. He will have finger food or pouches - I started with pre loaded spoons for the pouches, but I can spoon feed him now too and he's happy either way.

I do feel like I'm constantly in the kitchen cooking though - 3 meals for DS and then we eat at around 7 🙄 he has at least now dropped a bottle so we're down to 3 - 7am / 3pm & 7pm. I make 7oz at each but he rarely finishes it, could probably go down to 6oz.

Anyone else feel like they have a natural night owl? DS absolutely will not go down for the night before 9pm - I think it may be our fault as we used to bring him back to bed with us when DH was off at beginning of lockdown so we'd all get up together at 9am... but now I'm trying to get us up at 7am again but the 9pm bedtime seems to have stuck 😬

Weaning was incredibly stressful at the start. Ensuring that Alice had something suitable to eat out of what we were having, and prepping it if there wasn't. Then there was introducing each mealtime, and getting the timing right so she wasn't eating too close to bedtime and naps. And finally there was getting variety into her!

Now we're a few months in, I'm no longer stressed about it all. Alice has had a decent amount of variety introduced, and hasn't really disliked anything. As a result, I'm no longer as vigilant about introducing new things. Repetition has helped to fall into a schedule. I do agree with kyles. I think it's just time that will bring confidence in what you're doing

Alice is definitely decreasing her milk intake. She now feeds 3 times a day which coincide with her feeding to sleep at her naps/bedtime. She gets additional feeds whenever she wants, but it's not often. At night, she's down to 2 feeds, occasionally just the 1. I can't wait to get her properly weighed at a clinic for the reassurance things are going as they should. Bathroom scales just aren't the same.

@kyles101 I thought I did. But the past 2 nights she's been asleep at 7.30 on the dot.

@PollyRoe16 Hope DS' sleep gets better soon.

I still find weaning incredibly stressful and we're 3 months in. E just doesn't seem interested in food and spits it everywhere if he doesn't want to eat. We're still having 4/5 bottles a day depending on when he gets up and has the first one. But we have no feeds during the night. I don't know whether I need to start trying to drop one or just leave it?

Our sleep in awful at night time currently with him waking 10+ time's

I wouldn't worry @db92
I'm sure the HV have a Mantra about food being fun before one or something like that. Just keep offering and he'll get there. Do you do purées or finger food? Maybe offering a mixture so you know what he goes for is an idea?
Don't let it stress you! It'll be fine.

Hello everyone, it's been ages since I've been on these boards think I dropped off actually bit sure if I've been on this thread yet.

Arthur is like everyone else's baby, crawling around like mad and the last week has been nothing but sit then pull to stand. He loves being walked around the room too so I'm sure be will be desperate to get going on his own but surely not for another few months yet?!

We had a few days where he wouldn't go to sleep until 8pm buy usually we out him down at 7. Last night he woke at 11pm for a feed then slept through until 5 for another feed then slept again until quarter to 8. Pretty good!
Weaning: we started mainly with purées-pouches from Ella's kitchen etc and he has enjoyed most of them. He wasn't eating every much at all but I can see an increase now. He's also loving slices of pear and avocado and cheese. Buttery toast, yoghurts, all puréed fruit. He's kind of hit and miss with the meat kind of purees. We are giving him more finger foods now which he seems to like doing.

We have been struggling with constipation though. He will unpack and then he won't poop again for over a week. So last time was 9 days and ive had to get lactulose from the Dr. My my he had a fair amount of poop clogged in him but it wasn't as hard as I expected it to be and now i just wonder if he just doesn't want to push.
We've had a day in-between his last poop and yesterday was nothing. Today he's been farting a lot but still no poo although we have decided to continue with the lactulose for a little bit.

He's a really happy wee thing though. Very smiley and cuddly and independent too.

Oh I have a question maybe TMI but ach it's worth asking.
Is anyone else getting an ovulation type discharge quite regularly/daily and quite a lot? It also has a slight greeny hughe to it. I thought I just have an infection and took a swab but the results came back as normal
I found one website where a lot of women had said it's just hormones making it happen and it will go away at some point but I'm getting fed up of it! Would be good to know if anyone else is in the same boat I suppose.

@Littlehouseinthebigcity DS is definitely having less milk during the day because he is SO distractible. Just won't stay latched on if there is noise/his sister/TV/remote controls/my phone in the vicinity. But he's having three good sized meals. I just wish he would take enough milk at bedtime to actually stay asleep for more than 45 minutes.

@horehound I've had that recently. I actually assumed it was ovulation and was really annoyed that I would get a period while breastfeeding. But it's continued, so does sound like the hormonal explanation could be right.