March 2016 - I can't think of a pithy title because I'm too sleep deprived :/

[DomesticAnarchist]

New thread?
Sorry, really couldn't think of something humorous!

Oh, and I have no plans to stop feeding her to sleep, it's so quick and easy! I fed ds at night until he was 15 months and weaned, he slept through from then on.

DS was a right grumpy fusspot this morning, for over an hour he just would not stop moaning. We were with my DM and took him for a short walk in the pram which he normally loves but I ended up having to pick him up and carry him while DM pushed the pram because he wouldn't stop wailing. It was only after an hour or more of this that I thought it might be his teeth bothering him, and sure enough seconds after giving him some anbesol he was happy as Larry. Then felt guilty for not thinking of it earlier!

Hope the jabs were OK.

FS sorry to hear you're feeling like that. It's hard when you have a crying baby; some just cry so much more than others but it seems it's just the way they're all wired differently. Hope things settle with time and of course vent here when you like.

swear those pics are adorable! We also had an impromptu self-soothed nap in the bouncy chair today...most odd for us! He was sucking his thumb and spark out when I noticed.

Thanks for the support re work. I survived, actually enjoyed it in the end and DS was fine. Even treated me to his first back-front roll when I got home! I rang the nursery we were planning to use from Jan today though and they prob won't have space, so back to the drawing board...😕

Swear Another sweaty breastfeeder here, it's actually revolting how sticky I've been. I'm drinking tons of water too.

Successful double dream feed this evening, he went down 7:30 ish but last feed before that was 5:30 - full feed at 9 and one boob at 1 without waking up at all...

Magpie glad work went well. What will you do about nursery? I haven't started looking yet as I don't know when I'll find a job but it's really worrying me.

Well done Tri on the double dream feed. That's an impressive stealth manoeuvre, you ninja!

Swear gorgeous pics and love the outfit.

Me and FS we are the same with screaming baby. I really hope these teeth appear soon.

Is anyone else's hair falling out? Bloomin hair everywhere.

Rhu- YES!!!! Mine is falling out!!! Loads of it!! Especially after washing it.

Hi everyone, do you mind if I join? As I mentioned in another thread I've been stalking this one for ages!

DS was born mid March, we've been having a bit of a tough time and he has seemed in a permanent mood and very hard to handle for the last 5 weeks. I'm blaming it on teething although nothing has appeared yet! It also coincides rather nicely with the 4th leap on wonder weeks so I wonder if it could be that also!

Sleep wise he's up and down, went through a glorious phase month 1-3 of waking once (!) and now a bit all over the place, some nights better than others. He's breastfed. I've been reading about some of you guys night weaning at around a year or so.. I know it's a long time in advance but I like other just stick boob in mouth when he wakes, he's not even crying most of the time just gurgling how do you even night wean? Is it easy or horrible? Don't plan on doing anything about night wakings for a while yet as he still has quite a feed so think he still needs them.

It's been a beautiful few days here on the south coast, although too hot at points so we've stayed in some of the week. Off out with MIL today (think she's feeling sorry for me and keeps offering to take me out which is nice) going to suggest walking along the river near us and getting ice creams. Although I snapped the bloody pram parasol attachment thing closing the boot yesterday so first stop Boots to pick up another so DS isn't blinded!

Have a great day everyone!

Welcome to the thread sleepy! Sympathies on the grumpy baby. I'm very lucky with DS in that he has the odd grumpy day but generally is ok, hats off to those of you dealing with hard work babies on a daily basis.

Will leave others to give you advice on night weaning etc as DS is ff.

Oh and meant to say yes Rhu my hair is falling out loads - I keep having to vacuum as it seems to be all over the floor all the time! Dark carpet and blond hair so it really shows up! And when it's not falling out, DS is grabbing it and pulling it out ...

Sympathy FS. Both of mine are over-reacters. DS2 screams like he's in pain when he's tired, as did DS1. The neighbours must think we torture them. They also don't nap much more than 35 minutes at a time. It is very difficult. (Though second time around is infinitely better as I know this is normal for us and have no higher expectations!)

Maybe's suggestion is a good one. It works for us if I get DS2 in the carrier before he goes nuclear. DH is blind to the subtleties ("he's fine, what are you on about?") and ends up with the screaming mess! But, as I said before, I find this easier with the benefit of experience (that and it probably wouldn't have worked with DS1 anyway!)

Ah, so cute TheM!

Swear, Happy Birthday! I've got that queasiness occasionally - when I'm not drinking enough! The pumping had put hydration in perspective. I've got a 1l Nalgene bottle I cart around - if I pump 300ml+ in a day (2 feeds worth) then as a minimum I need to drink 300ml before I add on enough to be alive! When it was hot I think I was drinking around 3l in 24hrs. (And of course I'm feeding on top of pumping so maybe another 600ml to 1l depending on how often he feeds). So yes, drink! And I suppose we should be thinking about electrolytes too.

