January 2007 - i know i'm not the only one, come on, where are you all???

[theUrbanDryad]

hey, where are all you guys? i know i'm not the only one to have popped from the jan '07 thread!!

anyway, if you're out there, how's it going???

Think I'll be popping to mothercare to get one tomorrow.

Why is it that people have such strong opinions about everything to do with babies. Would have got one before now if it wasn't for knowing what my friend thinks about another friend who gave her LO a dummy .

wilkie50 - yes, I tried that but he just looks disgusted! will keep perservering. Can't really have him sucking on my little finger the whole time

Hi everyone - finally made it onto mumsnet. I am up waiting to give a 10.30pm feed to Lauren. Some nights I have tried to go to bed at 8pm but although knackered can't sleep.

I have the opposite problem - Lauren is really sleepy and I have to wake her to feed her. She has lost 4 oz in her first week and was jaundiced, which should explain the sleepiness.

But she is now 11 days old - shouldn't she be a bit more alert now? Is this normal?

I use a dummy too - sparingly - but she is so sucky she needs it to settle and then I try and winkle it back out. I would rather use a dummy than the baby suck its thumb.

Really reassuring to read all your posts about life with a newborn - this is my third but it is as scary as ever!

Where are everyone's birth stories? Did anyone else find induction agony?

annieapple - induction hurt SO MUCH!! they had me on the maximum dose of syntocinon for 5 hours before the doctor examined me and decided that the membranes in front of Zac's head hadn't gone after all and ruptured them. Cue pain. The worst pain i;ve ever felt in my whole life. Ever. Was on the gas & air for 3 hours before she examined me again and declared proudly "You're 3cm dilated!" Cue me shouting for an epidural!! Which was the best decision i made all night. the rest was all a bit gory. is that enough of a birth story for you?

we drove back from PIL's tonight - Zac was getting a bit whingy while we were stuck in traffic on the M25 so we stopped at the services on the M1 at Teddington (which are the 1st services you come to if you're going north out of London) and changed him in the (and i use the term laughingly) Mother & Baby "room". cupboard, more like! it was so small i struggled to change him without bashing my elbows! Dh had to wait outside with the car seat! I had a look at the leaflet they provided, which clearly stated there was an area in the restaurant where you could bottle feed your baby, or heat up solids, but that you could feed (they didn't actually say breastfeed, but the implication was clear) your baby "in the privacy and comfort of our mother and baby room". Which also stank of...ahem...poo. There was NO WAY i was going to feed Zac in there, plus the chair seemed to be specially designed to be hard, so i went and sat in the restaurant and fed him. was dying for a member of staff to come up and tell me i couldn't feed, but they didn't! just a rather nice lady, also with a baby, who came up and said "I'm looking for a comfy chair so i can do exactly the same thing!" DH went to find the customer services manager, as the leaflet stated that "if we were unhappy with the services provided, speak to the customer services manager" but she said that the mother & baby room was provided by an outside source! BOYCOTT MOTO SERVICES! that's what i reckon anyway!

ok - rant over now.

please wish me good luck vibes for tuesday as i'm going to a tribunal and it's fairly vital that i win!!

Ohhh UD, good for you on the services thing, glad you didn't feed the young man in the grotty little room.
As a bottle feeder even I get annoyed about those rooms.

Good luck with the tribunal, hope it all goes the way you want.

Annie, I wasn't induced but had my waters broke after 3 hours of labour because I had stopped dilating at 7-8 cms. I went from a "nice chatty, cheerful, these labour pains are easy peasy" Mrs Tophamhatt to a "Jeeeeeezuz fucking christ....I think I'm going to die" Mrs tophamhatt within 2 contractions of them breaking. It was truely the most traumatic experinece of my life.
UUUuugghh....it absolutley bloody awful!!!

I hop eyou first school run goes well KR.
I can't belive I'm on here when I'm still in my PJ's and have to do the school run alone....bloody hell, MN really gets under my skin

Back to the dummy thing, I've found George prefers the ones that haven't got the little nobbley bits on, we've got Avent and Tommee Tippee "nuby" ones ATM and he'll settle witha smooth Avent one much better.
Plus the Tommee Tippe ones have little holes in them (the main part, not the teat) that leave imprinted marks all around his mouth....poor little chap looks like he's got some weird lurgy when he spits them out with red circles all around his chops

I'm glad the you had a better night Wilkie and I hope last night was better too. Makes a vast differnece to get even a half decsent night doesn't it??
Which, incidently I didn't get last night, he sleep all day yesterday then was wide wide WIDE awake until about 2am, waking again at 4:50am for milk....my sofa will be put to very good use today

Right now I really need to get dressed.....

