Jan '07 part 6: PCF's hoping for a different sort of Easter egg than the rest of us!

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Like a lovely, plump, fertilised one

Annie - stupid question i know, but are you sure Rose is warm enough? Zac wakes in the night when he's cold and needs a feed to settle him, but i don't think he's really hungry as on warmer nights he goes from 7-7.

like i said, stupid question, but since using the sleeping bag Z's been sleeping so much better!

my hayfever has started up again - not sure why as last year i hardly suffered at all, but i keep waking up with a blocked up nose and sneezing all the time. (and i was exclusively bf and weaned late, and i have eczema and had infantile eczema, so go figure!!)

My msn still isnt working it lets me get on the page but then refuses to let me sign in I bet you have all blocked me !!!! Sorry wilkie it was nothing to do with you.... actually dont tell wilkie but she is sooooooooooooooo boring . Well had a much better nights sleep with lauren down at 8 up at 1 back untill 6, im at the docs at 5 oclock today about this rash.

Wilkie lauren had a bit of a cough and cold when she had her jab nurse said she would be ok to give it to her but now I wish she hadent as I say she has been grumpy and has this rash which may well be nothing to do with the jab just remember all babies are different though.

Right need to sort this msn out.

My hayfever is starting up too. V. Annoying, hoping that LO is getting my antibodies via BF.
UD - I got the most excellent easter egg. A creme egg easter egg hunt style easter egg. 3 shells, 3 creme eggs & 9 mini creme eggs. Dont ask me how many are left!

I've just heard on GMTV that 80% of parents disagree with smacking your child.
Considering that most of my mates with children agree with it I think this statistic is fairly high. Without wanting to sound like an evil child beater, I am of the school that it never did me any harm so I dont see why I wouldnt do it. I just assumed most people thought the same. Am I totally wrong. Obviously it was a while since I was a kid, but do most parents not smack their children nowadays?

Very quickly before I nip out to town (will post more later).

Lizz - I agree with smacking in moderation i.e. I wouldn't constantly beat J but if he was being really naughty then yes, a short smack on the bum never did me any harm. I think 80% sounds high.

Again another topic that is going to cause uproar but yes lizz I agree on a tap on the legs or hand if they are naughty, there is a difference between a tap and and beating your child. I do agree with alot of baby/toddler programs though that smacking dosent help the situation and things like time out are more effective which they are and you dont actuallty realise this untill they are bigger and you try it out for yourself. Having a smack made me turn out ok.

my goodness - you guys just lurrrrve to court the controversy don't you??

IMO, i hopefully won't be smacking Z because obviously MY child will be perfect! but, seriously, i smacked my godson once and felt dreadful for days afterwards. as for "It never did me any harm", well i agree (i was smacked occasionally too) but did it work as a discipline method? cause IME, all smacking does is teach a child that violence is ok...you wouldn't let them smack you would you?

oh god...this is going to turn into another massive ishoo like the weaning thing, isn't it?

we're all lovely and i love you all.....lalala....bunnies and lambs and spring flowers. peace and love.

peace, man...

Honestly didnt mean to be controversial. Just thought that the 80% figure was very high, and wanted to know other peoples opinions on the subject.

Its not like I'm organising a 'national smack-in' to raise the profile of this particular discipline method!

• that would be controversial!

Being into attachment parenting we don't smack. Never smacked any of mine and dd is 5.1, ds1 3.5 and obviously not Ethan. Don't agree with it as a form os discipline as, imo and from what I've read, it doesn't work. We prefer this he makes a lot of sense and it's east to adhere to.

Had a good night with Ethan, woke 3 or 4 times but went straight back to sleep so I feel much better today.

Dh off work agagin today with annual leave so we'll be off out soon, not sure doing what yet but am looking to see what's on at the moment.

Good point PCF.

Also, in a completely different vein. The gorgeous weather this weekend prompted me to look into sunglasses for babies, as Dylan was squinting for most of the weekend. (bad mother that I am forgot to take the shade-a-babe thingy away with us). Apparently it is possible to get baby sized sunglasses! Does anyone have any already?
www.babysunglasses.org/

Oh and UD agree re violence, seems silly that we say don't smack and then go ahead and smack them. I also think that if you can charge an adult with assualt for smacking (no matter how lightly) then why not the same for children? After all they're the defenseless ones. I was smacked as a child and it did affect me, I did have quite an etreme unbringing though which wasn't the norm so that's why I feel the way I do about this subject.

Jodie - this looks like an interesting site. Thanks for posting it. Which bit are you pointing to exactly though? Its a big one!

Doh - [divvy emotion] that would be the discipline part of the site. Sorry!

Yes Liz Also the rest of the site is very interesting too I like it all!

See alot of the statistics is aload of bollocks because if people were asked in the street if they smack there kids majority will say no !!!!! They dont want to be locked up for giving there child a tap on the hand, I tap aidan on the hand but if someone asked me at playgroup if I did tap him I would probably say no in fear that the social would be round and I would be banged up its ok for sickos to be raping people ect and get 6 months bloody prison sentence but you are looked on as a freak if you tap your childs hand. Tbh I get sick of the right and wrong way about bringing up your children you do the best you can and learn from your mistakes. Its just like issues around formula feeding according to every health visitor around the bloody country you are frowned upon for giving your baby a bottle when I had my ds I really wanted to bf but had a long labour 24 hrs was extremely tired so was ds so after about 3hrs of trying to feed him I ended up giving him a bottle got no support the next day from the hospital or the health visitor but she was quick enough to tell me that it isnt the best start in life for him which of course made me feel great as a new mum. NO FAMILY is perfect its just a shame that some people in life think that they are.

Pcf lol at little alex with the toys though

Just to give you a idea of what I am haroing on about look on the site that jodie kindly posted and click on to the formula feeding part !! Get my point, im a bad mum because I formula feed it takes the p*ss.

harping on about even

Well said pcf that is how I feel, my children are happy and we are happy as a family and that is all that matters.