Well done on surviving work, magpie! And excellent rolling-baby news! Rubbish about nursery.

We are supposed to be camping this weekend. We went down yesterday to set up and secure a good spot (it's at a race) and DH stayed down there. I was so exhausted driving back was probably fairly dangerous. I have a feeling that DS2 would have slept through except I woke up about 4 with mega-boobs. He fell back asleep after one, so I had to get up and pump the other. Then he slept till gone 8am! (But DS1 got up for a series of tantrums at 6 ).

I like camping. But I don't want to take two children to a campsite where the only provision are portaloos. DS1 and DH will freak out if we don't go though. And the house is a tip. Which I need to sort out before we can do anything.

Thanks maybe. He's never once got himself to sleep, but it's worth a try!

Wow swear I am totally envious of mat nap.

Hi sleepy!

Yep my hair has started falling out. Keep finding it wrapped around DS's hands. Gah.

Thanks dom. Does it get better?! Hope you manage to get sorted and enjoy camping.

I'm so glad it's cooled down slightly. It was getting unbearable feeding DS in that heat

Another one who seems to have hair loss though I am not breastfeeding and my DS is 18 weeks old so I thought any post-partum issues may have cleared up!

YY to mega hair loss. It's a general post partum thing, not related to BFing. Telogen effluvium is the official term. It's bad enough to make me want to get pregnant again, though this is obviously a very short term solution!

Hi sleepy my DS1 had frequent grumpy tendencies and it was HARD. Hang on in there. Your MIL sounds lovely! Mine isn't local but probably would be just as lovely but I'm not very good and accepting her help/loveliness, your post has made me think I should be nicer.
On night weaning, we did it about 9-10m with both of them and did it gradually...we decided we wouldn't allow milk before say 3am, and if they woke before DH would go in and cuddle/settle them - once they were sleeping past the deadline time for a few nights we'd not allow them to feed before say 4 etc etc. Took about 1-2 weeks today get them consistently going 7pm-6am and (touchwood) it's been the same since (barring illness etc).

dom that kind of camping sounds hard. Ours was on a nice spacious site with good loos and showers. Good luck!

rhu I'm no sure what to do re the childcare. The nursery said they'll be able to give me a more definite answer in the next few weeks so I'm waiting on that first. I feel so annoyed with myself - the reason we were using this nursery is that we walk past it on the way to school so I've literally walked past 4 times a day since I knew I was pregnant and if I'd gone in and put his name down we'd be fine. Nurseries here are not generally oversubscribed so I just never considered it would be an issue. I had a quick look and there are a few childminders who work with an assistant having 6ish children at a time locally so that will probably be my second choice.
Are you looking for jobs or waiting a while?

Hi sleepy. I saw your other thread, welcome. Sorry you've been having a hard time. DS is mostly content if he has enough sleep but he won't nap properly anywhere but his cot so I am a bit tied to the house. He's a raging beast atm due to teething. Sympathies

No hair loss here though it's possible I'm so sleep deprived I just haven't noticed!

Took me 3 hours to get DS to sleep last night. Little bugger was just wide awake. Not crying though

Interesting to see all the discussions on going back to work. We've pretty much decided now I'm not going back.

Another one jealous of self soothing babies!! DS needs so many props to sleep it's ridiculous - cot, sleepyhead, dark, white noise, dummy . We've only just about managed to get him out the swaddle.

Maybe - having the same problem here with getting DS to sleep at night, he's still not going down until 10pm the earliest and could be anything up until 11:30 and it's taking white noise, sleepy head, rocking, lots of screaming, shhhhing and it's still hit and miss - I said to DH yesterday what am I doing so wrong but maybe it's just that way for us. His first nap is easier 2 hours after he's woken up he will have a 1-2 hour nap if I lay beside him he will go for 2 hours then the rest of the day is hit and miss but is that because he has such a long nap in the morning? I give up on trying to work it out if I'm honest!
Jealous of those of you not going back to work, although I moan I would love to be able to stay at home and see all the 'first' steps etc but I'm returning to work in November 4 days a week (34 hours) I managed to work it so I could cut hours slightly so I got 1 day off a week with him we sorted a childminder for the rest of the days.
Welcome sleepy- no advise on weaning as this is my first
Hope everyone is having a good day seems hotter here again today I thought it was meant to be raining
Decided to take DS and dog with DH for a walk around 8pm last night trying to settle him (which didn't work) and got soaked after getting around 30mins away from home it started raining then had 30min walk back in the rain.

Does anyone have more trouble getting their babies to sleep in the afternoon/evening? DS goes down pretty nicely (usually) for his morning naps but bedtime is still a bit hit and miss and I really struggle to get him to nap anytime after 2.

I know his teething makes it worse but can teething be worse at certain times of day?!

I've been trying to get him to nap for an hour and I'm slowly losing the will to live...

Maybe I do find it gets harder in the afternoon. Currently in bed lying next to DS - the only way he'll nap most of the time lately. It isn't fail safe though, just to keep me on my toes. Feel for you!

