November 2014 - The one where they outrun us!

[MrsAukerman]

New thread ladies.

There are only 2 soft plays within driving distance here and cos there's so few they are INSANE.

Of course DS doesn't care and careers around like a lunatic barely missing getting clocked in the head by a bigger boy. But the stress of it all!

DH bought a cheapie tool bench toy for DS this morning. He was fascinated. ....For 10 mins. Hopefully it'll be a success long term.

I too detests soft play!!

My poor baby has to have glasses he has a squint which is pretty permanent now and slightly Long sighted so got prescription from hospital today and nowv need to shop around for glasses he gets a NHS voucher towards frames but think the more robust comfy baby ones like tomato brand are mega money so will see they didn't find me funny when I asked who supplied the gaffer tape to keep them on!! (I have nurses sense of humor and forget others don't always get it!!)

Hello all, room for one more? Like porsmork I've been an on and off lurker but lost track when I got pregnant again (I'm now the proud owner of two November babies). Right now everything seems to revolve around DS 12 weeks and I feel like I'm struggling to find time for my DD. What kind of things do you do with your babies? Haven't braved any toddler groups as I'm not sure how I'd manage both at once, she likes to run off and put everything she can find in her mouth so I'd need both hands free. We have an aqua doodle which she loves but she seems to be getting bored of her other toys.

Oh eastmids little ones in specs are SO CUTE! there was a little girl in one of my baby groups who wore the ones that wrap around and she was just adorable!

Hi annatha! I love the new november friends joining, I feel like we must seem a friendly bunch if you lurk and then join :) (Pats self on back How self absorbed am I??) 2 November babies, brave lady, are you knackered? DD has an aquadoodle but I didn't know if she was old enough for it yet, perhaps I'll dig it out if it's such a success!

I hate soft play too, although I quite like the sessions at Everyone Active gyms, anyone else been? They're called 'active ants' and are for 1-5's, it just seemed a bit more civilised and whispers cleaner. Although I didn't find many parents to chat too because I was busy following dd around. I also like the rhyme time sessions at the library, I'm lucky in that we have lots locally. I recently discovered a cafe in a church in town that has a play area, it's a hidden gem really because it's quite quiet and you can get a coffee and sandwich cake while they play. I send DP over there on a Saturday. We also take her to pets shops a lot and cm takes her to toys r us quite often.

Family yoga was good! DD only managed one pose (downward facing dog of course) but she enjoyed running round and watching everyone else. Without sounding to hippyish I just want her to experience some chill time. She's 100 miles an hour, non stop and me and her dad are the same, it would be good if she could learn to relax some times. Her dad suffers with anxiety and I really hope she doesn't inherit or learn that from him.

Family!y yoga sounds fab. Active ants used to be 2-5 here but will check as same place ds1 goes to holiday club.

I am sure ds2 will look cute in glasses but he is such a monkey I suspect they will spend little time on his face.

Two nov babies annatha wow your first must have been an amazingly easy baby for you to consider DTD I'm first 3mths :)!! I know my sister has 11mths between 3+4 and from 2+3 life gets easier apparently.

Welcome annatha! That's an expensive end of year for you from now on! :) DH and DD's birthdays are few weeks apart followed by Christmas... lots of present buying. I do admire you for coping with two babies just a year apart!

I don't think there should be a problem with DD putting things in mouth in toddler group? They wouldn't have any dangerous items, it might be more secure than at home (ours definitely). Those 45 minutes when she is all over place in the group could be the precious time you can just sit down? Do you have baby carrier to strap the baby in while in toddler group?

Thanks ladydolly! I posted a couple of times way back when it was the November 14 antenatal thread but just lost track. Feels like a lifetime ago! Dd loves it. She sort of bashes the mat with the pen rather than drawing but she likes it. She hands me the pen and claps when I draw which is quite cute. Two babies is a bit mental, it's good that DD doesn't get jealous but shes still a baby herself so it can be hard when they're both upset. It'll hopefully be easier as DS gets older and they can play together.

Hey annatha , welcome to the thread!

OK, so I know I said I HATED soft play and it was my idea of living hell.....but....she slept for 3 HOURS when we got home!!!!! We may be going again

Haha yes she's been a dream baby from the start, I was very lucky! We knew we wanted two close together but I wasn't expecting to fall pregnant so quickly- I stopped bf at 12 weeks and was pregnant within a month. Morning sickness clashed with weaning though so that wasn't much fun.

I'm trying to get DS used to the sling but he doesn't seem impressed just yet. DD practically lived in the sling until I was too big to carry her, it's a lifesaver.

