February 2016 - our babies are here!

[IslaMann]

New group for those graduating the ante-natal thread

Aww troika you're so sweet!

I'll take the night nappies if no one else wants them but put me at the bottom of the list cos I don't need them need them

Good day here, had our last baby massage class after a good 50 min nap then DD napped again and I managed a successful sleep transfer from pram into sling!!! Then we went into work to visit my colleagues and DD was a massive charmer and seriously smiley! Not enough nappage after that though and we had a cry-y bathtime and fell asleep on the boob at 6.45pm!!! Hope she stays asleep xx

troika that's great, thanks! Yeah I'd love to take the wool wraps, but only the size 2/large stuff as ds is huge. Thanks! I'm another who has way too many nappies for her own good, so I'll pass on the others (if they do end up needing a home though I'll take them off your hands )

Ds2 is asleep and in his cot at 9.20pm!!! That's the earliest yet! Now to sneak out and not fall asleep myself...

Glad to hear you had a good day liberty. Great nappage (good word!) and way more than we achieve here!

I am enjoying baby massage too and will be sad when the course finishes. I've been chatting with some of the mums after class but haven't worked up to exchanging numbers or arranging other meet ups yet. I have 3 more classes to go to work up the courage. Gaaaah, making new friends as an adult is hard!

Ds was weighed at class this week and is now a stone! Woop! He has jumped up the weight percentiles so his weight matches his height now. Health visitor said she was pleased with his progress I was a goofy smiling mother! So proud! Right. Showing off over. I promise!

haq glad the gig went well for you.

clara that's awesome weight gain!

i had a stupidly vivid dream last night that I split up with dh, my dm was a criminal working in a shop for community service and one of my best friends became a lesbian.... I still feel really hacked off with dh now It's like pregnancy dreams all over again!

clumsy what a dream!! Pretty epic! How are you feeling btw?

clara fantastic news! Goofy mum all the way :)

So my early night last night didn't go as planned. I thought I'd try out dream feeding so picked up my perfectly sleeping baby, fed him, and then put a windy, grumbling baby back down. I think I pulled him off the boob too soon... Anyway, what a shit night - he refused to go in the cot at all and just wriggled and kicked in our bed all night. Then in the morning he managed to poo twice into the wipes I was using to clean him (these are reusable wipes so I'm talking a lake of poo into each consecutive one) and has had about 4 poos since! He's currently sleeping on his front in our bed while I wiggle his bum to try to get the facts out - poor lad keeps waking with them :(

haq what facts does your baby keep up his bum?! I'm intrigued! My mom laughed when I rang to check she hadn't been arrested! Still feel pretty awful but have to keep going.

What is everyone doing about daytime naps now? Ds is going to grow out of his Moses basket very soon which I bring downstairs for him to nap in during the day and I know the sids guidelines say you shouldn't let them sleep on their own during the first 6months but I can't bring a cot downstairs! Is anyone else putting them down for naps upstairs during the day now? Dh also wants to put him in his own room at night now too, not sure why I am stressing about this dd was in her own room from 2 months.

clumsy I do morning nap on the bed next to me, then one in sling and one in pram. I figure naps will change a lot between now and when she goes to nursery at 11 months and I like the flexibility of being able to get out and about! Saying that she's not a great sleeper so ATM it's more about getting her to sleep than where!!

Night time she's in a cot we've taken the side off and sidecarred to our bed

Hope you are all having a lovely weekend!
I'm trying to get babycud to nap at the moment which seems to involve a fair bit of crying whatever we do. He normally has morning and late afternoon naps in carseat on nursery run. Others are either in pram, cot, moses basket or bouncy chair depending where we are and what we're doing. I don't worry about him being on his own, it's never more than half an hour and there's often a fair bit of noise! He's also upstairs from about 8pm as we were struggling to get him to settle anywhere else.

We're having a nice quiet day today. Ds1 was a tired mega grump all day yesterday so hoping that this will recharge his batteries. He has actually been on really good form so we're all on a much better frame of mind! Just hoping it doesn't derail later...

Same here. To my surprise (though DS was the same) DD has taken to napping in her cot really easily over the past few days. Popped her in, dummy in, little nose stroke, Ewen the sheep on and leave her. So she's been having her naps there, and tonight she's having the evening slot there too.

She'll still sleep in sling, on me, in pram or car, so pretty good. It's just not feasible for her to sleep downstairs any more. Mind you, today's been all catnaps and yelling for some reason

Such a busy weekend, OH's birthday, so DS and I made his cake, then I took the kids Saturday whilst OH went to the cinema. Brio and park session!

We don't have any kind of fixed routine for naps yet here. Just take them when I can get them but usually requires walk with pram or the sling. He very rarely just sleeps somewhere stationary! And if he does it is for 20 minutes at most.

Night time for the past few weeks now he goes down in his crib in our room anywhere between 7 and 8. He will wake up one or two times for a feed during the night. His morning wake up time depends when those night feeds were, but generally he gets up between 7 and 9. Not sure when we will move him into his own room, probably 6 months but may need to be sooner if he outgrows the crib!

Ridiculous levels of screaming here too today chinchilla. No-one could pacify him! He was clearly knackered but too wound up to sleep. But he looked so relieved when we put him down in his crib for the night. Like 'i am glad today's over!'

