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Fivebyfive2 · 25/12/2019 12:04

Just putting this on in case anyone wants to catch up? We're all at different stages, so might be able to help each other out?

@Delilah7 @RanchoRelaxo @MrsR16 @thumper59 @trashkitten10 @Bostonfern @crossfitgirl sorry I know I'm missing people, I'm blaming newborn brain!

I'll leave the link on the 'pregnancy' catching up thread xxx

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MrsEG · 12/06/2020 05:47

@lokicat Sounds like you’ve had a crazy start!! Both of the boys had tongue tie. I found this out by neither of them being able to feed properly and all of us ending up in the children’s hospital for 4 days! Poor Conor had lost well over 10% of his birth weight to the point the dehydration was affecting his kidney function. It really angers me to be honest that they don’t just sort tongue tie as par the course; they had noticed it at birth but said it ‘wasn’t severe’ and just left it and 5 days later I was in hospital with two very poorly babies! Ruairí didn’t even wake up once the first day we were there. It’s actually odd to write about it now, feels like a long distant memory!! Anyway the point of that waffle was well done for going with your gut and getting the referral!! I wouldn’t worry about naps much at 7 weeks. They do as they please at that age!! I found the obsession with sleep kicked in a few weeks later haha!
Also - I absolutely love the name Alayna, it’s beautiful!

@Lemonysherbet Sounds like you really went through it with the birth! I don’t know about you but I found being in the hospital so hard - but then really missed the midwives when I got home!! Yes the baby blues are very, very real - we were all actually back in hospital on day 5, the same day my milk came in, and my god I was hit like a tonne of bricks!! The staff just used to find me wandering the corridors crying my eyes out. It does get better!! Don’t worry about getting your feeding sorted yet no matter how you’re doing it - I started BF, then combi and boys are now fully formula fed - and I was so, so sure I’d Bf them both for 6 months. Sometimes it just doesn’t go to plan; like everything with these babies!!

@TrashKitten10 It is just so unfair that we have to survive the 4 month regression only to get two more at 8 and 12 months! What are these babies trying to do to us?! I so agree - once you’re used to finally getting some sleep, to have it snatched away is the hardest part!!

@LikeTheFruit 12 weeks already! I can’t understand where the time is going! That’s fab some naps are in the snuzpod - I think from around the same age actually the boys would have a nursery nap and it was amazing - hands free! The sling thing never worked for us for naps with two. It was glorious haha! Hope you’re all going great!

@purplefig Wow sounds like M really enjoyed it!! Yeah I hoped as soon as I sent it that my sleep deprived sentence didn’t sound like Mum bashing, it wasn’t in the least, I just get so interested - one of our NCT mums is already weaning at 5 months, she’s a few weeks older than the boys. That kid is freakishly strong - she’s already sitting up unaided!! Whereas the boys still lick the playmat during tummy time 🙈

Ladiessss - we had a good night! Maybe the day from hell means an okay evening?? Was fairly rough actually getting them down after their baths especially as I do all of that on my own now DH is back at work. But they were asleep at about 7:30 and they still are now. We’ve had a few ‘dream screams’ but they’ve not actually woken up (just woken me up!!) I have of course been awake since 5am! But still - I will freakin’ take it.

We also had the boys weighed yesterday and Ruairí at 18+2 is a whopping 16lb6! He’s jumped another centile! He’s jumped centiles every month now since he was born. He’s just such a greedy baby, that kid drains every bottle put in front of him! Wee Conor is 13lb3 - he’s getting there haha! I think we’ll throw him a party when he finally hits a stone!! Here’s a pic just because haha.

Hope everyone has a lovely day!

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ELW85 · 12/06/2020 07:17

Finn wouldn’t sleep for more than 2.5 hours last night. Send help.

ELW85 · 12/06/2020 07:20

Sorry I didn’t even see the other messages; mustn’t have refreshed. I’m so tired!

