March 2016 babies - 2 here already, many more yet to come!!!

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Hi ladies, thanks Indom for the suggestion of me starting a new thread. Seeing as Zach and myself have been knocking about on antenatal since November it will be lovely to have you all joining us shortly in the baby, rather than pregnancy conversations! Bring on the March babies!!!!

Oh, Hayley what a stressful day. As MrsElls said, at least the car is ok now. Imagine if it had happened when you were in labour?

I am now thoroughly uncomfortable. Have a permanent burning pain in the muscles at the top of my bump and just want to lock myself in a dark room until Wednesday!

On the bright side, very much looking forward to the spa break this weekend!

Hayley how upsetting and stressful that day sounds. Hope you get a bit of time to put your feet up today.

Madmamma she sounds like a vile and useless human being. Like you say she is no longer your problem so just ignore her. I'm sure your boss will see through her bluster!

Marmite and Me it's stressful not knowing 100% where you will be giving birth isn't it. I'm in a similar situation. I hope to give birth in our local birth centre, but they only offer an 'on call' midwifery service over night and at weekends, so if there is already a labouring woman in (or the MW is out on a home birth) I will have to go to the hospital (which is over 20 miles away). I don't mind if that happens, but the uncertainty does my head in

Hayley sorry that you had a nightmare day, and sorry about your grandad as well.

Just got back from a MW appointment, but not with my normal MW.. anyway after my trip to hospital last week following my 38 week appointment when I was not allowed to go a whole week without a BP check and had it done Monday they have now booked me in for my next appointment at 40 + 4 in two weeks time - should I ring someone and check this is actually correct, and who?

Oh mamma what a nightmare! On the plus side she has put all this in writing. My advice fwiw woukd be to reply really dispassionately with dates and times of stuff - e.g. it is disappointing you find the training guide inadequate and did not tell me on x date when I gave them to you as we coukd have had a meeting. The system worked on x date when I logged in. As I said to you previously it would be great if you were more involved in the hand over when we started it in x. Send the email copy in your boss and then forget all about.and don't check them again.
Just from someone who's maternity cover attempted to start all sorts of rumours about how good I was at my job

hayley sorry to hear about you grandfather and your horrific journey. As the others have said at least you will 2 working cars! My dh has forgotten to put petrol in ours so hopefully we won't be going anywhere!

My previous maternity cover told me the whole time I was doing everything wrong and she will make it better, then came unstuck when she realised I wasn't! This one assure me she doesn't want my job but just won't read anything properly, I've even emailed her today to tell her she's been doing things wrong and she continued doing them wrong after that!

The good thing is I have kept my manager (the European MD) in the loop with everything so she is completely aware of all the excuses and dates and knows there have never been any issues with me in the job (even though I had no face to face training and had to deal with the US teams odd way to do things!!). At least I will no longer have to deal with her as I am going to switch off my email on Monday but she has signed off for the day now!! Yippee!!

I've had a productive morning stickering up the nursery!

Thank you everyone, it was a pretty horrendous day! Good point about the cars - at least we shouldn't have to worry about them both working when I go into labour Every cloud aye? Have spent today working from home and trying to keep DS entertained so he doesn't get too grouchy. DH should be home at 6 so will be his job to bathe and bed him today. I'm planning an evening of Netflix, chocolate, tea, and sleep!

Mad Your replacement! I can't believe her nerve! I bet she doesn't stay in the job long once you go on leave. She sounds a nightmare! At least your manager knows about her before you go. Woopwoop for signing off on Monday! Bet you can't wait.

Vroc I would call the ante-natal clinic (or wherever you usually have your midwife appointments) and ask there. They should have your notes there and be able to check whether you need to go in for a check.

MrsBen I had the same weird burning/pins and needles kind of feeling the other day. Right under my ribs. It's gone for now so hopefully you'll get some relief soon too.

Doc Your nursery looks so homely and cosy, I love it! Also great having a sink in there - That's going to be so handy.

That does sound like a stressful day hayley, poor you. Your evening sounds pretty much exactly like the one I have planned - perfect!

And it sounds as though your boss has your back mamma, I'd be keeping those emails though and would probably forward them, with facts, to my own email in case I need them when I come back.

Off shopping tomorrow with MIL and sil to get last few baby bits, hooray.

Oh no lots of to hayley and marmite for tough days, hope you are both feeling a bit better now

doc I love those stickers! How do they work - do they come off easily without any residue? I was thinking of getting some but we live in a rented apartment.

mad wow she sounds horrendous. Sounds like you are pretty chilled about it though and if the bosses know everything and that it's not your fault, then just sit back and enjoy your maternity leave as it's not your problem anymore - you did what you could! At least they will miss you and really want you back!!

