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August/September 2019 Babies (Due in Sept 19)

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IVEgottheDECAF · 09/09/2019 09:04

Couldnt see a post natal group so have taken it upon myself to start one! Will obviously still keep up on antenatal also until babies have all arrived!

Shall we start a list of arrivals?

IVEgotheDECAF - DC5 - boy - 07/09/19 - 9lb1oz

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Exitstrategist · 21/09/2019 10:05

Thank you- that’s reassuring. I know it’s all practice- I did this already three years ago and assumed it would be way easier this time. Can’t understand why she’s not pooping though

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IVEgottheDECAF · 21/09/2019 10:09

I dont think its uncommon for bf babies to go a couple of days between poos.

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Megan2018 · 21/09/2019 10:38

I’ve had 3 hours sleep, DH took over at 7:30 as I was pretty sure she’d sleep for him at that time of day and she has. Woken up though as boobs have decided she needs a feed!
At least if I can get daytime sleep I can cope, yesterday I didn’t sleep and it really took its toll last night. I was so worried I’d fall asleep on her/drop her.
I know she’ll start improving eventually-is just bloody hard when you are feeding non stop and don’t even get 30 seconds of non screaming for a wee. My arms are so sore from holding her.

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IVEgottheDECAF · 21/09/2019 10:48

Glad you got some sleep megan I had a nap yesterday when dp got in from work and it was lovely! One day last week i tried to watch the same episode of a programme on tv about 6 times but kept nodding off Blush i gave up in the end and went to sleep

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Stroan · 21/09/2019 11:08

@Exitstrategist good luck with the MW. The first few weeks are so tough, and every day is different. It can be normal for less poo, I read that BF babies can't be constipated.

@Megan2018 glad you got a little sleep. I never napped pre-kids and now I think I could sleep standing up!

R is keeping us on our toes. First burst of sleep last night was a dream, easy feed and 4 hours sleep (!). Then he fed and was wide awake for 3 hours. Perfectly happy but awake. Send coffee.

Tefiti2 · 21/09/2019 12:04

Even if you have a bath or something to relax a bit @Megan2018 that might help!
So pleased to hear he’s more settled @stroan is he still okay on the ranitidine?

DD is 4 weeks old today, will only nap on me/in the sling and when awake is only happy for 5/10 mins before she starts screaming- she really is the most unsettled baby and it’s very tough.

Stroan · 21/09/2019 12:15

@tefiti2 yes, we upped the dose this week after a few more nights of painful arching and grunting but seems to have done the trick.

I find it so hard to settle him. He only really settles for me with a feed, or in the sling with ten mins of jiggling. I think he would love a dummy but resisting until we've completely stopped using nipple shields.

Dipsy77 · 21/09/2019 13:10

Anyone else suffering with really bad back pains?
My milk came in on Tuesday and my boobs are absolutely huge my back is in bits it's making me
Walk with a stoop. I'm not breastfeeding anyone know when the milk will dry up ?, I don't remember this before even my OH has asked why I'm walking bent over but I'm in agony x

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IVEgottheDECAF · 21/09/2019 13:19

Usually takes around 3/4 days i think dipsy although maybe big boobs take longer?

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maternityleave234 · 21/09/2019 17:07

My milk took about a week to dry up.. first time around only a day or so...did you have an epidural/ spinal @Dipsy77; my back was agony which I put down to having a spinal as it was at the place where the need was inserted.
It go to the point where I was using the ibrofphen gel pads on my back as walk really hurt! These got me through a good 4/5 days of back pain so I’d highly recommend!

Dipsy77 · 21/09/2019 19:10

I didn't have a spinal it's my upper back, it helps if I but a small cushion there but standing and sitting is painful 😖

Dipsy77 · 21/09/2019 19:16

Anyone else's moods been all over the place ?
Yesterday I felt really angry and OH could do no right. Today I've felt weepy, his dad and mum came to visit, his dad is 84 and his mum is 74 and she has severe dementia. I'd built it up in my head that they would be holding her and kissing her (which didn't happen) and I'd got all upset about it. Tonight we are meeting friends and half hour before they due to arrive my OH says so are we taking her in the pram to pub across road ? Erm no we said they would come here then he says I'm constantly changing my mind and doing his head in which then makes me burst into tears and I can't stop crying so he has gone to pub to bring them here I'm so sensitive at the moment and he is generally good with me but I think the niggling has got to him. I can't help it I feel all over the place, I fell asleep this aft when I woke up I didn't now where I was what day it was or what time it was and he thought it was funny to tell me it was 7pm and I'd slept through it was 2pm, usually I'd have laughed but again took it to heart Sad

Hsunshine · 21/09/2019 20:14

@Dipsy77 same as me! My milk took about a week to completely dry. Don’t take off your bra or let the shower touch them. I have realised bad back is from bending to pick up baby all the time and holding to feed. I now put two cushions behind my back and one under my arm when feeding. Everyone says will adjust to the weight of baby

Lavellan · 21/09/2019 21:15

@Dipsy77 my mood is up and down like a bloody lift. DH parents visited last week and his dad couldn't have given less of a shit. Barely acknowledgedt baby, certainly didn't touch her. Talked about his socks and our pets instead. It was weird. My dad lives in New Zealand, so it made me a bit sad that my little one won't have a good granda relationship.