Hi annatha! Wonder how many more November lurkers will come say hello! The thought of another terrifies me at the moment, good for you!
I hate soft play too. We have a few round here, which we want to before ds turned 1 as they were free, but now they seem so expensive, especially if you get lunch/ coffee there. I prefer the organised classes. Yoga sounds lovely! I've been to a couple of the tatty bumpkin franchise classes, which were nice, but they are on at a funny time that clashes with naps! I totally agree ladydolly, encouraging chill time is really important to me too. I try and do a bit of Montessori style stuff at home as well, to try and encourage a decent attention span. Can't see it working though!

Eastmids, I've been a glasses wearer since I was small, and your lo will rock those specs I'm sure!

If my child slept 3hrs after soft play I would go daily sod the hellish screaming brats whose parents just disown them for a few hrs!!

Pors I still lie ds2 has just turned 15mths we only go to ones with ds1 so school hols and I just say oh he is 11mths or 1 in a couple weeks helps he doesn't walk although garden centre since he was 4mths have tried to charge me and when I refuse say well he can't go in - no shit sherlock 25 bigger kids running round a tiny small place p!ease may I put my baby in there!

Good God, two under one!

We'll have 2 under 2 here (this new one is due in Sept) and I am shitting it, no lie.

Of course being in the thick of total bone crushing exhaustion whilst DS runs around like a lunatic bashing his head into everything doesnt help.

I'm hoping its all worth it when you see them interact together. God its a loooong pregnancy to get through before then though!

Ugh, baby sick on the carpet in the front room, cat sick on the carpet in the bedroom, can't put baby down, can't find tv remote so am stuck with CBeebies on tv. Someone will have to take the day off work to look after her tomorrow, but DH is convinced she will be fine to go to nursery (he obviously only cares about the 48hr rule when it is his child catching the bugs), and someone has to take the day off on Monday or I don't go to sleep between night shifts because in-laws can't look after DDs at the moment.
I wondered if it is a coincidence that DD got ill when we switched to giving her cow's milk to drink as well as all the cheese she eats and other dairy. I also wonder if it would be a good idea to temporarily stop giving her dairy while she is ill in case the combination of dairy and viruses irritates her and is prolonging the vomiting. DH thinks these are crazy suggestions :( and anyway I can't get to a shop that sells soya milk with poorly baby.

happy sounds grim, poor you :( Definitely pull back on the dairy while she's still vomiting. While stomach bugs are ongoing it's not recommended for anyone as many people become temporarily intolerant in the aftermath of a bug til the gut flora repairs. As far as I know anyway. Are you still breastfeeding her? I can't remember. If so that will get her through for now if you cut out other dairy, she won't need anything else for a few days and it will actively repair the gut flora. (So I was told by a pharmacist anyway when DD2 was very small and became temporarily lactose intolerant after a bout of antibiotics.)

You can always make porridge with just water and that kind of thing.
If you're not breastfeeding anymore, there are probiotic drops you can get called BioGaia that are pretty good though pricey. I had to order them on Amazon though.

It's awful the amount of time off needed for this first year of nursery isn't it? Absolute headwrecker.

Thank god the weather is a bit better. I plonked a kitchen chair in the garden and literally sat there for an hour watching DS potter about with a stick in one hand and a flowerpot in the other. Happy as Larry!

Made up for the very public and embarrassing screaming fit when I tried to put him in the supermarket trolley earlier. Oh and before that I had to put him down to get the coin for the trolley out - he immediately dashed away, me legging after, and this woman grabbed him just as I caught up to him a few feet away and tut tutted at me "He almost ran out on the road!" (meaning the road part of the car park). Like I was the most negligent mum in the world.

She moaned and wouldn't be put down all morning, then slept for 2hrs over lunchtime, ate a tiny bit of lunch, then pointed at her coat and tried to put it on and pointed at her trike. I took her for a little ride on it then she wanted to play in the garden and was most unimpressed when I wanted to go back inside.
It was nursery parents' evening tonight, and the keyworker is not at all concerned that she can't walk yet, probably because she was also DD1's keyworker and she was the same. After the Easter holiday she will move to the next room so will start visiting it now. I can't believe she is already nearly too old for the baby room. She loves it there and loves her keyworker and we really like the staff, so I hope she is as happy in the next room.
I don't think she has a stomach bug as such. She has recently been sick a few times but only first thing in the morning and then she is ok. Sometimes she coughs so much she is sick but it isnot always after coughing. We got some more soya milk to see if not having cow's milk anymore helps. She would be very unhappy about going completely dairy-free again as she loves cheese so much and sometimes it is the only thing she will eat. It is interesting that you say your DD became temporarily intolerant after a course of antibiotics, as her initial CMPI diagnosis at 6 weeks old was just after a course of antibiotics. I have always wondered if it might be related but doctors have always said no.

