September 2006: no longer baby babies (anyone feeling broody) !!

[Coriander73]

Hello...

haa! good point!

DH is keen to have a birthday party for DS with his friends and their mums here. I'm not sure. I think I'd rather a low-key family celebration. He has no idea how much work would be involved!

Cori - couldn't do the 15th either. Still fancy meeting up in the week sometime? Sorry you can't make it compo.

KK - don't want to find out the sex this time. Didn't know with DS and it was such a lovely surprise. I feel exactly the same as I did when pg with him, so maybe its another boy...

DS not himself today. Can't work out if its teeth or not. His front teeth at the top are right on the edge of coming through. He didn't eat all his tea tonight which is very unusual!

check this out It's only my other thread, nothing very exciting, but I can't believe the cheek of some people!

Bristols & all - We had a very low-key in-home bday for DS1's 1st, & it was sweet and nice - just watched it on the video.

For his 3rd last year though, whole different story. Parents and kids over for early Sat. night party with dinner, plenty of balloons, music & a disco ball. Beer and wine served too for the parents. Adults could have a night out without having to get a sitter & the kids had a blast. We'd be doing that again (Buzz Lightyear-themed this time ), but since house on market, having it at "Pump It Up" instead (inflatables for climbing, jumping, sliding).

What's interesting to me about Xenia is that, from her posts, she comes across as a good writer, very intelligent, with a high-powered, highly-paid career. And yet - she seems to lack tact. That's not a professional trait; won't be winning any friends that way or influencing any people (except negatively). For someone who values her career more than anything else, that is hardly business acumen. Xenia has a strong soapbox regarding the "brain drain" of SAHMs from the workplace. However, as my grandmother would say, "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar."

Welcome to mumof4!

Cori, forgot to say, congrats re your baby being officially beautiful! I'd be very proud. That's great!

Morning, I just saw the new HP movie trailor. I am soooo excited!!! It comes out just as I get back from holiday.

I'm just going to have a small teddy bears' picnic for DD's 1st birthday. There'll probably just be DD and my best friend's DD and then her aunties, Godparents, Grandparents etc. They'll all have to bring a teddy and I'm thinking of putting the paddling pool out, weather permitting for the kids and have a buffet teddybear style!

I can't believe it's raining again. It's just awful. There's a river at the bottom of our road and it's burst it's banks already. What happened to summer???

Awww how very sweet does a teddy bear picnic sound? i was wanting to have a little do with family and plenty of cousins, etc will arrive so there wont be a shortage of kids, here at home because i finally live somewhere with a nice front and back yard...errr...garden i mean. but there's no telling how the weather will be plus i'll have to pay extra to rent tables and chairs.

soooo, im wondering if it would be better (in more ways than one) if i just call the local working farm in llandudno to see what the rates are. this way i wont have to stress so much about everything...except the cost.

knowing me, i'll have such an issue and go all crazy about it and end up just having the 3 of us on a blanket in the garden. hehehe.....and maybe i'll bring along a teddy bear.

morning all!

how awful is the weather??? DS1 got up at about 3am this morning shouting for me and when i went in he said, 'it's just the wind blowing the trees mummy' but it had abviously scared him.
our kitchen window is leaking i have got jugs and bowls under it, i am not sure if i can claim on the house insurance, according to DH it's the brickwork above rather than the actual window, but when i came down this morning, a litre jug on the window sill was full

we go on holiday on saturday to cornwall....i really hope the weather improves.....

I think for DS2's birthday we are going to have a bbq, weather permitting!

Marls, agree about X. Interesting character.

Off to meet with my manager today to discuss going back to work. Feeling a bit nervous. I'm sure it will be OK but you never know, do you?

DS is making me giggle so much as i write this. >He is standing at my knees and keeps pressing the buttons. looks so serious and is so funny. sorry about typing but doing one handed. will let him say hello:

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Marls, agree about X. Interesting character.

Off to meet with my manager today to discuss going back to work. Feeling a bit nervous. I'm sure it will be OK but you never know, do you?