Geegrl19 · 22/09/2019 01:59

@Dipsy77 I could still cry at the drop of a hat up until earlier this week and little one is 3 1/2 weeks now. Dd2 called it pointless crying! I think it has passed now thank goodness. Don't remember it lasting as long with the others. Hopefully it'll pass soon for you too long with the painful boobs.

Had a terrible night last night. Little man usually ok to resettle after feeding but was having none of it last night, it was a long night. He doesn't settle in the day either so feeling it today.

On a different note, bit of a novice on the boy front as had two girls previously . What's the best strategy when nappy changing for avoiding him piddling everywhere? Any suggestions welcome! Had to strip him off twice yesterday much to his displeasure.

DustyDoorframes · 22/09/2019 08:56

@Geegrl19 have a muslin to hand and pop it over him the second you open the nappy, to catch the instant pee. You've got to be quick! The instant pee stage does pass quite quickly than goodness...

boodles101 · 22/09/2019 09:26

geegrl19 I open the nappy, blow a bit of air in and then just close it for a few seconds until he has done the wee.

Moraxella · 22/09/2019 11:28

@Megan2018 I’m up all night too! I’ve had two half hour naps with him next to me in bed after laying down feeding and one when I gave up and he got an entire bottle of Aptamil. He is a good feeder in day but overnight he just won’t latch properly and gets annoyed with me and him! He just won’t sleep if put down. I can only sleep an hour in day, I feel like I’m back on night shifts at work!!

This morning I tried the soft wrap and carried him around while I got a cup of tea and did a wee and he slept perfectly so that’s going to be tonight’s experiment.. I could feasibly sleep sitting and reclined with him in that...

I psychologically can’t handle the bleeding and stitches and haven’t been to the loo for five days despite laxatives 😱

Karigan195 · 22/09/2019 12:05

All those on the first few weeks it does get better. The first two weeks were hell with c section stitches, no sleep and really sore boobs but every day there has been noticeable improvement! At 5 weeks and 2 days now and he’s getting himself a little routine with a 2am and 6am wake up and the boobs are better (still not right as turns out my Raynauds effects that but I get a few good days before I get sore now).

Megan2018 · 22/09/2019 15:38

@Moraxella I don’t think I said congratulations sorry, I got so behind with the thread, am on planet zombie!
Sorry you are going through it too! We are feeding fine, just very frequently but at night she is wide awake and won’t be put down. Then at 7:30am she feeds and sleeps for 3-4hrs in bed with me, so I have to sleep in all morning, so then half the bloody day is gone.
I am loving it generally but bloody hell. I would happily wake up to feed every hour if she’d be put down in between.

Lavellan · 22/09/2019 16:20

We've swapped spew for eye goop now. I was freaking out yesterday it came on so suddenly and was gluing her eye together. I think it's just a blocked tear duct but keeping close watch.

Horehound · 23/09/2019 03:19

@lavellan we've had eye goop here since day 2 and he's now 4 weeks almost 5 weeks old. Midwives told us on just keep wiping with cotton wool and water but last week I called Dr and got ointment. It's so hard to put in his eye. 2 days clear eye and I thought great! That's it gone.
Now it's back Sad I think cause his hands are in and about it it keeps reinfecting.

@megan2018 yep I hear you with the morning gone! We've just been up for 1.5 hours and he is now sleeping on me and will wake for another feed then I'll get a few hours kip and by the time we emerge down stairs it's usually 11am

I attempted to make a lasagne the other day..took 6 hours haha so I am deffo not at the he point I can just go do stuff. So much stopping to see to baby etc it was just not worth it. I also took little prints of his feet and gave him a bath and a walk that day so that felt monumental.
The next day I didn't get out my pjs as he just cried and fed...it's crazy how the days can differ so much

DustyDoorframes · 23/09/2019 07:36

@Lavellan if you are BFing you can try dripping milk on his eye, it's magic stuff, or soaking a cotton ball in milk and using that to wipe.

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IVEgottheDECAF · 23/09/2019 08:06

Bloody hell mon to fri i have to have me, baby and 4 dc out the house for 830! I wanna stay in bed til 11!

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Dyra · 23/09/2019 08:51

Another one here with a gunky eye. Two weeks in and it seems to be getting better, but the eyelid still seems a bit red. I've wiped with breast milk a few times, which seems to have done the trick of stopping the worst of the gunk, but remembering to keep doing it/express onto the pad instead of using water is hard.