Happy ds2 doesn't walk nursery have been trying to encourage it inc taking him to toddler room for an hr Somme late afternoon if he only baby left so he can copy others!! I keep tellings them I am not concerned ds1 walked at 18mths and ds2 is doing more now than he did. Anyways they wanted him to do 2hrs couple afternoon a week in toddler room but now he needs glasses and may need some closer watching while gets used to them we are keeping him where he is in baby room.

Horrible cough here. Really chesty and nothing available in Boots as only tickly cough cough medicine is safe for small children. Boo.
Cm tried 2 nap day today and second never happened so he's been up since 1030. It's all gone quiet on the monitor so hopefully DH is having an OK bedtime. God knows what the night will bring.

Ahhh mrsa we have the same cough sounds nasty poor little bugger I have had it for a week too hoping his passes quicker.

MrsA and eastmids if it's any help (probably not...), when I took dd to docs with a horrible cough, full of snot etc etc they said not to bother buying any cough medicines as they were basically a waste of money, but to stick to steaming them in the bathroom; raising the bed / mattress; putting a damp cloth (with a few drops of olbas oil on it) on the radiator; and putting a pan of hot water in the bedroom. Then you just have to sit it out ....

So today we've had 3 major tantrums (bear in mind she's been at nursery from 8-5 so we've only seen her awake for a total of about 4 hours)....1st one was during breakfast when she suddenly just started screaming, crying and trying to throw herself out of her highchair ; 2nd time was after I'd picked her up from nursery and wouldn't let her get herself run over by running stumbling into the carpark; and 3rd time was at teatime and have absolutely no idea what kicked it off. We're trying really hard to set some boundaries and not give in to her paddies, but sometimes it's clear that she's just testing us and wants to be in control

Haven't I totally agree about Cough mixture paying for sugary gloopy slime. We go through loads olbas oil as do damp cloth n drops at soonest sign of sniffle, this cough is nasty though he slept OK woke at 9 + then 5 currently snuggled on me but I need to get ready for work.

I think the cough mixture gives parents the thought that "they are doing something" make it easier when they hear LO to cough they guts out. DH keeps giving DD cough mixtures and his favourite phrase is "we need sort your cough out". :)

Well at the grand old age of 15.5 months, DS has finally this week started waving bye bye. I've waited for this for so long!

All these coughs and colds sound horrible, hope they are on the mend soon.

I'm having one of those days when it's only 9am and I feel like crying. Ds hasn't been trouble at all, just a mini cry when I didn't let him have spaghetti for breakfast. More how I feel; a combination of ever watchful and bored! I'm so frustrated that he isn't talking. We'll look at books and I name something and he points to it. He understands so many words, but it's like he's just locked in and doesn't even want to try and say them. Rationally, I know he'll get there, but emotionally I feel so upset and frustrated. Dh is far more relaxed about it (but then he's out for 11.5 hours a day). I feel so tired of trying to find things to do together that he'll focus on for more than 5 seconds. I feel like I just wander round the house after him, making sure he doesn't hurt himself on something, and every time I try to do something that doesn't involve looking at him, like reading a magazine, he comes over and interrupts. I know this is what we signed up for, and he's a lovely easy going baby that still naps twice a day, but God, I just want to curl up in a ball and cry today. Feel very guilty about that....esp' as his nanny took him yesterday as I was feeling unwell, so I did get a break.

Sorry for the rant guys....

I felt bit like that yesterday. It's cabin fever. Of course after being with you all day they become magnetic, and last night I told DH to put him to bed as I was all babied out, but DS just wouldn't have it. So I had to grit my teeth and put him to bed. I was so pissed off, and shamefully it was at DS. He's very close to his Daddy, so why the Hell wouldn't he just go to him and give me a break???

The only thing that is really working at present is the garden. Bringing a chair out there and vaguely supervising whilst he potters about for an hour. He doesn't pay too much attention to me out there and I can MN on my phone and tune out a bit.

And CBeebies is a godsend in the morning when I need to drink my tea in peace.

Re the talking. Mine has no interest in even pointing to things in books so you're ahead of us there! He knows approximately one thing - where my nose is. He points to mine and I almost burst with pride. Language wise, that's IT! He babbles of course but shows zero interest in mimicking or anything.

I go through periods of worrying but I tell myself he seems quite healthy and intelligent and lively and is learning lots and lots of other things (like manipulating tools etc) In terms of motor skills he's certainly ahead of the curve. So I tell myself he can't learn everything at once! Language is just gonna have to wait.