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January 2016 - Hello babies!

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Nousername2015 · 23/01/2016 16:34

Thread to share our experiences and also have a chat to someone also dealing with lively babies at 3am!

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firsttimemum15 · 16/02/2016 21:59

Fingers crossed for you. We weren't discharged until 28 days which is the maximum they're supposed to keep monitoring you for.

I'm sure you'll be fine. Let us know fingers crossed

LibertyBelles · 16/02/2016 22:14

Thanks firsttimemum so stressful!

vickyors · 16/02/2016 22:19

Let the night feeding commence.. DS2 just woken.. And I know it'll be ok.. But a part of me sighs and wonders how much kip we'll get between feeds!

At the moment we manage a feed around 7, then 10pm (which can be three hours).. Then twice more.. Three weeks in- growth spurt!

vickyors · 16/02/2016 22:20

And hope you can get out soon Liberty !

LibertyBelles · 17/02/2016 20:10

Bad news my DD was weighed too and has gone from 4580 at birth to 4060 at 16 days :(

firsttimemum15 · 17/02/2016 20:57

Oh no I really do know what you're going through. What advice were you given. What percentage of weight loss is that

Woody16 · 17/02/2016 21:41

Sorry to hear that liberty, hugs to you. Similar bad news here, mine has lost weight again and is back to birth weight at 5 weeks :( It's so stressful isn't it. Have you been given a plan of what to do now feeding wise?

LibertyBelles · 17/02/2016 21:54

Thanks both - just to express after feeding and give her that. Tried once today - got a tiny amount, not even an oz! Not sure about % the midwife seemed confused

LibertyBelles · 17/02/2016 21:56

Ok just calculated it - 11%

firsttimemum15 · 17/02/2016 22:06

I was exactly the same Liberty when I started expressing to feed baby it back.

I know I keep saying that...

I got speckles in the bottle and probably not even 5ml but kept giving her it back. I was probably naive I wasn't told an amount to feed back and didn't know I wasn't getting enough off which sounds stupid. I know. Although expressed amounts aren't always indicative of supply I have since learnt.

Have they told you how regularly to express? I can let you know what I did if you like. It was hard work but we got there. X

cheeseandcrackers · 17/02/2016 22:08

Sounds very stressful for you both, liberty and woody, hope you're OK.

My DS is very distressed after feeds, and is still very windy even after tongue Tue release so HV thinks he may have a dairy allergy so I have to cut out dairy from my diet and see if it helps. No more cheese or custard creams for me... It can take 8 weeks to have an effect though...

LibertyBelles · 17/02/2016 22:44

Yes please firsttimemum

firsttimemum15 · 18/02/2016 03:07

Oh no here given your name that might be tough?

Liberty I didn't want to tell you because I didn't want you to think I was interfering. I don't know what you've been told. And as I've learnt amount expressed is not always indicative of supply so midwives look at nappy output and weight gain. I'm sure you know this. I got frustrated because the amount I expressed was also looked at but found this confusing as I kept been told it wasn't always a reflection of supply but....

My baby had tongue tie treated twice. Once when we left hospital - brill. And again when we got home because a remnant was left, or so we think. Weight dropped dramatically then was slow to go bk on.

Feeding plan involved giving top ups of EBF. At first like I say I naively gave whay I pumped (barely 5mls) after 10 mins of pumping after she had been on the boob (I say "aftwr she had been on the boob" rather than each "feed" because there wasn't a definite feed at this stage).
Then I was told to pump more (try 30 mins after a feed) I did this but without regularity.

Then I had a feeding plan in place -whilst I was waiting for second TT release- to give 30ml top ups after each feed and express after each feed. Again, I ended up expressing each time she had been on the boob for 30 mins or longer. I was using a hospital grade pump and pumped religiously round the clock and started raking fenugreek. It was a struggle to get 10ml then 20ml then 30ml then 50ml but gradually I watched this increase until I started overfilling one of the 10ml bottles.

I never felt it was dripping off me or that I could easily overfill a bottle like friends said they could but it was nice to see it coming off.

I dropped the top ups as weight gain was good but then it started to tail off to I was told to increase them again. I was skeptical about this and to be honest I only gave hem frequently and only during the day. However I knew she was being weighed again shortly so I could afford to follow my initiative.
At the TT clinic u was told to look at weight gain as an average over the two weeks not just at the small amount of time between rapid weight gain and smaller gains. The average weight gain over a for night was the same. Relief.

