March 2016 - I can't think of a pithy title because I'm too sleep deprived :/

[DomesticAnarchist]

New thread?
Sorry, really couldn't think of something humorous!

Thanks all, calpol seemed to help. Ended up with him in our bed as he was awake every 2 hours from 12 wanting to feed each time and I could barely even see.
He's wide awake and chatting away now, think I was just panicking as none of his others have really affected him.

Morning all.
Calais settled at 8:30 slept till 12 and took 7oz then woke at 5 I thought she would be up for the day but I put dummy in and she slept until 6:30
Don't want to speak to soon but the last two nights have been so much better since she's been in her room...and we don't get woken by every single grunt ans wiggle to
She's 5 months now... So feeling a bit guilty that we didn't wait another four weeks as per guidelines.
Was going to stay in today for a change as I never do but I suddenly feel really guilty and like I should take her out for some fresh air. I always feel she should go out every day for some reason...
I am bored of coffee shops now though.
Q- glad his ok now. C was fine after 8 and 12 week ones but was awful after the 16 week ones. So glad their over now for a while. It's a nice feeling when the 16 week ones are done isn't it?

Glad you had a decent night time and commiserations q on your bad night.

We had a much better night last night, dd2 slept 6-1 then slept till 5 then half 6. Her 1am wake was odd, she didn't cry, i just woke up and she was awake very quiet in her cot staring around the room in the dark. Bizarre! After i fed her she was awake and quiet and i just left her in her cot and went back to sleep. But dd2 woke me at 5.30 so looks like i cant catch a break at the moment!

Another every 3 hourly wake up night here. Am I the only one whose baby doesn't sleep longer? I rarely, if ever, get even 4 hours out of him.

I'm not sure I can blame it on the tooth as a) he's waking up to feed, not crying in pain etc and b) tbh he's been like this for a good month now. We had a spate of him starting to do 5/6 hour stretches but it tapered off completely.

Maybe-
Dd very rarely has a decent nice tbh.
I bet she'll be back to 1-3 hourly soon.
Tbh what his doing sounds very normal. I always expected them to feed every 3/4 hours at night at this age.
C only does a long stretch if she takes a decent sized feed. 5oz plus... Anything less and she's up more often.Maybe your ds is more of a grazer... Does he feed often in the day to ?

time yes he's a total grazer, I struggle to get him to do longer than 6 minutes and he never wants both boobs. He feeds 3 hourly night and day. I've tried offering him the boob more often but he won't take it. Frustrating!!

Must be frustrating but don't feel like your the only one.
We have this very often as well.
I did read to top them up more during the day but you can't force feed them.
He will grow out of it- maybe when he starts solids it will fill his belly for longer? ( I know some claim that's a myth though)

Heading off out now...
Dd very grumpy and I'm frustrated and the only way I know how to make it better is to go out.
Theirs a baby movers group on and might get her weighed this afternoon and then go for lunch and to the supermarket.

I just can't cope with her indoors alone all day. Yet it's fine when my oh is here...

Bought ds a 2nd hand jumperoo, he hates it haha do hope he grows to love it or its going back on Gumtree.
time I like to try to get ds out of the house most days, Is taking her swimming an option? We have a park next to where we live so I just walk around there with him.

Maybe I hope you start to see an improvement soon, take solace in the fact he goes 3 hours during the day - I still feel like am constantly chasing feeds.

Q glad your ds's temp came down. My DS has his third set of jabs yesterday too and luckily has been fine if a little more sleepy than usual - this morning he went back down after his 5.30am bottle until 9am which is very unusual! Normally I get an extra hour out of him at best and he's up by 7am. He's also been asleep now for 1.5hrs which is an unusually long daytime nap for him.

Waiting for his jumperoo to be delivered by Amazon ... I hope he likes it!

Coffee shops do get a bit boring after a while don't they Time. Am I right in remembering that your nan is quite nearby? Often if we have nothing much to do I take DS to see my DPs, we are still staying in at their house rather than mine but it's a change of scenery and he likes to see people other than me I think!

