September 2006: no longer baby babies (anyone feeling broody) !!

[Coriander73]

Hello...

Munki - we have a 3.5 year age gap and it's lovely but we were trying for about 2 years and had 2 miscarriages in that time.

...we're sort of trying again...well we've sort of not been doing anything about it not happening but as I've been BFing a lot i'm not expecting it to happen for quite a while yet...

munki - we have 21 months between our boys. It was V hard in the early days as DS1 was in full tantrum mode...what fun, they are much less frquent these days thank goodness.

munki, we have 24 months & 12 days exactly between DD & J!!!!!! What you can gauge from this is that yes, we only have sex at Christmas...well almost!! I echo what mabel says that we hit the twos' straight on with DD so it was hard for the first 8-9 weeks but since then it's been on the whole pretty great. DD loves her brother to death - one day when he's bigger than her she'll get a shock when he clobbers her! - looks after him, he makes her laugh & vice versa & all in all I think it was the best decision to have no more than a two year gap (obviously we were extremely lucky to fall so quickly etc).

tassis...ohohaaa! So, how many are you after?!! I'd say to all of you trying for a second to go for it!!! Only children are a bit odd aren't they?!! (& obviously I hope I haven't offended anyone on this thread that happens to be an only child - all the ones I know are quite self obsessed odd & in many ways but are lovely people!!!) OK, I'm digging a hole here....bye bye

Ooh, looks as though it'll be a race between tassis and Munki for the next baby then...? At my RL post natal group, we have had a sweep stake on who will be pregnant first. There's a whole £6 to be won by the winner!

Cori - I would be livid if that happened to me at work. You must let your feelings known. Your MIL sounds lovely. It's great that you get on so well. I've never even met mine. She doesn't agree with DH's choice of wife. She's also never met DS

Myrtle - mine sleeps about the same too.

Mabel - exactly the same going on here with a very clingy little boy. It is exhausting.

Still only one tooth here. No crawling as yet but definitely getting into position and he seems to be able to move around the room OK with a comination of rolling, leaning, falling over and shuffling.

He danced for the first time yesterday! So, so cute. We had a good long weekend. Mainly just chilling out. Quite literally sometimes as it was soooo cold.

We're off to France for two weeks on Thursday. Can't wait. But so much to organise!

Just wanted to say hello, I have a sept 2006 little one, ALexander was born on the 23rd.

He is a large lad at 21lbs and has been wearing 9-12 month clothes for several weeks. We are still breastfeeding and he is eating just about the same as the rest of the family but in puree'd form (I have the blender by the cooker at all times) He loves finger food and is crawling but only backwards he commando style moves forward.

So that is us, I look forward to getting to know you.

Jen x

hello, just clocking in so I can find you later.

Age gap - we have 2 yrs 3 months between ours.

On the subject of next babies, I think we'll start trying at the end of the year. I reckon two years is a good gap, too. And I don't think we'll be stopping at two so we'd better get on with it...

Hi, Jen. Alexander sounds as though he is doing really well. Well done on still bf. You should be really proud of yourself Are you new to MN as a whole, or just this thread?

i am a lost cause... i am always broody. was pg with ds when dd1 was 8 months. now dd2 is 8 months i am broody again. need to put it out of mind this time though, as we are extremely skint, can't get a bigger car and have no space left in the house

new on mumsnet,

have been elsewhere on the net for a while but not seemed to findsomewhere to call home if you know what I mean. this seems friendly although am still trying to get used to the layout.

I think we are going to introduce some formula to the little man when we get back from holiday towards the end of June, I think I will be ready then to get my body back!

Thanks for being kind

Jen x

Welcome JenT...we're a great bunch

bristols, that's sad about your MIL My own Mother & sister haven't even met J yet....long long story. Yes, feel rather fortitous to have such a great relationship with MIL....she's a fab Grandma to my two & that means more than her being nice to me if that makes sense?! I reckon we can include you in the pg stakes on this thread too..!!!

Mrytle, J sleeps around the same. It will never cease to amaze me how after sleeping 12 hours straight (he wakes at 7am) he is then ready for another sleep at 9 for maybe 1.1.30 then will sleep again in the afternoon for another 1-2 hours!! Sometime he'll nap at 4.30 too....

A friend of mine had a baby girl on Sunday! We were all convinced that she was having another boy...! I'm so happy for her & even after seeing pictures of her new born I feel not in the slightest bit broody...for now....

thanks cori,

will sit back and read for a while I think

Jen x

Yes, Cori, it's nice for LOs to have good family relationships. I am starting to feel the isolation more and more. My parents are in France, my sister 150 miles away, my SIL 100 miles away and my FIL all the way up in Manchester. So, in a nutshell, we have noone nearby. In some ways it's good because it means that when we do see them, we spend a couple of days (at least) together. On the other hand, we also don't get to have that off-the-cuff time together which would be much less stressful as there wouldn't be so much planning involved.

Also, we have no babysitters on hand! Again, this makes everything much more of a mission. No 'popping out' for an hour or two for us.

yep, we have no family nearby either. PIL in Staffordshire, my Father in Herts, my Aunt & Uncle in Devon, DH's brother in London etc. I do think that we've totally lost the concept of what having an extended family nearby means. I talk to my Grandma (who is in Dorset) & she says back in her day & to some degree still in the 70's & perhaps early 80's families were, on the whole much more close knit & lived much nearer so were able to help out with babysitting & other ad hoc duties! Now it's extremely rare to have families on each other's door steps. That's what I most loved when I lived in Spain - the family get togethers, the noise, the interaction, the multitude of 1st & 2nd cousins, all sat round exchanging stories & enjoying a nice glass of vino tinto or beer - unlike we seem to be able to do in this country, wereby we drink to get drunk rather than to socialise..(I am generalising a bit obviously you get the jist!)....right, I'll shut up now shall I..gosh what rattled my cage?!

