January 2016 - Hello babies!

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Thread to share our experiences and also have a chat to someone also dealing with lively babies at 3am!

DS is the only one with clean clothes at the moment. I'm sure theres a dining table underneath my ever growing pile of junk. The bathroom is a trip hazard assault course of toys, bath seat and baby toiletries.

Wouldn't change it for the world though

I'm so glad you're all the same! I feel like I'm constantly attempting to keep on top of mess and washing- and yes, the kids are the ones with clean clothes- but they make 90% of the washing!!!
Went to a baby group today which was really nice and met other mums.. Was so nice to get out and chat.. And they are all so different!

Planning our first evening out with a babysitter next Friday.. Excited! Thankfully, the babysitter is a girl who works at the local nursery, but I think I'll be checking my phone a lot!

Hiya, I stopped getting notifications for this thread for some reason (:() but wanted to check in. DS is drooling a lot now, thinking its teething. We do washing every other day, keeps me busy, and I clean every day, but the house still looks horrendous, haha. Also desperately trying to lose the baby weight by eating soup and banning chocolate and cheese which are my all time favourites.

About two weeks ago since 2 nights ago, we managed to sleep from 7 until 6.30 with a dream feed at 1.30am (when DP goes to bed) Amazing huh?? Only this has all stopped now, so gloating over. We are up snuffling at 3am and wide awake at 5am. I put it down to teething (?????) And tonight he isnot really settling and its almost 8. Is anyone else having teething babies? Sorry f its already been discussed. I've put the tommee tipee teether in the freezer and he likes the coolness of it when I hold it for him, but he can't quite hold it on his own yet, bless him!

Hi, I stopped getting notifications too. Am checking in for roughly the same reason. DD gave us about 3 weeks of sleeping in 6-8 hour blocks and then in the last couple of days has gone to waking up every 2 1/2 hours. I could cry!

Think it might be the 'four month sleep regression '. (a phrase I only just learned). Read a couple of links on it and it sounds brutal. Wondered if anyone else was experiencing it?

Ha I have also come on here to drop a post about my son's sleep regression! A week ago he was sleeping from 8:30-9pm, waking for a feed 6-8 hours later, and then down for another 2-3 hours sleep. In the past week he has been protesting more when going down and now on sleeps as little as 3 hours until first night feed, and up again for a second night feed as little as 2 hours later, and then of course he's awake early at 6-7am. And he now screams so loudly! I mean, really loud - it hurts my ears!! I was also ill at the end of last week so it's been quite tough. What's really got me down though is just being offered lots of opinions which has put the seed of doubt in my mind as to how well we are getting on. We went to a craft fare at the weekend and for some reason a stall holder and customer started asking questions about his night pattern and giving me advice about how I should be doinf it and that basically I was installing bad habits feeding him during the night. The stall holder was saying her baby was sleeping through the night at 3 months which to a tired, overly emotional mother translates as 'I'm brilliant, and my baby is fantastic, you're not doing it right and your baby isn't doing what he's supposed to'! I'm sure they meant to be helpful but I didn't even ask for advice. Although my OH has told me to ignore them, they have put the seed of doubt in my mind and I'm now questioning what I do more. This coinciding with him introducing high pitch screaming into our lives and deterioration of sleeping pattern has made me feel quite down. Also beginning to feel quite lonely and I've realised I need to put myself out there to make new mummy friends. I have just finished a mother/baby yoga programme and although the ladies were nice I've made no contacts from doing that.

I know what will make things better - for me to get out more on my own and for OH to share the feeding, but then you have to invest time expressing and that's 'free time' taken up (I do have electric pump but it's still a faff). I'm meant to be going to a hen party at the beginning of July and already beginning to feel anxious that won't be able to leave him.

This sounds like a bit of a negative post. When I'm in a certain mindset I know that we are doing really well and I'm loving maternity leave. I think he's a good little baby and shouldn't let people's advice which haven't asked for interfere with that.

Wo-ah - essay!! Sorry

I feel your pain Elvi, the articles I read about sleep regression suggested installing an earlier bedtime and moving their nap times... But that all supposes you are in a routine which I have never managed. DD only has a good nap every other day, if that. It makes me feel like a bad mum sometimes but I can't make her fall asleep! And if baby wants boob then nothing else will do!

And yep I find expressing a pain so I do all the feeding unless I have to be out without her.