DS is making me giggle so much as i write this. >He is standing at my knees and keeps pressing the buttons. looks so serious and is so funny. sorry about typing but doing one handed. will let him say hello:

jo7n jnlnuj/n?@;/9o-==-

The weather is pants...making me feel really quite teary today...not good..I tell you it's jolly hard being at home..I thought I'd be so happy & be at peace with myself (sorry for cliche) but I'm all mixed up...hmm...what to do

BTW, I was trying to find the suggested christening presents messages from a few weeks ago but no avail...can anyone suggest anything again? Got do at weekend...

oh cori for you. but it has only been a matter of weeks so far, I am sure it will take adjusting to.
It always took me at least 3 months to settle into a new job and I have had a few
SAHM is a new career for you I guess.
Don't mean to preach or anything, but thinking of you.
just read your profile, why not go make muffins with your dd to cheers yourself up?

Oh fairysuff...kind words thank you! Yes, anybody watching Greys Anatomy? Well, Izzy baking muffins like a crazy woman after Denny dies..well that's me & DD at the moment!!! Hmm..yep, it's hard adapting but I do love being with them but it's just so hard - perhaps I thought I'd feel instant peace & statisfaction & I don't...does that make sense? Moreover a bad Mummy? Cripes....

Cori - what you are feeling now is exactly how I felt when i first became a SAHM. It is a massive adjustment and I had days when I was climbing the walls wondering why I had given up a well paid career to stay at home. I think you're probably being too hard on yourself to expect everything to slot into place. is your dh being supportive? You need lots of tlc and if you drink don't forget 6 o'clock is wine o'clock
I love Grey's Anatomy by the way.... I love McDreamy too

compo, you don't realise how much reassurance your words have given me! Perhaps I am being a bit hard, I don't know...DH is supportive to a point but he keeps on saying "but you wanted to spend more time with them so what's the problem?"...men......always so black & white

Cori, FWIW my DH would agree with you (as would I). Because I'm out of the house 7.30am to 6pm Mon to Fri (well, home one hour early on Fridays) and he works shifts, he spends half a day, 3 days a week with DS and on those days, works until 9/10pm at night afterwards and it is only since I've gone back to work (2 months ago) and he started looking after DS that he realises what hard work it is. He's taken a week off this week to decorate our room and do other jobs and have a bit of time off because he's so much holiday to use, 'cos he didn't take much while I was on maternity leave (kind of forgot!!), but DS is still at childminder, so he can get things done. Being a SAHM is definitely hard work - people forget that when you go to work you can have a coffee break, eat your lunch in peace, have a bad day, etc. but that is much more difficult when you've got DC (I can't imagine what it's like with 2). I'm sure you will find your own way forward and if it makes you feel better, just think that you don't have to spend time stuck in traffic in rush hour, you don't have to worry about office politics (I hope !), etc. and you're getting plenty of job satisfaction, with added rewards when your baby is voted most beatiful! Guess this doesn't carry much weight when I've only got one DS and I'm working full-time, but I hope it is of some help.
Might be coming to you for some advice soon - was declined to work 4-day week before I returned to work, but now our new Director has started, so I've been told I could resubmit my application, as she is more open to flexible working, so watch this space (btw hope that's not insensitive, just that I know you've been through it all).

Actually the point I was trying to get to with DH, was recently we had a discussion and he said "I don't get to just do what I want any more" (I replied, neither do I!!!!) and "it's really hard work, even though he's lovely to be with, it's just such a different way of life". So, you're not alone in this. Hope that all made some sort of sense.

Thank you

Cori - don't be so hard on yourself! It will take quite some time to get used to things. Give yourself that time and don't fret. You are NOT a bad mummy.

Got on well with my manager. Going back to work on Thursdays and Fridays. DH has half day on Thursdays so DS will only go to nursery one and a half days a week. It will be nice knowing which days I will be working. Boss is not keen on people doing set days but has agreed to try her best with plenty of notice if she needs me to change.

Just need to get DS into a nursery now... Sent off the registration form (and fee ) today so we'll see.

Am having a dreadful yearning (Craving??) for Tesco Finest choc chip cookies. Can't get hold of DH to get me some on way home from football. Is killing me!!

Jingle - Don't envy your working week. I really admire you. Where do you find the energy?!

