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August/September 2019 Babies (Due in Sept 19)

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IVEgottheDECAF · 09/09/2019 09:04

Couldnt see a post natal group so have taken it upon myself to start one! Will obviously still keep up on antenatal also until babies have all arrived!

Shall we start a list of arrivals?

IVEgotheDECAF - DC5 - boy - 07/09/19 - 9lb1oz

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happydays00 · 17/10/2019 16:38

@Littlehouseinthebigcity Monday to Friday DH does any feeds up to midnight / 1ish and then sleeps in the spare room until he gets up for work. Over the weekend We each have a full night of undisturbed sleep. Sometimes DH sleeps in with us but as I'm mostly co sleeping I find (like you) it's actually easier without him in the bed too!

RolyHappyNorrieTagBetty · 17/10/2019 16:39

@Littlehouseinthebigcity my DH is the same, not keen to sleep apart. We're currently getting about 6.5 hours sleep so it's manageable but if that drops I'll try to encourage him for some spare room stints.
We do go to bed as soon as baby is down for her first nighttime sleep though, which is about 9pm. Generally she feeds twice at night and DH does the nappy change at the start, then I feed, then he puts her down/settles. About an hour total. I really appreciate the shared load and company in the night right now but aware it may not work long term.

Horehound · 17/10/2019 16:44

Our plan was for me and baby to be in baby's room but I found it really lonely and hated it. So now we are all in our room together but my husband is complaining of being tired. I think if we have a run of bad nights my husband would sleep in a different room. He was totally fine being apart.. humph

Puglover88 · 17/10/2019 16:53

Thanks @Stroan my doctor is quite prescription happy so I’m hoping it won’t be too hard to get him on board if her symptoms continue. What symptoms did your LO have? Sophie has wet burps/hiccups, squirms a lot and arches her back during/after feeding, is very unsettled after feeding and hates being laid on her back.

DustyDoorframes · 17/10/2019 17:02

@Littlehouseinthebigcity we start the night with me, DP, and baby cosleeping in our bed. DC2 (age 3) comes in at some point- if before about 5 we attempt to get her back in her own bed, not always successfully, and about 6:30-7 DC1 (age 6) appears and tries to persuade us to get up, or squeezes in too. We need a bigger bed... DP sometimes gets up super early or stays up late working, which does make it a bit comfier when DC2 comes on, although not that different as her preferred position is pushing into my back hard (baby is on the other side of me).

DustyDoorframes · 17/10/2019 17:09

Meant to say @RolyHappyNorrieTagBetty babies/children make for being very very close to your washing machine FOREVER as far as I can tell...

I've still not bitten the bullet and started with the washable nappies. Since DC3 was born just over 3 weeks ago we have had a total of two days when we've not run a wash (it was absolutely tipping it down on both of those days, and one was the day she was born), and no beds have been changed for lack of vacancies in the laundry schedule (I tell a lie- I put the spare sheets on ours but haven't washed the previous set...). I don't see how the nappy wash is going to fit in without resorting to the tumble dryer most days, which seems counterproductive ecologically!

Puglover88 · 17/10/2019 17:26

@Littlehouseinthebigcity DH takes first shift from about 9-12/1 ish and actually has her in the Moses basket downstairs so I can sleep without one ear open. After a nappy change, he brings her up for a feed and then she stays with me for the rest of the night and DH sleeps downstairs so he’s not too tired for work. However last night she decided to cluster feed until about 11 so our routine went right out the window!

kyles101 · 17/10/2019 18:19

@Littlehouseinthebigcity we're in the same bed still but only because he could literally sleep through anything. I watch things on my iPad whilst feeding and he sleeps right through 🙄 dh does long hours driving so night times are my domain.

Aw @DustyDoorframes That sounds like a lovely snuggly family bed 😍

Stroan · 17/10/2019 18:59

We're mostly in the same room, but since DH went back to work there have been a couple of nights I've suggested he sleep in the spare room to get a good night's sleep. He sleeps through feeds anyway and sometimes does nappy changes (bad and lazy habit from when I was post-section and sore!). But on the whole, nights are not too bad here so we are coping ok.

I do get annoyed when he stays up really late and then complains about being tired though...

@Puglover88 similar symptoms. Lots of grunting and moaning on his back, squirming constantly. Sick after every feed and really unsettled for a while afterwards. Ranitidine has really helped though.