I don't think my work have thought through cover properly yet at all - they have a student coming in 1 or 2 days a week to cover a full time job! I haven't even been able to train her yet, and yeah I might have 6 more weeks here, but equally I might only have a few days!

sorry for those with stresses over not knowing where you will be giving birth, I think I would get very anxious over that. Hope it gets sorted soon.

beautiful hope it went okay yesterday and you have an induction date!

Ffaux they are a vinyl sticker (I got them from Amazon, they're by a company called stickers wall, but there's loads out there). I was surprised how easy they are to apply, they just peel off the backing and stick on with no creases/bubbles. They seem to come off quite easily too with no residue (I had to reposition a few), but I don't know what they'll be like once they've been on for a few months.

Great stickers doc! We've got very similar ones from Not on the High Street. We had to reposition them after several weeks when we moved the furniture round and they peeled off and stuck back on really easily.

mad your replacement sounds like a complete nightmare! I had a week's handover with mine during which time he sat at another desk, but my colleague told me he's moved to my desk as of today, which I feel strangely territorial about!!

good to know doc and me - I might give them a try, thanks!

Hey all. Sympathy to hayley and anyone else who needs it.

I'm so, so, utterly tired this evening. I slept really well last night, up early and on time this morning. Was in need of a nap by lunchtime and now that I need to make food and get DS to bed I'm just destroyed.

Just looked at my notes from yesterday to find the mw didn't write the belly measurement down. So I've no idea if this baby is currently approximately 7lb 4oz (with 4 weeks still to go. 90%) or not. So disappointing!

Fuck, I'm so grumpy. Had a proper cry in the kitchen to myself . Felt better. DS flat refused to eat tea, screamed the place down because I wasn't going to cook him something else. (It was cooked, on the plate, ready to go)

He's now in bed. I'm in my now-usual spot waiting for him to go to sleep. I'm not tearfully-tired now, but fumingly grumpy . (Just had to stop myself being unnecessarily blunt on AIBU).

DH has been home with a migraine today, but has now managed to get up and is cleaning the kitchen or something. I'm hiding. I'm fucked off with existence.

I don't want to go to work again tomorrow... (oh no, here we go again...)

Yesssss!! I've finished. Feeling so relieved to finally finish work and was given £60 of Boots vouchers which was so lovely as only a team of 5. I've probably been the busiest today than I've ever been. Sorry to hear your handover has been so stressful Mad. Also you mentioned your local hospital is shut with Norovirus. Mine is too so just wondered if we are close. Are you in Kent?

What a stressful day Hayley. Have lots of tonight.

Doc and ffaux I've used the Fisher Price rainforest stickers and removed them after 2 years. No marks at all if you remove carefully.

Sorry Indom, x post. I have had days like that. Fingers x your DS sleeps soon and you can have a relaxing evening. Lots of for you.

Thanks Rhu, I thought he was nearly asleep but he's just sat up to check if I'm still here.

I need to write reports and do more fecking marking, but tempted to sack it off and go in the bath instead.

indom sorry about your rubbish night, go take a bath with a small glass of wine preferably can the marking/reports wait a day? for you

Sorry to hear about your crappy car troubles and funeral Hayley and your rubbish evening indom hope your DS is asleep now. I'm sat in with DD again, trying to get her to sleep. Sigh. We've taken her teddies our of her bed so she's not messing around, just chatting to herself.

My bloody work colleague/co author on research has text me again to ask if its 'possible to have a chat'. She did it two weeks ago and I was annoyed but that was just when I'd finished work so let it slide. But I'm properly on leave now and don't want to be bothered with work queries. Really just want to tell her to fuck right off, but outside of work is a friend so it's awkward. She doesn't have kids so think its just a case of being clueless and thoughtless but not sure how to proceed... Since I'm looking after DD tomorrow and my sister is then visiting till Monday, I can probably hold her off but what I really want to do is tell her to stop bothering me with work. Hmmm...