I have made it to one baby group so far, called heart beeps. It was very good, lots of sensory stuff, so I have booked in for another one too. Hoping the more full our days are, the better she will sleep at night... But who knows?

Elvi and little.. We haven't hit 4month regression, but my LO has an extraordinarily loud cry. No joke. My friends raise their eyebrows. And when she screams, you are deafened. Literally.

On the judgement. Ignore that nonsense. Our first, fully breastfed baby, slept through from 6 weeks, from 7pm she would dream feed at 9.30pm and she's sleep till we woke her. Hahahahhahaha second time around. I thought it was routine, or us.

Nooooo was kidding self. It's the baby! No 2 is wonderful and glorious, but doesn't sleep through. We trying a dream feed at 10, but some night she wakes once, sometimes twice. Honestly: every baby is different- so tell anyone else to butt out!

As to the getting out, I am really enjoying a couple of local baby groups per week- I have to admit I do nothing particularly exciting with LO, but it's really lovely to socialise.

I'm finding I'm doing more at home now she's becoming much more awake and showing her personality.. So I'm loving that time..

And yes, I'm dreading the regression ugh.

Ah Elvi....its so annoying hearing tips from strangers. Sounds like we are all in the same boat. DS has a loud and sudden scream too. I haven't read about the 4 month regression. He is inly 13 weeks, so I will prepare myself. I haven't braved groups yet, but will be going swimming with him soon.

Did anyone watch the latest game of thrones ? Really wish I hadn't seen part of it :( ending was good tho.

Thanks Ladies, it's good to get reassurance. LO has started interacting with toys (well she tries to eat them!) and she actually laughs now when we make silly faces and noises. Have to remember the good stuff too.

I am just catching up on last season's GOT, fell behind. But I am afraid I haven't avoided spoilers this time.

Oooh finally got a notification. We've hit that awkward sleep regression at 14 weeks, or that might be the teething. He can't really fit teethers in his mouth so its a case of chewing on my fingers most of the time.

This morning DS broke me. I proper sobbed for 5 minutes, a mixture of running out of ideas what to do next, fed up of seeing him in pain, and just beeing plain tired. Haven't had a moment since the beginning.

I suppose on the plus side, the smiles i get when he decides he wants to be up from 2am to 5am are the biggest and best (and exactly not what you want to see at that time )

Finally got a notification this evening too!

Yes I saw the latest GoT - I left the room at the bit you are referring to!

Yesterday LO slept through from 9-5pm (for a feed) then went back down for another hour and bit - this is what he was doing a couple of weeks ago so I hope this pattern has returned. I've also heard (advice) that bedtimes should be brought forward to 7pm, but we are just about managing bedtime at 9pm once we have sorted ourselves out with dinner and bath time, changed for bed etc. We are going to try to bring it forward to 8pm - little steps!

Glad to know mine isn't the only one with a high pitch scream. He screamed on the bus journey home and was no consoling him. Awkward! teach me for coming home late when he's tired and hungry.

Hey ladies, good to read all your posts. No sleep regression as of yet (fingers crossed) but my DS hasn't really slept through yet anyway :) He wakes up maybe 2 - 3 times every night, starts off in his moses basket from around 8pm - 9pm and then wakes up around 1am, and I go into the spare room with him and we sleep and feed on and off till we both get up around 7/8am - but don't worry about other people giving you advise saying all baby's should sleep through it's nonsense, some do, but they are the exception, my DP's boss is always commenting saying, "I get my DDs in their own room from birth and they slept through really early, you have to let them cry a bit" totally the opposite of how I want to parent my DS and they recommend baby sleeps in your room till at least 6 months now anyway. It seems that as soon as you become a parent everyone has their little bit to say on what you should/shouldn't be doing. But screw it, your opinion is the only one that actually counts :)

As in relation to groups, I go to a couple from my local children's centre and those are ok! I've gotten talking to a few of the mums but no contacts yet, we also do Water Babies which we've really been enjoying but is quite expensive (my DM got it as a gift to us)

I have to go to a hen do this weekend and I really don't want to leave DS, I don't even really know the bride and have never met her friends before but my DP is bestman... I'll have to express every three hours to stop my boobs from being uncomfortable... hahaha wish me luck!!!

I declined a hen do that was happening last weekend. Am glad I did and the bride understood why. Good luck Crunchy, once your their I'm sure you'll enjoy it. I think at this stage it is actually more work to leave the baby than it is to stay with them.