Anyone who hasn't had 16 week jabs yet, some babies just shrug them off. T had no reaction to either the main set or the menb (given separately a week earlier at our surgery).

maybe you're not alone on the every three hours. It's only very recently we've started getting a slightly longer first stretch at night, and daytime feeds are every 1-3 hours. However I am exceedingly lazy. We co sleep and almost exclusively nurse lying down at night.

I didn't care for baby groups myself first time. DS was generally screaming, and the few attempts I made to join in with other mums I felt like I was slowly sidelined and excluded. It was probably in part because I didn't hide how hard I found motherhood and how much I was looking forward to returning to work. Everyone else was planning on not going back or going very part time.

I've tried co sleeping but I don't get a jot more sleep that way - less if anything! DS thrashes about and seems to be a lot more settled in his cot. I also can't really feed lying down as my boobs are huge.

DS is now 17 weeks but no jabs yet and won't have them until 19 weeks our surgery is that clogged up! Dreading them.

First I hope you've had a better day today. I can completely sympathise, my DS is still a major grump. It resulted in me having to put him down an leave the room today with his howling...first time ever with either child...and for the first time ever he cried himself to sleep on his playmat!
Apparently it's just me he hates though, as soon as we went out for tea at my SIL he was an angel!!!

Tried talking to DP about how tough I'm finding it but makes me look as though I'm barmy when he's all laughs and smiles for everyone else!! Can't remember our last 'good' day!!

Dom your DH sounds like he's taken to being a SAHD brilliantly, must be a relief for you.

Maybe can't believe your nearly through with the first tooth!!! Well done .

Time you have convinced me to nag and nag until DS has a nursery to sleep in!! Pleased it seems successful so far. My DD was in her own room at 3 months...DS would have been too if we'd have been organised enough!!

Better day here today, although he woke up for the day at 5am he went back to sleep around 8-10am we then went to the baby sensory room which was really good, the mums there were really friendly too and I've arranged to meet them at another group next Tuesday so an improvement on any other groups I've been to before!
He's been slightly grizzly this evening and i swear he can smell dinner cooking as every night when I sit foe to have dinner he decides to have a melt down so tonight as DH still isn't home from work I ended up calming him down feeding him and having a lovely cold jacket potato for dinner
Maybe- I second on the not finding it easy to feed lying down due to huge boobs!
DS really trying to roll he gets onto his side but can't get that extra bit over.
Hope everyone has had a lovely day and enjoyed the sunshine.
DS still awake although he's fighting the tiredness so deciding to scream instead so I'm hoping to feed him to sleep for some sanity as I doubt DH will be home anytime soon, I can't remember which of you has their DP away at the moment but I take my hat off to you I struggle with no sanity with DH working late most nights let alone being away.
Fingers crossed for a good night for us all

I also found feeding lying down hard (and my boobs are massive - 32J), but I read this article on co sleeping and breastfeeding and it really helped and now I can feed lying down from either boob without having to turn over.

DD2 woke for a feed half an hour ago, so pretty much three hours after I put her down at half 6. If that's the longest stretch I'm getting tonight I'm in for another horrendous night, should really be in bed.. the house is a mess as well and when tidying the kitchen up just a minute ago I realised we have barely any milk and DD1 eats porridge and weetabix for breakfast and has A LOT of milk plus I want my cup of tea first thing as I am going to feel like death warmed up tomorrow if DD1 does her usual up at 5.30/6. obviously can't pop to the shops now as home alone with them so am going to have to go to the local shop with the both of them as soon as it opens at 7am tomorrow morning in our pjs... sigh

maybe, DS2 will do 4-5 hours in his first stretch, but I don't get to bed in time to make the most of it, so I'm lucky if I can get 3 hours in a row. (But, BFing, lying down, and not looking at the clock make a HUMUNGOUS difference, so I can't really complain!).

Glad to hear you've had a good night, Time.

Hope you survived the day, Q.

