February 2016 - our babies are here!

[IslaMann]

New group for those graduating the ante-natal thread

Oh clumsy I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time How old is DD? My DS1 had vomiting and diarrhoea thurs-sat last week, was not fun. I was bleaching like a mad woman. It was a nightmare and we were at home so can't imagine what you're going through.

The baby takes approximately 3oz feeds though the past couple of days he's been taking the full 4oz the odd time so think we'll be upping that soon. His sleeping sounds pretty similar to others here. 3-5hr stretches although slept for nearly 7 yesterday! He was weighed at 4 weeks last week at 10lb 5oz so I'm not concerned about the odd time he sleeps longer now as he must be fast approaching 11lb! He'll be getting weighed again on Monday so we'll see.

His eye has completely cleared up after we pretty much left it alone. Go figure.

We're going away in a couple of weeks which is a 7hr car journey away so I've been busy trying to prepare for that! Stressed out thinking about everything we need to take!

I have my first child free day planned for Friday. I'm going shopping with friends for the day. Can't wait! Looking forward to some adult company and just thinking about myself for the day!

I'm on my own in a big double with DD Haq. Got a single duvet to cover me up to about my waist, then a baby blanket (the classic thin knitted sort, forgotten the name!) to cover me and DD. I have pillows as normal but sleep with my arm out so she can't work up into them. She's on her back and I go on my side when she wants to feed.

Oh clumsy that's awful for you and DD. Think it's not out of the ordinary to wet yourself when you vomit forcefully, poor kid.

We did a journey of that nature with the two kids when DD was 2.5 weeks purple, bit stressful but we a survived! So glad they eye has cleared up.

clumsy No mention of sleeping, no. Which adds to my bemusement - if that's not standard then what's the point?

For the record he sleeps very well in his snuzpod overnight and for naps in the day we have a sleepyhead in the living room, but she showed no interest in that at all.

Ho hum...

DD is 9, she is not wetting herself when she is being sick it's all the time. Got some washing done but may have to hand wash her knickers to keep up. Glad I packed a spare pair now.

handbag perhaps I just look like I don't know what I am doing

Oh no clumsy your poor dd. Is there a supermarket nearby where you could buy pants? Or tena lady?? Is it full wees or leaks?

Thanks troika I have some sanitary towels with me so I will get her to use them. It's so hard not being able to give her lots of snuggles but I daren't pass it on to DS

Thanks for all the thoughts yesterday. It was ok and some no shows ensured no drama, although that could yet come when the will is sorted out although we're not talking about much to pass on...

Sounds like you're having a rotten time clumsy hope the bug passes soon and doesn't spread..

Well done to all those babies doing good stretches of sleep! Hope the rest get the idea soon... although we're doing ok on that front.

On the safe sleeping thing, everyone asked if someone had been through it with us and i said yes to all of them and that was it

Glad the eye has cleared up purple guess it needed time rather than antibiotics...

We've had quite a good day although I think we might be in another growth spurt. Ds1 is in his proper bed for the first time. So far, so good and everything crossed!

Babies are psychic, right? The one morning I've got to get up and go- 6 week check up- is the one night DD would not settle. She dropped off nicely then seemed to come back awake again, and stayed awake for the next sleep cycle. Bah!

Glad you made it through OK cud.

If she's wetting herself all the time then could she have a UTI clumsy? You'll need a holiday to get over this one...

We also bathed DD properly for the first time last night (again, isn't this meant to help with sleep?!) and she loved it! Given DS hated it so much we hit the gin, I was not expecting this!

We ended up Seeing a Dr yesterday who lives on the campsite and works in the local town thinking it might be a uti and d&v secondary symptoms. No such luck its gastroenteritis. Glad I shut myself and ds in the one room for the day and I used the campsite facilities. Just halfway through the 3hr train journey home having left dd with dh to come back in the car this afternoon. Thank you all for all your support on my nightmare holiday, now if one of you could arrange for me to win the lottery I can go on a recovery holiday somewhere warm

Yes northern babies are very psychic this will happen for many years, just don't plan anything in the morning and you will have a full nights sleep and a lie in

Oh no clumsy, hope she feels better soon and no one else catches it.

