July 2006 - Happy 1st birthdays to our little darlings

[Ceebee74]

In honour of Sophie's impending birthday this week, I thought I would start a new thread....

Hi all,

Just wanted to come on and say a quick hi to everyone.

Happy birthday all the babies I have missed.

We are not having a nice time here. DS and DD1's father is causing many, many problems. I could really do with some advice so if you all don't mind me boring you stupid with my problems, would it be ok to tell you all about it tomorrow??

Will catch up and be back on properly once my head feels a bit more de-stressed.

Love to all,

Jeanie

Happy belated Birthday Kavya!! {smile]

kz- ive got my HP book sitting in the corner, i havent read book 6 and cant remember if i read book 5 so ordered them aswell so waiting for them to arrive, but im tempted to read no7 now!

my bfs sister had a little baby boy on saturday, but he needed a lot of stitches! baby now has jaundice so keeping them both in till it clears! my sister found out shes having a little girl, i think shes around 5 months now.

dp wants us to get married in november!! aaaahhh can we arrange a wedding in such short notice?? i cant see myself walking down the aisle!! aaaaahhhhhhh

better jump into shower before i fall asleep on couch!!

madness- Happy 1st Birthday to your dd!!

jeanieg- we're all here to help!!

Lol - The interview's next Tuesday (you had me worried for a minute)!

We might have to take you up on your offer if I get the job Wallace . I can't believe how much it costs to rent a place, and no one but no one seems to allow pets (we've got two cats). We're actually going to be staying for a couple of nights with my M&D who will be on holiday at place beginning with L that week. So I'll only be up the road - it would be really nice if we could meet up perhaps. If you're up for it you could maybe email me:
twinklemegan @ tiscali . co . uk

Hey Prettymum - you go girl! Of course you can arrange it in time, though you'd want to get on with booking the reception ASAP.

jeanie G you let rip girl, what's up?

Happy Birthday to Leo today - hope the little man has a fab day

Jeanie - that is what we are here.

Pretty - we organised our wedding in 6 months (and we got married in August so I have no idea how we managed to get all the venues etc when some people book them 2 years in advance!) - so for November, you should have no problem - go for it!

KZ - poor Roshi, hope she improves for the birthday party today.

Lysette - welcome back, we have missed you. Josh had a great birthday weekend - was thinking of Jacob too - although it seems like it happened ages ago now. Sorry that nothing has happened yet in the TTC department but keep your chin up.

Right time for brekkie and to get dressed for work. Have a good day all x

Happy Birthday Leo, have a fab day

Jeanie - we are all here for you

castille - welcome back, glad you had good hols (you are frenchleave arent you?, sorry i get confused with name changes)

Lysette - welcome back too, glad you had good time

first - hope emmas sleeping better, poor little mite

bloss - wow, v.domestic goddess, im impressed. going to make muffins today, though banana and oat ones for dd's breakfasts.

can anyone think of any other ideas for breakfasts they can feed themselves as taking anything from a spoon has been a big no-no for a while and think she needs more variety than toast and fruit

my mil took charlotte for a few hours yesterday and i went shopping in town, forgot how good some retail therapy makes you feel

was such a beautiful hot day here yesterday, cloudy and wet today though.

charlotte is starting to stand for few secs on her own and finds this hilarous, falls down and laughs so much, so funny

Have a good day everyone xx

so girls you think this? or this? for Toby's pressie?

bloss - id say the tent/tunnel, best of both worlds

Happy 1st Birthday Leo!!

bloss- i like the tent and tunnel

juniors just thrown up all his breakie and have had to change his bedding!! he threw up on our duvet last night, how do i clean it without having to take it to the launderette?? junior keeps putting his fingers into his mouth and tries bringing up his food!! he's just being sooo miserable!!
better get some milk down him, he's just whinging!!

Happy Birthday Leo

Hi girls.
Kayley took three steps yesterday, and promptly fell flat on her face! She hasn't attempted it since. There was no one there to catch her, as DH and Joey ran off to play hide and seek... ! Poor thing. Mama was too slow. But she still has lots of fun 'running' between us.
And she stood alone for about 10 seconds.

Pretty, poor Junior, hope he's better soon. No idea how to clean a duvet, sorry!
Congrats on your upcoming nuptials! We organised ours in seven months, it's do-able, though we did it on a Monday, rather than at the weekend, so there was venues and a church free. Good luck!!!
Congrats to you bf's sister!

