July 2016

[primarynoodle]

Hopefully this works...

So we can keep in touch and pass on words of wisdom!

Perhaps someone clever could link to the stats?

Thanks sock and dolly. As of yesterday we are now topping up with formula. Dh has been doing most of the feeds and sterilising and I've been expressing every three hours. I feel like not only am I not keeping up with what dd needs but that my supply might be decreasing too.

Tams- well done for continuing to express.

It's good to read that I'm not the only one with a crying whiny baby! Anyone know when the crying settles down?

I keep a sleep and feed diary and always mark whether it's left or right boob on there.

Any tips for bottle feeding to stop milk running down the chin? I swear I could make a whole new feed from wringing the bibs out each day! (I won't though...)

Primary - thoughts are with you at this tough time.

Indians - Sorry to hear that your DH is bothered by something. I hope he starts talking about it - the silent act is the hardest to deal with - mine did that during Spring and it was a nightmare.

Indians - When Jasper's awake he mostly just cries. Occasionally he looks around with wide eyes, wriggles, and hiccups. But mostly cries. Which is why I dread moving him once he drifts off - I don't want him to wake up. This has resulted in lots of co-sleeping over the last few days while I've been staying at my parents'. Am now back at home with DH for the weekend and will have to put him in his crib at night, because this bed ain't big enough for the three of us. We'll see how that goes...

Indians (and finally) - I have a great app that tells me which boob and what time for feeding. It's invaluable. I'll post pictures in case you want to download.

Is anyone else dealing with explosives nappies? What colour? J's flit between pea-soup green and mustard yellow, but equally liquidy either way 😳

Bluebell, Sock and Sophie - sorry about your DHs being useless. Mine has had the last 4 days off while I've been staying with my folks. My folks have been absolutely superb, making me porridge, bringing me tea, looking after Jasper while I have naps. Sadly I suspect DH won't live up to those high standards. Looking forward to spending the weekend with him though.

2 weeks 1 day

Yes to nappies julfin!

Well done tams for the expressing

I love that app julfin I would never ever remember when or how I fed DD without it particularly at night when I can barely remember my own name!

primary massive cuddle, my lovely. Be gentle with yourself xxx

Slight improvement last night... I had the first half of the night so got dh up about 1.30 and he took him till 5.30 - very strict about this whole 4 hour thing! Wee one woke up at 6!

Hope others had a restful night.

He seems to have dropped off on me after being fed but I don't trust him to stay asleep for longer than 15 minutes!

Oh primary sorry you're having such a tough time. Just be kind to yourself and if things are too much let people know - sometimes they just need a bit of promoting to be kind. Lots of love to you xx

I mean prompting not promoting btw - sorry x

So health visitor came yesterday and sophie hasn't put on any weight. How worried should I be? She told me to literally sit there and feed baby every time cries/wakes/stirs to wake up if slept more than three hours (a dream!)
I'm worried. We had another rubbish night. Went up to b ed at 10, kept trying to put her down, she would cry and I'd end up feeding to settle her. Makes me think she isn't getting enough and my boobs feel really baggy and empty- do you think she's awake so much because she's hungry? Midwife due Tuesday to weigh again.

How old is Sophie?

As tiring as it is, I would agree with the feeding at every squeak and offer both sides (or more), as that will build up your supply to meet that level of demand.

Did the midwife check your latch and check Sophie for tongue tie?

Sophie if your supply has settled your boobs will feel like that so don't use that as a guide. How old is she? How often does she feed and how long for? What weight was she born did she lose any? Tongue/lip tie was my first thought too x

sophie that sounds a bit similar to our experience. We had 12% weight loss at 72 hours so started feeding and expressing after a feed every three hours. Dd would have happily slept if we hadn't made her wake up for a feed. Most babies lose weight to begin with. I think a lot depends on how old Sophie is. The waking every three hours to feed isn't unusual though. They recommend 8-12 feeds in 24 hours and feeding every 3 hours would give you the 8 feeds a day.

How old is she? Adam lost almost 10% of his body weight in his first few days - that's about what they expect. We've been a bit anal about weighing him and I know we shouldn't! One of us we'll stand on the scales then go back on with the baby - we are going to do this once a week. Babies will only get weighed every month here!!

Thanks all for your lovely messages. I'm feeling really sad but having lots of cuddles with A and DP is taking us out for the day for some family time.

Dinner with MIL was horrendous, she wouldn't give the baby back when she was rooting and was gasping and pretending to freak out whenever me or dp picked her up/moved her/changed position as if we were about to drop her. Then she started saying about how she was so excited to take her on a day trip to the seaside (nearest one is 2 hours away)... Erm no I don't think so! Since when was it normal to assume you can take a baby somewhere without asking permission from its parents? Particularly an ebf one

sophie boobs feeling empty and saggy is normal - that means they are filling up with milk. Being engorged signals to your body that it has made too much milk and stops production so you want them to be nice and soft. Everything you're saying sounds pretty normal for the first couple of weeks - agree with everyone else saying it depends how old she is.

Has anyone managed to 'do the deed' yet? Dh and I tried this morning (since he pissed me off less last bight!) and it really hurt. Had to stop. Had a bit of bleeding afterwards too.

And when Baby is awake she tends to be quite happy just sitting chilling in her rocker/baby chair/playmat or wants to be held and will not be put down - this tends to coincide with the morning/evening cluster feeding though, she seems quite happy to let me get on with stuff around midday/early afternoon. Doesn't seem to respond to anything yet though or purposefully reach for stuff, im with everyone waiting desperately for the first definite non-wind smile!

Sorry to hear your mil is being difficult primary. Good that your dp is going to spend a quality day with you.

Dh's most immature friend is coming down for the day to meet the wee man. Roughly translated that means they'll spend the day playing video games and going on trips to McDonald's.

How old is your baby primary?

#no to DTD. But I am only 3 weeks post c-section.

Sock normal service has resumed between DH and I, first time was a bit sore but feels normal again now. Must sort out proper contraception at post natal check!!!