March 2016 Babies Thread #11 - We've got smiley babies, screaming babies and farty babies!

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This time last year....my nephew was days away from being born, I was planning a wedding and looking forward to that holiday.....little did I know that I would fly home with a little souvenir

Purple De Quervains Tenosynovitis is what you've got. I've got it too in my right wrist! It hurts like fuck hell.

M is a screamy up-chucky ball of rage atm. I've retreated to bed with a lager shandy (don't judge me ). I took her for a looooong drive this afternoon in the hope that she would sleep.

Not a pigging wink....

She's throwing up her formula feeds and so the dr thinks she may have developed a lactose intolerance she's fine when I breastfeed but I am still not convinced she gets enough from me. I might have to spend the next few weeks with my boobs out.

To top it all off because my delightful little girl has taken to projectile vomiting I washed my sofa cushion covers to get rid of the rancid milk smell. They've come up lovely but unfortunately the seams have come undone. Apparently you aren't meant to take the covers off the cushions (wtf?) much less was the bastarding things.

I'm so done with being an adult today.

Paper that's it!! Mine's in the right wrist too, in the middle of the night when I wake up for E's feed it is agony. Sorry you are having a shit day though the naming of the cushions as "bastarding cushions" did make me laugh.

Well we haven't had a scream fest after the jabs. More pitiful whines and noises, quite heartbreaking. She is really lethargic too, it's like everything is too much effort and she's not fed much. Hoping we are back to smiley wiggly Evie in the morning.

Purple andPaper sorry to hear about your horrible wrist tendons whatever it's called!. A good friend of mine had it which meant an early end to breastfeeding for her as it was too difficult and painful to hold her baby, she had wrist splints and all sorts. Hope you both get it sorted.

Swear, bless your little girl. She is gorgeous and hope that the casts soon sort the issue with no more follow ups needed. I guess better she has things done now when she can't go anywhere anyway, plus won't remember a thing. I second the baby nightshirt things....like a sleepsuit dress, they'd be perfect over it.

Time, Calais is so gorgeous, she's a proper little chunk now isn't she! I also agree that trying some slings out at a local sling library would be a good call. This last week one of the only places Zach will sleep unless we're in the car or he's in the pushchair out walking is in the sling (close caboo). Today he's slept in it for about two hours this morning and 3.5 this afternoon/evening after flat out refusing any more than a 20 minute cat nap anywhere else. He's totally at the point now of getting over tired and not being able to settle himself so when that happens it's into the sling for him which, combined with the dummy, will send him off within 10 mins normally.

It's so funny as with DS1 I was so rigid with trying not to let him get into 'bad habits' like sleeping on me etc, I'd put him straight down, only let him sleep in his Moses basket or pushchair ....with Zach it's all gone out the window and basically any way I can get him to sleep is the order of the day!

It's been a fairly chaotic three days here as DH has been working all weekend so I've had three days in a row with my two boys and no other adult company all day....I have actually survived (altho it's been bloody hard work keeping DS1 entertained enough so he's not a nightmare while having Velcro baby attached to me at almost all times)!

Beaut, glad to see you back, so sorry to head about your awful exp with FIL (what an idiot) You are doing amazing to rise above it all and your 'D'H clearly didn't deserve such an awesome wife as you. Lots of strength coming your way.

Welcome back Mship, glad to see you and T are doing well (what a great weight she is! ). I second tommee tippee bottles...but then neither of my boys have cared where their milk comes from or who from as long as they're being fed!

Sorry to all those dealing with poorly/sad babies after jabs. I'm quite pleased we got the first three out the way with Zach when he really was so tiny, it was a bit easier to deal with as we were so used to him having needles in him that a couple more was nothing.

I'm hoping for a better night sleep tonight. Z had been going from his 10.30-11pm bottle until around 5am
But a fair few nights in last week it's been 2 or 3am and then the second stretch he never goes more than 2 hours, often only 1.5 hours, which then adds a couple more night feeds on. It's hard when I'd got into the swing of only one at 5am before a 6.45-7.15 wake. Fingers crossed tonight is a better one for us and you all!

Time I also second (or should it be third) the sling. Oliver is terrible at napping in the day and will not go to sleep with rocking etc. He won't sleep on my chest but will always drop off after 5 minutes of being in the sling. I have a close caboo like Missi and really recommend them, it is really easy to use and wraps them up really snuggly so the feel safe and secure. It kind of swaddles them so C may like it, definitely worth a try, it certainly saves my sanity!