Bloss, tent/tunnel vote here too. Though you do realise it will be hijacked by Harry?

Beadmum, congrats to Charlotte standing! LOL!

Jeanie, we're all here for you, to listen if nothing else, and hopefully there'll be some wise old owls on here that can help.

KZ, HP is going well. Still daren't look at newspapers or even MN at the mo in case someone lets something slip. DH has read the last chapter (not any of the rest of the books, or this one) and keeps pretending to drop hints at what happens and who survives... I HATE him...
Hope Roshi is on the mend.

Madness, happy birthday to your dd2 for yesterday!!

Lysette!!! Welcome back!! We missed you!!! How was the holiday?!?
Shame you'll have to keep on shagging...
Hope you're not too disappointed, I'm sure it'll happen soon for you.
Hope Jacob had a lovely birthday

Hi First Fancy a virtual drink in the beer garden later

Hi HC!!! And everyone else I may have missed out.

Best do something...

Annie

yes I think tent and tunnel, Toby may get a look in when H in bed occasionally I suppose

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO THE DELECTABLE LEO!!

Poor Junior, Pretty Mum, hope he's ok soon!!

Annie that's hilarious re your DH, sounds so like the wind-up merchant i married. His favourite sentence on Monday night after I had iced BF's cake was "MMMMMMMMmmmmmm, think I'll have a MASSIVE slice of birthday cake with my cup of tea in a minute" HAR HAR HAR not.

Hello ladies

Happy Birthday Leo !

prettymum-aw, poor Junior. Hope he is better soon. How exciting, a lovely winter wedding to organise.

Well, here is the story of last night. Have a migraine (grrhh) and was so tired I was glad to get an early night. Was woken at 12-30am by Sophie screaming so I rushed in and picked her up and she did a massive burp and projectile vomited in my mouth (yeuch) and all over me. In shock I threw her down so the sick went all over her cot and toys and somehow reached the bit of carpet near the window. Bathed her and changed clothing and towels 4 times over 3 hours. DH cleared off to bed and left me to it in the end. Sophie seems fine today (fingers crossed) but Em is complaining of tummy ache-ho hum!

Annie-clever, clever Kayley. She will be speedy soon no doubt.

Jeanie-how's things? Chat away.

Bloss-tents and tunnels are an excellent choice and we may even get the weather to use them soon

Lysette-keep your chin up, you'll get that +ive very soon

Beadmum-Charlotte is doing well isn't she? Those wobbly steps are so funny to watch.

Righty ho, that's all for now folks. Hi to kayzed, Ceebee, Twinkle, Madness, Impy, castille, infact all of the gang.

xxx

Hiya all,

This is gonna be long so just ignore it if you can't be bothered.

DS and DD1 are from a previous relationship. We split up when I discovered he was cheating on me whilst pregnant with DD1 and also as he was taking drugs, not coming home etc.. Anyway, I stupidly got back with him so needless to say he carried on along those lines.

After DD1 was born things had got that bad with drugs, other girls, stealing money from me, taking my car, etc that I decided enough was enough and asked him to leave. This is when things turned nasty and he became not only mentally, but physically abusive. This carried on for a while until I finally got brave enough and started calling the police and got rid of him that way.

Anyway, that's when DD1 was around 2. I already knew my now DP as I worked with him and we started a relationship just after DD1's 3rd birthday.

My xp has always had contact with the kids and has through me pestering him seen them fairly regularly. As the kids have grown older they have shown less and less interest in going with him to the point where they will hide behind chairs etc just so he can't take them.

It got soo bad just after Christmas that I had to leave a wedding I was at to go and collect them because Ross had a total meltdown. He hates xp's girlfriend cos she continuously shouts and is horrible to them (but especially Ross). Since then the amount of time they spend with him has dwindled to a few hours on a Sunday (Ross), but DD1 hasn't been with him for 9 weeks now. (They don't see the gf anymore).

After this I decided that a proper sense of family was important so asked the kids if they wanted to change their surname to mine. (DD has used my surname at school, Brownies etc for 3 years now anyway). The kids wanted to so we did.

I know this is very long, and I'm sorry!!

