March 2007 - can't keep up

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Hi all -miss a few days due to nightmare things happening at home and I can't keep up now - so started a new thread. Perhaps thought we could remind each other when babes were born - I have lost track at who is the oldest etc.

Been busy here. Prac nanny is okay but hard work - feel like I can't totally relax in my own home etc. She is not sure how to deal with /take dd1 - making it hard. Dd1 had major meltdown after swimming the other day and then at hospital appt, then nanny took eyes from her for a second and she is finally found out on the footpath beside a major road and a sensible and lovely man brought her back. Unlike hospital volunteer who managed to stop dd1 taking a lift anywhere but when she could not get dd1 to hold her hand - she just left her It is clear the minute you speak to dd1 she has special needs FGS. poor nanny student was beside herself.

Saturday dh was gone all day on training exercise and dds only wanted daddy - long day. I managed to get out to a trivia night - MY TEAM WON - i found the questions very easy and answered most of them ( not bragging- just surprised my brain still functioned) I took dd3 - she would not go to sleep - come 11pm still wide awake and beyond over tired... got her home - to see dd2 in bed with dh cause she had an explosive puke that covered everything in her room. She was still up at 1am puking and I had dd3 still crying as she was exhausted.

so long rant - long few days - I am wrecked!!

dd3 - 12 weeks old.

piffle-is your dp happy to uproot you all?has he considered the impact on the family?

sponge-dont think i'll be bothering with a garter.in fact i feel a bit about the whole thing atm.

Elsie hasnt even had her 8 weeks jabs yet

Diva, I have cut some grass yes. More to cut tomorrow. V lazy dh unfortunately.

Pifle I really sympatise, quite apart from anything else moving is such an upheaval for everyone. Go with your gut instinct.

Sponge, em is due her 16 week jab next week and has been fine with the others. I am very undecided about her mmr in a few months time though, I am considering paying for seperate jabs.

piffle, sorry i wasn't very helpful. i have never been in that position, but i guess as long as its better long term for you all? we are moving soon, but its not the same at all, no schools involved etc. is your dh going to live up there during the week then for now?

diva, whats the matter, are you getting the wedding jitters? i am much better since i tried on a dress and got all excited. my dp has started having night sweats since he got his new suit

think will have mmr sep as well, keep hearing stories that it makes babies slow. still its a long way off...

Hasan has been wide awake since 5.30am. He has done his armageddon nappy. He's also not well though.
He can sit up a bit now, I surround him in cushions and he sits there like a little weeble with feet sticking out, then he wobbles around and in slow motion goes head first into a cushion. Haven't got a bumbo thingy.
He is so comical and cute.

I am in a sweat with this bug.

Piffle I really feel for you. Of course I have said "stuff that!", "I'm not budging with the children, you know where we are sort of thing."
I love dh but after years of the long distance thing our marriage is a bit crap and I'm lonely and alone in it....Not highly recommended!
But I think it can work better if it is short term. Is he likely to stay in this job or does he like a new challenge every couple of years? That's why I stayed put in the end, because dh is a wanderer.

Hasan has just thrown up all over me!

Hi,

I was wondering if i could join this thread. I am MN who does a lot of lurking for company! with a bit of chat here and there.

DD2 was born on the 15th March and is now 16 weeks. DS1 is 21 months and FINALLY calming down after the inital hideous temper tantrums after DD was born.

We moved to the British Virgin Islands 3 weeks after DD was born so life has been hectic and mad and to be honest lonely, frustrating and sad. I miss home alot and find this place very alien.

DD is doing amazingly well and very happy. Can't stop the bloody night feeding which drives me nuts as DS slept through at 5 weeks. Although DD just found her thumb so sleep is coming easier now. No routine (! - which freaks me out) but learning to chill a little more and go with her flow as she is a precious princess in comparison to her head strong, independant brother.

Piffle I really don't know what is best; your dp is asking a lot of you and the dcs to all uproot and move somewhere else; he knew the commute would be bad when he went for the job. I don't know what to suggest, what does your ds1 think btw? He is a teenager now is he at that age where he has loads of bezzie mates he'd be loathe to leave?

Diva why are you feeling about the wedding?

Lunar that jumper's ridiculously cute, buy it!

Jay will have a look at your photos in a minute.

