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January 2016 - Hello babies!

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Nousername2015 · 23/01/2016 16:34

Thread to share our experiences and also have a chat to someone also dealing with lively babies at 3am!

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cheeseandcrackers · 14/02/2016 06:20

nousername it is hard not knowing what (if anything) is wrong or what the best thing to do is. Can't really give any advice but if you feel you really want to continue breastfeeding maybe contact a lactation consultant or breastfeeding support worker but if you feel formula is what would work for you and your baby then give that a go without worrying about it too much. Looking after a newborn is hard enough without additional unnecessary guilt about the way in which babies are fed.

liberty we have the cloud b sleep sheep which is similar to ewan. It's wonderful and seems to help but a free white noise app is just as good. Ours has a 20 min or 45 mun setting. I usually put it on 20 when settling him but often have to put it on again if he's not fast asleep after 20 mins. I have got so usrd to sleeping with it on that I quite miss it when it's off...

firsttimemum15 · 14/02/2016 07:44

Oh no noise in just meant to remove some foremost before a feed. Not to necessarily give him a bottle. Sorry.
We had green poos here too hut I was told as long as it wasn't every time I wasn't to worry.
Definitely speak to HV/Modwofe/BF support

Nousername2015 · 14/02/2016 15:16

I have already been seeing a bf support worker and a lactation consultant. Today is much better, I was really low yesterday (tired for a change!) We didn't have a great night last night but I keep telling myself that the bad times are temporary and will keep on with breastfeeding. Sorry for the moan, I just hit the wall last night! Hope everyone else had a good night.

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firsttimemum15 · 14/02/2016 15:32

We've all been there. Don't worry. X

firsttimemum15 · 15/02/2016 04:59

Well I'm sat here wondering if bab slept too much. She's gone from 11.30-5am. She did stir a couple of times and I snoozed whilst waiting for her to wake up. I must have fallen back to sleep as she didn't wake properly.

My partner said she's a "good girl" and she is but I do get a bit tetchy when people say she's good for sleeping. At other times if she doesn't go as long I think it doesn't mean she's not good. She's just doing exactly what her little body needs and I'm ok with that.

Woody16 · 15/02/2016 06:36

I would just enjoy the rest, first, though others may say that's too long . I was told to feed baby every 3 hours a couple weeks ago, woke him once in the night to stick to this and he wasn't remotely interested in feeding, and screamed til morning to punish us! Let him wake himself up now, though he rarely goes more than 3, sometimes 4 hours in the night.

Having a horrendous night tonight, he refuses to sleep in his bed (sleepyhead pod thing, inside cot, at the end of our bed) so for last few nights husband has slept in spare room whilst I sleep with baby in our bed. I just don't find it that comfortable lying on my side with my arms around him in the supposed safe co-sleeping position, I don't sleep well and feel so sore in the morning. And he's so clingy at the moment anyway most of the night he actually wants to be held so I'm sleeping with him actually in my arms which is even more uncomfortable! (I think it's still safe though, my arm is just under him rather than next to him, we're in the middle of the bed so he can't be dropped anywhere, and I definitely won't roll on him). Anyway this is turning into an epic sleep deprived rant... Tried to coax him back into the sleepyhead tonight, having it next to me on the bed so I'm right there, with a hand on his tummy and he just won't settle. He slept for an hour at the start of the night then screamed and screamed and refused to go back in, spent ages trying to settle him and eventually caved and brought him back into the bed. And he's woken so many times to feed as well.

Am at my wits end. I really don't want to get into a long term habit of him sleeping with me and I don't like having my husband banished to the spare room!

firsttimemum15 · 15/02/2016 07:19

I'm led by her now she rarely goes that long though Eeek

Oh no. I'm sure you won't n estartong bad habits though and yes I find the contact sleeping position uncomfortable I always get pins a d needles in arms or aching hops

How old is your baby
I think mine is a little older than most on here

Woody16 · 15/02/2016 11:56

He'll be 5 weeks on Wednesday, can't really believe it! Although each night seems to drag on for eternity, it does feel like time is flying. My husband is still at home for one more week, saved his annual leave up, so he took baby away this morning so I could catch up on sleep for a couple of hours, so feeling more human now :) Dreading him going back to work, even though I know I'm lucky and most don't have the luxury of having partners at home for this long, I feel like I won't be able to cope on my own!

Nousername2015 · 15/02/2016 12:14

woody ds is 5 weeks tomorrow so I'm right there with you!

Do you have the wonderweeks app? The babies are currently in the middle of leap 1 and will be very fussy and clingy during this time. The leap lasts a week and usually falls from about 4.5 weeks to 5.5 weeks. Ds is definitely acting up more at the moment for me. So hopefully this sleep behaviour is temporary and will pass in a few days. Doesn't make it any easier to deal with though Flowers

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cheeseandcrackers · 15/02/2016 15:38

Oh dear nousername ds2 is 5 weeks on Thursday so we're probably about to hit that leap.. Just when I thought things were starting to become manageable...

