March 2017 babies

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So my 9 day old baby boy was delivered by emcs at 37+5 gestation due to presenting breech (waters broke and contractions started). First baby so lots to learn!

Currently giving him expressed milk and formula topup. We tried breastfeeding but there was latch issues, he got very frustrated as he wasn't getting satisfied and my nipple was cracked and bleeding within a couple of days. I then got blocked ducts and the whole thing was a disaster really. I feel like a bit of a failure and did get help from bf clinic for the latch but it was little too late. With the c section recovery I just feel too exhausted to have him on the boob constantly and least with formula he is getting some decent sleep (although I'm usually expressing during this time so don't get a proper rest).

Oh and his fussy time is between 10pm -2am. He tends to feed and need winded on repeat between this time. It's exhausting but tonight I had a nap from 7-10pm in anticipation.

Come and join me for some chat...

TBH not sure myself, he ended up on it as we had bought it by accident, not realising that it had reduced lactose but just thought it prevented colic and constipation (total first time mum mistake). He was having it during the day with the normal, stage 1 readymade cartons at night. When I realised that they were two different milks completely, the health visitor suggested we move him onto comfort fully opposed to moving him onto stage1 fully as he had had been having the comfort for about a week (daytime only) and she thought his tummy would be used to it. I wish we moved him onto the stage1 instead now though, especially as he is so so windy. He's 7 weeks and been having it since 3 weeks, full time since 4 weeks but the excess wind has just become a problem this past week. Am sure it's milk related as even when he trumps, it absolutely stinks. His dirty nappies are very smelly too.

Think it must be an age thing, my DD trumps are getting smelly, sometimes I think she's pood when she hasn't

Anybody been on a night out since having their LOs? I'm supposed to be going on a hen do in 2 hours, really don't think I can go. It's for my future SIL. Am going to the wedding at the end of the month

I've been thinking about going out out. But I'm not sure if I want to leave her for too long and I definitely don't want my first hangover in nearly a year think I'll leave it a bit longer.

Oh in addition to that I don't have any nice clothes I can fit into

Haha troodie I tried on a couple of outfits earlier. I don't drink so wouldn't be hungover tomorrow but still think it's too soon

Carol
I haven't been out in the evening since DS was born, was discussing it with DH and said that if it was a special occasion I would make the effort, but probably not "just because". It's tricky isn't it? I'm so tired i can't imagine going out. But you might enjoy it if you go. Could you just go for a couple of hours?

PS Do you know anyone else who's going or just your future SIL? That would be a factor for me... selfishly I would probably go if I knew a few people but wouldn't have the energy to make conversation with lots of people I don't know!

No just her, was only going for the meal, they were going for cocktails first. The meal was Greek meze I checked the menu for groups/parties and wouldn't eat any if it so would be going just coz it's SIL. The restaurant does entertainment til 2am! They would all be drinking throughout as well

Told her I'm not going coz I can't leave DD which is true, she understood.

Sounds like the right decision. Are you taking DD to the wedding?

That sounds fun I'll go on your behalf

We have a family friends wedding next weekend... keeping an open mind but going to try and go, even if for a short while. Ds will be coming with us.

Not a fan of Greek meze either so good decision!

Yes DD and DSSs are all invited to the wedding.

Glad I didn't go I would have missed after bath cuddles with my little sweetie

Aw I love bath time.

Aww I love when they look so content 😌 during bath.

Is it your first troodie?

Is anyone using any mobiles/ lullaby things for bedtime?

Second, dd1 is nearly 17.

We've got that sheep thing that makes noises. Keep meaning to get a cot mobile. I reckon she's got another two weeks tops in her moses basket before she's too long.

Think 6-7 is my DD's bewitching hour, bit can she scream! Sounds awful. My OH says I'm too soft and should just let her cry but it sound so awful I can't leave her. She will cry then we give her a bath which she loves, take her out and she screams the house down then once she's dressed and on her way back down stairs she calms down. She has a feed at 7:30 ready to be put down for her "big skeep" around 8-8:30

Would you leave your 6 week old screaming?

Don't think I could.. but then there is usually someone around to take him when it gets too much and maybe if I was completely on my own, I would, but only for 5 mins max! I don't think it's the end of the world for a few mins as when you have other kids, you can't always get to the baby as soon as they cry. Obviously wouldn't leave it for more than a few mins though as my heart breaks when he is crying even if dh is attending to him!

Thanks for the suggestions. He is in a Moses basket just now but not sure how long it will last, so might wait until in the cot so the mobile thing can be attached..

She been spitting up a lot today as well. feeling a little low at the moment

There is a time for letting a baby cry but not at six weeks. The world is a big scary place for them and they need lots of cuddles and reassurance. It's hard going though!

Aw sorry to hear that carolann. Is she on normal milk or reflux milk?

I find it so hard to sleep at night as I always think I might not hear him stirring if I'm in a deep sleep, until he starts wailing and then it takes a good 5 min to get the bottle ready/cool it down. I have a fear of him crying uncontrollably during the night, it feels so much louder and more overwhelming. I wonder if I should put an alarm on around the time I think he will wake so I can get the milk ready then, and then doze, so that when he wakes he can have milk straight away?

She's on normal milk

I wouldn't set an alarm, my LO can sometimes go an extra hour before wanting her next feed so it would mean I would be awake when I didn't need to be

DS wakes me up before he wakes up himself - he grunts and thrashes about in his sleep! Don't know why, maybe he's trying to poo?! It's a PITA though, I'm knackered enough as it is without having my precious sleep interrupted! It can be an hour of on and off grunting before he wakes up properly and needs feeding or changing