Just Mumming 9- We're suffering the curse of Mel B, ST syndrome and the rise of the sleep snatchers. We've all had enough and would just like a good JS.

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Name: Pixie
Age:29
Pests: 2- P (girl) 17 months old, R (boy) 4 months old
Things I can't do anymore- have a crap in peace, drink a hot drink, do any housework, shag ST, sleep, take naps.

Things I can do- carry a toddler, baby, dirty bottles and nappies down the stairs all at once, put a double pram up in 20 seconds, have a shower inc washing and shaving in under 5 mins. Be coco the clown on 26 mins sleep.

Hello laideez, sorry I fell off the thread but I have been shocked back onto it by Popz's arse-sniffing dog.

I have been reading and trying to keep up but I can't remember everyone's posts, I'm sorry. Hope all poorly mamas and babas get better soon. Yay to those DHs finally stepping up a bit and kicks up backsides to those who aren't being supportive.

Re the AIBU thread, why would anyone begrudge an exhausted mother (or father) a night off? You are still you after you have a baby and you are allowed to still have an identity other than 'mother'. I think some people need to pull their heads out of their arses.

We finally cracked and took BabySnap to A&E on the weekend. He was taking tiny amounts of milk and throwing those up. The tipping point was when he was sick on DP, and when he took off his T-shirt his shoulder and chest were red...burned by the baby's sick. So god knows what it's doing to BabySnap's throat. Anyway, he's been prescribed ranitidine but we can't get it until the weekend so will have to bumble along 'til then. He puked all over me in a coffee shop this morning. Luckily it missed my cake.

Cookie I sympathise with the mountains of washing situation. The bath is constantly filled with vomity baby clothes and pissy 3 year-old clothes and there just isn't enough time or space to get it all washed before it starts honking. Back in the summer I was rinsing out P's clothes where he'd had an accident at nursery, and pulled a whole turd out of his trouser leg. With my bare hand. I'm still mentally scarred by that one.

Snap that sounds awful. Hope minisnap is better soon, Gx the ranitidine starts working soon

B and I were at the docs today for our 6 weeks check. I'm thinking of going back on the citalopram after a few awful days. If the Colief works and we have less screaming then maybe I won't need it. We've established he doesn't have reflux, it's the milk sitting on the air bubble that comes up with the burp.
Other than that we're both fine

Glad to be of service snap

Poor minisnap! Hope the meds kick in soon for him.

Glad R is feeling better Min!

Are you still feeling low purple? I've been taking paroxetine since miniP was born. It doesn't seem to be touching it at the moment though, I feel so negative and down all the time. Am wondering if I need a higher dose. Hard to tell if the whole MrP situation is the cause or effect....

Ack. I thought she was on the mend but she was sick again this morning and is being clingy so maybe not.

Aww snap that sounds terrible. Poor minisnap

That AIBU thread was ridiculous. What on earth was she thinking? I think some people just like being mummy martyrs. I have only been for one night out so far but have left S for a few hours here and there to go into work, swimming, having my hair cut etc. Surely you can't stay with your baby 24/7?

I don't want to tempt fate but we have had a really good week. S has been smiley and less screamy. But he is fighting sleep at night too - sigh - can't have everything!

Fleur that's fantastic. You've had a rough time, glad things are better and long may they continue.
Min hope mini is better soon
Popz I was on it before TTC, I'm prone to anxiety. It's not depression. I just get overwhelmed and feel I can't cope. I cry all the time. It was getting better then I've had a bad week with B and I'm struggling. I don't know if I want pills again, sometimes I just think I need to get a grip. I don't know if I'm normal, I thought I was but now I'm not sure.
Do you think an increased dose would help? It won't stop MrP being a twat but it might help you deal with the twattishness better.

snap poor baby snap he must be feeling rubbish! What formula are you using at the moment? Is your dietician appointment soon?

min he was only sick that once and has been fine since. I hope your lo is better soon don't forget to avoid dairy, apart from formula if you are using it!

