September 2014 - Toddlers & Tantrums!

[lilone1234]

Babies are now toddlers at 18 months +, growing and learning new things all the time!

I've just looked through the active threads and seen the September 2016 topic just a couple away from our 2014 thread. It just amazes me how quickly the past couple of years have passed!

Woo hoo!!! FINALLY!!! At 19 months, we now have top front teeth

19 months? Wow, that's been a long wait! How many teeth in total now? We're at the opposite end of the spectrum: tons of teeth. I'll be glad when the teething is finally over...

Awww bless, top teeth!

Ive had intermittent internet connection for the last few days and have been trying to say welcome to Binglesplodge (hope I got that right!) and any lurkers. I love chatting about my boy so please join in!

16 teeth here and he hates having them brushed!

Words are picking up now but nowhere near the same as others have posted.

Despite loads of veggies when weaning I now have a veg refuser, very frustrating!

She now has the front four, two up and two down, and all four molars. So she's gappy!!!

We also have an increasing level of fussiness. She's not to bad if it is cut up small and mixed in with pasta or risotto. But the only veg she will eat as finger foods now are olives and sweet corn. Still loves bananas and all berries though. And she's a cheese fiend

I think I have the only child who hates bananas!

Welcome Bingles! I think in a playground you do need to follow them around still at this age - lots of mobility but very little danger awareness! And I am not a helicopter parent. All the other kids are a hazard too. Plus, my DD will try and 'borrow' any unattended scooter/bike/ball she can find!

I wouldn't worry about words yet either KitKat, as long as she is communicating and understanding things I'm sure she'll be a chatterbox in no time!

Did anyone watch the thing on bbc2 about the Portland hospital? Private maternity hospital - you're served afternoon tea once you've given birth! And can book out rooms for your staff...crazy.

Oh also, is there only supposed to be 4 molars in total? I thought it was 2 on each side, so 8? Plus 8 front teeth (4 top, 4 bottom) and 4 canines, so 20 in total? DD still has 12 - 8 front and 4 molars but if the nappies, snot and dribbling is anything to go by...

Ive just watched Portland Babies (and I watched OBEM yesterday, I love that sort of stuff). It's a different world! Last weeks Portland Babies left me, well, a bit sad. These newborn babies just being left in the nursery - so many bonding experiences missed in the first few days.

The main thing that struck me about this weeks episode was the gratuitous needless spending of money. Like decorating and refitting whole rooms in the hospital (or whole wings) for the sake of a couple of days. It just doesn't matter what colour the walls and sofa are in the grand scheme of things. I'm all for spending money on good quality goods and services, but wasting to that degree makes me nose-scrunch.

Harrods salesperson showing a moses basket with 4 figure price tag. All I thought is "I bought a Moses basket, couldn't get any of my children to settle in it - very good job I didn't spend several thousand wasteful pounds on it!"

My thoughts exactly Fate! I felt the same about all the babies in the nursery, and some of the women brought their nanny in with them, ready to hand over!

Portland Babies sounds like a whole other world! Bringing in Nannies to hand the baby straight over Can't believe I didn't see that it was on. I love OBEM, although only started watching it when I discovered I was pregnant, probably not the best idea

I do tend to follow A around the park, he has a tendency to climb a bit more than he is capable of at the minute haha. He also picks up balls that aren't his so I need to keep an eye I think. I do try not to helicopter too much though.

Welcome Bingles :) we certainly do chat a fair bit here, but we also have the odd few quiet days as well.

I follow DS around the park, but mainly because he wouldn't go anywhere if I didn't. And I also feel a bit lost if I was just stood in a random spot?! I think to be honest I am probably a helicopter parent, hopefully that will change as DS becomes more confident on his feet. We are now about 7 -8 weeks into walking, and he is less wobbly but still falling a fair bit and showing no signs of getting quicker, or really wanting to walk. He will often just burst into tears if we are walking along like he is incredibly overwhelmed so I end up picking him up. What do you all do in shops? I tend to put DS in a sling to be honest because I've tried having him walk but then he wants to go off in another direction and when I say no he just throws himself on the ground and tantrums.

I saw the second episode of Portland, but missed out on the first one. I would have been devastated to have been separated from my baby in those first few days. I was even anxious if he was downstairs and I was up!

Hello all :)

I am missing in action lol

On holiday with E

I follow him round the park, he still needs help with climbing up the frames and getting his feet in the right position on the slide!

Portland sounds entertaining. What channel is it on? I might be able to watch it on catch-up TV or similar.

Thank you for the reassurance about DD's language. She does communicate in other ways. I think I'll wait it out for a bit until her 2 year check. If she's still not talking much then I'll ask the HV for advice.