How have you got your babies to go down in the cot either for night time or naps? I'm still transferring after feeding to sleep - not always successfully

I put him in when I think he's tired then hand on tummy and shushing. White noise if its taking a while... but he doesn't really fall asleep on me which helps!

clumsy - we have a sleepyhead on the living room floor that we put him in for daytime naps and early evening while he's sleeping and we're still up. We then give him a bottle, nappy change and take him up to our room. I wouldn't want to leave him alone especially upstairs yet, although clearly I'm back and forth to the kitchen / washing machine.

That said, he's currently asleep on his playmat and I'll leave him there til he wakes up. And when the ocado man came on Saturday I left him while I put the bags away and found him asleep in his bouncer chair. Luckily he'll sleep pretty much anywhere.

Thanks everyone, I'm not really keen to leave him upstairs for too long on his own and with my back and feet the way they are I don't want to be running up and downstairs all the time although can't really afford to buy more stuff for downstairs. How long can they use a sleepy head for?

Sorry another question I have spoken to my boss today to set up a meeting to arrange for going back to work as I need to send the nursery forms in asap, they are saying that they think I should only go back part time for the first year, can they enforce this if I want to work full time? I don't want to work full time but finances may mean I need to.

There are two sizes, clumsy. One lasts up to 8m, the other is 8m+. It doesn't have to be a sleepyhead itself, there are cheaper similar items. Worth looking at though.

I work in HR and yes they can decline a request to work part time, or only accept it for a year. Have you put in a formal flexible working request or is it just a discussion at this point?

Sorry, just re-read. You want full time, they want par time. You have the right to go back on the terms and conditions you were working to before you left for mat leave. However, they can make changes to your contract at any point with consultation - just as they could while you were working there before mat leave. They are not allowed to make you part time because you have a child (discriminatory) and if it means a drop in salary etc then they're potentially going into constructive dismissal waters.

Let me know what they've said exactly and I'll offer any advice I can.

Thanks handbag, I only really rang to ask to arrange when i could have a meeting with them. They are lovely bosses so I think they were probably just trying to be nice thinking I would want to spend more time with ds (which I obviously do). Would I be able to pick your brains after the meeting if it turns out they do want to make me part time? I am 1 of only 2 full time members of staff any way but the office is tiny. They haven't got any maternity cover either so I know when I go back I will have the full years work to do in only 4 months

Of course. There's no need to go in guns blazing especially if you feel they are just being kind. But don't allow yourself to be forced down a route you don't agree with. If they make any proposals make sure you say you need to think about it. If you think they're being dodgy say you need some advice on that. Don't be afraid to gently remind them you have the right to the same job you had before.

Good luck!

Not very helpful but ds has just gone to sleep in his cot at night since birth without much protest and without any particular effort from us. If he is struggling I sit with him and talk softly with hand on his chest or stroke his head.

I've never tried him in his cot during the day. I'll probably try to introduce that after 6 months (he will have grown out of the carrycot by then!!).

Thanks anyway clara

I feed him lying down until he's asleep and then transfer him to the cot. He's not very good at napping during the day unless in a moving vehicle or with a dummy in my arms /on my shoulder. He won't go in his cot during the day

I think I'm going to call farts 'facts' from now on!

Baby has been clingy, grumpy and vomity all day and then has screamed the course down this eve. We've resorted to calpol, which has helped. I wonder what it is... He's now sleeping next to me, out for the count. Poor babe

Woooah just seen there's a feb 2017 thread

Haquoi, liberty glad you can use them. Pm me your address and I'll send them out.

Liberty I used to put dd in her cot asleep. Then a few times she wasn't asleep after feed so was rocking her to sleep but she was really fighting it. Decided to just try putting her down awake to see what happened. Now 99% of time she just falls asleep in there watching her mobile. This is only at bedtime, although she has done it a couple of times in the day as well but it takes a lot longer and she takes more settling. Little cries or whinges I try to settle her still in cot, big cries I pick up and cuddle and either put back down awake or cuddle to sleep depending on how I feel/how she is.

Daytime naps are usually in car on school run, in pram (I usually go for a walk to get her to nap late morning, gets me some exercise too) or sometimes in arms. Very occasionally in cot.

Got her in pjs and put her in cot for evening sleep last night and it worked great. Meant no screaming at 9/10 pm as we changed her before feeding. She hasn't been bothered about that feed the past week anyway, has only had it because we've woken her bringing her upstairs. So last night she fed 7.30 and slept til 1.15 then again til just before 5. See what happens tonight!

haq that sounds fairly similar to us.
Thanks troika on both counts.

I'm always in two minds about sleep, ATM for naps I either feed DD to sleep, put her in the pram or in the sling. These normally work well and we've been getting some good length naps 45mins-2 hours.

The prob is nighttime, she is fed to sleep but is very unsettled, wakes up after about an hour but quick to settle down again but after about midnight she's got her eyes closed but is literally wiggling around, trying to flop her legs over etc....! Last night she did 6.20pm-12.30am ish and then was doing the leg flop thing until 6am!!!

Morning ladies and babies!

Has anyone with a travel system swapped their carry cot for the buggy attachment yet?

Not yet, but only because it's filthy! Some of my friends with similar age babies have swapped and I end up using the carseat quite a bit as babycud likes to see where we're going! Must clean our seat....