Just Mumming 8 - the one with the fire crawlers, wind machines and the Health Visitor revolt

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Add your stats Viroids (or don't bother). I feel like there's something I'm supposed to write here but don't know what it is...

Thanks la, the details are up to date, we haven't moved or changed phone since we got him. Been knocking on doors, lovely neighbours have all opened sheds and garages..no luck, printing off flyers tomorrow. My worry is we're meant to be going away on Sunday but I don't know if I can, the thought of him coming home and me not being there is awful. Some builders near where he goes and hunts on a farm say they regularly see a little black cat (it will be him) but haven't for a couple of days :(. This just makes me think he's dead somewhere because he hasn't come home for cuddles and handy been hunting in his usual place :(

Zyla I wish I could give you a hug, I know how worked you must be and it's horrible not knowing. Do try to stay positive. We had given up on our girl completely when she came home xxx

Fleur thank you - everything you've just said is how i feel about bf. Thank you

Aww zyla I am keeping my fingers crossed for your cat

I'm thinking of not going away if he's not back, but both our mums are coming with us to spend time with H. God :(. I told mrZ I couldn't bear the idea of him coming home and us not being here to let him in and he's now looking at paying house sitters to stay here and look out for him. I'm heart broken :(

Sorry for going on

Oh zyla, I hope he's home soon. Have you had some cold mornings lately? They like to lie in car engines don't they. Ask peeps to check before starting their cars too
La, you're doing wonderfully and whatever you decide to do be proud that you bfed this long.
My child has been a right drama queen all day and so clingy but she sat with me for 15 mins and just relaxed. Which is huge for her because she doesn't relax and is not a cuddler
That makes me very sad but I got my cuddle quota in today so that was good

Try trusted house sitters Zyla they are good. Crossing fingers he's home soon

Thanks everyone. Been very down so it's nice to know there's support. Having trouble getting head around my lack of joy for bf. Always thought I'd love it and I'm very disappointed in how trapped I feel

Evening viroids.

Aw Zyla no wonder you're worried - really hope she turns up soon.

la I think Kato does the same as Fleur and gives a formula top up at 11pm and is still breastfeeding at four (?) moths now. Your boobs will make what you need. They won't just stop making milk from dropping one feed per day and if it's what you need to keep breastfeeding then that's all good. It's a shame there's not some better support for combo feeding rather than just the standard 'thou shalt not' lines. I'll have a look at the resources pinned to my local fb bf page and see if there's anything useful there.

BabyPis is being a bit of a nightmare. She's quite clingy at the best of times but is usually happy enough if I'm in the same room so I carry her around from room to room in her bouncer. However just lately she also insists on me interacting with her. Now of course I do that most of the time anyway but even if I chat away to her while doing the dishes, it's not enough. She wants eye contact and, preferably, physical contact. Today she's progressed to screaming her head off if I'm not right next to her so even being in the same room and talking/singing isn't enough. I feel like the soundtrack to my life at the moment is her screaming for attention and I've been close to tears a couple of times today. I'm happy to sit with her most of the day but I need to eat and go to the toilet and do the washing up and laundry and everything else that needs doing in between too. We were out earlier as I had a drs appt and a haircut booked and she was sweetness and light. So I though maybe she was enjoying being out so took her for a walk by the beach. I stopped at a cafe for something to eat and she was dreadful - screaming, boobing the whole time, pulling off boob to scream and show everyone my nips kicking at me so I couldn't even drink my coffee safely.... It was not pleasant! DP heard a bit of it when he rang earlier. I was walking to and away from her so he could hear how she kicked off every time I moved more than two steps away and calmed down when I came closer again. Not sure I'm asking for any help really - just needed to get that off my chest! I'm struggling right now. According to the app she is in a leap right now so it should start to get better soon? Please God....!

La, Fleur moan away! That's what we're all here for. Keep talking!

Did the doc have any idea what could be causing the jaundice fleur? Sounds like the combo feeding is working out really well for you How's things with MrF?

