The March-ers 2019 - Baby Talk #1

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Congratulations to all the mamas with their new babies 🌸

Now the fun really starts 😄

@toastfiend - baby boy - 28/01/2019
@TheWanderlust - Baby girl - Althea - 7lb6oz - 16/02/2019
@PurpleFlower1983 - Baby girl - Matilda - 17/02/2019
@Wineandchoccy - Baby girl - Lois - 6lb12oz - 19/02/2019
@Harley8888 - Baby boy- Logan - 7lb4oz - 01/03/2019

Hi all. Hope everyone and babies are doing well.
Mines 4 week today and for the past 2 days she's not let me put her down for more than 5 mins whilst I try and do other things. She literally screams like I have left her and soon shuts up when I pick her back up. She's usually really good and will just sit/lay in her chair. Not the past couple of days though.
Anyone else's little one like this?

@kee80 yep mine today. He's just gone down in his moses basket - now that my husband is home of course, so it looks like I am exaggerating about what a hard day I've had! I'm absolutely shattered. I've fed him loads as well through the night and through today. I've got a headache due to exhaustion / dehydration. All I want to do is to crawl into bed and I can't!

@BadBadBeans it really is hard work when they are like this!
My partner is working this week so I've had baby literally on me all day and night! I've lived off cereal the past couple of days, it's all I have a chance to make!
Try having a quick hours sleep now your husband is home

Working away I ment

It's so difficult when your on your own if other half is at work . Hang in their mammas! Your all doing great. I've just put rose in a joy and Joe stretchy wrap that I purchased of Amazon and she fell to sleep within minutes . Think she loves being so close to me . Will be handy for in the day .

@kee80 another one having had a bad night and LO wanting to be he's lots here. Currently been feeding every hour since about 4pm, she keeps falling asleep on me and not having a full feed as a result. Praying she sleeps better tonight.

@Jenlou1992 I think I'm doing okay considering the birth and recovery we've had. It's been long and difficult and ongoing! But sometimes I struggle, spoke to HV about it and she said they will discuss with me again at 6-8 week check to make sure my anxieties have calmed down.

Baby has a serious snuffle and now a cough developed in last day or two. He's coping like a trooper and we are using saline spray but I hate watching him suffer, just put him in next to me crib (he's asleep, fell asleep on my shoulder) on a slight incline to try and help him but instead of sleeping I'm lying here worrying nothing and no one can prepare you for having a baby!

Everyone has such varied and great holiday plans! We are doing the European trip as a trial run and will then take him further afield , or at least this is my plan. Husband isn't so on board but given he hates change I've had to talk him into everything we've done in the last 10 years and always manage it

We are at 6 weeks now and also been more sicky recently, as he rarely brings milk back up but think he's feeding way too enthusiastically so has started to take more than he can realistically manage. @kee80 ours also has a v blocked nose and hasn't been sleeping on his back at all. We've had a really rough few nights and last night in particular was one of the worst we've had so hoping tonight is better.

@jenlou1992 glad you've got a sling and are finding that she sleeps in it - must be a relief that she's not sucking on you 24/7 although doesn't help with the sleeping for you!! How have your groups been? I've got a small network of local first time mum friends from NCT and pregnancy yoga, plus friends from work/elsewhere in life on mat leave further afield in London in addition to colleagues who have slightly older babies who are local and it makes all of the difference to your sanity (in my experience as I have to be doing things) even if the babies aren't old enough to benefit yet.

Glad you all got the school places you were rooting for, that must be a relief. Ladies that will be our babies in four years from now!!

Every night, my husband says to get him if I need help and every night, I let him sleep through and just manage by myself. Tonight I am really struggling and just asked him to take J for a bit and he said no! I feel sick with exhaustion! I would love to see how he would function on 2 hour bursts of sleep for weeks on end!!!!

Trying to be fair... He does only say to get him for help when he's not working the next day (he only works part time). And he is working a half day tomorrow. But I am so tired! Got Squidge down in his basket now after being up for 2.25hrs. Fingers crossed he sleeps for at least 2 hours now. I am barely functioning and I have both kids tomorrow!

Like many of you, we’ve been struggling with first cold and the sleepless nights. A has a face full of baby acne bless her. Sickness is better with lots of burping and the Calma bottle. And she surpassed her birth weight on Monday! Tongue tie appointment booked for Saturday.

Currently at the hospital. Expressed some milk, fed A, stood up and it felt like my womb fell out. Blood clot and loads of blood running down my legs. Rang triage and they asked me to come in, waiting for a doctor to be free but two ladies are giving birth.

@BadBadBeans even when you've agreed what help they'll give at night it doesn't make it easier when you need a bit more, and to outright say i is harsh. I'd be having words in the morning and I hope LO has settled for you now.

@Gronk27 I hope you're ok. Fingers crossed it's nothing serious.

Had a reasonable start to the night but been up now for an hour and a half with LO feeding most of that time. Currently on the sofa trying not to fall back to sleep.

@Gronk27 hope you are ok that sounds like it will have given you a shock.

@BadBadBeans I hope you can have a peaceful day and DH steps up and helps you tonight

@wineandchoccy @hidcat thanks both, they’re not too concerned just any more big bleeds or feeling unwell I’m to head back to triage. Feel better for having a thorough check over.