When E was teeny, dh would take him at 7:00 and I would go to bed then he would bring him to bed at 11 it really helped to get that block of sleep before the loooooong nights :)

I would cookie but the little monkey is bloody eating yoghurt and custard only.
God it's infuriating.

Mmmmm custard!

My husband is making toffee apples... WTAF?

Wtaf indeed Popz! Maybe he's feeling festive (in a Halloween sense?) has he stopped being such a stupid twat now?

Min sorry to hear minimin is poorly, hope she's better soon x

Omfg I read the first post of that daft cow on AIBU and got the rage whereby I want to ram her own head up her fucking arse. I'll do what I like with my kids thanks. Plus how is it healthy for the babies to only have social contact with its mother and never be left? Then you get clingy little clingons and you really would be fucked then.
She needs to go and suck a shit or at least take her face for one. Talks out of her arse. Hope she can see this- fucking gobshite

Glad things are getting better Fleur! Long may it continue

Just see how you get on Purple and don't feel bad if you end up back on the ADs, It's such a shame that people still think of depression as a dirty word (not saying you do, just thinking aloud) My mum and MIL are both on ADs and I was prescribed them not so long ago as I kept getting urges to throw R out of a window (usually when he was relentlessly screaming and just being a mini ST)

Snap pretty sure if I found a whole turd I'd be scarred too! Hopefully the bodily fluids will calm down soon.

La & Dulcet- if I didn't sit on the toilet id never get anything done inc emails and mn!
It's the only time when I can in effect bugger off for half an hour and ST doesn't complain. Sometimes I sit on the toilet without even needing it just to escape.

Lots happening round here- ST now has his own van (putting in for his theory on 4th Nov and then fx he passes that and on to piratical) if I ever hear the word van again though by ST I may kill him. 4 weeks every day I've heard about vans. His mum and dad took him to pick it up and then his dad complained loudly that the clutch was fucked when he drove it home. I've driven it twice. There's fuckall wrong with the clutch or gearbox. Doesn't crunch when I drive it- sounds like someone's not pressing the clutch down properly and being too heavy handed but what do I know I am but a mere weak and mild lowly woman

R and P are now sharing a room. STs idea. It's going surprisingly well so far. I can make a bottle up in 15 seconds and get it in his gob before he starts properly wailing. He's just had a bottle and I somehow pressed a button on my phone and tunes blasted out. P didn't even flinch! Thank the gods!
R is much better now and is fully recovered from his bacterial throat infection.

Took P to Styal mill yesterday with a mum friend and her son. Was lovely but omg I was fucked after. Luckily ST was off so left R with him. P was a shit in parts and kept throwing herself on the floor in protest. Wasn't until we got back to the car I understood why. I'd bought her a little packed lunch in the cafe and stuck it in her rucksack (it's a pink one with wings and a retractable dog lead so I can stop the little pest from pissing off!) there along with her very full big drink. Poor fucking kid lugging that around. She was also in a costume with spiders painted on her cheeks. Her little chum was dressed as Dracula. Very cute. I'll post a pic on the fb group.

Greetings from under a small(ish) baby!

Poorly babies get well soon!!

Snap your poor wee one! What the heck is going on? It sounds horrific and so sore for the poor monkey. In sending you lots of positive waves that they can figure out the issue and that the ranitidine works.

Popz toffee apples?? For you guys or for trick or treaters? How is Mr Popz? Are you still insisting he leave?

Purple I suffer from anxiety and there's no way I'd want to play down anyone else with it. But tbh you do sound like any other new mum. Anxious, fed up, tired. Particularly in that period you're now in, when they have wind and it's still quite full on, I felt the same as you. Go and speak to Dr if it helps but it will get easier. They grow out of the wind problem

Mountain is there any news? Her wee one wasn't well yesterday and went into hospital. Not heard from her since :(

Min are you back at work yet?

Cookie oh my god the washing! So much washing!

Fleur hooray!!! Is he any better with sleeping?