Chinchilla we had another night like that last night too. Culminating in a massive argument with dp at 430am. Basically dd was unsettled and squirming around all night. She'd doze off but ping awake again within minutes. Gave up trying to put her in crib but she didn't want to lie down next to me and just cried unless I was sat up with her on my chest. At 330 dp woke up and said 'how long have you been up with her?' I said all night and he rolled back over and went back to sleep! Then at 430 she seemed to be settling, I started to let myself doze off and she started wriggling around again.
I said ffs what now, dp woke up and said 'it's not her fault, don't take it out on her' (I wasn't, I was just venting). Then instead of acknowledging how shit it is that I've had two nights of no sleep he told me off for not napping in the day, said at least I don't have to go to work and told me how long his day at work is
I am fully aware of how hard he works and how long and tiring his day is and thats why i dont expect him to share the night wakings but I still don't see why that means he can't be supportive when I'm beyond knackered. He acts like I'm bad for getting frustrated with it or for wanting him to give me an hour at the beginning or end of the night when we're having bad nights (so he still gets a block of sleep but cut an hour or so short). Or am I wrong? I know he needs sleep to work (and his job is very physical, very demanding, and a long day to boot) but when I'm not getting any surely he could sacrifice a little bit for a night or two?

Or at the very least be sympathetic when I'm frustrated with it rather than telling me off for a)getting frustrated and b) not napping more.

Sorry turned into a rant

I think it's entirely reasonable and to be expected that if you've had a shitty night that your OH takes them for a while at either end Troika. I did exactly this this morning, and DP had our DS as well. I would definitely give your LO over and go to bed early tonight.
And if any parent of a newborn says they haven't sworn when there's a poonami/it's 4am and they've not slept/the DC has vomited over the 3rd mutual change of clothes in am hour, they're lying!

Your poor DD clumsy, but glad it's all over and you're on your way home.

troika, completely agree with chinchilla, it's not out of order to ask for more help. And napping through the day? I wish! A lot of people seem to think that having a baby is easier than working but that's bullshit - it's physical, emotional and there are no breaks AND there's the lack of sleep. And my baby is quite calm. I hope tonight goes better for you.

clumsy what a nightmare holiday and your poor dd! Really hope you've escaped the illness. Are things better now you're home?

Thanks chinchilla :)

We've discovered the joy that is the cot mobile! As in DS2 LOVES it, therefore we love it and who cares that uses only the first and last phrases of "Pennies from Heaven' and is going to drive us mad if it hadn't already... Baby smiles so there!

Had my 6 week check up and bubs now weighs 14lb 1oz (at 7 weeks) I've had to book another appointment to check my bladder incontinence and also to investigate why my farts tend to go into my vagina when I'm sitting (that was embarrassing bringing that up) - possible fistula... But the mole I found is fine and baby is fit as a fiddle!

Hi everyone,
I haven't been on for ages as I've just been in the Facebook group.

clumsy hope your DD feels better soon

haquoi what size is your 14lb DS wearing? My DS is just under 13lbs at 8 weeks and in 3-6mths

I've been in vaccine hell. He had his 1st ones on Tuesday and I delayed the Men B as I feel they give to many vaccs for a little body to handle at once. DS had a temp and barely fed the day after. He was so grumpy and ended up with both his fontanelles being sunken in. I was starting to get worried when he started feeding again. Just so everyone knows you can have up to 4 doses of calpol in 24hrs Max at 8 wks old. DS needed all 4 and a 5th dose on the 2nd day afternoon as he still had a temp. I can only imaging how bad a state he would have been in with Men B as well. Got that as a stand alone injection in 2 weeks. I just asked the receptionist to book him in when I was there.

We are home!!! Everyone on the train was lovely helping me with ds on and off the train and a lovely lady helped me collapse the push chair (autocorrect wanted that to be puss hair which sounds rude) and put it in the baggage racks. It's so nice to know that there are lovely people in the world. Ds was golden on the journey and only got fractious a couple of times. Dd is lots better and has managed some rice for tea which has stayed put. Planning on taking ds to moms tomorrow and by 9 we should have the 48 hours clear unless she is ill again.

troika I completely agree with everyone else, napping is a great myth 99% of the time and he should be giving you a break in the evening at least, you are no good to anyone if you burn yourself out

haq great news about baby and hopefully they will get you sorted soon too.

rufus poor baby! I think the men b is the one that gives Majorly high temps, did you give a dose of calpol before the injection? That is what I was told to do to stop temp from getting high initially. I hope he is ok after his next jab.

Puss hair!!!

Chinchilla what is proper bath?

Hi everyone. I keep dropping off the thread so I must not be posting much. I've been reading though. to those with sick DC.

troika sorry to hear about your DH not helping. Mine does nothing through the night either. Well- he's on duty for DS1 who might wake up and need his dummy (30 second job) but that's it. He doesn't do night feeds for DS2 or anything. It's my own fault as I've never asked him to. I don't really want him to do them if I'm honest. I'm a massive control freak is the reality of the situation. Hence I burn myself out doing everything.

