April 2007 - feeling broody already? shoot me now ................

[EllieK]

not feeling terribly imaginative but wanted to get a new thread going so i could send out the round-up

Oh, I feel so guilty when you report on problems with your husbands and partners, Mike's so good really and I was so ticked off with him last night, it's really not his fault he was ill. I feel like a total bitch.

mammyjo, hope you sort something out with dh. Maveta, all I can say is well at least you have us to moan to about yours. He's tactless to report his conversation with this other dad of a new baby, but you know what you do do. Take care.

Hi Elkie. Glad you got a bit of support from your mum. Dh has just phoned me again and is being extremely nice! I feel awful when I keep on having a go at him on here as I really do love him and would be distraught if anything was really to go wrong between us. TBH, I think my tolerance is much lower just now what with having a young baby and a 4 year old to look after. I am sure everyone can relate to being short tempered at times due to very busy life and very little time for me (make that no time for me!).

I found getting hold of the tax credit form more hassle than filling it in but I'm not holding my breath for the response, I just know I've done my bit of it, so they should do the backdating etc. I panicked a bit about exact figures for our income but realised that the things I was worrying about make no difference to the amount we're entitled to.

I thought the child benefit form asked really hard questions, and that there are lots of obstacles to mothers of newborns making claims for any benefits in time at a point when everything just takes so long and is hard to find time for. Respect to any of you who have to make claims for other benefits too, I don't imagine housing and council tax benefit forms have got any easier!

hello all

ernie in cot moaning - ds2 asleep in car - can't decide whether to get oen or other out or leave them both to it!

I think ernie will either sleep in with us or in his pram - silly to take carrycot for one night. Thanks for the offer ooggs - its dh parents who don't have one and they are in Plymouth - my parents are seriously kitted out with stairgates, pushchairs, cots .... 9 grandsons!!!

Am off to rescue ernie

Emmymummy - I´m going to go to the dentist in the next couple of weeks anyway and ask about getting them out. They´re not really far enough through to pull yet though, or weren´t last time I checked (and they don´t seem any further through than then) worth asking though.

Elkie - no I can´t complain about dh.. he´s a star really - just thought i´d share - while we (for the most part) think we are staying pretty sane, they guys obviously do think we´re half baked these days! lol

Hi ladies. We are back from the clinic and the jabs. K was really good tbh.

Emmy, sorry you are feeling rough and that S has a funny tum. Hope you are both feeling better soon.

I feel yuk this afternoon - don't think my inhaled lunch agreed with me .

Hello! Did I fall asleep and miss summer??? Just been at school sports and at the nursery ones this morning, and am totally frozen. Not sure how I'm managing to type at all! DD did well and got a second and a third in her races so pleased as punch (me too, I was always last at running and sports day made me feel sick for days before... takes her sporty side of dh thankfully). Nursery sports didn't really have winners, but they all did well and were really cute. Bit of cheating by ds1 at the egg and spoon which everyone saw and was very funny. And best of all ds2 slept through both as I really didn't fancy feeding him outside in the cold .

Glad to see it is not just me with insensitive dh/dps! Dh has probably been the best ever this time round BUT has still told me where to go a number of times and also, at the beginning, said "well you wanted three kids, of course you are tired" any time I even mentioned being exhausted . Firstly it wasn't an immaculate conception and he did agree, secondly there is tired and there is unnecessarily tired because dh hasn't got up to ds1 during night/helped with morning/tidied up his own mess etc etc. I'm sure there is a "thirdly" and "fourthly" - you can imagine... think he has learned not to say it again! hope you all get sorted out this evening - Dh just phoned to say he's working late so prob he'll be tired and moan so it'll be our turn for arguing .

Did have more to say on your updates but sidetracked so have forgotten. Off to sit next to the radiator and warm up more!

Does anyone want to adopt two children?

Am sick to death of being a bloody mother.

3 year old AGAIN ran right into the middle of the road at school today, fgs after how many times have i told him.

Am sick to death of heart in the mouth moments and think i really have had enough of being a mother, what the fuck have i let myself in for.

RANT over and apologies.

Oh Pinions, I am with you, and I only have 2 kids to deal with. I can honestly say that I am finding B unlikeable at the moment, which is an awful thing to think. She is so rude and dis-respectful, and I have no idea what to do about her back-chat, name calling and lying. Super Nanny????

Right now i can't even describe what is going on downstairs have left dp to sort the mess out, but it sounds like ds1 is being hung drawn and bloody quartered.

