The March-ers 2019 - Baby Talk #1

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Congratulations to all the mamas with their new babies 🌸

Now the fun really starts 😄

@toastfiend - baby boy - 28/01/2019
@TheWanderlust - Baby girl - Althea - 7lb6oz - 16/02/2019
@PurpleFlower1983 - Baby girl - Matilda - 17/02/2019
@Wineandchoccy - Baby girl - Lois - 6lb12oz - 19/02/2019
@Harley8888 - Baby boy- Logan - 7lb4oz - 01/03/2019

I'm v neatly 5 weeks out and had bleeding for about 2.5-3 weeks. It was only vaguely heavy for less than a week then turned to a light brown/yellow discharge (I've read this is normal/to be expected) and then stopped fully about a week ago. I had slight tearing & a few minor stitches.

@ballanj I used thick maternity pads for the first week and then moved onto thin panty liner maternity style ones from Tesco when I just had bleeding like you're describing. They were like £2 for a box of 25/30, and as someone who has only ever used tampons (literally from my first period, still have the sample Always pads we got at school) and has v light periods, I found them ok.

I spoke to the midwife about it as she was surprised my bleeding has stopped so quickly and I mentioned that I get light and short periods which she said could explain it as apparently there's a school of thought to say they're vaguely linked.

If your DP is back at work do you do the night feeds solo? I’m having to pump as well as feed it’s a lengthy process!

@Gronk27 I'm doing solo night feeds but am breastfeeding so it makes no sense for DH to be up anyway

DD2 has just woken up got a feed after a five & 1/2 hour sleep and I'm really hoping it's a long term decision she's making!

@gronk27 yeah, I do but we did that pretty much from day one as we are still sleeping across two bedrooms. I've become quite good at having him on one breast and then the pump on the other... You could try it during the day with your partner's help first? Also, that Hakka pump I mentioned is amazing as I can get as much out with that as I do with the pump and I just attach that to me and off we go so it's a lot less hassle than sorting a machine out etc.

@mistakenholiday I hope so too!! We had something similar tonight where he slept for around 4 hours from 9.30 until 1.30 when he was downstairs with daddy and I was asleep... So now he's so alert, eyes wide open and ready to play for the night shift with me whilst husband has gone off to sleep in the other room. I really wish his body clock would shift by 4-5 hours as then it'd be actual night time that he were making all of the progress on the sleeping front.

@mistakenholiday @cardboard33 I wondered if even BF DP’s would do burping/nappies but with BF that’s less defined anyway I suppose!

I can only breastfeed cross cradle at the moment as she struggles to latch and we have to get her formula feeds in too. Maybe I could try the hakka type one with the pump on the one boob?

She is doing a 2am and 6am though which is amazing and if we get back on the BF after the tongue tie I hope she stays sleepy at night. We’ve got our appointment on the 20th. In the meantime she’s put on 7lbs.

@Gronk27 yes I'm BF & solo night. I go to bed around 8 ish (or when DS blesses us with an evening nap) & then DH brings him to our room when he wakes up around 10:30 (all timings subject to plus / mins 2 hours or so!). I then do the night shift & wake DH around 6am so that he can spend some time with the baby while I shower or have a power nap. DH leaves for work around 8/8:30 and gets back around 5:30 so I do most of the day shift too! . I'm happy with the arrangement & DH says to feel free to wake him if things get too much (like when we have the odd cluster feeding marathon & I start to lose the plot!)

@karBB yep sounds like the sort of routine we’re going to have when DH goes back to work on Monday. Eek!! It’s just the 1 hour 40 process
of making the bottle, trying the breast, feeding, burping, changing and pumping for 30 mins. BUT I no longer know what feeding on demand is like so should probably shut my damn mouth and be happy my baby sleeps

@Gronk27 1hr 40 sounds about right for offering both boobs, burping, nappy change & then something's both boobs again to get him to sleep! We generally do 2 of these each night - around 1am & 4am...

March mummy here too. Hope everyone is getting on alrifght! We finally came home yesterday after a week in hospital and it feels so good even with the sleep deprivation 😅.

Quick question can you give a baby a bath when their umbilical cord is still attached?
Thanks 😊

@shiny888 welcome, congratulations and we were told to top and tail until it fell off. In fact it fell off on Monday but waiting to see midwife/HV on Monday to get the go ahead as I think their skin is quite sensitive. Think I might get a soft flannel on her today though rather than fiddly bits of cotton wool. I’m sure others will have advice especially non FTMs

@KarBB righto, seems like that will be our routine then. Thank you. She does give me a lie in to be very fair.

I think our midwife last time said not to bathe them until the cord had come off but it was a long time ago so can't be sure.

All those of you doing solo overnights, well done. DH is not getting off that easily!
He does the nappy while I get ready/wake up/pump, then after I have fed he will sometimes take her too (usually on the days I physically cannot stay awake, which thankfully isn't often!)
Only nights he gets off are those where DS has already called him through because he can't sleep on his own!!!

