July 2017#7 - The One Where We Have Sleepless Nights and Master the Art of Eating Food One-Handed

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Link to the last thread;

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2962422-july-2017-6-labour-here-we-come

Oh @glitterglitters don't feel bad - moan away. Get it all off your chest. It's a big thing to come to terms with the fact that you can't just go out as and when you want anymore, and you've been dealing with that reality for a couple of years already with DD1. Now DD2 is here it's double the consideration for you before being able to leave the house and have a bit of a social life for yourself. It's really, really hard.

Drifting away from your social circle is bound to be upsetting too, although I think it's something that often happens when getting married and starting a family, unless all your friends are at the same life stage as you too. I guess your DH can't be blamed for his nervousness about being left alone with both DDs as it is a huge responsibility, but perhaps he would feel more confident about it after the first instance of surviving some alone time with them; maybe he would realise that he can handle it and would then be happy for you to go out more often or for longer stints.

Oh @glittersglitters that sounds harsh. Understandable that DH is nervous but you can't stop living

I went out at 6:45 and home by 10:15. Had no signal in the restaurant then in car home got text from DH (sent at 9pm) that baby been wide awake and grunting since I left and dd blocked the main toilet and he can't fix it

Got home and they all in bed, toilet fixed and baby fast on. DD been harder work than baby .

Omg yes! I'm currently in dd1s bed as she has had a nightmare. I have tried to leave several times but this is "wrong" and I'm worried her tantrum will wake the baby 😱😱🙈🙈

Its harder to go out when you have 2 as no one wants to take both.
With ds1 me and dh went to the cinema during the afternoon and mil had him and some expressed milk. I think he was nearly 1 before he stayed out over night.
Im not one for going out anyway so it doesnt bother me. We trnd to invite friends to ours to socialise instead. Day time bbq or an evening (although toddler doesnt sleep until 9pm which js a pita)

Dd1 hasn't stayed anywhere overnight. Dh doesn't want her too.

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As for the friends I kept organising child friendly events. Bbqs at our house, pub lunches. Same things we went to when others had their kids. But they would change the plans to nights at clubs, piss ups in the middle of nowhere and weekends away (no kids of course!)

I just gave up trying. Our "friends" have planned a kid free weekend away during my birthday no less this year.

Dh still goes out with the guys but I can't go to the whole group ones because Dh refuses to go.

If it makes you feel any better @glitterglitters my own SIL said she wouldn't go on holiday with us and our baby because we would be too boring no sugar coating, lol. I laughed it off but was a little upset!

Glad I don't smell like a milky sock either @Bawbles lol! Poor you! I bet you don't actually smell like a sock and your LO probably thinks you smell delicious anyway!

Thanks for the reassurance, you too @ButterflyFree, think I'll start doing my pump research this week with a view to start expressing once DD is a month old.

Oh @Algebraic that's rough. But, for the record, holidays with kids and babies are brilliant. They're different but so much fun ❤️❤️❤️

Speaking of expressing I picked up s bottle on Tesco today for £1 and Dh is trying itnoit tonight. I spent a fortune on all weird and wonderful bottles with dd1, I want to see if the cheapest one possible is any different.

The bits for my pump arrived this afternoon, so I gave it a go. Got about 20ml out, which we tried with the Medela calma teat, but DS's face at having a teat in his mouth said WTF?? so we syringed it into him instead. He was a bit WTF at that at first too, but got the hang of it. As long as we don't end up cup feeding, I'm happy! Not the most fun I've had with DD.

We'll see how his weight is tomorrow.

Glitters i aasnt sure about the sleeping out at first because he was such a terribke sleeper and hed onky let me calm hin at night....he only went and bloody slept through the night at mils....and has done everytime hes stsyed over. Shitbag lol

Lol Sod's law isn't it? 😂

We had to call an ambulance at 4am! Baby decide to choke on his spit while waking up in his Moses basket! He couldn't clear it from his throats and full on choked and caused him to go limp and stop responding! Bit of bashing and we cleared it but I'd already called the ambulance Nightmare of a few minutes!

