March 2017 (3)

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Thread three!

@abacha I'm so so sorry. SIDS is such an awful, terrifying thing and I'm sure it wasn't anything to do with what you did. It is just a horrible random evil and I'm sorry your dc1 was taken by it. XXXX

Just trying to catch up as we've been away for a bit on first family holiday so will post again once I'm up to speed with everyone's news but couldn't pass that by without comment x

Morning all, hope you are all well !

DD was very tired last night and didn't eat as much as she normally would . I managed to keep her up until 7 and she had 7oz and slept through until 6 ! . That full feed at 7
Is the make or break definitely.

Swimming again today so of course DS has not napped much and has just fallen asleep on his bottle, meaning he probably won't finish it and I'll have to wake him to get him changed!

I don't feel well and I think it's down to a mixture of the spotting and the iron and folic acid tablets I've been put on

Hope everyone had a good night

Yay @MotherofA that's a great night for your little one! You must be pleased!

That's great mother

Hope you had a nice "break" 100

DD only had 2 3oz feeds and 2 spoonfuls of porridge so far today, she's gumming everything so think she teething

That's great mother!

Coupester hope you feel better soon hope he enjoys swimming!

We've added lunch in now so 3 solid meals a day. Going to keep an eye on how much milk he takes over a 24 hour period and slowly push the night feed forward. I'm not sure if he needs it but once I know he's eating enough I'll feel more comfortable. He can wake a few times a night and self settles so difficult to say whether he is hungry. I have been feeding him if he wakes after 2.30am (don't wait to see if he self settles). The other night he got up at 6am though and previously he wasn't getting up till 5am but then there's been a couple nights where he wouldn't sleep (not crying or whinging, but just playing) around 1/2am and I reckon he was hungry. So we've had quite a mix but I reckon we are just on the cusp of sleeping through as long as the meals and milk go well during the day!

Thanks everyone .

Hope you are both feeling better coupester & purple .

It does sound like you are close purple . Fingers crossed !

I just put DD down for an afternoon nap . There's not much routine with her afternoon sleeping and I want to change that so we both know where we stand .

Got to go for a pill check to get some more pills at GP and I really can not be bothered with the faff !

First time mum and all , I thought I had cracked it when he started sleeping through at 11/12 weeks. I wonder if he would've carried on had he not reacted to the milk....

The docs is a faff isn't it in terms of medication etc. I've just been to register at the new surgery and she said to stock up on meds as it can take 3 weeks for records to get across

yah glad babies are sleeping more/thro the night for you now

weaning and milk and reg day sleeps all help at night

glad you had a nice bay 'coup, wat did ds buy you?

Thanks carol!
Happy belated birthday coupester!

Back in a bit, DD suffering with teething

Yes docs are a pain . Three weeks that's ridiculous purple . He bet DS would have been much better without the allergy . You've done really well !

name hope things are getting better now. I've found that whenever DD has reverted to frequent night waking I can usually look back and work out that it's been due to either: teething so will need comfort suckling, growth spurt so just needs the extra food, or developmental leap so combination of food,more wired and needing closeness. I'd read some literature that suggests it'll happen when milk supply needs boosting too.

My DD had been sleeping from 10.30pm to between 5 and 7am but since the disruption of our 'holiday' and with teeth having come through she is waking more frequently for the moment.

Our holiday was a similar setting and was very hard work so

I've found it helpful to think of my life span as a clock and to work out what portion of it would be this phase of my and DD's life together. It then shows me how short this time is and reminds me that it will be done soon so that I am able to keep some kind of sanity! Doesn't always help but thought I'd share! Xxx

That's a good way to look at it 100!

Hi everyone!

Holiday is going ok, had a lovely day out yesterday with good weather - hurrah! It's still been rainy apart from that but at least we had one nice day. DS is still sleeping badly, maybe a bit better than before (he's had a few 3-4 hour stretches whereas it was 1-2 hours before) but I am still knackered and desperate for a better night's sleep. Sounds silly but I'm actually looking forward to getting home from our holiday so we can start sleep training... I am expecting it to be hard at first but something has to change!