Sorry you're feeling down La. It all sounds similar to how minipopz was though - if that's any consolation/ reassurance. He's still not a one for napping longer than 30 minutes either... I'm sure I've said before how I never really enjoyed bf for months. The being trapped on the sofa under a baby for hours... Never being able to get anything done. It did my head in. And the nights of endless feeding and FINALLY getting him into the crib only for him to wake up "hungry" and screaming five minutes later. Heartbreaking. I spent a lot of nights just crying and feeding, crying and feeding.... I think Mr P thought I was losing the plot. Get some premade formula in. Like fleur says - there's comfort in just knowing it's there.

Hugs zyla - I was in bits last time mine went missing. Really hope he's back looking sheepish tomorrow morning! Gx

That sounds like a leap to me Pis! Fingers crossed it passes quickly for you.... MiniP was a total nightmare for the last couple. We're in leap 6 now though and he is suspiciously cheerful still

I defo get comfort from knowing I havers premade formula in the house la and like the others have said, one day won't affect your supply. It's a shame the right support isn't out there got combo feeding but maybe try if one night and see if you think it will work for you. It's a good option if it helps. There is little joy at times for BFing and I certainly feel stuck. No wedding anniversary or 30th birthday celebrations this year as I cant leave him and that's upsetting.

Really hope the cat is back before the weekend zyla. Would be a shame to miss your holiday but completely understand what you mean though.

Hopefully you'll get some answers tomorrow fleur, sounds like things are getting better though.

That sounds stressful pis. would a sling help? We are all waiting fur if to get better so it better!

Morning viroids!

Have been a been absent for a while as it's all been going on. Last weekend my worst nightmare happened - we discovered rat droppings. In our bedroom. Where the baby sleeps. Right next to my side of the bed. Needless to say I have been beside myself. The council's been, the holes in the floorboard sealed up, everything disinfected and carpets being cleaned on Sat. But I cannot bring myself to even go into the room now and have been sleeping on the sofa in the front room with the baby in with me. Tired and traumatised!

Zyla so sorry to hear your puss has gone AWOL, really hope comes home soon.

Pis that does sound like a developmental change

Damn, posted prematurely.

Pis would dangly toys or something musical/ chewable help to distract her for a minutes?

La just the other day a friend said she thought she was the only one who didn't enjoy breastfeeding and didn't find it the amazing bonding experience that everyone goes on about. I think it's not uncommon to feel that way at all. And loads of people successfully combo feed, if you think it might help then you can always give it a go for a couple of weeks and revert back if it doesn't. Your supply isn't going to crash overnight, it'll gradually adjust to accommodate one less feed and you should be able to build it up if needs be.

Min hurray for unexpected cuddles!

Evening viroids. We've made it home and so far it's going ok. He's fed a lot early evening then fell asleep for a couple of hours. I've got no expectations of how things will go.

Feeding lying down is going quite well, sitting is also ok. Can't get in with rugby ball, he just screams. He seems quite a windy baby, I think he gets tummy ache when he's pooing because he squeals then abruptly stops.

I have some premixed formula in for just in case. DH has sterilised a couple of bottles and dummies in case we need them so I think we are quite organised.

So far he's pretty chilled out as long as he doesn't have tummy ache

I'm moving very slowly as a bit sore. I'm just taking things very carefully

Hey purple glad your home :)

pis most babies do go through a very clingy stage, usually around 6 months! This too shall pass! :)

E is now only on cows milk, definitely a toddler not a baby anymore, although he'll always be my baby!

Glad you're home purple - sounds like you've got everything well organised! Hope he sleeps for you

Any news on the cat Zyla?

Oh snap - that sounds unpleasant! Fleas are my worst nightmare but rats don't sound like a barrel of laughs either.... Hope it's all sorted now.

Chateau de Popz went on the market today.... Bit nervous now this is actually happening!

Glad you're home purple. Sounds like everything is going well. Hope you can get some rest so you can recover from cs quickly

Hi cookie! E is growing up so fast!