Laters Girls....xxx

wilkie we put d1 in her rooom at 6 weeks and she slept so much better like you think we were waking her (was planning to put her in at 3 weeks but she managed to get whooping cough!!!) decided going to put dd2 in her room at 5 weeks (next weekend) as she is settling into a routine at night so put her up at 7 and then do her dream feed in there at 10 and see how she goes, she only has one feed in the night so shouldnt be to bad getting up to do that and we have a chair in the nursery. Think dd1 dropped her night feed around 8 weeks so fingers crossed (in fact she dropped it the day she had her first set of jabs and i was convinced I had overdosed her with calpol as first time I had given it to her

She lays in her travel cot (after the dropping incident safest place for her) in the day when shes asleep (with lots of comfy blankets underneath as its sooo hard) and she prefers it to her moses basket so think she'll like her cot, we started utting her in her grobag at night and she seems quite happy with it, so moses basket will be going back into the loft ready to sell with all the nursery stuff when we redecorate the room as went a bit mad when expecting dd1 and had to have everyting matching.

Although I did have a fleeting thought about having a 3rd but then both dd1 and dd2 started crying and decided 2 definatley enough (unless we have any accidents )

dd2 prefers the mam soothers dummies got newborn ones with tiny teats as had some others but think she found teats to big.

well he finally took a dummy last night - hurray and it did seem to help. It's the kind that go up slightly at the end of the teat IFYKWIM. Fingers crossed today will be less stressful than yesterday. All set for school run - T minus 10 mins and counting.....

well we had a brilliant night last night - took him upstairs with us at 11:00 and he woke once at 4:30 and went straight back down after feed/change. i got 6.5 hours sleep, and would've got more if i'd gone to bed earlier, but we were watching buffy so we didn't!!

Morning all!! Hope you had good weekends, and here's to the week ahead!

I too have stopped being a dummy snob and think they're great. It's amazing how your opinions change when you have a first born.

Am thinking of moving our little snuffler in to her own room so dh can move back in from the comfort of the apre room - she's now 5 weeks. Can't leave doors open due to inquisitive cats, but have a monitor. She still wakes up for 2 feeds in the night (indeed nights are almost bliss now she actually goes to sleep when she goes down).

Hope all the school runs went well this morning. Is it half term next week?
LTH - did you do the school run in your pj's??

DS1+2 delivered to school and on time1

I somehow managed to showwer AND wash my hair too!!

We wpuld have been early if George hadn't of done a huge stinker of a pooh as i was getting his coat on and if my stupid DH hadn't parked the car so close to the bloody fench i couldn't get the carseat in.

Need some brekkie now before i pass out through hunger...

Morning all. Sounds like quite a few of these LO's are settling down now and not keeping us awake quite so much at night! We have moved DS's cot into our room as he's outgrown the basket already and he seems quite happy in there in a grobag. Did think about moving him out to his own room but it's the opposite end of the house to ours (not that that's a long way really!) and is next to dd's room and would prefer it if she didn't get woken up in the night as well as me.

I have tried giving DS a dummy but he's really not interested - how long did anyone else have to persevere for? I was very anti-dummy with DD but she now sucks her fingers all the time which is no better than a dummy.

RGee - 2 weeks to half term here. I've only been doing the school run (only preschool so half days) for 2.5 weeks and it's exhausting! I definitely need the half term rest myself, don't know about the kids!

Man, it's good not to be pg!
Afternoon all, nice to be here officially! If you're bored, read the gory details here

hi everyone
well I managed school run twice without any screaming (baby or me!). Mind you I did walk around with him in the pram for 45 mins this afternoon to make sure he was completely asleep before going to school! Here's hoping rest of week is the same.

RGee - LO in own room is bliss!!! We had another good night last night, am averaging having to stop up about 30-40mins for each change, feed, wind, down routine which is a great improvement.

HV came today though and made me feel really guilty about putting him in the nursery. She asked how he was settling so I told her that we had moved him and she sort of looked a bit shocked and said 'Oh, really? We do recommend they stay in your room for 6 month....then I suppose if it is working for you...' - I felt myself justifying it to her!

I know they recommend 6 months to reduce the risk of cot death - does anyone know how it reduces the risk? It is in case they are sick and you would wake and hear them? I have read my leaflet on it but it doesn't really say.

2Happy - welcome officially!!!!