Awake at 12.50am for a feed which would normally frustrate me but she drank nearly all her bottle which is the most she has had since 4pm yesterday so I'm happy. I also got gurgles and smiles which is the most alert she has been since the jabs. Hoping we are through the worst. Lovely to have my little girl back.

Glad your LO is doing ok after jabs purple

time Calais is so cute!!

After being awful 2 days in a row DS was delightful yesterday - no proper crying at all, just a few whinges! Currently up feeding but he went down at 8pm so he did a good five hours.

Morning all,

We've had a shit couple of nights. Really need a good one tonight or I forsee going crackers by Friday!

Time, I've just seen your pic of Calais asleep under the baby gym thing - could she be getting overstimulated? We've removed all that kind of brightly coloured stuff, and occasionally giving DS2 a pale blue bear to look at on the pale blue & pale grey mat for no more than around 10 mins at a time. Anything more seems to make him even more overwrought & screamy.

Hi TheM! As soon as I've mended our cloth nappies (all the elastic has gone) we'll be the same! We used Breastflow bottles with DS1 who rejected everything else. Got them on Amazon. Not the cheapest, but they worked.

Ah, Paper! You deserve that shandy.

RL calls, brb...

I was nearly at the end of the thread anyway!

I love a sling too! I have 3 (and have resisted buying a meitai, a woven wrap and another couple of nice buckle carriers that have taken my fancy!). My stretchy wrap developed a hole, and in all honesty the wrapping took longer than I'd like and was a bit too hit & miss for me. Though DS2 loved it when he was tiny (he's still only 6 weeks, but is a whopping 12+ lb). The ring sling is good for quick pick ups. But I've now got the infant insert for the ergo buckle carrier which is my favourite! Quick on & off, super comfy, and the hood part is great for stopping him from gazing around getting more worked up.

Which reminds me: is anyone else's baby already onto the looking around so much they can't feed properly? I was expecting it to happen around 3/4 months but he's doing it already!

And hospital (an apparently 12 year old surgeon) confirmed no tongue tie, and said he doesn't believe in posterior TT. But DS2 is still constantly de-latching and gulping air. I'll actually ask at boob group this morning.

I should get dressed... school run soon..

We're out of our Moby wrap too Dom, can't fit S under the top layer with her casts on. I'm a bit sad as we love it too. Have dug out our boba 3g but have put off trying her in it for some reason. One thing I would say if you try a sling time is try it for a walk outside the first few times as she's more likely to learn to settle in it if you're on the move. I wouldn't use it around the house until she's used to it.

I think I'd cripple myself carrying DS in the sling all day, you ladies are very strong!

Thanks to Dom who mentioned the EASY routine. Been trying it out over the last couple of days and seems to be going quite well.

Ive read he should be in his cot for daytime naps (assuming we're at home) as well as night sleep. But I'm confused as I thought the advice was to teach them the difference between day and night by making day time naps different from night sleep. However I think he gets over stimulated when I keep him in the living room in his chair for a nap so I've just started doing exactly what I do at night for day naps - swaddle, dark room, dummy, sleepyhead. But worried he will now get confused?!

He doesn't 'believe' in posterior TT?! What a bizarre thing to say Dom... Sorry to hear you've had a bad night, fingers crossed you get some respite!

time I also am a big sling fan. DD2 will only sleep in the sling/carrier during the day. The few times I've tried to get her to sleep in other ways have been a disaster. Yesterday I went to the doctors to have the IUD put in and the nurse there somehow miraculously got her to sleep in the buggy whilst I was having it done, but DD2 woke up within half an hour.

Having the coil put in was fine, didn't actually feel any pain at all. She asked me if I wanted the 5 year or 10 year one and I said 5 years since I'm pretty sure I want another DC within the next five years. She tried to convince me to get a 10 year one just in case but when I asked her what the differences were she said the 10 year one is a bit more tricky/painful to insert (though usually more of an issue if you haven't had kids yet), and it can give you heavier periods. I was like hmm you're not really selling me on the 10 year one! I had the 10 year one put in last time (about 10 years ago in fact) and it was horrifically painful to have put in an my periods were very heavy and long (8 days of bleeding). Anyway so if anyone is deciding between which one to get, that's the difference! I haven't had any pain since having it in but I have been bleeding, so it's back to using pads, sigh.

Had a great nights sleep last night, DD2 slept from 8.30-3.30, fed then went back down until DD1 woke us up at 6.30. Can hardly believe I've had a night with only one night feed already -DD1 didn't manage that till she was about 9 months old (maybe older).