I'm starting to (fingers crossed) feel like there's a bit of light at the end of the tunnel. DS2 is 8 weeks now and DS1 is nearly 20 months. At the moment they are both napping and I've had a cup of coffee. I managed synchronised napping. Go me.

Yesterday I had a shower and washed my hair although I didn't then have time to blow dry it so I currently look like Worzel Gummidge. Also my skin is so crap! I had a flare up of rosacea the other day so my hopes that it was just a pregnancy-related thing are now dashed. Humph.

I mean I had a shower during the day when just me here with the babies.

I have actually showered since DS2 was born- honest!

haq, we're going to get the playmat down for DD, and therefore will find ourselves humming the two tunes it plays. But as you say, if the baby loves it, you do, despite going slightly insane. Worse for you given you're musical!

We've just been wiping bits of DD clara, so this was the first time we'd run a bath and fully dunked her thought we'd better given we were seeing the GP. It'll be more frequent now!

Good work on the synchronised napping maisie!

I'm out tonight with work friends again, and will take DD with me again. I've hit my target for the day, which was to paint my nails (sparkly dark blue!) AND I've managed to fit back into one of my pairs of jeans.
Hopefully these will detract from the bags under my eyes caused by another 'won't settle till 3 then up at half 7' jobby from the child, and my stinking cold!

Ah thanks chinchilla, thought you meant putting them in grown up bath! Our guy is so long i would like to try it because the baby bath doesn't give him room to kick about! Wondering if still too early for big bath though....

Hi five on fitting back into your jeans. I have the opposite issue, I need to wear a belt! I am half a stone lighter than before pregnancy which is mostly muscle mass. I feel like such a weakling and I now have to go back to gynecology for re stitching, so not sure when I will be able to start proper exercise again to regain my muscle strength (and therefore weight).

Oh maisie I have not used hairdrier since giving birth! I have not put on make up either but then to be fair, I didn't wear much make up before, just a bit of blush and mascara now and again. So at least I'm not frightening anyone by looking drastically different!

Oh gawd the musical toys!!! we have one we call the dubstep elephant, it's quite trendy by comparison, but I can feel my brain dying when the music starts!

Sorry I'm not good with who's said what, wish I'd been on the thread from the start! But completely agree with 'sleeping when the baby sleeps' is really not easy and I think I have a fairly easy baby!

Also we've had the playmat down for a while and ds loves it but the tunes drive me insane!

Clara sorry to hear you have to go back for restitching, still feeling the pain of the suspected prolapse, can't wait for the 6 week check (at 8 weeks!) to find out what's going on. What do they do at the check haq?

Ds weighed 9lb at 5 weeks and definitely feels heavier now but has got a lot longer so not sure if he'll have put a lot on or not

As it happens, we did do DD in the main bath, just because we don't have a baby bath! I put the plug in, ran the shower, and took her in and did her in the water that collected.
Bugger about the restitching, but hopefully it's short term pain for long term gain. as it's disheartening to have to go through it twice.

Got interrupted...and earlier DD did a huge poo which went up the back of the nappy, through her onesie, and onto the damn jeans !

See earlier comments about psychic babies

pinkmallow your baby sounds more similar in size to mine! These big babies on here have me scared - DS is about 9.5lbs at just under 6 weeks and a lot of that's gone on this week! We're about to transition into 0-3m clothes so when I hear about moving into 3-6m that's just scary!

Anther one here who loves the play mat. He's happy lying there while I express. Only got it at the weekend but it's probably his favourite thing.

Also a fan of the Graco swing chair we bought - he's asleep in it now complete with womb sounds playing.

Really bad day today - he had a cold last week but today he's really raspy and bringing up mucous and snot. I've been puked on twice but it's milk and mucous and my top's white so I've not changed as it'll only happen again. He is in dry clean clothes though! We were meant to go out for lunch but instead he's cried since 9am until going to sleep just now. I'm nearly broken!

On the plus side baby is officially smiling st me. For a few days now I've thought maybe it isn't gas, but this morning I smiled at him and he smiled back. It's the sweetest thing and even though I'm shattered, covered in vomited milk and going out my tiny little mind, my heart just melts. I love him so much!

DDs dad has come and taken Her camping (he refused to not go camping) but she is loads better and only an hour away so not too worried. Going to take DH to his favourite pub this afternoon and out for dinner to say thank you for looking after her and clearing up all the mess. I have disinfected the whole house too so the house is sparkling!

We bath ds in whatever is to hand so he has had a number of sinks but he prefers the bath to splash about in.

I only wore make up for the gig, got another gig tomorrow and I have to go dressed as a wedding guest, wtf am I going to wear?? My nice outfits don't quite fit yet comfortably