November 2014 - The one where they outrun us!

[MrsAukerman]

New thread ladies.

Oooh, how can I persuade the non-sleeping wonderchild to hurry up and learn to walk by herself?!!

Ha ha happy - tbh, it just suddenly happened one day. She'd been walking / tottering along holding onto both of my hands and then one day when I collected her from nursery, she just walked to the door! How old is your DD? Mine was just short of 14.5 months when she did (finally) start to walk on her own...

havent we shout take the video of DDs tantrums and show to disbelievers in our nurseries :D

Tantrums abound here. One type is a little like Lord of the Dance and another is chucking things / slapping us in the face. DH much more strict than me. How are you lot dealing with differences in parenting styles?

I meant River Dance.

DD has a naughty habit of putting things in her mouth to get a reaction. She's moved away from the gumming everything phase but there are certain things she puts in her mouth straight away: crayons, markers, and FUCKING COINS! She waits until you're looking and then does it really fast and taunts you with her bulging gob. Have to be really vigilant about any loose change because that one really makes me panic and I can't not react.

I've kind of given up getting cross about the crayons and markers. She only gets them because she makes such a bloody fuss about it if DD1 is doing colouring or drawing. As far as DD2 is concerned, she is a real person and should get to join in. She will happily colour away until she gets bored or catches my eye and then they go straight into her mouth.

As for different parenting styles...DH is usually Happy Fun In-Demand Parent while I'm the boring one, so whenever he does get cross at the girls I have to leave the room because I get such a childish urge to giggle. He doesn't have a huge amount of patience for DD2's whinging, probably because he can't interpret it as well as I can (though it's pretty much always either hunger or tiredness...).

Lol at the River Dance tantrum. DD2 also has a new face: Sulky Face. Head down and to her shoulder, lip out.

Yes yes yes to the tantrums. She kind of carefully lays down on her front then bangs her fists on the floor. It's like she saw a cartoon version of a tantrum and copied it! There are a few fake tantrums as well, my favourite is when she screws her up and does a full on pout. She nearly always starts laughing though.

So far I'm leading the parenting style, dh does what I tell him to do mostly. I suspect in the future he will be stricter than me, I'm more patient and have a an interest in gentle parenting, I'm not totally on board with it but some elements make sense. Anyone else looked into this?

I thought walking would help dd sleep but not so far, she's learnt to run this week, she thinks it's hilarious tearing round the house.

She's also has selective behaviour. At home a nappy change is a drama with wriggles on top but childminder says she has the opposite and actually lays down on the changing mat even when it's not her turn then lays totally still when it is her time. Monkey.

Little petty MIL rant.

Whilst here, DS has been shattered and whinging and floppy and falling about the place by 6.30. We've been putting him to bed at 6.45. MIL has seen all this - she's been in the room!

So this morning "SIL wants to come round to see you". Great, cool.
"She cant come round till 5.30 cos she's at work. She'll have the utterly insane and fucking hard work 2 little boys with her cos she'll pick them up from creche on the way. Oh and the 3 yr old has a cold and a cough, but thats all ok, isnt it?"

DH wasnt impressed and said "no actually its not ok cos they have a much later bedtime and they'll be swinging from the lamps and screaming the place down and there's no way they'll be brought home before 7.30, knowing SIL"

MIL: "Its such a shame you dont like your nephews"

DH: "!!!!!!"

MIL: "And if DS doesnt get to go to bed until later its not the end of the world, is it? And if you had visited at the weekend instead of during the week, it would have been earlier in the day so its not like its anybody elses fault that its the only time they get to see their cousin"

Aaaaaarrrrgghhh!

DH & I promptly realised it was going to happen with or without our blessing so we've washed our hands of it. Its going to be a nightmare. Those kids are nuts. And so LOUD! Poor DS.

Already DH is the bad guy and I can just hear MIl telling SIL "He didnt really want you to come, you know...." And SIL getting all snotty at him.

So we're going out for the day.

So glad we live hours away!

Anna - the joys of family there are many a time I am glad we live 200miles away and the very rare occasion I wish we were closer!

So I go next door to collect parcels usually see passing hello but generally the au pair answers, well the lady answers they have a 2yr old and she always chatty so notice a small bump and said oh congrats when are you due she said I had them Mon just came home today yep she just had twins!!

oh anna how hideous!! Glad you and DH are on the same page though.

A pal at work is having twins, it's put the fear of god in me that it might happen to us, far more common in 'older' mothers.

So following last weeks sickness DP went down with the tummy bug on Monday, still suffering now, has lost 9lbs so far and unable to keep food in but doc said they aren't interested until it's lasted 5-7days. dd also had runny nappies yesterday, I kept her home this morning until first dirty nappy which seemed fine so packed her off to childminder. Call at 3.30 to say she'd been out of sorts today and then while cm was getting her phone to call me to come get her when dd fell off the sofa face first onto her dolly. She's got bruised and bloody lips and bruised cheeks and head. She looks awful but on top of that she's so poorly. She refused dp, only wanted to sit cuddled up on me. No playing, no chat. Very unlike her. So hard to see them like that.