My B is ok - his wind is much better at night. One thing I do purple is to push his legs back on him at each night feed, which pushes out any farts. But I'm noticing he dies a lot of farts himself now so he's learning!

Yesterday I was meant to have HV visit but she never turned up. I was gutted because I had loads of questions. So instead me and Mr La went for a walk and I managed to get a load of great stuff from a charity shop. Oasis jeans, a Warehouse top and a denim skirt from Boden, all for£15. Steal! I've been suffering from mum overhang after the CS and so although my skinny jeans fit in not overly comfortable with how they show my belly when I'm bf.

I've had a stinker of a cold this week, 2nd since he was born. So frogging annoying. It's just meant I feel even more bloody knackered than I already am. 3 wake ups last night though - bit better! 11:30, 2:30, 5:30

Went to a mates house yesterday one of my mum pals. Just so nice sometimes to chill out with other people who know how I'm feeling. We are the only two in our group still EBF. I still haven't introduced bottle because I still can't decide how to do it. Grr. He doesn't always wake for 11pm feed so I might give it at 7pm but I like the pre sleep bf as it calms him. I just want to fill him up a bit. Hungry bruiser baby!

I feel now like I'm more ok with this mum stuff, much less freaked out than I was. I just need to get more sleep somehow - whether that's possible or not I don't know but that's what's standing between me and enjoying life a bit more

Got friend coming from Glasgow today. Really excited, but it's going to make me very homesick!

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Yes yes to picture on Facebook!!!! I love Halloween kids costumes!

You crack me up! I too would get fed up of van! I am so over dhs latest business scheme! He gets these ideas that are 'going to make us loads of money', only then he pisses about designing a fucking logo for a year and 'we can't do the website until the logo is done' but the logo never gets done and in the meantime j still have no fucking engagement ring . Been married 2 years. Biggest bone of contention - ladies never give someone an 'out' - I gave him my grans engagement ring to give to me because I knew at the time he couldn't afford one and we wanted to get married. Told him he could use it until he could buy me one. That was three frigging years ago. I don't bother wearing it anymore.

Well done on the room sharing! How does it feel having your room to yourselves again? Are you having all the sex?

Not lots of sex unfortunately- still managing once a week just. Too fucking tired. I tried to pounce on ST last night but he was sulking because he was supposed to be getting a tattoo today in Rivers honour but it's been canx. Fx he cheers up today and fancies some tonight, but both our backs are bad and my pelvis keeps locking so that should be fun. Knowing our luck we'd get stuck having sex and need someone to pull us apart.

Pretty impressed with the kids to be honest. Think P prefers him in with her as now she doesn't feel as left out. And she's helping him sleep better in a weird way because she's not as fidgety as we are. Probably because our bed is shite and it's like sleeping on corrugated metal due to having a memory foam mattress on a slatted bed- don't ask, STs idea, I was too sleep deprived from Poppy to argue at the time.

We went on our telly last night and P had recorded shit loads of stuff from CBeebies. Don't know how she's done it because we don't know how to record stuff. She's a bit too clever for her own good. Is it bad that she passes me the remote in the morning and then points at the telly? Probably... Am I actually arsed though? Probably not

Woken up this morning with a back like the hunchback of notre dame. I fucking hate this bed. Only good thing is that I gave ST a deep tissue massage this morning and his back hurts too. Ha

I have to do some mini ritual thing tonight for Samhain. It'll be nice as I can do a little remembrance thing for grandad. Hopefully ST will go and have an early night so I don't have to do it too late.

Didn't know about Mountain, hope her and the little one are ok.

Poor mini mountain - get well soon little one

Sleeping isn't any better here but during the day S has been a little delight. We have our own little routine which MIL and DH keep messing up today which seems to keep him happy.

la I can never decide when is best to give S a bottle either. It was the 12/1am feed then he started waking earlier so it was then but he didn't seem that hungry and would only take a couple of oz. Now I feed him at 7 but he refuses to go down until he has been topped up with bottle and he takes another 6oz.