Woody16 · 15/02/2016 15:54

Good to know, hopefully it will pass soon! He certainly hasn't been this clingy from birth but currently needs to be in my arms basicsally all day and night or he cries... Will get the app, sounds handy.

firsttimemum15 · 15/02/2016 17:32

No user u have the app. How do you put in birth date it will only let me input due date. X

Nousername2015 · 15/02/2016 18:05

I just put birth date in that bit, not due date.

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firsttimemum15 · 15/02/2016 18:17

Ah I've just read on website to use due date rather than birthdate

firsttimemum15 · 15/02/2016 18:33

Does anyone else find the chart a bit pessimistic seems to be more thundery days than sunny ones..x

Nousername2015 · 15/02/2016 23:48

Surely due date is a bit misleading though as that would skew their age? Ds was born at 38+6 so that would put him as going through the leap in a couple of weeks - and judging by the screaming fit we've had for over 2 hours tonight I'm really hoping the leap is happening right now!

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Nousername2015 · 15/02/2016 23:53

I also gave another lactation consultant a call today, she was our nct teacher so not a random and her suspicion is that ds has a posterior tongue tie. Going to be doing a 50 mile round trip on Thursday to see a specialist midwife as my area won't check for posterior tongue ties. Having looked a bit on google his tongue does dip in the middle which apparently is an indicator. Really hoping this is the root of our issues so we can get sorted and move on, and also continue with breastfeeding as I'm starting to feel at the end of my tether with it all.

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firsttimemum15 · 16/02/2016 04:50

That's H9w I felt with tongue tie. It's awful they won't check for toy. It's a long trip but hopefully worth it.

I'm not sure about the due date v birth date on the app. I just goggles and I'm just the messenger. It's something about be won development in relation to conception and biological age due to brain development.

www.thewonderweeks.com/wonder-weeks-due-date-vs-birthdate/
Think I'll take a look as a guide. I was goog to buy the book but won't now. However I find the chart at a first glance pessimistic.

Could your baby be having a growth spurt? We had a v similar thing at that week.could baby be getting frustrated with tongue tie too perhaps?

cheeseandcrackers · 16/02/2016 06:46

nousername really hope tongue tie release helps. DS's was posterior and noneof the midwives spotted it but a HV noticed when he was screaming. I really think it has helped.

Ds2 waa 11 days late so he should be past so should be passed the leapif based on fue date. I'm a bit sceptical about that...

Nousername2015 · 16/02/2016 07:30

firsttime I've adjusted the date, thanks for the link. I'm still a bit sceptical but I'm no expert so will just go with it.

I really hope it is a tongue tie as then there's some reassurance that I'm not doing anything wrong and hopefully things will improve. He is definitely getting more frustrated every day which makes a lot of sense as his calorie requirements are increasing but he won't be being satisfied. Had a chat with dh last night and we've decided if we get a tt diagnosis we will go private to get it sorted quickly. It's money that would be better used elsewhere but anything to improve things, I'm happy to live on beans for a while!

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firsttimemum15 · 16/02/2016 07:43

You're not doing anything wrong. Sounds like a good plan for you all.

When was your due date. Mine was mid Jan so apparently I'm just approaching the first leap with my baby now. X

Woody16 · 16/02/2016 09:41

Good luck with tongue tie, hope it improves things for you. DS had his tongue tie cut at 8 days after losing weight and becoming jaundiced. To be honest it wasn't the 'instant' cure we'd been led to believe (promised instant perfect latch and painless feeding etc) and he couldn't latch on at all for a week after having it done (don't know why, sore maybe?) so had to give expressed & formula. He now latches on with nipple shields which I'm hoping to gradually wean him off, his latch when I try without them is improving, but it's still not quite right. Still glad we had it done overall though.

I've put birthdate into the app too, he was born at 37+5 which means he wouldn't even reach the leap for 2 more weeks according to due date, but he is definitely in the middle of it, it's the perfect description of his behaviour for the last week!

firsttimemum15 · 16/02/2016 20:52

If it gives anyone positive vibes after tongue tie and losing lots of weight and not putting it on adequately and after a second frenulotomy my baby was weighed again today. She's put on 11oz on just over a week Smile

Woody16 · 16/02/2016 21:33

Wow, amazing, well done! :) Sorry didn't mean to be negative, maybe I should get his tongue looked at again.

The 5-11pm cluster feed started at 12 today and still going Shock has had a few of 10-20 min breaks to sleep on my chest but keeps waking wanting more. Hopefully he will gain a decent amount of weight this week too!

LibertyBelles · 16/02/2016 21:47

DD being weighed again tomo 2 and a half weeks old - hoping she will have gained back to birth weight so we can be discharged from the midwife!