August/September 2019 Babies (Due in Sept 19)

[IVEgottheDECAF]

Couldnt see a post natal group so have taken it upon myself to start one! Will obviously still keep up on antenatal also until babies have all arrived!

Shall we start a list of arrivals?

IVEgotheDECAF - DC5 - boy - 07/09/19 - 9lb1oz

@KnobJockey we can! I'm being super wimpy as actually DP is still around- he is still working less and he works from home anyway (we usually split the week for childcare, so he's not even going up to completely full time while I'm off as I still have a bit of income from maternity allowance etc - so I'm living the life or Riley really!).

Snurk at the under the sofa antics @Stroan . There's something about them using their older kid skills to make their baby pretending more dangerous/annoying that makes me so cross! Ho hum.

Our heating is set to come on at 18.5

BabyDECAF always wearing short sleeve vest under his sleepsuit. Cardi when feels chilly.

Yep heating issue on! Chilly in scotland!
For sleeping he's usually in baby grow and the either in his sleeping bag or under the duvet with me but not usually in a vest.

Today has been HARD. It's the first day I'd say has been really difficult. Ds has been awake since 2:30, well I say awake, he's been perfectly happy to sleep, just so long as it's on me. Have escaped for a bath whilst he's with dh. He's adorable and I love him to pieces but today... has been draining.

kyles

horehound the only time any of my babies have been vestless is summer with actual nice weather

@KnobJockey she’ll be small but fiery for definite- tbf I’m 5ft 3ish and very fiesty and spend my free time handling strong and sparky horses so it’s inevitable really that she’d be strong despite her size.

I intend to get this quote, one of my favs, for her nursery
“O, when she is angry, she is keen and shrewd.
She was a vixen when she went to school,
And though she be but little, she is fierce.”

@horehound that sounds right for indoors in Scotland. I add a thick cardi type top and blankets when out.

Oh god we are not having a good night. Baby keeps crying and only wants to be held completely upright.
I'm really worried he has colic and cant deal with this until he's 6m old! Omg

@horehound it's really, really hard to think straight when you are in the middle of it. But babies who have really bad colic all the way up to 6m are rare. Even if it is bad, it could be much better before then. Does he do the same thing at the same time every night?

We've had some rough nights like that. Just a blip. He might just be feeling a bit rubbish and the only way he knows to feel better is to be close to you. Which isn't helpful when you need sleep, I know. I hope you get a break from it soon.

@stroan I have noticed he can be grouchy like this at nights to the point I was already thinking hmm this could be a sign of colic. But at the same time we have tried given him bottles in the evening which already sets him off crying so i wasnt sure if that just put him in a mood for the rest of the evening. It's so sad to see him so upset. My husband was going insane with it even puting fingers in his ears. He has finally managed to calm him down and is humming Disney songs to him which is working now but I know if he stops the crying will start again. Oh i can hear him start crying again now
I thought he was hungry and kept trying him on boob and he was absolutely rigid and screaming his head off and red. :(

Omg hes stopped crying for now!

Hi all, can I join? Followed the ante natal thread from afar and only just realised this exists which looks like it could be a lifeline!

Baby girl born on 20th September. First week flying solo this week and forgot how overwhelming and daunting it is! My first is 2.5 so I've partly blocked out the dark newborn days with them!

Horehound, looks like butter wouldn't melt!

I've just got out of the bath, fed the baby girl and she's thrown up all down my bare shoulder 🤢 typical! Doesn't she know how long Ive waited for a relaxing bath!

@KnobJockey typical!

@Horehound I feel your pain. How did the rest of your night go? Ds point blank refused to sleep in his bed last night. Had 5-10 minute busts that was it. Wouldn't sleep next to me either, only on me. I'm exhausted. I think he has a cold coming. Getting the sling out today so he can get some sleep whilst I attempt to get on with jobs, hopefully will be able to get some naps in today myself too.

@knobjockey oh yes that's so typical. I had a cleave full of suck this morning and all over my clean jumper! Guess that's life for the short term but it always seems to be me that gets it..never daddy hmmm

@kyles101 the night was ok! So after that photo he had a feed, slept until 3.30 when he had another feed then slept until 8.15! I didnt try him in his cot i just let him fall asleeo on me then he slept beside me the whole night. And hes been pretty good today. Will see what happens when the evening comes about cause that's when he seems to be upset. Hope you've managed some naps already!

@Horehound yeah we had a nap together with him on my chest. Can't do mother night like that, he'll have to come into bed with me if he doesn't settle.

Hey ladies, hope you're all doing ok and finding your feet with the little ones. Broken sleep is a killer isn't it - I don't think I've slept more than 2-3hours in a chunk for the last 6 weeks. No wonder sleep deprivation is a form of torture! My eye bags have bags now. And now my eldest is regressing in her sleep - she keeps having nightmares bless her and ending up in our bed. So I've now got a toddler with flailing arms and legs during the 2 hour sleep window I get. Then the baby wakes up screaming for a feed and wakes the toddler Fun times! At least feeding is pretty quick and efficient with this one - but just when I think I can settle her back down in bed she ends up with severe hiccups and possets. Am loving having a newborn again, but my god I'm tired 💤

I feel you @BridgetjonesdaiquirI

I have baby squished into the side of me after a stick feed and spew. My tops ridden up but he's asleep so I'm freezing. Also knackered..only got go sleep at midnight and he woke at 1.30..not like him. Then spewed. Now fallen asleep but he hadn't finished so I expect hell wake soon!

@TequilaMockingbird0 Welcome! I too have a toddler and had forgotten how exhausting the newborn phase was. DH has been back at work this week but my mum is still wit's me so not looking forward to next week when I'm really on my own with the two of them 🙈

Woo up again

My 6 year old is breaking the scale for obnoxiousness. I know rationally that it's just churn due to the new baby but aaaaaargh! At the moment the 3 year old is outclassing him for maturity and coping skills. How do you handle this?? It's basically a barrage of leaping about, rudeness, random shouting, chucking stuff about, ignoring what he's being told (actually, that's both of them. I feel like I am spending at least 30% of my waking hours saying "when someone tells you to stop YOU HAVE TO STOP"). Low level stuff, but unbearable to be around as it's such a barrage. And obviously rising to any of it makes it worse. And I have very little patience at the moment which doesn't help.
Those with bigger kids- how are you/they coping???

Ah @DustyDoorframes no advice here, I have my hands full with one!!

My little angel only woke at 2am last night and settled fairly quickly after his feed. He was down and asleep by 10 last night too. AND he's woken up in a lovely mood. As have I after all that sleep! It feels so good, another crap night might have broken me!!

I think I'm having a period??? Exclusively bf though??

I'm jealous @kyles101 normally I'm only up once or twice bt last night was 12, 1.30, 3.30, 5.30, 6.15 and 8 and now again.
Urghhh wonder if this is a growth spurt.

I think periods can come back even if you bf? Not sure. Bummer!

@kyles101 yay sleep!! Re the period- seems quite early, especially if you are feeding through the night, how old is your DS? Lochia can come and go for 6 weeks it so, so it could still be that. My period tends to come back about 18 months in or more so I may have a skewed view!

I genuinely don’t understand how Felicity can sleep so little?!
She has awake periods in the day of up to 4hrs at a time and at night can be awake for 8hrs straight.
The lack of sleep is breaking me, last night she alternated feeding and screaming from 10pm-4am, didn’t shut her eyes once. She then slept 4-6 in bed with me, then fed again, then slept 7.30-9.30.

I know its early days (25 days old) but how is she awake for such long periods of time? Everything I read says newborns are awake for 45 mins to 2hrs at a time, not all bloody night!