Bristols - I'm glad it went well with your boss. Did you tell her you were pg?

Cori - The christening ideas were to dedicate a tree (the Woodland Trust do this), silver plate, silver cutlery. DS was givn lots of Peter Rabbit mugs and plates. When I went to one a couple of weeks ago, I bought some Asters as the baby was born in September and Aster is the birth flower for september. There are also lots of celebration roses you can buy for the parents to plant.

The weather has been terrible here today. Our whole town was flooded. I went to see a friend the other side of town at lunchtime and drove because it was pouring and by the time I left, all my routes back were blocked off so I had to go right out of town and and do a big circular route to come in from another direction. Nightmare. Luckily we're ok as we're on a slight hill but the water is about a metre deep in one part of town and a car is half submerged!
Sorry long post....

Does anyone know if Katie Price has had her baby yet? I saw her on Paul o Grady and she was bursting! She's usually in the news all the time so thought it a bit strange that all has gone quiet.

We've officially had a months rain in 24 hours. The river at the bottom of our road has completely burst its banks and has covered the farmers' fields. Our garage is leaking but so far it hasn't done too much damage. It's strange to think we were all doing rain dances around this time last year and now we're wishing for sunshine!

Oh, and Cori, my friend is a Nursery Nurse and registered as a childminder when she'd had her DD so worked from home so she could be a SAHM. She felt the same as you for a while but she loves it now. It doesn't help when it's grey and miserable outside but it will get better P.S I think it's dead annoying that this country sends so many jobs abroad including admin for the NHS when there's so many people, especially SAHM's who'd love to work from home in this country. Most work from home jobs available to us are cons. I know it probably costs more money to recruit people in this country but surely it would mean getting more people working and less claiming benefits? Political rant over

cori - hope you are feeling a bit more positive today...it doesn't help when the weather is pants and you are going stir crazy, those are the days i find so much more of a challenge. We got all the brio track out yesterday, but DS2 keeps ploughing through it and DS1 gets all cross with him!

Compo - love 6o'clock is wine o'clock - hee hee it is in this house...well maybe not tonight i am going to try a new class called yogalates..a cross between yoga and pilates.I have 3 days left to work on my beach bod , mind you that's if we get any sunshine on holiday!

can anyone give me some finger food inspiration? I am not doing BLW, but i would say 70 - 80% of what ds2 eats is finger food, and i am concerned that he seems to be living on a diet of cheese on toast and pasta shapes, plus fruit and veg, he hardly has any meat and i am concerned that he is not experiencing flavours that you find in sauces, like herby tastes, IYSWIM?

Hi Mabel,

Today has been better - DC at nursery just for the morning & then this pm we went for a long walk by the river to see ducks ended up on the swings! DD very tired & pushing me a bit this afternoon but that's to be expected! DS is bottom shuffling...very funny - incredibly subtle, you can't actually see him do it but he does move....

re finger foods, difficult to know what to suggest that perhaps you haven't done (assuming you've tried all manner of roasted veg etc?) As we're BLW, I guess most of his food is finger food (DH can't stand the mess & gives him spoons!).. etc but I was thinking would he take sausages? You can get those organic Helen Brownings in Sainsbury's that cook in 5 mins & are rather rasty & easy to hold....might be worth a go?

GGGRRRRRRRRRRRRR! That's better. Ds has been a nightmare the past couple of days. His top front teeth are coming through and he's really unsettled. I know he can't help it and he must be feeling awful, but it's bloody hard work! Poor little thing. It doesn't help that I have absolutely no energy.

Regarding finger food, what about some home made pizza? You could get loads of veg and meat on there and also experiment with different herbs. You could buy the pizza dough mix to make it a bit easier.

oh god, I can't keep up. Only been off for 5 days!! Aaargh!

Wedding was fab, although DH snored... But lovely to be away!! Back in reality now and at work.

will try and read all this later in the week, when I have a spare hour or two!!!....

Cori, glad you're feeling a bit better.
Bristols - where do I get the energy from? Where do you guys get the energy from to be SAHMs? That's much more energetic IMHO, although our admin team did offer to get me on a bungy today because I spent so much time toing and froing down the office for information, tee hee!