Hospital say he has silent reflux and needs to be propped up slightly in his bed. He's completely chilled now as if nothing happened. Myself and OH are slightly traumatised!

Omg @nat2311 !!! Are you all ok? Thank goodness for the speed of the NHS and for them identifying the reflux. That must have been horrendous. Hopefully he's feeling better, as well as the both of you.

Also well done on getting it cleared. We've both done baby first aid but I can't judge how either of us would react in that situation

Yes all ok thank you and home again! Yes amazing how you cope in a situation your gut seems to take over and then you panic after! Cannot fault the 999 service or speed of us being seen once we got to a&e.

Oh my goodness @nat2311 how terrifying that must have been!! Thank heavens for a speedy response and that little one has just taken it all in his stride, bless him. Hugs to you - it must have been very traumatic indeed but you dealt with it brilliantly ❤️

nat that must have been seriously adrenaline-soaked!! Well done for making it through in one piece.

DS was weighed again today and he's put on 110g in 7 days, which puts him above his birthweight again! Woo! I have used the pump this morning and again after lunch - got about 20ml each time. DH had another go at using the bottle this afternoon and it worked. Woo! All going well here.

Well done @nat2311 you heroes! How scary and I'm so glad all turned out ok. You've reminded me to sign up for my baby first aid. Good that the hospital rushed you through. Praise to our NHS.

Yay @Spindelina on the weight gain!

Would just like to add that I have just breastfed in our local cafe and baby Luna actually stayed latched on and went for over 5 mins which she doesn't even do at home! She'll likely need a top up formula when we get in but breasts are feeling full and I'm proud I was brave enough to do it.

Yaay well done @Spindelina and @Algebraic for your respective feeding successes! Great work ladies.

Baby Z and I had our 6-week postnatal check today, 2 weeks early - he'll be 4 weeks tomorrow but since we are going back to Dubai on Monday I asked if we could have an early checkup just to make sure we're both in good shape before flying (since the 6-week check was already paid for in our private package anyway - why not!)

Great news on the weight front; he's absolutely flourishing and is now 3.6kg having gained 600g in the past 7 days!! At least I know the constant feeding is really paying off. The nurse weighed him stark naked on the scales, which she had set up on the consultant's desk, and Baby Z proceeded to let rip with a fountain of pee ALL OVER Nick Wales' (swanky famous gynaecologist) computer keyboard and plastic model of a uterus 😂😂😂😂😂😂 safe to say he will NOT be forgotten in a hurry at the Kensington Wing 🤣🙈 Well and truly marked his territory.

@nat2311 glad all is ok with your little one now but how frightening! I need to book on baby first aid I think.

Well done baby Z on making your mark! That's hilarious @ButterflyFree, hope the midwife didn't get told off.

@Algabraic I'm glad you're having some feeding success. Any more progress with it?

I've had a lazy bed day with my little one today. Everything is much easier when you don't bother getting dressed or having anyone over. Lots of side feeds but only a little sleep. Will this mean he sleeps longer tonight? I'm not getting my hopes up.

My other half has the baby asleep on his chest right now, so I'm going to jump in the shower and maybe nap on the settee if I can. I've had a couple of evening naps and they make the nights a lot easier. Or maybe I've just turned a corner and sleep deprivation is becoming normal?

Hello all! Sorry have gone MIA have just caught up with the previous thread and this one.

Have been busy with visitadors and exhaustedly adjusting to life with LO.

We are mix feeding which in some ways is great as it gives me relief from
Being the sole provider but it also means more colic and Constipation. So have to deal with that too.

Last few days I have had food poisoning sorry TMI which combined with diahorrea and hemorrids has reduced me to tears it has been horrendous.

Also got an allergy which meant very itchy hands and feet suffered for a week before going to the doctor they did loads of bloods and thankfully it was all ok. After much debate they gave me an antihistamine that did they trick, so it turns out I am allergic to something... no idea what.

Now baby Shea is quite awake during the day and after 4:00 am feed most days, he is 5 weeks and after eating seems to to stay awake and alert for quite a while. No crying or fussing just a little grunting and eyes wide open. Is this normal? Are anyone else's babies doing the same?

How is everyone's recovery post 4 weeks?