August 2007- More boys than girls? Our beautiful summer babies are arriving at last!

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Thought I'd start a thread to give somewhere for Jem, Washersaurus and Bresha to discuss their little ones and make all those of us waiting impatiently jealous!

Who will be next??????

Hi all,

love the balloon idea, although there's nowhere to buy any here. mila's loving her bright fish mobile hanging above the changing table.

she's still only sleeping in the sling throught the day so me and dp do shifts. it's a bit of tyranny really she only sleeps soundly whilst we're moving! once you stop or try to sit down she's awake and grumpy as still tired!

i was worried in the early days that dp might not be sharing baby duties equally and that it would p* me off eventually, as he'd wake up in the morning after an uninterrupted sleep, ask if the baby had been up in the night and tell me he was so tired! so i firmly quashed any notions that he was 'helping' me with the baby, shes' his baby too and there's nothing except b/f he can't do. sometimes i have to rememer to stand back and not rush to calm her when he's struggling as he needs to perfect his own techniques and it works. i cook more often so i get some baby free time in the kitchen with bit of loud music and then i'm far more cheerful in the evenings... enough said!!

dp always rushes to hands lo back to me when she's crying, in grating baby voice "ahh mama i'm hungry hungry- i need my mama" so when she's fed i hand back with an equally cheesy "ahh you're missing baba, ahh you want to kiss and cuddle baba?", etc and of course smelly nappies are "ooh suprise for baba..." ha, 2 can play that game!

Banana, you're not boring. Your posts always make me smile as you've a knack for observing the everyday things and writing about them in a witty, wry way. I think you should consider writing for a living.

As for men, bah, sounds like we're all experiencing the same thing. Their lives haven't changed and ours really, really have.

Glad you had a good holiday sagpuss. I thought dh was going to get annoyed that Hamilton didn't win the grand prix but he was quite philosphical about it.

banana - my dh was very much the same as yours when dd was born. As I was at home I was expected to do all the housework and all the feeds. Part of his shift pattern was 6 days off and all he did was sleep. He didn't even feed dd during the day let alone at night (although I'm sure he would deny that). Like you I felt very resentful and I also felt like I was being taken for granted. When I went back to work it went back to the way it was before she was born. That was partly due to the fact that he would look after her on his days off in the week. He actually found out how much hard work it was staying at home looking after a baby. This time round he has been much more hands on. He actually does either the night feed or the early morning feed every Friday and Saturday night. He doesn't do any of the housework other than cooking but that will have to change when I go back to work. There's no way I'm doing everything round the house plus all the night feeds as well as full time work. If he thinks that's going to happen he's got another thing coming.

Wel, peace reigns here, DH is back at work, DS is playing quite nicely for once, and I've just mnaged to ssssshhhh DD off to sleep.

DH was ok about the F1 as well - I was more upset!! We both love it, and it has been such a disappointing w/e for sport it would have been nice for something good to hapen!

I was thinking about the PND thing - one really useful activity my health visitor taught me is to list all the things that caused me most stress, and then break each one into why it stressed me, and what if anything I coulod do about it.. i still have the piecces of paper to remind me if I get stressed. i had "DS eating too much (coz I was told he was fat)" and "DS eating too little" !! Showed how screwed up I was!!

right off for DD's hearing test this morning - she's got a cold so they might not be able to do it...

AND.... MEN ARE CRAP!!

In the last 2 weeks DH has dared to do the "well you're off work for 9 months" and "this place is a mess, we need to tidy", after I've spent 3 hours sorting out holiday washing etc while he went ROWING!!

Aaw, cheers Annie75. ooooh, these menfolk need a punch up the bracket, don't they? Looks like they're all trying their luck! My sister has a lovely bloke who works all hours as a long distance driver, a lot of the time his shift starts at 2am and he can be away for days at a time, and when he's back he's always cooking, tidying, washing up, doing DIY round the house, she always has fresh flowers... I keep asking her where she found him or at least how she trained him!

Well, we had it out last night (fuelled on my part by a single smirnoff ice, as I was feeling sorry for myself!) and cleared the air somewhat. I've asked him to get involved more, it's for his own good anyway so that James gets to know him as well as he knows me, and dp learns how to look after him fully. I worry what might happen if anything was to happen to me, otherwise.

Well, it's crunch time (or not!) today anyway, I've finished off my enormous birthday cake singlehandedly and I'm starting my diet today. Might see if dp will take me to slimming world later! oooh, a bit excited actually...

HI ya

Gill at the 7-5am sleep pattern, my goodness, that's amazing. lucky you

Pink- how you going??? I think it's pretty hard with two, try and get as much help as you can. My ds has just started settling in to pre school only 3hours a week, and tonight he was minded by a friend when i went to a meeting for an hour (unheard of) I'm very lucky as dh works from home so he has been helpful with ds1 . My big thing is just getting out and about going to the gym twice a week , working on some projects, meeting friends, etc. it really helps to have social things for me, I sooo need to be busy. thinking of you, take care

J&GB- you sound like you need a bit of propping up, are you going to join a mothers group or something, I actually didn't enjoy them to much but did met one friend that i had a connection with and also went to ante-natal yoga which was great.

LL was a little un happy for a few days after vaccinations, i must admit I crumpled as he shed his first tears having them, and was really sobbing after, all my talk of being cool about it eh?

i can't believe how fast these babies are growing. i went to put on some on his gift clothes and they are almost to small.

Hi [waves]to shrinking, mama, annie and weegirls plus everyone else
Life is full on busy hereA

hi everyone - i'm going against the trend as my DP is amazing with helping out with both DDs. In fact i get annoyed as he comes home from work and starts asking me where i want things put (which i take as meaning what have you been doing all day instead of doing some tidying ) - can't win . He's also great at taking his turn for the night feeds even doing some on nights that he's working the next day.

pink - how are you doing?

james - that's a good idea about the balloon!