Fivebyfive2 · 12/06/2020 07:56

@ELW85, that was Joe the night before! Hope you're OK today. Xx

Last night was... A bit better! Asleep at 6.30, up at 8, asleep at 9.30, up at 1.30, asleep at 2 and awake at 4.30. He did start drift back off about 5 but then spat up everywhere so I had to get him cleaned up etc, so that was that. Ah well. I got some jobs done early while he was in his high chair and now he's napping on me. I can't believe he's 6 months today!!

A girl from our NCT weaned at 4 months, her baby is huge bless him 😂 We've got some veg to mash up for Joe this weekend as well as some ready brek for him to try. My mil keeps dropping really passive aggressive hints that I've waited too long to wean and this is why he doesn't sleep well 🙄 I just sent her the NHS link with the updated guidelines and pointed out that he has only been sitting properly the last week or so! Seriously cba with her crap right now!!

It's Friday! 😀🎉

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ELW85 · 12/06/2020 08:08

@Fivebyfive2 - morning!! Pleased you had a better night last night!
I’ll survive I’m sure 😂
Happy 6 months Joe! Yaaaay!
Oh god...MiLs and mother’s can do one. I keep getting stick from mine too. Nowt to do with sleep!
She prob wants you to put him in his pram outside to nap (thinking of that thread from the other day!!) xx

MrsEG · 12/06/2020 08:27

@Fivebyfive2 Ugh I hate that!!! The NHS guidance is 6 months, it’s supposed to be pretty special circumstances these days if you wean early! My mother AND MIL are exactly the same. ‘Well you were and it did you no harm’ oh bugger off! Honestly - do NOT worry. All my weaning prep has come from chatting to my mum friends and one didn’t start til 7 months! She tried at 6 and he wasn’t interested. And he’s fine! Food under the age of 1 is literally just for fun, to teach them to chew, flavours etc. Honestly - I really feel you on this one, I’m getting it in the neck from my Mum as Ruairí is a big baby with a big appetite (again, makes no difference!) but I just tell her they’re my babies and we’ll wean them when they’re good and ready. I was sent this which I go back to a lot - the boys aren’t anywhere near ready. They’re only 18 weeks! Let them just enjoy their formula. Plus I could do without the added pressure at the minute too!! I can barely get through a day just making all the bottles haha!
Happy 6 months, Joe!! What a milestone. Good luck with it! I’m sure he’ll love his veggies!!

@ELW85 Oh no - do you have plenty of coffee and snacks today?? Come on Finn, you were doing so well! I hope he gives you plenty of good naps today! Yep - as above, I get the same ‘They’ll sleep better if they’re on solids’ - no, no they won’t! So many people say the exact opposite actually as you’re giving their digestive systems more to process which can wake them up!! Bloody mother’s, eh???

Fivebyfive2 · 12/06/2020 08:29

@ELW85, she doesn't get why I didn't just leave him in the nursery to scream into his rusk filled bottle from 6 weeks onwards 😂🙄

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MrsEG · 12/06/2020 08:29

@Fivebyfive2 Sorry forgot the attachments! Send these to the MIL!!

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TrashKitten10 · 12/06/2020 08:31

@Fivebyfive2 Happy half birthday Joe! Ahh know it all comments, don't you love them 🙄 my MIL kept pushing us to give bloody baby rice and warned against fruit and veg as it would upset her stomach 🤔 then the big palaver over giving water. NHS says you can give unboiled tap water from 6 months but she was basically adamant I was going to give Daisy cholera and could we PLEASE boil it. DH gets texts reminding us to keep Daisy in the shade on hot days 😂 God knows how we've kept her alive so long :)

TrashKitten10 · 12/06/2020 08:32

Kept Daisy alive that is, not MIL. Although don't tempt me :)