At this stage we had TT done again. I was told I could reduce pumping but I was attached to it. I didn't know how. I hadn't left the house for 3 wks. My hands were always full of baby, boob and pump. It was honestly one of the hardest things I had to do. Pumping round the clock. With midwives saying "do breast comprwssion/are you eating and drinking/try a double pump" I found it hard because ei always had baby in one hand pump in the other. At times I became task focused and realised that baby feeding was the most important thing (instead of getting frustrated thst I couldn't pump)

I did, however drop to 3-4 pimps a day and stopped pumping overnight. At first it was important to pump overnight. I was told more hormones are released at this time.
I dropped the top ups at this point and weight gain was good.

I was still pumping.

Eventually discharged from midwife and hv took over. I was still pumping but only once a day for my own peace of mind. Still taking fenugreek.

I have a good store of BF milk in the freezer. Since.last week I've ran out of storage containers so I haven't pumped and weighed gain has been great. Think its due to everything I did.

I don't want my scenario to influence what you've been told which is why I didn't volunteer info. I didn't want you to think k I was telling g you what to do.

But. I hope it might give you hope.

PS sorry for taking a while to reply. Baby was asleep so I was too.

Now at approaching 8 weeks I'm led by her. During all of thay I was setting alarm to feed every 2.5/3 hours.

firsttimemum15 · 18/02/2016 03:10

Oh and kept trying skin on skin too

cheeseandcrackers · 19/02/2016 03:47

firsttime Sounds like a very tough expressing schedule. Well done for persevering. What you wrote has been very useful for me as I can barely express enough to cover the bottom of a bottle, but it sounds like you can get better at expressing if you keep trying.

I took ds to the gp today as he was in so much distress last night and she gave us some reflux meds so hopefully things will getbetter from here on. She also said not to give up dairy :-)
Hope you and your babies are all sound asleep...

LibertyBelles · 19/02/2016 04:19

Thanks first, cheese I'm the same in terms of amount expressed

firsttimemum15 · 19/02/2016 05:51

Read Kelly mom. It's really useful. Like I said it's frustrating because it's not always indicative of supply but then midwives were asking how much I got off. Due to poor weight gain and weight loss it was therefore concluded I had low supply and due to TT.

Some friends haven't got supply issues but can't express

I think I've had mild mastitis but not sure. Started in the wee hours yesterday bit seems better now.

LibertyBelles · 19/02/2016 11:50

Saw health visitor today and am topping up with 3oz of formula after every breastfeed

Rpj16 · 19/02/2016 16:24

ohh, be careful with expressing too much though, I had oversupply from expressing and led to problems :( wish there was a perfect medium between no supply and too much!
First time, go to doctors just incase please. mastitis is horrible!!!

Rpj16 · 19/02/2016 16:27

sorry, sounded pushy. only go if you want to obv, only cos I ended up with fever and on IVs, so would try to nip in bud before got that far!

firsttimemum15 · 19/02/2016 17:45

Aw no it's fine. It seemed mild if that's possible and improved loads todsy. I was all prepared to get myself to GP. If it suddenly gets worse there's an out of hours servuce I can use but I'm lots better. XStar thank you

vickyors · 20/02/2016 14:18

How's everyone going? I'm currently feeding DS2 while DS1 is watching Disney, as OH is working.. I drove yesterday for the first time post c section- freedom!!

firsttimemum15 · 21/02/2016 20:59

Congratulations on driving again Smile

Your lazy day yesterday sounded cool. I had one of those coz O her half was working.

Went out today for a walk bit ended up at walk in centre. Don't think it's baby or related to the fact I was preggo. But I was so uncomfortable across my back. Felt winded. The only way to describe it. Couldn't get comfortable. Dr couldn't find anything

So came home and had bath. Again. Other half gave bab a booby milk bottle. I was guilt riddled as she fell asleep quickly. Started worrying about my supply. Feel slightly better but not loads. It was awful I just felt I couldn't see to her etc I as in to much discomfort. Luckily have a sympathetic fella.

How's everyone. Wonder how elvi is no posts in a while. X

Rpj16 · 22/02/2016 11:32

My partner is back in work and I wonder what to do with a (almost) 1 month old! He sleeps a lot, we have a lot of cuddles and go for the odd walk, try to have a daily bath. We go to my parents and watch the Harry Potter channel on Sky - I'm that cool. now 1/2 term is over, we will brave a walk around town centre.

I spend a lot of time cleaning bottles and making up formula...

What do you all do with yours? I feel like I should be doing something with him whenever he is awake. Cuddling or talking to him. Is it ok to leave him in his moses basket when he is awake and happy? FTM here obviously! haha

ohh first, I wish we had a tub in my house.... I miss baths. hope you are ok!

Summerdays2014 · 22/02/2016 17:38

Hi all, glad to have found this thread, very interesting to read everyone else's experiences. I have a 6 week old boy. For those of you who are formula feeding how much are you giving your babies and how often? Thanks in advance!