Poorly baby here too: vomiting this morning, temperature, wanting to be held all the time but only by me :(
Also had extra 4yr old today. My loud, energetic, always on the move, always talking even if you are, nephew was here, because FIL is in hospital and in-laws usually look after him I'm school holidays.
Also had my mum and grandma visiting today although I suggested they might not want to risk the potential germs. Challenge was having the house tidy enough that my 83yr old grandma wasn't going to trip over anything and my mum wasn't going to be outraged but while also looking after an ill baby and 2 4yr olds intent on getting out every single toy.
I'm just eating dinner then going to wash the vomit out of my hair if DD doesn't wake up again. Then I'll wonder what to do about the fact my hair takes literally hours to be dry enough to go to bed.
I won't know until tomorrow if my nephew is coming again. I had planned to take them to soft play if he does, but can't take poorly baby there.

Oh no!
Nothing to contribute here but so sorry to hear about the sad babies.

After my scan last week my thought process was a) yay heartbeat! and immediately b) yay not twins!

ladydolly isn't the twins and older mums purely related due to more likely use of IVF? Apart from that my idea of prospects having twins is genetic - if you have twins in family then you have chances to have as well. Before scan with DD we were joking about having twins, but since I know what it means to have just one, it's a no go area for jokes. Our friends have twin babies (IVF) and the poor mum some nights only gets 30 minutes sleep. I probably would have broken down by now.

strawberry I think that is a factor but generally more common in older women, something about nature literally chucking all the last eggs in the baskets. It's still a fairly irrational fear but I can't help it!! I have few friends with twins second time around, one that has 6 month old girls at the moment said 'I'm not enjoying it, I love them but it's not much fun'. It took them a few years to try for a baby again because the first was so 'difficult' and then bam! Twins!

babydolly up every hour in the night, much happier this morning though so packed her of to cm. She bawled when I left though, she's very clingy at the moment :(

DS had first sleepover at GPs last night. The little so and so slept through. Why oh why can't he do it at home?!

Yeah young women is under 20 and older over 35 more likely to have twins due to menstrual cycle and sometimes releasing more than one egg. Also family history only relevant if female side as twins only pass down female side. I have night nanny for lots twins as you can imagine parents need a night or two just to sleep.

I know lots of people whose "second babies" are twins

MrsA did he really or did they just say that also I know some grandparents are advocate of cry it out not saying they are but take what you are told lightly as they may have said it to make you feel better about having left him or to show look what he foes for us

Oh, didn't know about the extreme egg release.

Strawberry I know a family where mum had twins and her sister triplets no known family history of twins!!

Definitely did sleep through. His two cousins were in the next room so CIO not an option and MIL loves snuggles so would have loved to end up in bed with him.

Re twins: when I was pregnant with DD1 DH once said "it would be good to have twins, wouldn't it?" I told him that was one of the most stupid things he had ever said and it would actually be horrific to have 2 babies at once!

halfstar your DD's sulky face sounds a lot like the face mine makes whenever we tell her off. It makes me laugh.
Today DD2 was sitting on my lap and DD1 started crying because she had hurt herself. DD1 came to sit on the settee with us and DD2 stroked her face and put an arm round her. It was so cute, especially as DD2 usually tries to push DD1 away from me.

It has not been the most relaxing week off work. A few weeks ago we discovered that the non-sleeping wonderchild sleeps a lot when she is poorly, which was fine because we could spend the time while DD1 was at school cuddled up catching up on programmes I recorded ages ago, but this week it has been a problem while I have had to entertain at least 1 4yr old as well with no help from DH as he has been working all hours to try and finish Something at work and visiting his dad in hospital. I literally couldn't put her down this morning. At bedtime DD1 said she was sad that I hadn't played with her all day. I did my best. I read stories, I helped her with activities in her magazines, I helped set up a cuddly toy tea party, I dragged her ill sister out to the freezing cold park, she set up elaborate Happyland scenes and didn't invite me to play with them so I didn't, I counted how many times she could run across the room in a minute (she thought that was fun) repeatedly.

Hi everyone, would you mind if I joined this thread? I've been a long time lurker, with my own 14 month old ds. Been following along since early pregnancy, but always felt a little too shy to post. Recently, I've been feeling a bit lonely (moved to a new town in November), so hope you don't mind me reaching out. I'm sahm, just the one ds, who is walking, but not talking (lots of pointing and squawking!). Hope that's OK, and happy weekend to you all. Xx

Welcome posmork! How are you finding your new town? I find it so frustrating when dd is pointing and I have no idea what she's after! She kept doing it last night in the dark and I realised this morning it was this toy car dashbord thing I put on top of her shelves for when she was a bit older. I guess she's old enough now!

Oh happy, if only little people knew that in one tiny comment they break our hearts hey? Sounds like you managed lots!! You sound very fun :)

DD much better, her face is a bit of a mess but she seems fine. I think yesterday's quietness was down to the shock of the fall rather than a sickness bug so that's good news. DP is still sick so will be a quiet weekend here.

Well we have no water burst pipe in next village thankfully was fine at 6.30am so tea and breakfast had and water filter and kettle had water in so OK should be back on thus afternoon people have brought all the bottled water in all the little shops in the 4 village affected its about 4-5hrs without water for goodness sake!!