Oh and I discovered an easier way of getting him to sleep when we're out and about. It always takes forever for him to fall asleep in the pushchair. Turns out it's much quicker to put him in the Ergobaby (and then we can transfer him to the pushchair when he's asleep). Feel a bit silly for not thinking of it before, but he's so darn heavy that I don't use the Ergobaby much!

Abacha
Glad to hear your twins are sleeping better at night! The website I rate has a blog post about early waking and a guide about improving daytime naps, it's www.babysleepscience.com if you're interested.
Have you registered with your local children's centre? Mine runs loads of free and cheap baby activities. I've tried out lots of things with DS including baby sensory and baby yoga. Also if you look up classes near you they often let you do a free trial class before signing up for a block of classes. So I suggest you do a free trial if you can to see what you think. We've done a few baby sensory classes but I am switching to Hartbeeps which is apparently similar - the reason I'm switching is that it's slightly cheaper and you can pay as you go instead of paying for a whole block of classes in advance, plus the location is better for me. We are also starting "Sing and Sign" soon, as I did a free trial and DS loved it (more so than baby sensory) - I think he really enjoyed the singing.

Blondes
What's M&T?

purple and coupester
Sorry to hear you've been feeling unwell, hope you feel better soon.

coupester
Glad you had a good birthday and got a present from your DS in the end!

100
Hope you're having a good holiday (with better weather than us!)

I think I've caught up... everyone has been nice and chatty lately

Thanks purple how are you feeling now? I've still not had my first period although had lochia till nearly 12 weeks pp! Tbh I'm dreading it as I has problems previously and with the birth injuries I don't really know what to expect....

Nice to hear from you name! Glad things are going better and good you have a plan for when get home!

Ta name it was only 5 days and it was freezing cold and raining the whole time! Baby sleep science is brilliant, thanks so much for linking it previously!

100
Cross post! Thank you, that is a good way of looking at it. I think you are probably right, maybe DS has been going through a growth spurt - and he has certainly been teething over the last few days as he's chewing everything with renewed ferocity and has bright red cheeks today!
What do you do when your DD wakes more at night, do you feed her each time?
We have tried DH rocking DS but it hasn't worked so far, DS just screams until DH hands him over to me, so I think he does need the food or comfort or both. From what I've read, teaching him to self settle at bedtime might help with night wakings too... I can hope!

Defo helped in our case name change. Teaching him to self settle has been revolutionary for us and if we are lucky enough to have another I will be working towards that from
Day 1. I did do that with ds but our eye went off the ball wth the reflux and allergy - had to throw it all out the window.

Thanks purple!

100 Ah I'm sorry you had bad weather as well, it's disappointing isn't it?! Glad you've found the website helpful

Eek keep cross posting.

purple I think you've done amazingly in the circumstances, IMO it was important that you sort out the reflux and allergies - and give your DS the comfort he needed in the meantime - before doing any sleep training. But yes I agree with you, if I have another I will do more to encourage self settling from earlier on! Isn't hindsight a wonderful thing

Yes I agree! We had to comfort him when he was in pain. As soon as I realised some of it had become habit we started the sleep training and have seen excellent results.

I think I need sleep trained now so I can switch off and relax!

name cross posted with you too!

I feed her each time she wakes if she doesn't settle within a few minutes. I put DD down for naps in her cot during the day from quite early on as it's better for me re disabilities as we're on 3 floors here. Somehow she accidentally learnt to self settle despite me staying in the room most of the time with her! So I'd focus on supporting self settling behaviours as most important - we do it so that when she's put down in her cot, dark or closed curtains, white noise machine, snuggle bunny/muslin and dummy if she wants it, she knows it's sleep time.

However! Doesn't work when the worst of the teething is happening! Like today!

Gearing myself up for a bad night, teething really bad today. Has only had 2 naps of 40 mins each today. Settled for bed as usual asleep by 6:50. She picked up on her feeding this afternoon as usual. Enjoyed her cauliflower a bit more today. Need to make more batches I think. Just done some peas and carrots. Decided to do purees until she's 6 months so she can get useful different tastes then we'll give her what we have from then on obviously mushing as needed but she's already bringing the puree to her mouth when I give her the spoon so shouldn't have a problem when I let her feed herself with her hands