Fivebyfive2 · 12/06/2020 08:37

I'm quite lucky that at least my mum is really good, she'll say what they tried with us but always makes a point of saying it's all changed now and we need to do it how we feel comfortable. I know if/when she looks after Joe we can just tell her and she won't (deliberately at least) undermine us. I remember when Joe was 6 weeks, she asked dh to show her how to give a bottle because they didn't really do the paced feeding thing when we were babies. It was lovely. I think she actually did it to boost his confidence as a new dad, like 'you've got this, show me how it's done these days' 🙂

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Fivebyfive2 · 12/06/2020 08:39

@trashkitten10 lol your comment made me cackle 😂

@MrsEG, thanks I might just send these on 😀

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TrashKitten10 · 12/06/2020 08:56

@MrsEG I think the whole 'being interested in foods' is a bit of an easily misinterpreted one too. Babies are interested in everything and are programmed to explore by putting it all in their mouths. Its got nothing to do with eating and I don't think they have any concept of what food is until a little way into the weaning process, it's just something else to grab and try to stick in their mouth to explore. Someone on the weaning group I'm on summed it up with 'My baby is interested in my car keys, does that mean they're ready to start driving?' 😂

MrsEG · 12/06/2020 09:17

@TrashKitten10 LOLd so much at the cholera comment haha! That’s so, so true and such a good point - I also kinda think, what’s the rush?! It’s all for fun under 1 so I’d rather have an extra two months before I have to sit wondering ‘is that gagging?? Are you just gagging??’ Or seeing all the food just being dropped all over the floor and kissing the extra ££ being spent on the food shop goodbye haha!

ELW85 · 12/06/2020 09:38

Right - potential stupid question here, but does anyone else’s baby wake up crying or cry in their sleep?
As Finn is napping on me, I get to see every move and a lot of the time, he’ll wake up crying. I think it’s either wind or he’s waking up and still tired?

@Fivebyfive2 - couple of times this week, I’ve been tempted with the pram outside 😂

@MrsEG - those weaning tests are good! HV wants me to wean earlier cos of reflux but I’ve got enough going on without that stress if he’s not ready!!

@TrashKitten10 - actually lol’ed at that!

MrsEG · 12/06/2020 09:41

@ELW85 - yep, I call them dream screams - both boys have always done it. If it doesn’t wake them, winner! Apparently it’s them dreaming! Loads of babies will wake up crying, much more so after a nap than after a their night sleep. I find if I get them up crying but just sing to them/get them on to the playmat or something they quickly calm down!
The GP mentioned the same to me with Conor but I’ve looked it up and I’m on the fence. His reflux is pretty well managed now and he isn’t ready in literally any other way - yes he grabs everything in sight and tries to chew it but what baby his age doesn’t (Ruairí was chomping on the playmat this morning!) So if he carries on seeming fairly content I’m gonna wait. I also really wanna kick off with baby led so just giving food to play with/chew and they have to be 6 months for that anyway!

ELW85 · 12/06/2020 09:47

@MrsEG - it’s weird I feel like he’s waking up crying more often but he’s really squirming as he’s doing it so that’s what’s making me think wind or he’s about to wake up and he’s still tired.
Oh imagine if your sis goes on to have twins btw!?
I think weaning is such a massive thing you really don’t want to do it til they’re ready in every single way.

MrsEG · 12/06/2020 10:12

@ELW85 yep I agree 100%. Finding out they don’t really need it as babies too and it’s just fun and exploration has really helped in my mind as well - so I’m very happy to hold off! I think with everything to do with feeding babies though, it’s absolutely a personal decision. I just feel quite strongly about mums not being influenced by MILs who haven’t warned a child in three decades!
It could be wind - whenever I pick Ruairí up after a nap he immediately burps! I can’t understand why as he had his bottles ages before his naps!!
Yeah my sister is terrified haha - she’s always asking ‘did you know it was two, did you do anything different??’ But it’s all chance! I have this teeny weenie feeling that she will, too!! I darent tell her though haha!