I didn't bother saying anything to xp as I knew what his reaction would be and was looking for a suitable time to tell him. Anyway, for the first time ever he decided to turn up to DS's school play. At the end of the play they put pictures up of the kids with their names on top. So, obviously not the best way, but he found out.

He has gone balistic and told the kids that he didn't want to see or speak to them again until they changed their names back. Since then he has been to a solicitor to try and get it changed and to try to get parental responsibility for them. He has also told everyone that I have stopped him from seeing them and I have been called evry name under the sun by him, his gf, his mum etc. I didn't change them to get back at him at all, just to help my family be more of a unit.

Right, I'm going to stop now, there is more but I have been going on for ages.

What do you girls think??
Do you think I was wrong to ask the kids, change their names??

I haven't slept properly for a week cos I'm so worried.

I'm really going to stop now, thank you if you managed to get this far.

Love

Jeanie
xx

happy birthday leo!!!!!

hey jeanie - don't think you were wrong - sounds like you had enough problems with him in the past, and it was the dc's choices - you didn't impose it on them.

posted a huge long message earlier and my laptop crashed grrrrrr. basically dh and i are going through a real rough patch at the moment, which culminated in a huge argument in front of jacob this morning , but it does seem to have had the effect of dh pulling his socks up.

on another note, jacob is now not going into his cot awake. he gets onto all fours and just wails. he won't be put in it to play either, or even to let me go to pee! any advice? put it this way, when he wakes in the middle of the night, he ends up coming in with us because he won't go back to sleep in his cot. not ideal.

on a good note, he has cut his first top tooth and i can see at least 3 more up there waiting to come through!

on a bad note the horrid woman who owned our house before us has left us with a flea infestation - so far i've spent about £200 trying to get rid of them - sprays and pest control people and there are still a few jumping around. any ideas there too? are those bomb things the way to go?

sorry for the odd disjointed email but can't really think too straight at the moment. had bp taken at the docs today and it was really high (well he said it was really high, it wasn't really for me) but i am steadfastly refusing to take medication because you can't take it while ttc or while pregnant.

anyway, see you all later, hi to everyone i missed and poor you HC - I've not had vomit in my mouth yet, although picking fleas off my sons head at 830 in the morning after a 11 hour flight from thailand with no sleep has got to be up there!

shall we start a "most revolting thing" list???

xxx

Jeanie, no wonder you can't sleep my sweet. He is their father which you respect but he is being very unreasonable over the whole thing. He is causing obvious distress to his children-can't him or his family see this? The children are old enough to know what they want to do and I can see no reason why changing their surname is causing him a problem. There are lots of times that when a mother remarries the children change their name. Are his family being nasty by ringing you? If so, any chance of you changing your phone number? I would suggest that you have a little chat with a solicitor just so that you know your rights and this may be a way of stopping things turning any nastier. He will always have parental responsibility-he's not going for custody is he? He is being petty over refusing to see his children until they change the name back. This is verging on blackmail and by doing this he is only spiting himself as he is the one missing out.

Sorry the post is slightly muddled. The others will be along soon to help. {{hugs}}

xxx

Lol-Lysette. Fleas-yeuch too! I know when work used to get fleas in the carpets the men had to come and fumigate the carpets. Not heard of bomb things. Sorry things aren't going too well for you all. Hope you don't mind me saying but is TTC at the moment the right thing to do? {{hugs}}

xxx

HC - I actually had that thought when jacob was refusing to go back to sleep last night and insisted on playing at 130 am! God that sounds awful ,but what i actually thought was "how will i cope if this carries on and i'm pg?"

things with dh will sort themselves out, he is under a lot of pressure at work and has forgotten that he needs to respect me as well. It's all too easy to take it out on the people closest to you. I reminded him of that this morning which wasn't well received at the time but appears to have hit home. Tomorrow morning he has already asked if we would like him to have breakfast at home with us, which means he will be going in a lot later, so is a big deal (although I know it doesn't sound like it)!.

O'h and great response to Jeanie - what I meant to say but really couldn't put together Jeanie - I agree, a word with a solicitor can't hurt.

Jeanie - I think the name thing is just representative of his frustration. An easy way to lash out at you and blame you for something. It's all very well him going mad about them not having the same name as him, their parent, yet he is unable to act as a suitable parent in all other ways that it matters....he is being immature, hostile and IMO acting inappropriately.

