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Blue2014 · 20/12/2016 11:38

Here is a thread for all of us who got our babies even though we never actually believed this could happen us ...

Too sleep deprived (and surprised!)!to be witty or more interesting in the thread title ...

Come join us.

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HP07 · 18/04/2017 09:39

Oh my goodness Blueroses what a shock for you. Glad to hear your little girl is stable. Congratulations on her arrival. How are you feeling? I will be thinking of you and hoping that your baby goes from strength to strength. Xxx

Grumpelstiltskin · 18/04/2017 09:40

Oh Blueroses I've been following your blog and was hoping to hear all was as well as it could be. Congratulations on the birth of your tiny but perfect baby D and so happy to hear she's stable and being well cared for. Thinking of you all. Flowers

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blue2014 · 18/04/2017 11:41

Blue lots and lots of love xx been on your blog too xx

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stealthbanana · 19/04/2017 01:41

Blue 💪🏻 🍀 and ❤️ for you and your daughter. Her little hand is just divine and I hope she goes from strength to strength. Thinking of you xxx

Blondeshavemorefun · 19/04/2017 23:15

Waves to @blue. Def earlier then you wanted but amazing how A is fighting and thank god she made 24w x

BabytoBoris · 21/04/2017 03:12

Blueroses how are you? Hope your little girl is doing well. Big love.

Blueroses99 · 21/04/2017 05:51

I'm doing ok thanks. I still didn't make it to any antenatal classes this time round and I suppose with preemies it's different anyway so I'm learning a lot from the nurses. I'm up 2-3 times a night to express - which I find incredibly hungry work, does anyone else get the munchies? I came home yesterday so I'm trying to figure out a routine as I want to spend as much time st the hospital as possible.

I think my little girl is doing amazingly well in the first 72 hours, she already has a lot of personality! She is stable so the doctors seem happy with her progress so far but we are just taking it a day at a time.

HP07 · 21/04/2017 09:18

Hey Blueroses, so glad to hear your little girl is doing so well. I'm almost 7 months down the line with breastfeeding and I'm still hungry all the time. At first I also found that I would be parched when I fed and had to have a drink of water to hand at all times. My sister had a premie, although no where near as early as yours and she ended up with so much milk that she didn't need (as her lo stomach was so small) that she donated it to the milk bank in the end! TBH the NHS antenatal classes are mainly only about the labour and not much at all about how to care for baby so I just picked it up as I went along, as I'm sure you will, but in my area the HV offered a free first time mums course which I found amazing. They talked about sleep, weaning, teething etc and I made so many fantastic new friends and built myself a support network which I'm still in contact with all these months later. I know your journey with baby will be a lot different to mine but that might be something to consider in the future if they offer that in your area? Baby HP and I are wishing you good luck, keep us updated. X

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blue2014 · 21/04/2017 10:34

Hi Blue, I'm hungry all the time too and have probably consumed approximately 400000 mars bars over the last 4 months! It's normal. Smile

I also didn't get anything useful in antenatal class (except to labour standing up as much as possible, I had an epidural and c section so not that much use 😊)

I really really wanted to donate milk but they won't do it unless I can produce 3 litres and I just don't make that much. Am really quite sad about it but there's not much I can do.
Silly rules really especially as their advert says "even a drop of milk can help"

Lots of love to you and your daughter Blue and to everyone else FlowersStar ,

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stealthbanana · 21/04/2017 22:04

Hi blue - hope your gorgeous daughter continues to stabilise

Guys where do you donate milk to? I have a huge freezer stash and regularly have excess milk (oversupply - oh joy).

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blue2014 · 21/04/2017 22:13

www.ukamb.org/

Still frustrated by the "every drop counts" slogan when it clearly doesnt! I could have given a litre or so I think - that's more than a drop ...

(By the way, at my local bank baby needs to be under 6 months at first donation and you have to pass the same set of questions as if donating blood)

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Blondeshavemorefun · 22/04/2017 22:15

She sounds such a fighter blue 😘

You neee to eat well to bf and glad electric pump has helped - hand expressing takes forever

I always advise my clients to drink while bf / usually a milky drink or just plain water if thirsty

Glad you are getting friends and family to help out round the house. Getting home cooked meals is good to keep energy up

Have lots of protein as well as carbs

kiwiblue · 26/04/2017 18:35

Hi everyone! My baby boy was born on good Friday, he came in a mad hurry half an hour before his due date. We're all doing well, just getting to know each other and having the usual challenges with newborns!