@Gronk27 that’s good news hopefully you have no more x

@Gronk27 glad all is okay. I had a little rush of blood yesterday after a week of nothing. It is an odd process!

@HidCat Hope you got some more sleep. I did have words this morning but all he said was that he had to drive and it is dangerous to be tired if he's driving. It is a fair point, but on the other hand an hour wouldn't have made much difference to him but would have made a huge difference to me! Especially as both baby and I got woken up this morning by our toddler running into the room and shouting 'MUM!' Fed baby, got him back to sleep, managed to put him down for long enough to make myself some porridge before he woke up crying again! Currently finishing typing this from the loo (bit constipated - joys) while J cries on the changing mat in the next room! I am a bit more relaxed about leaving him crying for a couple of minutes than I was with DS1 - I have to eat and go to the loo! Thankfully Nanny has taken DS1 to the playground so I'm only dealing with one right now.

@Gronk27 gosh, how scary for you. Glad youre ok!

@BadBadBeans I've just got to the point of being able to leaving baby to cry for a couple of mins while i do the necessities. Before that I'd be sat bursting for the loo for hours, hungry or really thirsty and felt really horrible if he cried for even a minute. Now i stick him in his bouncer for a little bit while i wash and sterilise his bottles and if he cries it does make me uneasy but i figure its either that or no bottle for him so needs must! He's going through a phase of refusing to be put down in the day without screaming and even if i put him down asleep he wakes within a minute and gets really upset so if he's asleep its on me. Makes it hard to get anything done.

Glad all got their first choice schools

We got a gro egg 2 for upstairs and have finally bit the bullet and turned off the main light (which has a gro light bulb so a dimmer night light) for the first time the other night and just left the gro egg on the brightest setting. He's so much better now. It's still just about light enough to change a nappy and feed him in and see if he's sick etc but nowhere near as bright as the gro light ceiling light. Instead of waking up a lot hes now sleeping 10:30 - 2:30 ish, has a nappy change, feed and a bit of a fuss with dummy being spat out then wanting it back, then he sleeps about 4-6ish so I'm feeling slightly more human this week. Though the last stint is a battle of wills between him kicking his blankets off and me putting them back on. Can't wait for the HV to come on Tuesday, really hoping hes big enough for his sleeping bag. I feel for those struggling with sleep.

@HidCat glad you had words - that was a bit of a thoughtless thing for you DH to do, especially when a sleep would have meant so much to you. Hope he sees sense!

@Gronk27 that sounds like such a shock! Hopefully it was a one off.

@hidcat it’s so difficult when you’re both tired, isn’t it? I do think that was a bit mean of your DH, I get the thing about driving when tired but it’s not exactly ideal to be shattered and responsible for small children either!

My DH was off work today and we actually had a lovely day out. We’ve had quite a low key Easter break with just me and the kids - lots of local parks, playing at home and probably a bit too much screen time so it was nice to take them somewhere a bit special.

Baby is 6wks now - got my check with the GP tomorrow. Anyone else had theirs yet? Can’t remember what to expect...

@melissa112 have you tried the swaddle bags? Like the sleeping bags but keeps the arms contained and can be used from birth. I found some in Mothercare for £6.99 and it's almost comical seeing how quick Emerson falls asleep when I put him in one!

@WhatALearningCurve i did think about the groswaddles but i pondered for too long and i reckon he's probably big enough for the sleeping bags we have but just need midwife to confirm. Do you use the groswaddle for his daytime naps or just at night?

We have two 1.0 tog grobags and two 2.5 tog mamas and papas ones that we got gifted from my work. Im guessing they're all the same thing and don't need to be the actual grobag make to be safe?

The ones I've got are for up to 12lb? Gro is just a brand so you should be fine! We just use them at night. Don't do anything "special" for day time naps - I'm out and about most days so he sleeps like a trooper in the car or the pram

@melissa112 last post is for you obvz!

@Hermagsjesty @MistakenHoliday it was me having words with my DH, not HidCat! Anyway I am definitely on baby night duty again tonight because DS1 has been vomiting all afternoon so my husband will be sleeping in his room and looking after him tonight. I'm so grateful my MIL was about this afternoon because J has been feeding relentlessly and crying for much of the time he was not on the boob. Dealing with a vomity toddler on top of that would have been hard. As it is my toddler asked me to leave the room when I went to check on him because J was crying and he didn't like it. I then went downstairs and sobbed my heart out while J screamed in my ear (despite having just been fed). Told my MIL I just wanted to run away. Literally was fantasizing about being on a beach somewhere peaceful, responsible for no one but myself. MIL washed her hands and changed her top and took the baby, who immediately stopped crying of course. I am now in bed. My left nipple is badly cracked again. It's just got no chance of healing with all the feeding I'm doing. I must be doing 12 feeds a day from both sides.

Feeling crap. Although I just heard DS1 vomiting into a bucket next door (DH is with him) and I think he is feeling a lot more crap! He is being so good and brave.

@melissa112 I have used a variety of baby sleeping bags for my eldest son - as long as they are the right tog and baby is the right weight/ length it's all good.

@Hermagsjesty my check up didn’t last long she asked how I felt, how was my mood and had I thought about contraception.