Any news on missing puss zyla? I really hope he turns up soon. It's heartbreaking when they go missing x

Ooooo snap, that sounds awful. You poor thing. Hope they've all buggered off and you can get back into your bedroom now.

Sounds tough pis. Hope that doesn't last too long. Will she be content with anyone else or does it have to be you? Sounds exhausting.

How did the consultant go fleur?

I found some Aptamil Comfort! Tried loads of different shops and managed to find 3 tubs, yay! Should last us two weeks or so before we have to go searching again.

Off to Centreparcs tomorrow - can't wait!

E is teething I can see the little tooth buds under her gum. She's frantically biting everything and dribbling everywhere. She spent 5 hours this morning nap dodging and grizzling
Does it get better once the teeth break through the gums? Or does the misery just keep going?

Ooooo exciting popz!

Welcome home Purple, sounds like you're off to a good start! Hope you enjoy getting to know your windy little man!

Didn't take me long to need your expert help ladies. My milk hasn't come in yet, he's had the colostrum but is getting angry at my boobs. He's furiously sucking, detaching, shouting, sucking again. I can't see any swallowing at all.
I think this means I'm empty. We gave him a bottle before bed as it was awful. He was so cross and I just don't think there was anything there.
He got the rest of the bottle at 2am then I latched him on at 5 and we got the same angry scenes again. I tried both sides and the same happened.
I gave him another bottle and he went to sleep.

Is this normal? I really hope my milk comes in soon. I'm ok with him having formula as it's better than nothing but I really want to BF and we were doing really well with it. He fed for an hour in hospital twice from me and was perfectly happy.

I think I need to keep latching him on to help my supply but give formula if he's angry. Hopefully it will come in today or tomorrow

purple congrats and welcome home. I am not a great one to give advice but I found that lots of skin to skin helps to bring your milk in - you don't necessarily have to have your little one latched on all the time.

Preserve those nips!! Are you using lansinoh?

I fondly remember laying in bed with S on day 2 with him just in a nappy

snap that is a huge fear of mine too. Some neighbours found a rat in their kitchen a year or so ago - I think I would have to move hope it's all sorted soon

zyla I hope your cat has shown up

popz good luck with the move! Exciting (and stressful) times.

moo consultant was ok - S has to have more tests as his liver function results came back abnormal. I am going back today. He is still jaundiced he has had a liver scan which doesn't reveal any obvious problems.

Glad you found the milk and enjoy centre parcs - I love it there!

It'll come purple, it may not seem like milk is coming out but remember a babies stomach is smaller than a marble at this stage so the colostrum is doing it's thing. Babies are clever things. Day 3 was when my milk came in and it coincided with r wanting more than just colostrum.
Sadly she never wanted to latch on but boobs did what they needed to do, and so will yours. Lots of skin to skin for the both of you... And lots of fluids for you.

Well R slept from 6:30-6:30 with a quick stir sometime round 11! I sadly was up at 5 expecting her to wake,..ahh well.
Going in the right direction tho so I'm well chuffed.

purple I had exactly the same but didn't do formula, but baby was sucking all the time and getting upset when off. Everything changed when milk came in. As min says their stomachs are tiny. They have evolved to need very very little colostrum which is why you don't think there's anything there. Lots of skin to skin like fleur suggested and before you know it you'll be leaking everywhere

Welcome home purple, my milk didn't come in until day 6 after my CS! But we were fine when H got the hang of actually feeding, just keep going it'll sort itself out.

Thanks for asking after the cat, still no sign. IN the last few days we've put posters up, leafleted, called vets and rspca, Spoken to neighbours and I've called the council in case they'd found a dead body, but no luck :(. We've organised a house sitter and a neighbour friend to open the door and call for him every day while we're away but I'm not feeling hopeful any more :(

Thanks lovelies, I feel better now. He's been asleep since 9 after his last bottle and I've had a nap.

Hope your cat is back soon Zyla, how worrying