We've had two fairly good night's since I last posted so maybe we are going to get off lightly with sleep regression. Fingers crossed!

Sorry, just read that post back and it sounded a bit judgey in my head. I meant I was lucky to get out of the hen do and it's hardwork to leave LOs cos of expressing, planning, feeling guilty... Etc.

But it is probably good to get breaks from the little dears!

Hi everyone! My DD turned 15 weeks yesterday, born 24.1.16. She had been sleeping pretty well since birth, 9pm-8am, waking at 2am and 5am for quick feeds then straight back to sleep. She's EBF. However since she was 13.5 weeks she has been waking every hour or 2 during the night for a feed, with lots of squirming and trying to roll while still asleep. And she has been very hard to please during the day! Always wanting carried about to see everything, so my arms are getting a good workout! Although I can see big changes in her everyday now which is lovely .

How's everyone getting on with the sleeping now? Any improvements??

Yep same boat here. DS went down at 9pm and awake for feed at 1am, 3am, 5am and now up just after 6am 😩. Now a regular thing for him to be up 2-3 times a night, even though it's only for 10-20mins a time and he goes back down again, it's still exhausting. He's a bit better now, but he has also been hard to please these last few weeks (he's almost 16weeks), and is far more unpredictable when put him in car seat or pram as to whether he's going to scream inconsolably. Although he's not 4 months I've moved him out of his bassinet and into the seat Attachment for the pram which has helped a lot.

Yes my DD doesn't like her car seat or pram at the min, she won't sit happily for longer than 5mins! I've also put her in the seat attachment of the pram as her head control is very good, and she's happier as she can see everything. Still doesn't guarantee she will sit in it for long though .

Hopefully this won't last much longer, I'm drained trying to keep her happy!

Another night of baby waking up every 2 hours 😩. When will his sleep pattern improve?! Been like this for 2-3 weeks now - it's like having a new born again.

My DD actually slept well last night, for the first time in 2 weeks! Slept from 8.30pm to 8am, just waking for a few small feeds. She rolled over from back to belly yesterday so she can't roll both ways now, maybe that tired her out? Or maybe she was just catching up on all the missed sleep over the past few weeks?

Heading now to get her second set of jabs so sleep will prob be terrible again tonight SIGH!!

Hope you get a decent night soon!!

What time do your DC's go to sleep for bedtime?

Heey, we are back to getting up at 4.30. Doesn't want milk, just seems to get up and chat to himself! He does go back to sleep though... He goes to bed at 6.45. I put cbeebies on and he is mesmerised by iggle piggle and upsydaisy for 20 minutes while I sort bed time out, and then he cries, eats and falls asleep. It's like clockwork.

I'm pretty sure baby number 2 (whenever that happens) will not be so easy. Or perhaps something will get difficult in some way in the future?

I keep getting 'is he your first?' questions from strangers with 2-3 toddlers, and when I say 'yes' I get a look. Its the same look I got when people asked me if it was my first pregnancy! And after going through labour and the recovery, I understand it and now give other pregnant women that look. Haha.

Someone on this thread let us 1st timers know - it gets more difficult doesn't it? That's what the 'uh-huh' look means, right?

The first hurdle of the early weeks were hard, but now it feels easy. (Completely realise I am tempting fate- cue screaming from the bedroom any minute!! )

Oh, and had final jabs last week :( it must have really hurt, he had a bruise and a little lump :( not looking forward to the 12 month jabs!

Ladies there us light at the end of the tunnel I think we have just came out the other end of the 4 month sleep regression which she started at around 13 weeks - and is now 18 weeks! Still not sleeping through the night but back to only 2 feeds 1/2 and 5/6 which I am over the moon about!

It was hard and I was starting to get really down just because I was so tired and she would kick off anytime we were out so I just avoided going out unless it was to my mums or something.

Hang in their it will pass! And as for a day time nap routine - missy is far to nosey for their to be a routine she naps for 30 minutes when she sees fit.

Keep strong!

Great to hear littleelephant

woo :)
Nice one little - hope it stays good!!

I totally jinxed myself. eugh....last night an hour after I posted DS woke up every half hour. DP cuddled him to calm him down, I popped my head in to see he was all ok, DS took one look at me and bawled. Aaaw. And then up early, wide awake.