@Gronk27 @KarBB exactly the same here. I go to bed as early as possible - 8pm last night as my dad was visiting, but the night before it was 6.30! Then DH brings baby in to me at around 10pm when he wakes for a feed. I then do night shift solo but with the understanding that I can go and get DH from the spare room if I get desperate. Baby J is a night owl at the moment and the last three nights has stayed awake for huge periods of the night, wanting feeding. Last night he was awake from 10.15pm to 2.15am, then up again at 4.30am. Fortunately he then slept from 5am till 8am otherwise I would not have enough brain power to sit and type this now!

@Gronk27 thanks for the advice! Il just top and toe her then until it comes off! Not been able to do anything as she was poorly and we got told not to wash her or anything.

@SquirtlesMumAgain haha! I did my first solo night last night! More for my own sanity as I'm quite grumpy when tired so is dh so I thought he should get a good nights sleep so at least only one of us is miserable 😂😂

Update with the inconsolable colic/windy baby . Infacol seems to be doing the trick 'll. She is bringing wind up after feeds now which she wasn't before and she seems a lot more settled.

Rose won't sleep in her crib think it's too big and open for her . Anyone got the cushion things ? I've heard really good things but seen how expensive they are but I am thinking of investing as I am currently sleeping down stairs with her. Really want her in her crib so I can sleep during the night when she does (if she does haha) .

@jenlou1992 I got a secondhand Pur Flo Nest and Adela loves it.

We’ve had a very fussy day. Lots of angry crying and posseting and seemingly constantly hungry. Can’t work out if it’s a day 10 growth spurt or reflux?!

Had her down at 10 settled lovely finally got my head down and my lovely caring OH decides to take a phone call from his twin and shouts down the phone waking her up. Still trying to get her to go back down. I'm so bloody cross! Maybe over reacting Abit??

@jenlou1992 that's great, well done to you and Rose!! Fwiw, we've found a marked improvement this last week in his ability to burp himself (he's 5 weeks now) so it may get easier over time. Likewise he's also much better at sleeping in his crib than he was in the first few weeks. It's still far from perfect but he will at least stay in it for an hour or two at a time now. We don't have a sleepyhead best although lots of our friends do and said it was good. There's also mixed views as to whether they should be used for nighttime sleeping though when you're also asleep. Will get the link to a cheaper one my friend had in a minute.

@gronk27 I've got a distinct memory that he was really really grumpy and inconsolable at day 10/11 and we mentioned it to the midwife and she was like yeah that's bang on when they have their first major growth spurt so it's unsurprising, so could be that?

@shiny888 how annoying!! We've realised he sleeps a lot better with white noise (current faves are hairdryer and water) (although also freaks out when husband makes v loud and sudden noises) so hopefully it'll build up his tolerance longer term as I guess you don't want to always have to tiptoe around him if he's asleep.

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B0160OYPEQ/ref=mp_s_a_1_3_a_it?ref=plSrch&keywords=sleep+pods+for+baby&dpPl=1&dpID=41GPCOoIm2L&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&ie=UTF8&qid=1552462640&sr=8-3

@jenlou1992 this is the sleep pod that my friend has, it's about £30-40.

@cardboard33 thank you will check it out. I have tonight tried the rolled up towel diy hack to see if she took to it. And give her a feed at 11pm and set my alarm for 2 and she was still fast asleep . Didn't get her out till 15 mins ago and I had to wake her !!!! Winning.

Was wondering for any one BF ..I always feed on demand but never let it go longer than 3 hours inbetween feeds . Apart from just now. Does anyone leave it any longer in the night?

@cardboard33 growth spurt sounds about right, thanks!

Just done my 2am pump although it was 2.40 by the time I’d fed and burped. My left boob is ringlet and sore and I got pretty much nothing. Worried i’ve left it too long and managed to somehow block it?

*tingley not ringlet!

@Jenlou1992 fab news on the sleeping! My DS is 3.5 weeks and has occasionally gone four hours from the end of a feed to the start of the next. I certainly wouldn't wake him in the night if he is sleeping! I remember with DS1 I was setting my alarm 3 hourly for weeks until I happened to mention it to the health visitor - who said I didn't need to any more! Hospital had told me to initially because he had had blood sugar crashes... they hadn't explained I could stop!

@Gronk27 you won't have blocked your whole boob, I promise! Blockages happen just in one area so you would still be getting milk from.all the other ducts. X

@Jenlou1992 Midwife said okay to stop waking once they are putting on weight well.
We've been getting a couple of 3hr sleeps a night (5 weeks tomorrow) which is an improvement over 2 hours but still quite far from where I'd like to be! Though we are EBF which I think means more regular feeds for a while longer