TheMship "I didn't hide how hard I found motherhood and how much I was looking forward to returning to work." YES! This is/was me! DS1 was hard, and though DS2 is a dream in comparison, I'm very much enjoying being back say work this week! (In the knowledge than in less than a week I'm off for another 6!)

I think the pretence that motherhood is all magical rainbows and wonderment and the only fulfilling thing a woman can/should do is so very damaging.

This evening (parents evening) I described it to a colleague as feeling like fathers must do. I love my children, but I know they're happy and safe and fed and I'm able to enjoy being at work. Of course, they were both asleep in bed when I got home so I can't squish either, which is a shame, but I can cope with it! And I can cope with being at work without them! (As long as I don't imagine DS2s little sad-face!)

I left the handle part of my breast pump at home today. Managed to hand express a tiny bit but then was fortunately able to whip home at lunch to feed/pump/pick up the missing bit! What an idiot!

Ah Dom I've done that.. Packed my pump but not the parts, packed the parts but not the pump....

I too have enjoyed my days back at work and feel a BT guilty for not feeling more guilty about leaving her? But like you say she's happy and safe and fed at home..

Well we say safe.. We've had our first accident MIL was babysitting and dropped her, massive bump to the head but by the time I got home (20 minutes after call for what really should have been 30 minutes..) she'd been checked by my doctors and has been fine. Realise I need to leave things like doctors numbers in the house now which I hadn't really thought of.

Also need to politely tell MIL that perhaps phoning me immediately after the doctors and not making tea and waiting for me to reappear when the only message I've had is she's been dropped on her head might have meant I could have stopped panicking slightly sooner!

Bit guilty.. Not sure what BT has to do with it!

Just had a catch up.

Went to a baby group this week there were only 6 of us obviously no one round here has babies. Amazingly with so few people I was still avoided by the other mums.

Feel bad coming on here to moan about this but today I have built a high chair and then dismantled it ( it was sent without the tray!) and dd still isn't awake. She has been asleep 10 hours. I know most of you would give anything for a 10 hour stretch but it worries me when she goes this long without a bottle.

Winging DS goes 10 hours without a bottle every night and has done since he was 8 weeks old - it's fine, don't worry about it and let her sleep!

DH has gone out this morning to buy a high chair! Not planning on weaning for another month at least (DS is 19 weeks) but we have just had a new IKEA open near here (ridiculously excited!) so have sent DH off with a list of things we need and thought we might as well include a high chair!

Oooh me get the antilop chair! Dead simple and you can literally hose it off outside if needed.

Re: huge boobs and lying down to feed. I'm 38JJ and it's working fine. Each individual boob is larger than T's head, as you can see (this is us right now, going down for a nap). I wonder if shape and nipple position are a factor?

DS just doesn't like feeding lying down I don't think - I've tried him in so many positions!

Ooh me off topic but is it the reading one? I think we might live near each other!

I'm also rubbish at feeding lying down. I got the hang of it with ds through necessity, he woke hourly for months following the four month sleep regression, but I never liked it even then - either I found it hard to sleep next to him and impossible to move him once asleep, or I'd doze with him on the boob and wake up in a puddle of milk where he'd let go or get puked on when he hadn't. I haven't even tried this time, I'll save it til I'm desperate!

Another busty one (32J) here who is rubbish at feeding lying down. I don't find it comfortable at all, I'd rather just sit up and do it.

Just finished my antibiotics yesterday, boob still isn't fully right and C chomped down really hard on the other one yesterday giving me a bruise near my nipple...

Yes it is Swear! I think marmite is local too?

DH came back with the wooden high chair MShip! But we're going to go back sometime and get one of the antilop ones for the DGP's house - can't believe they're only £13!

It's friiiday!

I didn't get DS2 to bed on time so he's now asleep on me. Oh well, extended cuddles for me!

Re: high chairs. We bought this booster seat for DS1 as our little new build house is quite tight for space. It worked really well for us, and we could take it when we went to visit family, etc.

I've got a weekend off pumping (yay). I suspect my supply had reduced a bit, so hopefully this weekend will get it back on track. Then only 4 more days to do till September.