Glad everyone else is doing well. Blueroses I've been reading your blog, I hope your daughter continues to do well.

I didn't know you could donate milk, maybe I should look into that as I have quite a supply!

HP07 · 26/04/2017 19:01

Congratulations kiwi. You will notice that this group is much quieter than the antenatal club and I think it's because we are all so busy with the babies. Not much time to sit around worrying anymore! Hope everything is going well for you.

kiwiblue · 26/04/2017 19:39

I know what you mean HP, i have barely been on MN since he was born, only just got around to updating threads. Going well thanks, although it is definitely challenging- still struggling to figure out what he wants and needs and the best way of doing things. It gets easier right???

HP07 · 26/04/2017 20:12

Um sure?! Haha. Some things defo get easier and others harder. I'm nearly 7 months in and my boy is still a velcro baby and although sleeping better at night usually still has at least 2 wake ups and sometimes a lot more. Can't say I've mastered 'it' (motherhood) yet lol but I do think a lot of things become more natural as time passes. My main challenge at the moment seems to be whinginess and the fact that he wants to do more and play more but he's not yet crawling so he finds it difficult and so I have to entertain him endlessly which can be tiring. Things that have got a lot easier though are bedtime routine, breastfeeding, he's eating solids now so much fewer poonamis, reflux has gone (thank the Lord, he was a projectile vomiter). But the best thing of all and what makes it all worthwhile is his amazing laugh. I tell you what it will melt your soul. Just when your ready to throw in the towel they start giggling at your crazy dancing/singing/blowing raspberries and you fall in love all over again. It's magical. So keep on trucking! Wink

Blondeshavemorefun · 26/04/2017 22:46

CONgrats @kiwi

What are you struggling with as in what he needs and wants?

kiwiblue · 27/04/2017 14:02

Thanks HP that's good to know. When do they start smiling/laughing? At the moment it can be tough as it feels like he is either sleeping or crying!

Blondes just interpreting the cries. Can tell hungry signs, but sometimes after feeding he cries loudly and i can't tell if he's uncomfortable or just wants comfort. He's also become much harder to settle in last few days. On the whole feeding and sleeping is going ok though so no major problems.

HP07 · 27/04/2017 18:00

Smiling around 4-6 weeks, laughing usually about 3-4 months and real chuckles were about 5ish months here. Baby HP is properly chatting away all the time, he's so vocal. Can't wait to hear what and when his first word will be. He's a very social baby and loves to be around lots of people. I think I bore him when we stay at home!

Blondeshavemorefun · 27/04/2017 21:29

weve had smiles from fewdays old, which sounds insane but she really does smile and has done the past few weeks and def not wind

also head hol,ding really early on

one of the mw said that ivf babies are often advanced due to all the drugs they had 10mths previously/when doing cycles

any chnace he could still be hungry after feeding,are yu ebf?

loopylou1984 · 28/04/2017 20:19

Hi all, sorry I'm not around much. The twins keep me pretty busy!!

Just wanted to say Kiwi - I said exactly the same. 'All they do is sleep or cry, they're not happy!' But just this week (11 weeks, 5 weeks corrected) we have had smiles and it makes it all worth it! X

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blue2014 · 29/04/2017 12:55

Kiwi - it definitely gets easier. Honestly for the first 5 weeks or so I speak a lot of time thinking "what the fuck have I done?" - it was exhausting and I had no clue what I was doing. Even if some things get harder (I also have a baby that needs permanent entertainment!) being a mum gets easier as the weeks go by xxx congrats

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Blondeshavemorefun · 02/05/2017 22:32

dd is 5w tday and im still wow shes mine and im a mummy

MPP81 · 26/05/2017 23:43

Hello all!

Belatedly joining the thread. Baby MPP was born on 3rd April at 37+2 by c section and spent a few days in SCBU with breathing issues and a distended tummy, but all is well now and he's just perfect! Hoping to keep up a little better with everyones news now we're settling a little bit.

Blueroses I dont know if you're still reading this but if you are I just wanted to let you know that I read your blog every day and following your beautiful daughters amazing progress. You are fantastic and I am thinking of you, her and your DH.

Hope everyone is doing well and enjoying the little ones! :-)

loopylou1984 · 27/05/2017 09:06

MPP - could you post a link to blueroses blog for me? Xx