Bertie is being a tad grizzly now so may have to interrupt this at any time...

Lily how is your dh now?

Missis where in Liverpool are you from?? I am in St Helens... but I am a scouser originally.

Will have to go and get Bertie I think.

X posts welcome Barefeete my ds is an all night feeder too.

Thanks Mossy - are you doing anything to try and stop the night feeding or just going with the flow?

just realised forgot this:

DS1 - Sam (AKA the monkey)
DD2 - Molly-May (AKA the pixie, Molls, Molly Moo Moo, Moo's)

Congratulations Jay! I just know I couldn't do such a small gap! DD still just seems so new still..

We bought a bumbo yesterday, having not seen this thread first. Tried her in it in the shop and she just grinned and grinned. I was amazed how soft they are- they look like the hard potty plastic.

I've had a cold for the last few days and it has been awful. Bad enough with the endlessly running nose but the feeling of being completely spaced out that goes with it is definitely the worst bit. Commiserations to my fellow sufferers.

Hi to barefeete. Is it just the two kids you have? Don't mean to be pedantic but on MN we generally only use the numbers after DS and DD because we've got more than one of each sex... otherwise it gets a bit confusing. If people have just one of each you only need use DS and DD (for example I have DD1, DS1, DS2, DS3 and DD2 in that order). Sorry this sounds snotty however I word it but when I read your post I thought if you had a DD2 you must also have a DD1 and wondered why you hadn't mentioned her [thick emoticon]

Hi Barefeete! My baby was born on 15th March too. I love your childrens names.
Hasan also feeds at night and I'm totally going with the flow.

Evenhope, I'm spaced out too, I hope you feel better soon!

Mossy, who knows how dh is -certainly not me...(I'm a terrible wife!)
Well, what I do know- he is borderline diabetic apparently and he's feeling ok and taking his medicine.
But he's getting stuck into opening that takeaway now, of course.

sorry to all those with colds ... we need the bloody sun to put in an appearance.

Tranny - are you able to swap your flights?? Could you book a holiday for you and the dh and dcs somewhere cheap and last minute and force him to come???

welcome barefeete - sounds like a big move for you... did you move through your dh's work? If so, do they not have any support network for you?

piff - it's a tough one... I'd be tempted to move (but then i'm a serial house mover) and I love going to new places. However, my kids hate it - and the older they get the harder it is to do it to them. What does your ds1 think? Would it move him nearer or further from his dad?

evenhope - i cant wait 4 my bumbo to arrive

Congratulations to Jay - hope you are feeling ok, you must be shattered!

evenhope - sorry to cause such confusion. Will promise to do better next time. TBH it must be me who it the thicky as i have been on MN for about a year and a half and always thought that the number suggested the order of child within family! ie DS1 = first born sone and DD2 second child, daughter!!!!! My mistake. Will start to watch Baby Einstein with greater concentration to see if that helps. if you notice any more confusing threads feel free to slap me!

Lily - 15th March is a special day apparently. Eides of March, not sure tbh why, something to do with Shakespeare and Caeser but DH got very excited about it!

Thanks also Muppet, move was a huge thing for us all but especally DS. But life is calmer now if a little lonely. But just been to coffee with a new friend and had a fab time. In fact a girl who carribeanqueen on MN put me in touch with and she is really great. Also i have a bumbo for Sam and he still loves it now at 21 months. Molly is starting to use it a bit now but doesn't want to be in it for long though. Good for weaning when i pick up the courage to do that again!

Barefeete, great that you are making friends.

Isn't the eides of march the day that caesar gets stabbed in the back by brutus and co? Is your dh a shakespeare fan then? I didn't want to give birth on the 15th because the date had sad connections for me but now it is Hasans birthday, so it's a happy day

Muppet, dh won't go on holiday with us. We are going to scotland early August, he won't come, then Donegal end of August...still hoping to persuade him but not hopefull. I changed the flights to August but want to see him before that.
I wish he would just come and live with us.

Barefeete - dont want to jump on the band wagon but Emily was also born on the 15th March, I will keep her away from any Romans now I know about the eides of March

Mossy - not too far from the airport, Hunts Cross, originally from Woolton.