I thought the difference between 5 and 10 year coils is that the 10 year one is the copper coil and has no hormones whereas the 5 year one has hormones? I used to have the copper coil in as I can't take hormonal contraceptives.

Argh ds has spent the last 2 days feeding hourly, then last night slept 10-4 and 5 : 30-8, I feel like a new woman but today he has his jabs and I don't want to ruin the sleep damn it.

paper hope you enjoyed your shandy!

purple glad your dd seems to be perking up, even if it is middle of the night!

Good morning! A little challenging to settle Tam last night but nothing major. Like some of you I'm also itching (not literally!) to get my hair cut and have booked a mobile hairdresser to come to my house. Will do a before and after!

time a front parent facing carrier like ergo or any mei tai style lets baby hear your heartbeat, feel your warmth and skin, and gently compresses their abdomen which really helps with relief from gas. If you walk or do gentle tasks (I like to prepare dinner so DH can cook as soon as he walks in after work) you'll likely find Calais sleeps pretty well. Worth a shot anyway!

maybe the trick is good posture and new, properly fitted trainers. They're expensive, but I wear them all day.

I am similarly confused, maybe, but rarely manage to get him near the cot during the day anyway! For us it's mainly trying to avoid overstimulation and encourage any naps at all, and an evening routine that gets us to bed before 1am (and with minimal screaming!).

I know, marmite! I was like "riiiight" . And he was one of these people that closes their eyes when they talked to you. So I did my best Paddington 'hard stare' every time and held it when he deigned to open his eyes. Did I mention he looked a it 12?

I had a copper coil before. It was a bit sore going in, but then I had long and very heavy periods for about 3 years before it settled down a bit. However, it was much preferable to the constant 'spotting' I had on the mini pill and implant. Would the mirena coil do the same, do you think?

maybe and TheM - the right carrier is also important (the ergo doesn't fit DH but I love it) and starting while they're small so you don't notice the increase as they grow! Also, back carrying is way more comfortable (but not as good for constantly kissing their head!) but not for another few months yet!

Right, I'm off (with carrier) to the boob group. See what they have to say about the imaginary posterior TT and DS2s gulping.

maybe it might be that the hormonal one is also 5 years? I've definitely got the non hormonal one ie copper coil as I didn't want hormones. Apparently the one I've got is the 'mini' version of the copper coil which is 5 years as it has less copper in it (and is smaller i assume).

DD2 had mega nap in her bednest today which is unheard of. Would be great but of Course she chose the day I need to leave the house to pick up a click and collect shop from tesco... was just thinking I'd have to wake her up and she's just woke so going to have to do a quick nappy change and feed.

Dom Paddington hard stare I love it!

Well I spoke to soon about jabs, took her to clinic for a weigh in and she suddenly got hot. The HV looked like she couldn't be arsed to be there said "she feels a bit warm". I was hoping she would have a thermometer but hey. Anyway brought her home and her temp is 37.3 which I know isn't an official temp but is hotter than she normally is. I've given more calpol and now she is trying to snooze next to me on the sofa. Phoned dh who told me 37.3 isn't a temp so ended up snapping at him that she feels warmer than usual which she does.

So now I'm having s sofa day catching up on Marcella and In the Club and worrying

Maybe with ds I always avoided the cot for daytime sleeps because I wanted to be able to be out and about. I had friends who couldn't do anything between 2-4pm because their ds would only nap in the cot (obviously this was around 6months old) so I was glad we had always done pram or bouncer sleeping as we were able to be doing things and still have him sleep. So far we are doing the same with E.

Oh purple my oh is the same. I'll tell him for example that c has only slept an hour today and he doesn't seem fussed. So I snap and say " you won't be saying that when she's screaming come 7pm will you "
Hope dd is okay otherwise and I would try not to worry about 37.3 but keep an eye out. Enjoy your sofa day.
Thanks for the sling advice. I can't get out today as I have no money and its pissing down with rain here but I will be on Friday afternoon after oh is home from work.
She had a shit night again last night. She was in the damn chair from 2:15 as she just would not settle at all. Has had a 45 minute nap since 8:45 and is Still yawning. Am hoping the swing chair and dummy sends her off for a bit longer. Why don't babies like to sleep?! I hate thinking I'm damaging her back. But what am I to do?
Maybe- isn't it so annoying when their actually sleeping and you have to wake them.
Hope everyone is ok today.
I'm really not enjoying dd at all. I spend my whole day fighting with her to get her to sleep and feeds are not enjoyable either. I can't bond with a baby who screams her way through every feed and every hour of the day. Surely by 13 weeks it should be getting easier ? It's not. It's getting worse each day :(...
I just feel like I had a shit pregnancy and now I have a high needs baby to. Life just feels so shit and I feel like I'm wasting precious moments with dd that I'll never get back but i just can't enjoy her like this.

