March 2018 newborns

[blinkineckmum]

Not sure if a thread exists already. If so, point me in the right direction.
Here's a place to celebrate our bundles of joy and find support for everything from stitches to breastfeeding, partners and sleep and anything else we may come across in the early days to challenge us!

@Clevs the same here with the fists in the mouth and the legs constantly kicking and making nappy changes bit of a workout. We started a 4 week baby massage course this week and he seemed to like it. A little unsure at first but he only got upset once for less than a minute then he just appeared fascinated.

Hi Ladies...Sleep problems continue here. Down at 11.45 pm then awake at 2.30 pm and what seemed like each hour following (but might have been slightly longer)...she is sleeping it off now, whilst I feel grumpy and irritable! Hands in mouth and feet kicking galore. DD also seems to suffer from an hour (or two) crying in the evening, not sure what this is but it is almost like clockwork...wind or teeth I think, she seems generally well in herself otherwise and is gaining weight etc.
I am not waking dh at night if I can help it because he drives my other children to school/swimming/shopping etc. and I want him to be able to drive safely but I am finding it all a bit punishing. I plan to stop breastfeeding at six months (dd approaching 3 months) and although I really do not want to wish time away, I am beginning to struggle with lack of sleep and looking after my other two dds. I think it will be better quality of life for all once baby dd is sleeping a bit more through the night and I remember this happening when my other two children were weaned. Hey, ho...I've got to make the most of it, I know but....ah, if only there was more sleep involved!

@lavenderdays it sounds tough but you are doing a great job and it will get better. I struggle with grumpiness when I don't get much sleep too. I almost begrudge DS his naps during the day when I know I can't do the same. But then I remind myself he is still tiny and is actually a pretty good baby. He has hourly wakings after 3/4am too, but he isn't hungry (ff) just struggling to resettle. A quick sooth or cuddle tends to send him back off but it is still broken sleep for me.

Thanks MrsL

Last night wasn't quite so bad in that she woke at 2.30 but didn't settle back down until 3.45 but then slept through until 6.30 am and I consider that a good night.
Also, dd has a cry for about an hour at the same time each evening (within a two hour window)...we think it could be wind or it could be teeth...does anyone else's little one do this?

Hi, how is everyone and your little babies!

My little one is 10 weeks on Thursday!

What do all think about daytime naps? I know the experts say that until 6 months if the baby is sleeping they should be in the same room as you, but my dd (3.5yrs) keeps waking the baby up. Would it be bad to settle the baby for her nap upstairs in her Moses basket with a monitor on?

What do you all think?

I have put my in her Moses basket in my bedroom with the monitor on and she has been fine I have done this with all my kids at some stage because of the noise downstairs as long as you can hear them and maybe check in on them I think they will be fine.

Thanks ragdolly. I think I might next week as I feel really bad trying to sush my older daughter all the time when she’s trying to play. Makes me such a mean mummy and makes days so stressful. I’m thinking as long as in baby sleeping bag and room cool with video monitor on, maybe we’d all be happier.

Would be interested to hear any other points of view though?

@lavenderdays how you getting on now? Re the crying/unsettled baby in evenings Yes indeed, this baby and my older dd have both done this from about 7pm until 9.30/10.00 and I think is just a baby cluster feeding thing (trying to get full up before long night ahead, but then get overtired and can’t settle). Think it just gradually got better and I’ve just written off evenings (don’t get anything done) and just watch tv and cuddle!

I think your nighttime sleep sounds similar to mine too. My dd goes up to bed with me at 11ish and then will wake about 3.30am and then go back off till 7ish. We’ve had a few nights where she didn’t wake till 5.30 but was not better really as hard to get back to sleep when you’ll have to get up soon!

Hi Vicky...thanks for asking. We are still having crying evenings but they seem to be lessening. Sleep pattern pretty much the same - not anticipating much change until she is weaned at 6 months and so, trying to go with the flow. Also strategies in place so that I can have 3 or 4 lie-ins each week (might have to change in Summer hols) but I think this is what is keeping me sane. older dc starts school in September which fortunately coincides with weaning. fingers crossed x

Fingers crossed!

Hi how is everyone doing?
Ds is now 19 weeks old. We have gone from going to bed at 10 feeding once during the night and him getting up at about 6/7 to feeding every 2 hours again.
My mum is convinced he is hungry and thinks we should consider evening spoon feed but hv recommended waiting to 26 weeks. Are you planning to wait to the 6 month mark for weaning?
Hope you are all well

My Hv said new guidance is to ignore the 6mth previous guideline. She said now what they advise is that baby must be able to sit up on their own and must be able to pick food items up and bring to their mouths. Some babies are ready before 6 months and some much later.