Megan2018 · 17/10/2019 22:01

We have separate rooms all the time anyway. I do the nights as tbh all she wants is boob and to sleep attached to boob so he couldn’t even settle her. So it is me and baby in a Superking bed. But when he was off all month he would take her all morning so I could sleep in. Now he leaves for work before 6 so instead he takes her when he gets in late afternoon and early eve so I get a break and to see horse.
DH drives 250+ miles everyday for work so has to get sleep, there’s no point in us both being tired, but he is also doing all the cooking and chores so all I do is baby, so I think its fair.

Horehound · 17/10/2019 22:18

What does your husband do Megan? That's crazy!

Geegrl19 · 17/10/2019 23:03

@Littlehouseinthebigcity we sleep apart too. Dh is a bad sleeper normally and fidgets all night and gets up and down. When he does sleep he snores, argh. I'm quite glad he's not in with me! But seriously, no point both being up. Did this with previous children too. I have all the baby stuff spread over the other half of the bed. Total mess!

Horehound · 18/10/2019 00:29

Argh. What do I do with my baby who wakes up as soon as I out him in the Moses basket?! Any cot he is in he wakes up and just thrashes about but also hates being swaddled.. help!!

Megan2018 · 18/10/2019 00:53

@Horehound
He has a field based job and covers a huge chunk of UK driving to various sites. He does a 9hr day (max) which includes the driving time so be is usually home 2-3pm or even earlier. So it has some benefits but he can’t afford to be tired as its dangerous. Also his job involves serious attention to detail so requires concentration.

Megan2018 · 18/10/2019 00:54

Felicity hates her crib, that’s why we bed share. Bloody uncomfortable though!

Horehound · 18/10/2019 01:00

Ah I see!

Yes Arthur sleeps in with me at night but whilst we are downstairs he won't sleep in his basket. As soon as I put him in there he wakes up. He might sleep 30mins if someone else puts him in it.

Got our Omni 360 sling today so I'll be able to carry him about whilst I do chores and can take him on walks in the forest. I hated the sling from the baby box as couldnt tie it and get him in it properly.

Tefiti2 · 18/10/2019 02:13

Another crib hater here, so we are co sleeping! I had honestly thought she would settle in the bedside crib but nope, wakes up as soon as she’s put into it, so we bed share too. I’ve bought some wheat bags to try to see if warmth will help, but tbh, it seems like too much effort as our current situation gets me sleeeeep!

Puglover88 · 18/10/2019 02:22

@Horehound Sophie hates the Moses basket too so my plans to have a 2/3 hour kip during the day whilst she naps isn’t happening! 😩

Horehound · 18/10/2019 04:59

These babies have us wrapped around their fingers haha!

Littlehouseinthebigcity · 18/10/2019 08:33

We actually had our best night yet last night! Dh slept in guest room. I fed and swaddled Catherine each time she woke and she went back down in her basket for another few hours. But I suspect this will be a one off, and she's very unsettled this morning!

Megan2018 · 18/10/2019 10:31

@horehound
Felicity settles happily in her bouncer chair and rocking chair/swing (got one upstairs and one down). So I use this when I need to do jobs. I think she prefers the more upright position.
Can’t leave her unattended in it obvs, but I just take her room to room with me

Myspiritan · 18/10/2019 11:35

We’re co sleeping to at the moment my DD won’t entertain the next to me cot, it’s not ‘next to me’ enough obviously! We had a fluke of a day on wed when she’d go down in the day and it was blissful but the last 2 days she’s been attached to me! Hmm

Is anyone with older DCs dealing with jealousy etc from their toddler? I find it really hard not to feel awful about it.

Horehound · 18/10/2019 12:37

@megan2018 yeh I was doing that with Arthur in his bouncer but he's always blooming sick in it!

Speaking of sick, he absolutely gorged himself on my boob earlier then promptly spewed a lot. Felt bad because I should have been keeping an eye on it. My boob felt really hard and full and when I took him off it was pretty drained..far too much for him considering I can pump about 100mls in 5 minutes..woops. for him sleeping in the car now, we are off to house of bruar :)

Horehound · 18/10/2019 12:37

Is anybody NOT cosleeping?! Seems like we all are!

db92 · 18/10/2019 12:51

We aren't co sleeping! DP is a real fidget and I just can't bring myself to have baby bed as much as I'd love too. He'll come in with me after his first morning feed when DP has left for work though.

We're really suffering through the night at the moment. Baby has a cold (on day 13 and still so snotty and struggling at night) so very sleep deprived here.