He still wakes at 12/1 though despite being full to the brim and only going down to sleep at 10.

Going to just give him bottle at 7 this week and see how we go. I may even get to go out no one tell on me!

I honestly don't know when S wakes after about 12 anymore. I decided last week that looking at the clock is a waste of time, doesn't change things and counting the hours of no sleep makes me feel more tired. I am trying to be zen and just go with it. Easier said than done but mentally I have been in a much better place this week.

Fleur I hear you with the not checking the time thing, I would love Melba to be in some kind of routine with the times she has her feeds but she seems to randomly pick between 1.5 and 4 hours between feeds and doesn't seem to have set her own schedule yet. I hope she does at some point as then I'd have something to go on. I accept its going to be some time before I get a longish period of sleep, I am happy to be at her beck and call 24/7, but I would just like to be able to say with some confidence that she has some kind of schedule and know what to expect at various times of the day and night, then we can get into more of a daily routine. I think that's the control freak in me coming out though. Am I even being realistic thinking that could be possible? Maybe I just need to wait it out until she's bigger!

Hope mountain and** minimountain are ok.

Had my flu jab this morning, and I'm sure I'm getting a cold, I told the nurse and she said it was ok but I hope the two don't combine to make me feel totally pants later.

Pixie sounds like things are settling down for you, Gx for more JS

Mountain hope you and mini are ok

Thanks La. I know I'm struggling, I thought it was normal but some days I'm not so sure!

I've got a cold too, also my second since B! I'm losing my voice too.

Mums having him this afternoon while we go see spectre and have dinner. I can't wait for a break for a few hours.

We're off up to Scotland this week to my sisters for a few days. It's going to take at least 6 hours to get there as we will be stopping a few times to get him out of his seat. She's got 3 kids so she'll help with B and probably have some good tips too

Toast we get 1.5-4 hours too! I'm obsessed with how many hours he goes in the night. It's usually longer after bedtime, shorter early morning so maybe 9pm, 1am, 4:30, 6:30
If DH does one of the middle ones then I get a decent chunk

I just feel like there's no pattern to when she goes shorter or longer periods. I'll maybe start keeping track a bit better again and see if we get into a pattern.

She's sparko on my chest at the mo, I'd quite like to move but she's sleeping. She's not been settling too well during the day unless she's on one of us, only managed 5 min in her carrycot and then about 15 in her bouncer whilst I had lunch.

Enjoy your afternoon purple!

toast - we have the same in that she virtually never sleeps during the day - a total of two hours or so, made up of short cat naps between 9 am - 9pm is pretty usual here, and she's just over 8 weeks now.
We ended up keeping a sleep diary to prove to ourselves that she really didn't sleep anything like the 14-17 hours the books said was normal at this age - the trouble is that she hasn't read the books :(

S has never slept much in the day. Sometimes he will go all day with 10 mins here and there.

I try to get 3 naps out of him by putting him in the sling/ pram and going for a walk. Usually get 30mins to an hour out of him, occasionally up to two hours.

Overnight he probably gets up to 10hrs sleep.

She will sleep in the car/pram/sling but just rarely in her carrycot- if she's napping at home it has to be on me at the moment it seems and when she's fallen asleep on me she wakes up when I try to put her down. I'm not going to complain- she sleeps at night in her crib between feeds without too much complaining. But in not going to say any more about that as I am terrified of jinxing it!

Deeply I guess if she's happy then it doesn't matter to her if she doesn't sleep as much?

Just bid on a Caboo sling on eBay, as at the moment we've hired one from the local sling meet and she seems to like it, and it's pretty useful when i need to get some jobs done at home. Just need to sort out how to waterproof her when out and about (without spending £££ on a baby wearing coat if possible).

Hope M is ok mountain xx

Toffee apples were for work apparently!

Well I told him to go La and he wouldn't.... He is being marginally less of an ass since then soooo.... We'll see!

I don't bother counting the wake ups or checking the times either.... Too bloody depressing! Though actually, he's been quite good this week, only a couple of wake ups a night I think.