I do follow DD in parks, but in my defence she's into everything and everyone (MIL calls her 'fearless fred' - lol)! She has no stranger anxiety or anything.

Cookie - hope you are somewhere wonderful and you're having a great holiday.

With all our talk of tantrums recently, I thought you might be entertained by this morning's meltdown... DD wanted to do some colouring. No problem. I got out the crayons and paper, but she wanted to do colouring standing up with the paper suspended in mid air. Cue meltdown when that wasn't possible!!!

Does anyone have a child who is dummy addicted? I really feel that DD should only have it for sleeping, if that, but she just can't seem to cope without it. At nursery she only has it for nap time, so she clearly can manage without it, but with me she can't. Any suggestions?! I know I probably just need to go cold turkey, but now she's at nursery full time, I can't bear the idea of her being so upset during the small amount of time we have together. Pathetic and bad mummy!

Team - that's hilarious, bless her!

KitKat - the Portland hospital thing is called Five Star Babies and on bbc2.

Team - that's hilarious, bless her!

KitKat - the Portland hospital thing is called Five Star Babies and on bbc2.

Team - that's hilarious, bless her!

KitKat - the Portland hospital thing is called Five Star Babies and on bbc2.

Team - Keeping her busy will help, that will be why she doesn't bother about her dummy at nursery.You probably just need to bite the bullet and don't have the dummy available outside of naptimes. I'm a bit horribly middle-class with regards to seeing children with dummies in their mouth. While I have no problems with DD having a dummy to sleep as long as she needs that comfort, I don't like to see a child playing with a dummy in.

Bad Parent Alert - Took DD to have her feet measured for new shoes yesterday. Last went just after Christmas in the January sales. The shoe's she's been wearing a size and a half too small! I'm used to a half-size growth between measures, occasionally a full shoe size. Feel terrible that I didn't notice her shoes were too small sooner and an now worrying how long she's been scrunching her toes into shoes too small.

She had the most diva brattish tantrum in the shoe shop. No screaming, no crying. Just point-blank refusal to try on any new shoes:

• DD shall we try these shoes on?
• No.
• Ohh look, these have butterflies on!
• No
• These red ones are very pretty
• No Mummy
• What about these, they have pretty pink flowers
• No, no, NO!

I gave up in the end. She just didn't want to try any shoes on at all. So I am going to try again tomorrow.

Thanks FATE. I also don't like constant dummy use, so I've surprised myself getting into this situation. We initially introduced it when she was tiny and really struggling with reflux, and it did help. As she got a little older she only had it for naps or long journeys in the car or pushchair. She then went through that run of being ill quite a lot, including the pneumonia episode, where I ended up letting her have it a lot more as she was one my lap being pathetic and dozing so much of the time. Since then she's wanted it loads

This morning she did quite well. I took it away for breakfast, and then didn't give it back, and she didn't have it at all after that. She did ask for it a few times on the way to nursery, but I stuck to my guns. It's going to be tough though!

DD hasn't had her feet measured in a while now. We should really get her checked, but between working full time and not living to near to a place that does it, it just seems like a little too much effort! Maybe this weekend, given that we have an extra day!

There's a Sarah Ockwell-Smith (attachment parenting guru) article about how children need external comfort until school age, until then they cannot be expected to find comfort from within themselves. Sarah OS advocates the parent being the comfort source, but the dummy does the same job.

So I think if she needs the dummy as a source of comfort (like when ill or tired) then I don't see a problem in giving the child a dummy whenever it is needed, almost on demand so that the child can feel comforted. So don't beat yourself up about using the dummy much more when she was poorly Team.

When dummy isn't needed, she'll soon forget about the dummy if she cant see it and is distracted and busy with something else.

Another morning of no dummy after breakfast! I let her take a toy with us for the walk to nursery, so that helped to keep her distracted. She asked for it a few times, but managed ok.

We were looking at books this morning and she noticed that some things have tails. She then tried to find hers, and got quite upset that she doesn't have a tail How long do the toddler tantrums last for?

Morning three of no dummy after breakfast! She did ask a few times, but less tears this morning. Not quite so successful at the end of the day, but she's so exhausted after being at nursery for a full day that I do feel for her and give her the dummy a bit.

Sounds like you are doing well, keep at it team!

I'm on my knees. For the last three nights DS has not slept for longer than an hour and a quarter, he wakes, wriggles around loads trying to get back to sleep and then cries/gets really cross. This lasts for 30-40 minutes before he crashes back out again and then an hour and a bit later he ia awake again and a new cycle starts. DH has been on nights so Ive been up with DS and then having to go to work, last night when DH had finished nights he got up with DS but of course because it wasn't me DS got hysterical and we were all up.

Wtf is going on?