For those of you with older DCs whose behaviour has been a bit wonky since the LO's arrived, are they starting to settle down a bit? i'm hoping that we've turned a corner (nearly 11 weeks later...) as DD1 is behaving a bit better - though i think that part of the problem was that she was needing to pee during the night but didn't want to use her nappy so was waking up and then getting herslef in a state wanting food, cuddles, stories etc so she wasn't getting enough sleep. however the past few nights she's got up, pee'd then gone straight back to sleep (which is unheard of!)

hiya everyone. im new. i have 3 boys the youngest was born on the 30th august, 7 weeks prem

is anybody else having feeding problems?

Hi tasha, welcome to the thread! Congrats on your new baby, I've probably figured it out wrong in my head but is he 7 weeks old now? And being 7 weeks old that would make him due about now? He must have been in a hurry!

A few of us have had feeding problems, there's a large section of mumsnet dedicated to both breast and bottlefeeding. I've heard premature babies can have many problems with feeding, are you getting support by your health visitor/gp?

hiya yea hes due now. congrats to you to wat did you have? he gets gaviscon in his milk for reflux but over the last 24 hours has started bringing up all his feeds again. i phoned the health visitor but she just told me to phone the hospital because he has a cleft lip and palate but i really dont see it being related

Hi, I had a little boy called James on aug 4th, 5 days after his due date, he was in no hurry to meet me!

I have absolutely no experience with babies with either reflux or cleft lip/palate, but if you start a new thread in the breast and bottlefeeding topic I'm sure someone will be able to advise you on one or both conditions. Mumsnet is good that way!

Link to creating new thread in breast and bottlefeeding

Don't stop posting here though! Welcome again, off to change a massive pooey nappy. blech

thanks i done that. what weight was james when he was born. is he sleeping well for you

Hi Tasha and welcome to the group.

I had a girl, Emmeline Lucy on the 3rd Aug. We have a list somewhere where we have all added our stats, like which day we had them and what they weighed. I can't find it at the mo though. Perhaps someone more organised will be along shortly to help!

Having the baby 7 weeks early must have been scary

hiya congrats thats a lovely name. yea was scary seeing all them wires but he is home now and gaining. i was just watching corrie and my waters went lol musta been too exciting.

hows your lo getting on was it your first?

Welcome Tasha - sorry to hear you are struggling with feeding. It myst be wierd after 2 others - did they have any problems? Do you have a breastfeeding clininc locally? I would have thought they will get you specialist supprt with the cleft lip/palate thing. Does your DS swallow a lot of air? I find my DD does, and just when I go to wind her, she reflex vomits the enitre lot at me. I also find she somtimes needs winding BEFORE a feed to make sure any residual stuff has gone.

DD pain in arse today - awake from 9.30 til 3.30..... but has been asleep now 2.5 hours enough to do a bit of tidying and to eat a meal with DS. Now he is ensconsed in front of the TV so I can chill for 5 minutes before the madness which is bathtime.

The house is a tip and the ironing pile is UGE!!!!!! sorry.. HHHHUUGE!!!

p.s out of 0-3 month clothes now.... very def into 3-6 and very chubby thighs (thats the baby not me... I lost loads of weight last week, my nuder eye shadows are back... lovely.)

oh yes... older DC's - well DS has turned into the child from hell. He jsut responds "NO!!" to anything we ask him to do, then we get cross and he says "Don't get cross" and gets all whiney. I hate whinging children. It didn't help that las tweek my SiL and FiL kept giving him presents. His behaviour was awful, yet he got rewarded... I'm trying to find positive things to do, but whenever we try to go out or do something nice either he or DD play up and it all goes tits up. I feel like a permanentyl cross grumpy mum who lives in a pigsty!!

yea it is the other 2 were great no probs but lo is making up for it. thats exacly the way he is, its frustrating as well cause it takes so long to feed him then he does an exorcist on me. im the same i have give up on the washing how is one person supposed to keep down 5 peoples washing i dunno.

my eldest keeps telling me to get out of his sight or to give his head peace wat do you say to that lol

Bloody hell woman... I've just read your profile - your only 21?!!!!! You have 3 kids under 3? How do you cope? I could barely look after me at 21, let alone a houseful!! Hats off to you!!

lol i know i have to keep reminding myself of that. i def dont have the figure anymore or the wild nights out just dirty nappies and crying babies

i give up ill wait till they are in bed they are like big tornados coming behind me messing wat i tidy

Good for you banana. Hope things start to change soon. Hope you managed to get to slimming world. I've started eating less, more healthily and smaller portions. I'm hoping that will make a difference for a while but I know I'll have to start dieting properly soon. I'm only about half a stone heavier than before I was pregnant but I'm still 2 stone overweight.

Uki - I've already put away loads of 0-3 clothes and I'm getting out more and more 3-6. We're very lucky that we've got several friends with boys who have been giving us bags of clothes regularly. We've been given so much that I've actually had to give some of it away.

Hi Tasha, welcome to the group. I've got a boy called Alex and he's 10 weeks on Wednesday. He currently weighs 13lb 2oz and doesn't stop growing. I've also got a little girl called Katelyn who's 2.7 yrs. I'm not having any feeding problems other than he won't go more than 2 1/2 hours without eating. Makes getting out in the morning difficult as by the time I'm ready to go he's hungry again. He's a good sleeper at night though fortunately. Echo what Shrinkingsagpuss says about having 3 under 3. I struggle with my 2. My sil has 3 and her eldest is 2.8 yrs and she's a single mum. I don't know how she stays sane. Helps that her 3 are normally all in bed by 8pm.