I wouldve thought the nighttime waking may be a sleep regression/growth spurt so best not to rush and change anything as they may just pass through this. Maybe just more/milk feeds during day?

He cant sit up himself unaided, can sit in a shooting position of held on knee or in high chair for short periods.
I honestly don't know how I could do more milk feeds during the day. He is breastfed on demand but rarely goes more than 2 hours - occasionally we get to 3 hours but only if he has fallen asleep.
In reluctant to introduce any solids yet but the night feeds and tiredness is difficult. I would think growth spurt but it started a few weeks ago .. First week I put it down to hot weather, second week to him having had his injections now we are on week 3. He does seem to be really hungry every time he wakes during the night.

Think sleep regressions/ growth spurts can go on a while.....maybe give it another week.

I know you are bfeeding, how do you feel about a formula top up? I think bfeeding coaches would say it may effect your supply and to just keep going with exclusive breastfeeding though and it’ll work itself out. Some have good results with one top up though...

But maybe wait see if is growth spurt first x. Or could be extra thirsty due to heat. Hope you get better sleep tonight x.

Thanks @Vickylou78

I have given him 110ml of formula this evening to see if that will help. (He won't take any more of it but is now bf) I figure ds feeds so often it couldn't possibly affect supply that much.
Im off work for the summer (teacher) but am back full time from 2nd last week in August so I'm going to need him to be taking a formula for at lady 1 probably 2 feeds a day so I don't mind him getting formula occasionally before that

Vicky, the crying in the evening seems to have eased now thank goodness (dd is 17 weeks). DD is still following the same sleep pattern except like you mentioned, we did have a brief respite when she slept through to 5 am and then as you mentioned it was really hard to get back to sleep. We have had 3 particularly bad nights joined up (perhaps it is a growth spurt) but it's taking its toll now. I don't look forward to going to bed at night because I hate all the interrupted sleep, looking forward to the 6 month marker which was a turning point for my older dc in terms of sleep and coincided with them being weaned also. Don't want to wish time away and trying to enjoy every moment but it is so difficult when you are sooooooo tired!

Yes smurf a bit of formula definitely should hurt and may work out well for going back to work then even better!

Lavender and smurf - yes tiredness It’s so hard. I feel your pain! but I fear my hardship hasn’t started yet! My dd is sleeping well so far as sleeps most nights from 11.30pm till 7am. Occasional wake ups at 4ish. But she’s still very unsettled between 6pm and 9pm. But with my first dd she was exactly the same and slept through from 6 weeks but hit 6 months and then was waking every 45 minutes every night for weeks on end! I have feeling this one will be the same!!

Shouldn’t hurt!

Hello. Baby is fab. 4 months, so strong and smiley. Rolled over this week! Sleep is erratic! The heat doesn't help. I think they get thirsty. I am still having physio and still look pregnant but otherwise very happy!

Great to hear everything is going well @blinkineckmum
Awesome on the rolling over!!!
We haven't quite got that far although he is trying... Can get over to his side and stay there then he finds his hands and decides to chew them instead!
Well decided to try formula again tonight.. More successful getting him to take the bottle ds took the full 200ml and shouted for more that was at 730. Tried putting him down in his moses basket except he has different plans and shuffled his way over to the side of the moses basket grabbed the sheets and tried to suck on the basket.. Repeatedly.. His daddy tried lifting him and got his hands and shoulder sucked on also before ds started grumbling that he wasn't actually being fed. He is now breastfeeding again. I'm really not sure how such a little person can eat so much!

I haven't been able to shift any more weight. I put on 4 stone or thereabouts when I was pregnant (lost about 2 stone straight away after giving birth) so I have two stone still to shift. Not many of my pre-pregnancy clothes fit me, so wearing and washing the same old things because I am determined to lose weight once I have finished breastfeeding (at 6 months). I know I can lose the weight (with a lot of effort); I have done it before but it just seems impossible whilst breastfeeding - I am hungry nearly all the time and seeking out the calories. The extra weight is affecting my bladder as well I think...oh the joys, looking forward to trying to re-claim my body (but a part of me will be sad to finish breastfeeding especially as this is my last baby).

Can I join in and play too. Just discovered this thread and my daughter was born 31st March

Welcome avocado! How are you getting on?

Welcome @avocadoincident

Hi everyone, I finally feel like I'm emerging from a smog! Baby is just starting to sleep for more than two hours a time at night. How's everyone getting on?