I can say from the bottom of my heart that there are times when i really do NOT like being a mother at all and that the crap is more than the good.

FGS am sick of it all.

Pinions, I totally empathise. I often think what the f* have I done having another child, as I can't even deal with the one I had already. I find it quite soul destroying, and a real kick in the teeth when B is on a roll of badness.

It is completely soul destroying thats the only way i could describe it too. Sometimes the bad days just seem more frequent than the good.

TBH ds 1 has improved quite a lot over the last few weeks behavious wise its just that he has NO road sense at all and i am sick of it. It doesn't matter how much i tell him/show him i am just sick to death of it all. FFS its not that difficult to see that cars and lorries are fucking dangerous.

As for behaviour I would suggest you get a reward chart with stickers, that has more or less turned his behaviour around, and if he gets five stars by the end of week monday to friday he gets to pick his present. OK its blackmail but it works.

I then frogmarched him around the block looking like a complete nutcase with him kicking and screaming and believe it or not shouting i just want my mummy to add insult to injury with all the people up the road (who don't know us as well as the neighbours) thinking that i have just walked off someone else child.

What have i done?

and as for feeling broody you can forget it.

FFS...I had a swab taken at the docs last monday to test for infection. Doc said it would be done within 1 week...bloody receptionist tells me they aren't back and won't be here til middle of next week...that's over 2 weeks.

Sorry to hear of your probs Pinions...sorry no advice.

Am sick of it all.

sorry you're having a hard time, Pinions. I hope things start looking up soon and particularly your three year old learns to stop running into the road!

Does anyone else's baby just have radge days where they scream loads for no apparent reason? Usually B is quite an easygoing soul, bit grumpy in the evenings but nothing major. But today - it's like she's really bothered by everything. She got hungry earlier and within a couple of minutes (whilst I was getting bottle ready etc) she was screaming hysterically, I've never heard anything like it. My ears were ringing. She's been like this on and off all day - I thought she might be ill but her temp is normal and she seems otherwise fine.

Sorry you're having a shit time pinions...no advice I'm afraid...hope it gets better soon.

Gladyou're on speaking terms with DH now Mammyjo...sometimes men are just arses

SOKL - Hope you're ok, glad K jabs were ok...hope B's go ok tomorrow.

Nutty how did you get on with reading your notes?

Been at work today and the dentist. I find it hard to keep up when I can't keep checking in during the day.

I know what you mean Pinions - maybe a good swig of rescue remedy would help! I have a pulse thing from Origins which I dab on my pulse points and breathe in - makes me stop for a minute and calm down!

Also having a National No Shouting Day in the house works quite well! They have to comply aswell.

I am so knackered today - someday someone is going to invent sleep in a bottle you can just swig at and you feel like you have had sleep or tablets - 1 tablet= 3 hours deep sleep....

Must go - teatime and haven't even thought about it!

Ok I think I've put 3 pics of Erin on here one in her baby gym and 2 in her bouncy chair.

Let me know if it doesn't work.

Ange, the note reading went ok...handwriting was pretty awful. However I've found out why there was an error in my response letter. It seems the mw has noted the time at which she's written in the notes (putting everything that's happened since the last time) rather than the time the events occured. It was very useful tho and quite interesting.

Lazyemma - Erin sometimes has an off day. It often turns out she has a bit of wind that she's been holding onto or is wanting to do a poo . She was off for a couple of days after her jabs (cried whenever my sis held her unless she could see her daddy )

oh nuttygirl - Erin is so beautiful! that first picture is my favourite. She's got a lovely smile.

Rescue remedy it would take a lot more than that ffs octo!!!!!

Try valium/methadone or some sort of equivalent.

I really am sick of it and wondering when any of it will sink in.

fuck shit poo bum.

Off to console myself with some more fucking ryveta.

No binge eating no binge eating.

Pinions - sounds like you could do with getting out for a bit...for a run or something. Feel free to come round for a coffe sometime too (I'm assuming you drive)

Thanks Lazyemma - she hasn't been smiling for long and doesn't seem to like the camera so it's quite difficult to get smiley pics of her!!!

For a run lol nutty. If I went "for a run" tonight I wouldn't stop running.

Will take you up on your offer tho hate moaning to people in RL so will ahve to think up some cheery banter!

How about coming round for a vodka instead?

Your Erin is beautiful nuttygirl

Octo if you change your mind about the travel cot (one with a bassinette) I am in Plymouth most days to James' nursery.

Pinions - I can relate to the '3 year old' thing - I seem to spend all day shouting like a banshee at him