FS I tried lying next to him, no joy. I finally resorted to rocking him in the pram which worked. I think tbh I spend way too long trying to get him to sleep in his cot when actually if he's not going down after 10 or 15 mins I should just move him to the pram as I know he definitely will fall asleep that way. Bizarre though that he's perfectly happy to go down in the cot in the mornings!!

Maybe yy just put him down in his pram to sleep for those naps if that's what works. They change so quickly at this age, he'll probably want something different in a few months!

Hi Sleepy. I stopped night feeds at 1yr old with ds1. It was very easy. I stopped offering his bedtime feed because he didn't seem that bothered by it anymore and I think that broke the feed-to-sleep association for him because he stopped wanting night feeds about a week after this and started sleeping through the night (very occasionally!). I would like to stop earlier this time using the method where you gradually space their night feeds further apart until you have a bfing free time of around 6 hrs. Sounds easy in theory but I might end up not bothering if he gets bad separation anxiety!

Ds was very clingy and grumpy yesterday after his jabs and he barely slept last night but no fever so I'm happy. He's been sleeping lots all day and still went down for the night at 8 so I'm preparing myself for another crap night!

Morning everyone, is it ok if I join?

DS was born in the middle of March and is 18 weeks old. I had a rubbish end to my pregnancy with severe pre eclampsia and DS was born by a fraught emergency c section but we are well over all of that now and he is just lovely!

DS is formula fed and has 6oz every three hours. Sleep wise at night time he is great. He goes to bed at around 7.30, will self settle and generally wakes up around 6.30 or 7.00. However naps during the day are a different story altogether! He will fall asleep in his pram or car seat ok if we are out, but wakes up after about half an hour. At home he will fall asleep on me or DH and then be transferred but again will wake up after a short time. I feel bad for moaning because he is so good at night, but he just gets so tired and miserable during the day. Why do babies fight sleep so much, I would love a nice afternoon snooze!

I have recently noticed my hair starting to fall out, lots of loose strands but then DS likes to grab it and have a good tug too! I have also noticed I am starting to resemble a balloon so will be starting counting weight watchers points on Monday!

DS woke at 5.30 this morning full of smiles, he's been fed and changed and is back sound asleep now but I'm not, hence finding myself here!

Sorry for the long old waffle! Have a good day everyone

Hi new people! Nice to see you here.

Afternoon naps have gone crap here too. I thought it was the heat but now not sure if maybe there's a tooth coming. My hair is falling out, but I'm almost ashamed to say I'm pleased. I have very thick hair and it's too heavy for this bloody heat! I think I read that it's just your hair going back to normal after being protected from falling out during pregnancy.

DS is running around downstairs with DH and I can hear them singing the "be a man" song from Mulan. Hilarious.

Ha, mship, love it!

Welcome to all the newbies, and sorry for everyone struggling in the heat. Our naps are pretty hit and miss too, she's good in the mornings but I don't know if that's because we normally have some structure with preschool runs at 8 and 11. I guess we'll find out over the summer! Like dotty I don't mind so much as long as I get a decent night, which I usually do. And I have a self settler too! Having already had my ds, who was a refluxy, hourly waking nightmare, I am well aware of how lucky I am and the fact that this is nothing to do with my parenting skills!

We had 16 week jabs yesterday which I'd been dreading as it's already hot and they need you to look out for a fever, and lots of people have said they got no sleep after. She was fine though, as long as I didn't accidentally touch her legs she was pretty unaffected. So anyone who hasn't had them yet, don't panic, it's not a given that you'll have a reaction!

Just wrote a long post and lost it, gah!

Welcome to all newbies!

We are also struggling with afternoon naps here, dd2 will happily go in her cot im the morning but struggles with later on in the day - have just led on my bed with her feeding to sleep. In fact she's asleep but im taking a break from the toddler and sitting here with baby and MN!

We still have 2-3 wakes a night here but she feeds for five mins and goes straight back to sleep so it doesn't bother me. She goes to bed around 6 and sleeps till 7 so im quite happy with that. Like swear i also have a self settler this time round (at bedtime and first nap, at least, she'll happily go in the cot awake) but dd1 was a nightmare with sleep props till she was 18 months old and we only managed to get her to sleep in her own bed without one of us in the room when she was two and we still struggle to get her to sleep most nights so can also vouch that it is luck of the draw rather than parenting skills that determines whether they can self settle!

Its boiling here in the south east and we have a friend visiting so have cracked out the barbeque, yum!

Oh gosh nutramigen frigging stinks! I tasted a bit and gagged boak
Hmm dd has been going to bed at 8:30 for the last three days up at 12 and 3 then up for the day at 5... And is exhausted all morning but refuses a nap until 11 and then sleeps until 3 and then refuses to sleep until bed time and is a right grump by 6:30!
She'll happily expect her cot at night time but from 5am onwards not a chance, she'll sleep anywhere but the cot.
here we are together... With milk dribbling down her chin haha