Lily - DH not a big shakespeare fan funily enough so will ask him why it is good luck! We had a few rouge days surrounding the 15th that were bad days for us personally. 15th is also my grandmothers birthday, she is in the early stages of Althzimers and was so so chuffed that Molly was born of her birthday. She said at the time that she was a special girl for her - although now is very confused about who Molly and Sam are which is sad. I am glad though that 15 th turned into a happy day for you.

Piffle, that sounds like a real PITA. don't know what to advise though.

I had some bad news yesterday. My mum's cousin, who is basically another aunt to me - she lived with my mum's family after her parents died in her teens, and her three daughters are ages with me and my sisters, and we used to spend lots of holidays together when young - has been diagnosed with lung cancer. As far as we know, it's only in one lung, but we don't know what the prognosis is yet. She's such a vital woman, always been very fit and active, and I can't believe this dreadful disease has got her. My mum is really upset. They've had their ups and downs over the years but they have so much history together. The thing is, she lives in Scotland, where my mum is from, so she can't just pop round to see her very easily.

CAllie I'm so sorry that is devastating news. No real knowledge about lung cancer but I did used to have a teacher who had only one lung after having one removed in childhood due to a tumour?
Here is hoping that she has a good outcome and it has been diagnosed in time to do something practical to help her beat it.

Well do and I talked
plan A settled on a plan where he can stay over 1-2 nights a week to ease commute.

If paln A not suiting after 6 mths we agree to sell up
infatc I conceded that moving (should the job prove perfect) was our only option and that we should do a few things to the house to get it ready for selling next spring

DS1 ok about it actually... he would be closer to his father who lives in Kent.
Neeed really to move him before GCSE coursework start in yr 10 he starts yr 9 in Sept.

Not sure how I'm feeling tbh, excited and hopeful but defeated and powerless as well

Lily know how you feel
firsy yr of our relationship do working in Brussels hoem at weekends.

Then when we moved up here he lvied away during the week until this January (over 18 mths) it sent both of round the twist so we know our limits of endurance...
Anyway enough self indulgence

Hope everyone had a nci weekend, despite crap weather (well it was here)

Once again I have missed far too much and have no hope of catching up

Hope everyone is okay

Congrats to Jay

Morning all,

Barefeete I'm just going with the flow with the night feeds for now. It really doesn't bother me most nights as I just feed him lying down and often find myself drifting to sleep on my side with him attached!

When I have to go back to work I might see if I can start trying something different at nights; maybe taking turns with dh if I can express enough milk, it depends how up for it dh is!

Evenhope sorry about your cold, hope it clears up for you soon!

Missis do you get into town much these days? I have only been in the once since having Bertie! When the new Primark opens though, I've a feeling there may be a few more trips in! I am from Kirkby originally, for my sins!

Callie I'm sorry to hear about your Auntie. I hope there is a positive outcome for her, and your Mum gets chance to go see her.

Piffle sounds like you've made a hard decision, but do you feel any better now you've made it and you at least don't have the uncertanty?

Dh and I had another chat at weekend, mil took Bertie and we had a few glasses of wine and a lovely takeaway. Dh has been much better since. Still no apology mind, but he has helped out much more, stopped with nasty comments, that kind of thing. So I'm hoping things might be on the up.

I also really need to pluck up the courage to send that letter to my Dad. I've left it so long, mainly because of all the crap with dh, I wanted that sorted before I - essentially - invite the stress back into my life again. But I do want to tell him, and I do want to send the letter.

Have to phone the Doctor's today to arrange Bertie's second set of jabs...

X posts hello Theblonde hope you're okay!

Hi to everyone!!

Piffle, I am glad that you have come to some sort of agreement with your dh. It is amazing how resilient our children can be.

Poor you Rosy, not feeling the best and still not able to get down and check on your dh.

We had a brilliant weekend and, although the weather has been very overcast, I am suffering a touch of sunburn. Obviously baby sunscreen doesn't work on Mummies too!! On Saturday we went to Diggerland in Kent with six other families. Kate got a nice touch of sun which has given her a lovely colour. Yesterday, a group of friends did the Race for Life in Blackheath which was fabtastic.

Last week of school for my big girl - she keeps reminding me it's her last week ever at primary school!!

Sorry about the news of your aunt Callie - hopefully she will remain strong throughout this process and continue to be an inspiration to your family.