I can completely understand your reasons for the name change thing and also your kid's desire to change their name to yours - unfortunate that he wasn't told though, even if it was only to inform him as a decision you and the kids had mae, not needing his permission. Him being in the dark about it now gives him ammo which is a shame, he is just clinging on the the "injustice" of it, rather than facing the real issue which is that he is upset his kids don't want his name any more because he has sucked at being a dad. Should have thought about that before shouldn't he..

Poor you. He's being a knob. He'll get over it. Hugs.

Lysettes - Jacob could be getting up purely because of the teeth? Will probably go back to normal when they are through. I read once that night waking for the first 18 months is almost always down to teeth...Yuk re fleas, sympathies, my sister has them in her new house too....Grrrr re DH, glas he seems to have "heard" you, well done for taking him to task..

maybe give Jacob some Medised then some milk, and a cuddle? Sends my two out like a light, but doesn't work with all kids I have discovered on MN.....

Jeanie - I echo what everyone else has said. I don't think you were wrong to change their names but it sounds like your xp is hiding behind the fact that he wasn't told about it rather than facing up to the fact that his parenting skills are lacking. I would also seek a solicitors opinion just for your own peace of mind

Lysette - hope Jacob improves but I have learnt that baby's go through phases (listen to me the expert ) - Josh had a phase where he woke up most nights and ended up in bed with us - it lasted a week maybe and now he has not been in our bed for at least 2 weeks. So take heart, it will pass....

HC - poor Sophie...but uuggh - in the mouth! Poor you aswell. Hope she and Em are both ok.

Well - check me out - I now have my own office (only temporarily mind as one of my colleagues is moving in - but still!) Never had my own office before and think I might get a bit lonely as I am used to having people to chat to - but at least I can MN in peace!

Well guess I had better go and do some work.

Ds is standing up loads by himself now and has taken about 9 steps but he?ll only walk if it?s between people! Wont do it otherwise.

Ive had some good news the test came back negative, still not convinced though as the receptionist who gave me the result didn?t really seem confident but I guess the gp will think I am bonkers if I call him again. I still feel as if things are moving and kicking me though! Bizarre.

We also had some bad news because the house wed finally decided to go for our offer was rejected and the same day they had the asking price offered and they accepted it. So after not getting any offers in over 6 months they get 2 in one day. Now I know we cant have it I am gutted as I had been planning it in my head. It would?ve been too much of a stretch anyway I guess but now I want it. I didn?t even want to move before but it did have everything I wanted except it needed a lot of modernising and we wouldn?t have had any spare money to do that. Whats worse is that ive found out it?s a friend of a friend whose bought it and when we put our offer in the estate agent didn?t tell us another offer had been made because we could?ve offered the asking price too. I thought the estate agent was a pri*k and im right he is.

Heres a pic of the cake I am attempting to make DS for his birthday. I have never iced any sort of cake before so this will be a real test at least theres a 24hr tesco if its a disaster.
Im modifying it slightly as ive got play doh cutters to do the cars and trains instead of freehand painting and im going for a vehicle theme not the trains.

www.cinderellacakes.com/images/Bday1st/slides/Bday1st-33.JPG

well last night was a bit better. went down like a lamb at 7, but then woke yelling at 745. took till 830 to settle him and he chugged another 140ml of milk, on top of the 260 he had drunk at 7. wondering if hunger could be anything to do with it....

and when he then went into the cot (on the third go!) he opened his eyes briefly and got onto all fours, but then actually got himself back down and thumb into mouth and off to sleep!

woke at 2, and bloss, great minds, half shot of medised and milk and cuddle and he went back into the cot - again opened eyes on impact but settled himself straight away!

then woke again at 530 and came in with us but that's early morning so i don't mind that so much.

teeth cutting through really well, so hopefully this is the cause of it!

kbaby glad you are still getting -ve results, even though you're dubious about them.i mean glad in that i know that's what you wanted. is it worth going to get a scan done to settle your mind? or will the docs not let you? i know it sounds silly but it will at least give you the once and for all answer!

my mum's second diagnosis on parkinson's is inconclusive - the specialist said he was completely unsure and has referred her for more tests - measuring dopamine levels etc. now just deciding if they can fork out over a grand for them privately or wait months on the nhs....