TrashKitten10 · 12/06/2020 10:31

@MrsEG God yes the money, our food bill has rocketed. The first few weeks I bought all these new foods for Daisy to try, she smeared them around a bit then wanted about 10000oz of milk a day. Costs a fortune. At least now she is actually swallowing the food I lovingly prepare which makes it a lot less demoralising ☺️

Does anybody else feel like lockdown is starting to have a bit of an impact on their baby's development? Daisy was always a bit slower with her physical skills and a lot stronger with her social and communication skills but recently this seems to have swapped over. It's brilliant her physical development has picked up and she's now moving herself about and pulling herself up to stand (in the bath of all the impractical and hazardous places!) but I'm a bit sad that it might be hindering her in other ways being stuck in the house all day with me :( I try to chat, sing and read to her as much as possible but she's not hearing talking for a lot of the day and isn't getting opportunities to watch me interact and to interact with others herself. There's not much any of us can do even if it is having a negative impact but it is worrying me a little, especially thinking about me going back to work in September :(

ELW85 · 12/06/2020 10:59

@MrsEG - is your sis trying atm? Your inkling would def put her off, haha!

@TrashKitten10 - I worry that Finn won’t be used to being held by anyone other than DH and I and that it’ll give him massive separation anxiety as I’m dubious about nurseries opening by even the end of the year and I got told I’ll not be physically back in the office this year...

MrsEG · 12/06/2020 11:12

@TrashKitten10 Oh god I can imagine!! And I’ll have it times two!! I already feel like my food bill has skyrocketed during lockdown!

Yep I 100% have all the same concerns; I feel very very lucky to have two so they are getting to interact with another baby, but I really worry they will think the whole world is just the living room of this house! When my parents come to the garden they just sort of look at them funny. It doesn’t help that my HV sent me a 5 month development checklist to do at home - these boys only have like 3 weeks left to do some serious catching up on that list!! I’m just hoping so much that it eases a bit more soon as we can have proper visitors again. @ELW85 I also don’t have a nursery anymore! Well, the place I had held is now tentative as they are only reopening at 50% capacity.

MrsH497 · 12/06/2020 11:12

@MrsEG couldn't agree with you more about the tongue tie. We were told exactly the same with Charlotte in hospital yes she has one it's only mild and won't cause any problems. Well it did I ended up with bad nipple trauma both struggling with feeding. The independent midwife we saw said it was at least a 50% tie and would've been affecting her a lot.
Because she was still feeding it wasn't seen as a problem just so wrong.

Your boys are just gorgeous handsome little guys x

MrsEG · 12/06/2020 11:14

@ELW85 pressed post too fast! Yes my sister is trying - she sadly had a MMC in Jan which really threw her as they conceived their daughter with no issues at all. So they took a break but are trying again now. My niece is 2 and at an age now where she thinks she would be manageable with another baby in the house. She originally wanted 2 under 2 but says now that it would be just so hard as under 2 they still need a hell of a lot of your time and attention! Whereas now she can happily entertain herself with her toys etc. So fingers crossed they get their BFP soon!

stormtrooperjulian · 12/06/2020 12:05

DH and I agreed months ago that we would try for the next when Dex is 18 months old - I was told that current advice is to have a minimum of 18 months recovery after a c section so we decided that is as good a time as any to try again!

@Lemonysherbet @Larrydavid Congratulations!

Apparently my PIL started weaning DH at 3 weeks old. I think it was clear from my expression how horrified I was when I was told this 😂
My NCT group all waited til 6 months to wean apart from one baby with really bad reflux, his pediatrician (very premature baby so still getting regular Dr checks at that point) advised early weaning at around 5 months.

ELW85 · 12/06/2020 12:35

@MrsEG - oh god my heart goes out to your sister. I hope she’s ok.

@stormtrooperjulian - DH wants to try next year when Finn turns 1. Pray for me, haha!

Well ladies, I don’t know how I did it and I’m terrified it’ll never work again, but...

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