Lots of BH today, hoping it means body is gearing up for labour. Doubt it though. I'm torn between 'I'm quite enjoying no work and no baby me time' and 'god late pregnancy is a pain in the arse, I want this baby now' haha

Sorry for people who've had stressful days, aren't feeling great or are just generally fed up.

indom dd refused her tea the second it hit the table tonight, after choosing her plate, bowl, cup and cutlery. She hid under the table and demanded exacatly what I'd cooked her be cooked again! Really couldn't be asked to play games with her so ignored her, ate my food and got myself an ice lolly. Suddenly she appeared at the table and decided to eat everything. I must remember to ignore her more often.
I'm with you on the bath too, all I want to do is sink into a hot tub of bubbles! The only thing standing in my way is the lack of dh to help me in and out. We have the most amazing bath, big and deep, but lacks hand rails. Counting down the minutes until he gets home.
I remember the presure of reports and the guilt of putting them off to do something for you, particually when due date puts you on the clock more than usual. Not missed that this time around and I got to spend my last two weeks of work when pregnant with dd mostly none contact from my 2-3s to write their pre-school handover reports. Then went back with dd in tow six weeks later to do the next batch when my materity cover flaked out using up all kit days!

Jeez dobby that does not sound like fun. Puts my issues in perspective a bit. As does the lovely bath I'm in! The work will have to wait till tomorrow.

Sorry to hear you've both had a difficult evening with your dcs Indom and dobby - you both definitely deserve a nice bath and whatever pregnancy-friendly treat you like. Its been a bit of a 'challenging' day here too. I thought ds was being difficult due to teething but that seems to have calmed down now and he's still being difficult. Massive pita over dinner too, he also ran off and his from me in the park today and, earlier on, threw his toy car in the bin then had a massive tantrum because it was now 'yucky' and 'gusting'. He's been super clingy with dh recently too, so I don't know if he's sensing that things are about to change?

Yay, welcome to mat leave Rhubarb!

How annoying to keep being bothered about work marmite. If she's a friend can you lay it on thick next time you see her about how difficult the last few days/weeks of pregnancy are and how you really need to get all the rest you can now (or is that too subtle?)?

Sorry to hear you've had such a stressful time Haley but yy definitely better to get all the car troubles out of the way now rather than when you're in labour.

I hope Beaut is OK and she's got her induction date now.

I'm getting so uncomfortable now, lots of pain and pressure down below when I try to walk. I'm trying (and failing) to find a less graphic way of putting this, but it feels like the baby is trying to force his way out . Is this what it feels like when they engage? Definitely didn't have this last time!

rhubarb I'm in bromley, are you nearby?

indom hope your evening got better and you found some time to relax.

My DS has been refusing to eat much for the last few weeks no matter what it is, I've given up on cooking for the moment we are all on quick food!

So didn't have my meeting with my manager yesterday and interestingly when I looked at my sent emails yesterday one of them was missing (it had loads of instructions on) I know I wrote it but it's disappeared completely! I'm sure it's not baby brain!! Hoping to speak to her tomorrow and then put my out of office on! Mat cover can just deal with things herself (and I'll deal with the repercussions in 6 months).

I came up to bed at 9pm fell asleep but now wide awake, dh was out for the eve with work so he is now in the spare room snoring his head off and I am still fidgeting and trying to get comfy, can't even starfish. But crampy as well... Will be just my luck I'll go into labour tonight!

Hope everyone gets a restful night

Mad I'm in Ashford so not miles away but must be different hospitals. Norovirus must have travelled between them though! Just one ward closed here so far I think. How are your cramps now? Hopefully you've got some rest/sleep.

Trinpy I get that pressure too. Sometimes I feel like I have to hold him in whilst I'm waddling hunched over. V attractive look.

Lots of babies being born on the March fbook page. I can't work out if they are all early or actually due in Feb.

Yeah trinpy i ended up texting her back complaining about how difficult late pregnancy is and how tired I was (she had asked how I was doing), then saying I had no time and that I needed a break from work. I got a quite curt reply 'sure thats fine' but tbh i dont care if her nose is out of joint.

My DD has also gotten suddenly very clingy and affectionate. She wants to cuddle all the time and her new game is whispering 'I love you' in our ears. I'm enjoying it whilst it lasts - prior to this she refused to cuddle or kiss me and DP (and many other relatives) for a few weeks. think she is very aware that change is on the horizon so trying to do what I can to reassure her.

Was in CSC last night with my itchy toes driving me mad. I do usually get chilblains in the winter but I think it's been worse this time round due to being pregnant. Ended up getting back to sleep by practising my yoga breathing for labour. It's been useful as a distraction from pain/discomfort when I've tried it, but I'm worried when it comes to labour I'll lose the plot!

Didn't manage to go to town yesterday as package wasn't delivered till 4pm so annoying. Really want to get out of the house today/go for a walk but weather is crap and cold. I could try to brave town with DD but not sure I can face it... But if we're cooped up all day she may not nap and I'm not sure I can deal with no break!