I started the combined pill yesterday. I've only ever used condoms as contraception before.

Hi everyone, haven't posted for a while but have been reading.

We still have the Moses basket in the lounge, so day naps are in there, or pram or car seat. Life is still so busy so J naps usually when we are out and about.

J still has one wake up during the night so feel a bit guilty about posting sometimes. We are so lucky to have a chilled baby. It could all change though so not counting my chickens just yet.

DS1 is 4 today, I can't believe how fast it has gone since he was a newborn. It really races by.

Swear your poor little one. She does look super gorgeous though in the photos. She won't have any recollection of the casts.

Welcome back Beaut. Hold in there, you are doing amazingly well faced with what you are.

Time more gorgeous photos. Good sling advice here. If C likes being swaddled it would make sense. Let us know if you give it a go and if it works.

Sorry for you with bad wrists, sounds really painful. And the coil fittings- ouch! I'm such a wuss I'm sticking to the pill.

Off out again now to pick DS1 from nursery, MacD lunch, afternoon with grandparents, street dance class, then we are going bowling. Phew!

time My commiserations on the 13 weeks thing. It's held up as some magic bloody number where everything is suddenly unicorns shitting rainbows. It was more like 17 weeks when DS finally got over what you're going through now. It does end, but maybe go see your GP soon about your own health, it sounds like you're really struggling. How much does Calais weigh now? If she's under 15 lb, I'd recommend ordering a stretchy wrap, they're only £23 for a plain one and you'd still get a couple months use out of it. They have decent resale value too.

Rhu- happy birthday to him. Hope he has a good day.
Congrats on the good sleeping to.
It doesn't help I don't have many friends at all so I don't really have a lot to do in the week. I only get my nan as a visitor every couple weeks to. And see my dad maybe once a fortnight as well.
I've tried some baby groups but haven't really clicked with anyone and I hate the health visitors who run them telling me what I'm doing wrong ( eg swaddling etc) what don't understand not every baby is going to be happily put down in the crib/cot on their back and just fall asleep.
I'm barely surviving easy day. In fact I feel shaky and my hearts beating fast now. I just want my oh to come home.
Apparently according to the doctors the health visitors where meant to contact me. A week later and I've not heard a work.
The only advice doctor has was pick her up when she cries because ' she needs you' .... Everyone tells me to not let her use the swing chair too much because of her spine and I spend every day feeling guilty. I do try each nap to get her flat on her back but after about 30 minutes I give up.
All I want is to enjoy my baby! I don't want each nap/feed/every hour to be a miserable battle with her.
And then she does this...and I feel guilty for being so fucked off with life all the time.
Calais was 9 pounds 13 at 12 weeks ( last week) starting to finally outgrow her newborn clothes. I had to pack away all her tiny baby stuff which was even too big for her when she was born.

Aaahh it's just taken Z an hour to fall asleep on his own in his Moses basket downstairs (in Woombie, post massive bottle if special formula, multiple dummy pop ins)....which is an achievement in itself, but I now need to leAve the house in 5 mins to take him to the hospital for one of his many appointments (this time for a physiotherapy assessment as I think his arms and legs seem really stiff). Hopefully he'll drop back off again in the car but it's so frustrating! (Good to know that it is possible tho!)

Thinking of you Time. Are there any other baby groups (like church coffee morning type ones where there no hvs who are going to criticise your parenting choices?) that you could go to. It will help your mental health a lot I'm sure if you can just go and chat (blow off steam!) to some other mums? Hope today is a better day for you xx

Missi- c was the same yesterday. I finally got her to sleep and then a bloody wasp flew in. Huge wasp phobia here so I grabbed c and ran to the bedroom lol. Hope hospital app goes ok.

I'll have to look around for baby groups disconnected from the bloody health visitors.

purple and paper I have that exact same wrist thing, I thought I'd just strained it but its been hurting for weeks now so was wondering whether to go to the docs or not.

time I'm afraid I've got not useful advice, although I think trying some slings out at a sling library would be a good idea. My nct charges £5 hire for 2 weeks, much better to test it rather than spending money on something you don't get on with. I would say though that all my most cherished memories of my 2.5 year old are when he was way out of the newborn stage, its things like shen he first rolled over or first started weaning, don't worry if you are just surviving day to day at this stage.