Well dd2 is settling at night but today has been the worst day ever, she has howled for most of it and still isnt settling now and its 10.20pm. I ventured out to a mother and toddler group this morning and dd1 is going through a stage of being very possessive over any toys she is playing with. She is only 20 months so I know its a stage. she had a few tantrums and thats when dd2 started the howling.

A friend called over this afternoon which gaave me some sanity.

sympathies OonaghBhuna - it's bloody hard when they're like that isn't it. Mine was a bit like that yesterday - he fights sleep so much that it takes ages to get him settled. I was feeling ok that at least he settles ok at night and then last night, after 3am feed, it took 2 hours to get him to sleep. DS1 is off school with conjunctivitis - dreading today! [knackered emoticon]

Wilkie tell hv to p*ss off lauren is in her own room she has been since she was a week old, when my ds was born we had the same problem we were disturbing him and he went in his own room at 2 weeks old it was the best thing we did so we have carried it on with dd as you say so long as the doors are open and the moniter is on then I dont see what the problem is, a little tip just tell hv what she wants to hear I started weaning my ds at 12 weeks onto babyrice as he was such a hungry little chap if the hv knew she would have hit the roof. Lauren wakes every 3hrs usually for a sleep she did feed and wind and go back down within 4 min last night but some nights its a hour and a half !!!!!!!!

Thanks all
Wilkie I think it's as you say - it's so you would hear them vomit/stop breathing etc. But they're such noisy buggers when they sleep that they make you so knackered that when you are asleep you're less likely to hear them, IMO. Just do what's right for you
There was lots of talk about dummies earlier. Just two add my 2p worth, I was a dummy snob with ds1 (ha ha, ds1! Sorry, still weird typing that!). But he was an incredibly sucky baby. The mw told us sucking our little fingers would cause less nipple confusion, and also when we did try the dummy, ds1 just spat it out, so it was a while before we retried. I'm glad we did, though, they were an absolute lifesaver at nights for months, and I would have no hesitation at all using them for ds2 - in fact have already tried, but he is sooooo like his brother and just cries and spits it out no matter if we hold it in!
It's so lovely to be home. ds2 didn't settle very well last night, but it's much more copeable with in your own home. I feel waaaay behind all you lot, you'll have to bear with me wittering about stuff you've already been through
I think Trinity's the last one left and she had her sweep yesterday, so hopefully we'll all be here soon

Hi everyone.
And hi to Annieapple with another Lauren Rose! I did a namecheck on you to see what else we had in common (only in MN - so hope this leaves me out of the scarey stalker section) - see you made a great contribution to my vege/abattoir thread - lol the two Lauren Rose's with their opposing backgrounds.
Anyway, love your son's name Solomon - wanted that on my list this time but dp vetoed. And we both were happy to have a girl after boys (I only had one but this was defo going to be my last - v.h. she's a girl.)

"Poopynic" is pretty accurate at the moment - but even more so is "chuckyupnic" - My (breastfed) Lauren is hopeless at feeding without getting twice as much air in as milk - and then getting herself into a heavybreathing / fast panting state of torment - sometimes for hours - until she manages a huge chuck-up over everything. Any ideas anybody? My MIL swears by giving her some water first but I'm very reluctant as it's not currently the done thing.

Sounds like Trinity's sweep may have worked

hiya all - don't think there's any news on TR yet....sooo excited for her!
i won my tribunal this morning - the JobCentre have to give me 12 weeks of owed JSA!! lalalala....i love being right.

Congrats UD - nice to see justice done!

Well it seems I've got mastitis I feel totally knackered and ill, very achy and have a headache and have just got back from the drs a little while ago. It's agony when Ethan feeds from the infected side but more feeding helps so I'm persevering through the pain. Hopefully the antibiotics will kick in soon. My poor boob is so sore

Hoping I feel better tomorrow as dh has his vasectomy at 10.30am and I'll need to drive him home and then look after him for a while. I can't believe he's not even nervous about it though!

Jodie

Congrats UD - especially for doing it all immed. post delivery - I think even Xenia would be impressed !!

JodieG1 - sorry to hear about the mastitis - I had it monthly with my first till about 15 months! - I found if I got onto antibiotics before I slept on it it improved immediately - good luck. Am in trepidation about getting it this time - so far - so good, but it means when I feed I have both boobs flowing to try and ensure no blockages - not exactly conducive to feeding in public.... - My Dad drove the whole family home 50 miles immediately after his vasectomy - can your dh get a taxi if you're poorly?