Bristols - Have a great time in France! That sounds wonderful.

Teafortwo - That's been our obsession for a while. Have hired realtor & our house goes on the market in 2 weeks.

We're still looking at one exurb of Dallas & 3 areas in Houston.

Was SO difficult to get used to the idea of moving from here at first. Now am in stage of resignation, not quite as painful. If this area grows a "big boy airport" we might be able to move back someday.

On the subject of relatives nearby - ever since we've returned from Jamaica I've had major burnout. Have a night out with the girls tonight - thank God - I really need it. Barely found a sitter as DH has an event tonight as well. If anything would put Houston over the top in the decision it'd be that my parents are there & more than willing to babysit!!

Oh - and welcome to JenT!

Just a kwikie for now to say WELCOME to jenT and Nally!

must sort out dinner, but i'll return to post something long, i'm sure.

ciao for now...

thanks for your welcomes,

we have been really lucky with babysitters as although my m&d are 30 mins away and dh's m&d are 1.5 hours away our next door neighbours are fantastic and they have a 17 yearold daughter who loves the boys and looks after them at the slightest opportunity.

anyway sad muppet that I am I am off to watch eastenders.

Jen x

Welcome to Jen and Nally

Ooh exciting stuff with Tassis and Munki thinking of next lo.
We have a 2 and a half age gap here. It's been fine but ds misd out on the terrible two's and seems to be really going for the god awful three's at the moment. I caught him today pulling a blanket from underneath dd to move her and bashing her on the head with a balloon. Bless her, se was just grinning at hm as she loves him so much but everything I ask him to do or not to do atm is met with a firm 'no'... lol.... If anyone has any tips please share

Hi Jen, hope you enjoy eastenders (for some reason it always makes me insanely depressed but there you go!) - I also have an Alexander, my DS2.

Have a rubbish memory at the moment but whoever was asking about sleep - DS2 has 45 mins from 9.15am and then 2hrs30mins from 12pm. He did go through a stage of not sdleeping so well but we're back to normal now. DS1 did the same and then we stayed in this pattern until he was just over one. Now DS2 still has 2hrs over lunchtime at 2.7yrs - daytime sleep is so important in our house.

And for whoever was asking about age gaps DS1 is 23 months older than DS2. Works very well in my opinion.

Marls - I'd go where the sitters are too!

Cori - I think we'll stop at 3...but I'm also v happy with my 2 so if it doesn't happen...

bristols - where in France? Staying with your parents? We're just back from a fortnight at San Raphael with KeyCamp. It was fantastic. SO lazy and hot...back to cold, wet Scotland!!

Jen - welcome! We're a friendly bunch. I'm still BFing too and LO is hopeless with a cup. I really need to keep offering. Haven't done bottles either. Usually just feeding 3 times a day now (though upped it in France coz of the heat).

T42 - sounds like you have a perfect Gina baby!

We're very fortunate on the babaysitter front as we have lots of willing folks from church who help out. We actually have babysitters 3 nights this week but all of them for really boring meetings. Toddlers AGM tonight, what an exciting life I lead!!

day time sleeps wise alexander seems to get up for about 6-6.30am sleep at 8.30 til 10/10.30 get up until 1/1.30pm sleep until 3/3.30 bath boobie bed starts at 6.30pm in cot asleep by 7/7.30.

Age gap wise it worked really well for us having Benjamin at 2.5 years old when Alexander was born.

I too have ended up getting involved in Toddler's playgroup committee, never done anything like it before been a bit of an eye opener!

Jen x

Hi all

welcome Jen! I would be inetrested to know how you are finding being on your playgroup comittee, ours is trying to round people up to be on the comnittee and it's not the sort of thing i usually get involved in, but they desparately need people.

Ok girls i need your help / advice....as i mentioned DS2 is being particularly clingy at the moment, this has now started to affect bedtimes, over the last couple of weeks on and off he has been difficult to get to sleep and sometimes is up til 8 - 8.30pm as he just screams, i have tried giving hi calpol or nurofen, thinking it was teeth but it's made no difference. The final straw came last night when DH had to go out at 7.30 to see someone about a wedding... DS1 went to bed fine, but DS started screaming, which disturbed DS1, it got to about 8pm and DS1 was shouting me, so i brought him downstairs. I waited about 10 minutes to see if DS2 calmed down, but he didn't so i had to go up and sooth him leaving DS1 downstairs on his own. Eventually DS2 seemed to calm down and i managed to creep out gave it 10 minutes then put DS1 to bed, he setteled down but about 10 minutes later DS2 started screaming again, i had to feed him to sleep ( he was exhausted) but as soon as i put him down he screamed again, so rocked him for a bit and eventually got him to sleep at 8.45pm! It was just a nightmare, I tried leaving him to cry last night, but he kept going for nearly an hour, which can't be good for him, plus it is keeping DS1 up, which isn't fair....any ideas....PLEASE!!!!???

whats the average no of naps per day are your sep06 babes having? dd2 has cut it down to one a day now!!!! she will be just like dd1 and ds - not sleeping during the day at all at 18m!

Hi nally

my DS is having an hour 9 -10ish then 2 hours after lunch about 12.30 - 2.30pm.
DS1 still has 2 hours during the day and he is 2.5...still sleeps 7am - 7pm at night, so maybe they are just good sleepers (take after DH)