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March 2017 babies

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purpleviolet1 · 25/03/2017 00:22

So my 9 day old baby boy was delivered by emcs at 37+5 gestation due to presenting breech (waters broke and contractions started). First baby so lots to learn!

Currently giving him expressed milk and formula topup. We tried breastfeeding but there was latch issues, he got very frustrated as he wasn't getting satisfied and my nipple was cracked and bleeding within a couple of days. I then got blocked ducts and the whole thing was a disaster really. I feel like a bit of a failure and did get help from bf clinic for the latch but it was little too late. With the c section recovery I just feel too exhausted to have him on the boob constantly and least with formula he is getting some decent sleep (although I'm usually expressing during this time so don't get a proper rest).

Oh and his fussy time is between 10pm -2am. He tends to feed and need winded on repeat between this time. It's exhausting but tonight I had a nap from 7-10pm in anticipation.

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Carolann8584 · 07/05/2017 21:08

Had a bit of a cry, my LO only wants be be in her swing. She looks like she's falling asleep now bit later than usual

Carolann8584 · 07/05/2017 22:29

DD finally asleep in her Moses basket, she really struggled tonight.

troodiedoo · 07/05/2017 22:34

Well done carolann. Mines hardly slept today and I don't think she will this side of midnight Hmm

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purpleviolet1 · 07/05/2017 22:51

I just seriously need to chill out !

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purpleviolet1 · 07/05/2017 22:51

It's all this pressure that I put on myself that is making me anxious.

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troodiedoo · 07/05/2017 23:12

Trust yourself purple you're doing a great job and will continue to do so.

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Carolann8584 · 08/05/2017 01:40

I will let her self soothe/ whimper to herself if she fighting it but this is screaming sounds very screechy and like she's in distress.

Well she's slept nearly 4 hours but it's been nearly 6 hours since her last feed Sad

purple I felt overwhelmed the first week or so with night feeds, I make 4 up before bed so when she stirs I just go get one out of the fridge and warm up with hot water from the tap. I can normally hear her kicking her legs or sucking her hands and lips before she lets out a cry. She also likes to grunt like a others have said.

I was beating myself up earlier as well when i couldn't get her to settle on me as usual, felt very rejected when the only thing that would soothe her was her swing. I know she's not doing it on purpose and she's just going with what makes her happy and comfy at the time

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purpleviolet1 · 08/05/2017 06:31

Thank you ladies. Your reassurance is very welcome!

Never got any tips as such, she just said given my situation (existing health conditions, bereavement and two miscarriages last year and being a first time Mum) it was all kinda understandable and it was good to have support which she can see I have and to keep going and they will keep an eye on health (physical issues).

So last few nights ds has been having smaller feeds during the night so waking up more frequently. Not sure if I should be putting the lights on to stimulate him a little to wake him so he takes a better feed. Feels like a step backwards! He is having a couple of oz then dozing off and then is very quickly thrashing about in his sleep before he will take another feed an hour or so later. Exhausting for both of us! During the day he is wonderful!

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Carolann8584 · 08/05/2017 07:31

My DD is the same, smaller feeds during the night. She last 8 hours 7:30pm and 3:30am between feeds she slept through her midnight feed again then woke at 6:30 for another feed.

So she had
4oz at 7:30
2.5oz at 3:30
3oz at 6:30

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purpleviolet1 · 08/05/2017 09:14

She is doing really well to have a long stretch!

Ds had

  • 6oz at 6.15pm
-4oz at 11.15pm (really struggled to get the last oz in and was thrashing around straight after I put him down but couldn't get any more wind up)
  • 3.5oz at 2.45am (i think i woke him up here as I tried to wind him as he was really uncomfortable, he then woke and 'played' for a bit before getting hungry. Thought he would have a good feed and settle well but really struggled to get the last half oz in and again was thrashing around straight after I put him down but again couldn't get any more wind up)
3.5oz at 5.45am (again didn't settle well)

He finally slept from about 7.30ish but it's still been an unsettled sleep.

He seems exhausted and as if he didn't get into a deep sleep all night.

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Carolann8584 · 08/05/2017 09:35

Wow 6oz! Most my LO has is 5 and then she is guaranteed to spit some of that back up coz over done it.

We have small feeds most nights she doesn't give up much wind when I try to burp her. I have a lamp on low just coz we have blackout curtains so can't see anything if I don't put it on. She does like a cuddle belly to belly before I put her back down, only for 5 mins or so.

Is it too late to switch him back from comfort? If he doesn't need it?

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purpleviolet1 · 08/05/2017 10:52

I am tempted to carolann but HV said if he is mostly settled then to leave it. I can't decide if he is bad enough to move him and guess I'm just scared to rock the boat...

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NameChange30 · 08/05/2017 10:56

I would take the HV's advice with a pinch of salt tbh mine isn't the sharpest tool in the box.

It is important to be flexible and trust your instinct, no harm in trying something else if the current approach isn't working. You can always switch back again if it gets worse not better.

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purpleviolet1 · 08/05/2017 13:02

Lol!! Made me laugh namechange. You are right.

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purpleviolet1 · 08/05/2017 17:44

I actually think its silent reflux ds has. Going to make an appt tomorrow with GP

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Carolann8584 · 08/05/2017 19:14

Feel like it's ground hog day. Same as yesterday screaming from 6-7 doesn't want to be put or held on her back. She's in her swing. I was holding her by her chest and nappy area face down like she was flying and she was settled but my arms couldn't carry on

Carolann8584 · 08/05/2017 19:15

Silent reflux?

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purpleviolet1 · 08/05/2017 19:58

Yeah silent reflux. I did suspect it before but then thought it was just in my head but been watching him closely and he has a lot of the symptoms. Every feed is a battle now. He isn't napping properly either.

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purpleviolet1 · 08/05/2017 20:00

Sorry carolann I said silent reflux in my first post. It's reflux but without the vomiting. The acid comes up but they swallow it

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Carolann8584 · 08/05/2017 21:30

Tonight's been the worst night and it's only 9:30. If I put her anywhere on her back other than her swing it's like I'm torturing her based on her screams.

troodiedoo · 08/05/2017 21:40

:( so sorry that must be horrible

Carolann8584 · 08/05/2017 22:12

Thought she finally went to sleep, last 20 mins before screams again. Back in my arms now on her side. Just had enough time to have a shower.

troodiedoo · 09/05/2017 18:44

Dd1 is sulking today Hmm she could die and I wouldn't notice apparently! Ladies make the most of your babies before they turn into teens!

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